40 Problem-Solvers With Magical Before-And-After Pics
A suede and nubuck brush, which restores your very loved possessions to like-new by disappearing scuffs and stains. The rubber bristles on this four-way brush remove dirt, the two welt brushes on the sides to get into narrow spaces, and the nylon and metal bristles tackle tough stains with a gentle, damage-free sweep. There's no spell for restoring leather goods, but if there were it might be something like "Shack-ee" (which is the brand name, LOL).
A bottle of sulfate-free biotin shampoo with a blend of botanical extracts to help thicken the appearance of your lovely tresses. Plus, since it's a clarifying shampoo, it also gets rid of product buildup on your scalp when you use it!
A shoe stretch spray — which is definitely the product you've always needed but didn't know existed — that helps condition your favorite leather, suede, or canvas shoes and gloves, so you can break them in with ease for the perfect fit. Simply spray down the material, and if it's a shoe, put it on with a thick sock and walk around until liquid dries to gradually stretch them out!
A pack of two tongue scrapers that'll help eradicate bad breath and bacteria buildup and enhance your tastebuds to make your mouth feel better than ever. Plus, your tongue will return to its natural color with consistent cleaning. The level of witchcraft in the before and after below has me more than tongue-tied right now!
A cutlery drawer organizer, which takes up half the space of a typical silverware organizer, meaning you'll have much more room in your drawers for larger cooking utensils, wine stoppers, tools, etc. BRB, stocking up on all those kitchen trinkets I never had space for before!
A pack of dishwasher cleaning tablets that help get rid of limescale and odor-causing residue hiding in your dishwasher. All you do is pop it in with a regular load and then enjoy knowing you can stop rinsing that mysterious white film off your dishes after running a wash. Sorry, Professor Trelawney, but no tea leaf remnants to interpret in any cups coming out of this dishwasher!
A TikTok-famous mildly-abrasive pink cleaning paste to erase even the most difficult of stains in your home, from hard water in the bathroom to caked-up grease and food on the stovetop. Seriously, it's earned its loyal TikTok fanbase and hundreds of thousands of positive reviews for a darn good reason.
A set of closet organizers designed to hold your bras, socks, underwear, and more in individual compartments, so you can see everything all at once instead of digging around forever to find something to wear (we all have a favorite bra, no judgment)! The real sorcery here is how quickly you'll be able to get ready after organizing with these.
An instant mold and mildew remover spray to eliminate any stubborn splotches that you figured you just had to live with — not anymore! Forget scrubbing; just spray this on whatever surface has the stain, walk away, and do whatever else is on your agenda, and when you get back...the mess is gone, and everything looks brand spanking new, just like magic.
A piercing bump solution for anyone who's experienced keloids, bumps, and scars with their piercings. This will help reduce their appearance and deliver some partial relief if you can't get an appointment with your doc ASAP.
An under-eye brightener designed with a lightweight, color-balancing formula infused with hydrating hyaluronic acid and nourishing shea butter for a reliable coverage solution that's nothing short of practical magic.
A jetted tub cleaner to get into those hard-to-reach places (read: the inner pipes and jets) and wash all those dead skin cells, body oils, and hair from every user before you out of there. 🤢 Just look at the difference in the water — how would you even know all of that dirt is lurking in there?!
And a hot tub cleaner from the same brand because there might actually not be anything grosser than what's lurking in the jets of a hot tub you "inherited" with your new home. So before enjoying your first much-needed soak, use this treatment for a little "bubble bubble toil and trouble" incantation in the jets and plumbing to clear out all that hidden dirt!
A cable organizer box for hiding your surge protector and all the plugs and wires sprouting from it. It's practically magic the way all your cords just disappear and your space is decluttered!
A Clorox Toilet Wand Starter Kit designed to "Avada Kedavra" bacteria and viruses lurking on the inside of your porcelain throne. Simply pop on one of the refill sponge heads, scrub the inside of the bowl, and then throw it away! Cleaning the toilet *literally* couldn't be simpler.
