‘No one likes to be cheated on' - Annie Mthembu on turbulent marriage to Da Guru

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When 'The Real Housewives of Durban' introduced Annie Mthembu to our screens, her sharp tongue and unapologetic honesty quickly won over fans.
But it was her romance with Kgolo 'Da Guru' Mthembu that added a touch of glamour to her reality TV persona.
Fast forward, Annie's now opened up about the cracks in their marriage, including Da Guru's alleged struggles with alcohol addiction and infidelity allegations, which ultimately led to their separation.
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The couple met in 2016 when Annie worked as Kgolo's assistant, and they tied the knot in a lavish wedding at La Paris Estate in Franschhoek, Cape Town in 2021.
In a candid interview on "Engineer Your Life with Lungelo KM," Annie opened up about the challenges she faced in her marriage, including alleged infidelity.
She told Lungelo about her efforts to save her marriage and family, and shared that instead, her efforts inadvertently created a toxic dynamic. As she tried to fight for him, she found herself fighting with him, leading to a cycle of toxicity that affected their children.
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Additionally, on the podcast, she said she eventually realised she was losing herself in the process and decided to prioritise her own well-being and that of her children.
This decision came after she reached her limit, struggling to maintain the family while dealing with Kgolo's addiction and alleged infidelity.
"I really have to fight in my heart to forgive him, like fight with myself. It's going to take a lot of time, and in December, it will be three years of our separation," she revealed.
She shared her struggles with being cheated on, saying, "No one likes to be cheated on, it makes you question yourself a lot - are you enough? Is there something wrong with me? Why can I not be enough for you?.'
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She touched on the embarrassment she endured, saying everyone around her knew things she didn't, but still, through it all, her priority remained to protect her family, despite knowing about Kgolo's infidelity.
Annie has since relocated to Cape Town with her children, but she co-parents with her ex-husband after months of cutting off communication with him in an attempt to protect her mental health.
Da Guru also commented under the video of the interview, showing remorse while sharing an emotional tribute to his ex-wife.
'No matter the personal struggles I was facing, there's never an excuse for dishonouring God's blessings. I deeply regret the pain I've caused you. As the head of the family, I let everyone down. Anni,e from the bottom of my heart, I wish you true love, healing and peace. Farewell, pretty wings,' he wrote.
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Speaking to YOU magazine in February 2024, Annie revealed that she left RHOD after S2 due to a mental breakdown caused by the backlash she received online - while on the podcast with Lungelo, she revealed she left the show as she wasn't in a good space with her ex-husband. They wanted to work on their marriage without having cameras in their house.
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Da Guru also went to the Mo and Phindi's podcast in June to open up about his struggles, sharing some raw and emotional moments from his life, such as his alcohol addiction, but most importantly, to own up to his mistakes.
On the podcast, he discussed hitting rock bottom, the loss of his businesses, the stillbirth of their baby and the impact of reality TV on their marriage.