A teeth-whitening pen, which starts delivering results in just two weeks by simply painting a thin layer over your teeth every night. If whitening trays and strips seem like too much of a hassle, these travel-friendly pens are easy to use and effectively remove stains over time for a smile that's brighter than iconic HBIC White Diamond in Steven Universe!
A sheepskin rug brush — a slicker brush designed to help remove matting and clumps of fabric so your statement rug looks and feels as expensive as the price tag it came with. If you own anything fleece or plush and want to return it back to its original condition (or close to), then you absolutely need this!
A hairbrush cleaning tool that'll help you get all the dead hair and product residue out of your brushes, because let's be honest, your fingers aren't getting all the hair out and it's not worth the mess trying. Instead, this convenient tool will make all that grossness *poof* and disappear.
And a Pikk-it tool, which is specifically designed to remove hair that's tangled in the vacuum head and make it work less than optimally. You think your fingers can reach all the hair in there, but this nifty tool will prove you wrong and get it *real* clean.
A game-changing Dawn Powerwash dishwashing spray that helps break down grease and food debris *in minutes*, in turn saving you loads of time by eliminating the need to pre-soak your dishes. Reviewers even use it to clean their car exteriors and interiors because this spray works even harder than the bewitched soot sprites in Spirited Away!
A three-step cradle cap system to help you gently remove flakes from your little one's scalp. Simply soap up the included double-sided sponge brush and massage in circular motions on their head, and finally use the fine-tooth comb to lift the flakes away like abracadabra, alakazam. 🪄
The very popular Chom Chom roller, a reusable pet hair remover with a patented brush design, so all you have to do is simply push back and forth to collect all the hair and lint from clothes, furniture, car seats, cat towers, etc., into a chamber. Then remove and throw all that hair away. Over 140,000 reviewers have bestowed it with a rating, and we agree: If a member of your household happens to have four legs and a ton of hair, this is a must-buy.
A beeswax wood polish and conditioner to bring your worn furniture, flooring, and cabinets back to life in no time at all. It even helps keep the wood hydrated for a lasting luster, so, before you start saving up for a replacement, try out this polish first. I'm sure Baba Yaga keeps this stocked because when your wooden hut runs around on chicken legs, it's definitely going to need some regular TLC.
Plus, a leather cleaner just perfect for reviving furniture, bags, shoes, and other beloved leather goods that might be looking a little less than ideal lately...that just means they're well-loved! It's much much cheaper to spend time restoring and protecting what you already have instead of scouring the internet and spending money for a brand new version.
A PhoneSoap cell sanitizer that uses powerful UV-C light to kill bacteria and germs from the surface of your cell phone, glasses, jewelry, and whatever else you can fit in the case in only 10 minutes! It's great for cleaning your devices when you get home from a long commute standing packed like sardines in the subway, touching everyone and everything. IDK the science behind UV sanitization, so I'm chalking it up to a magician's secret I'm not privy to, LOL.
Emergency Stain Rescue Stain Remover, an all-purpose cleaning spray that's basically Dumbledore-level sorcery for how well it removes stains from carpet, upholstery, and clothes like that! *snaps* It can even tackle the toughest stains like blood, paint, coffee, ketchup, and those deodorant stains ruining all your favorite dark-colored tops. 😭
A stainless-steel foot file, which requires a little elbow grease to tackle those crusted and calloused feet once and for all (or at least regularly). You'll end up with baby-soft feet and enough dead skin debris that you'll need to vacuum up afterward...or *gag* collect it in a cup to throw away later.
A pair of reusable Nippies silicone pasties that magically disappear your nipples or piercings from being visible though your shirts or dresses with seamless coverage that stays put! You'll be able to wear your favorite strapless or backless outfits without worrying about stubborn bra straps, and if you're a member of the tig 'ol bitty committee — you can even get Nippies that offer lift.
And a breathable, sweat-proof boob tape kit in case you have a dress or top with a strange cut that won't work with a bra, but you want a bra-like lift. This kit includes boob tape, satin petals to protect your nipples, and even a pair of silicone pasties. Unlike the Sanderson Sisters, you won't need the souls of innocents to deliver on a youthful-looking lift. *does classic Sanderson bra adjustment*
A screen-cleaning brush so you can see as clearly as Alice did through the magical looking glass after a few swipes on your mesh screen littered with bug carcasses, dirt, and other things from nature. You can use it wet or dry!
A cruelty-free pet ear cleanser that'll gently (but effectively) clean your furry friend's ears and help make ear cleaning time a little easier for both you and the fur babe. Just fill the ear canal, gently massage it in, gently remove debris with a cotton ball, and boom, clean, fresh ears — maybe now your familiar will be able to actually hear you when it's time to start casting some spells. 😅
An enamel paint, so you can easily refresh the surfaces of metal appliances, like your fridge (plus washers, dryers, and bathtubs), if they've begun showing some wear, scratches, and rusting after years of dependable usage. Like pulling a white rabbit out a hat, even Nene Leakes would be shook at the results (in a good way)!
A pack of Stomp 'N Go pads perfect for anyone who tends to clean up pet messes (well, urine that is) by stepping on a paper towel. These easy-to-use pads were designed for area stain removal and get to work in just a few easy steps: set, step, leave for 30 minutes, and remove. Instead of using energy and magic, Madame Suliman definitely relies on these magical pads to clean up any messes left by Heen, considering he's so old.
And speaking of Howl's Moving Castle: If you don't have a Sophie to clean things up, the Bissell Little Green Machine is designed with a unique attachment that sprays cleaning solution, scrubs away the mess, *and* suctions it all up. When tough messes pop up around the house, you won't have to think twice about how to clean them, thanks to this portable, tote-bag-size gadget.
A pack of furniture touch-up markers and wax sticks for those smaller scratches and scuffs that don't require a full replacement or refinish — seriously, it'll take only a few minutes to make your furniture or floor look like new. It's not technically a magic wand, but it definitely works like one.
A set of interlocking drawer organizers that you can arrange according to your needs and drawer size, so everything currently cluttering up your countertop can be perfectly arranged inside the drawers. These results will be so satisfying, it'll be like seeing tricks at a Vegas residency!
A clear nail polish designed with a bitter taste to help put an end to nail biting, thumb sucking, and generally putting your hands in your mouth. It tastes so bad, you won't need any hoodoo to curb your biting. And you can even use it on kids three and up who like to put their fingers in their mouths and seem to be constantly sick.
A pet stain and odor eliminator that's created with an enzymatic formula, so it goes beyond erasing the dirt of the stain to *literally* eating up the smell-causing compounds, too. If you have a pet or child and have to deal with...less-than-pleasant bodily messes (read: blood, vomit, urine, etc.), an enzyme cleaner like this one is the best choice to banish them — preserving your carpet, furniture, and upholstery, etc., so you don't have to replace it completely. You don't have to brew it up in a cauldron, but it'll definitely be your new favorite potion.
A powerful soft cleanser — it's a versatile cleaner and polisher created to tackle stains and surfaces in your kitchen, bathroom, outdoor spaces, and even your cookware! Before giving up on your beloved stainless-steel baking sheet, try restoring it with a sprinkle of this stuff. One reviewer even called it a "holy grail" for cleaning hard water rings from the toilet, but you don't need a Lady in the Lake to help you with this one!
A fast-drying grout paint pen because it's finally time to ditch the dingy grout bringing down your bathroom aesthetic! No one will know you didn't hire a professional because this easy-to-use pen magically ✨disappears✨ all the residue and dirt leftover from years of living (aka spills and stains you don't even remember the origin of).
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