All the Other Mothers Hate Me: a lacerating school-gate satire and thriller
Author
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Sarah Harman
ISBN-13
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978-0008697990
Publisher
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Fourth Estate
Guideline Price
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£16.99
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drop-off is a prime specimen for sociological study. It plays host to a familiar cast of characters: there is the child shuffling mournfully into the classroom; the one keen to cast off an anxiously overbearing parent; and perhaps the screeching tyres heralding the arrival of some perpetually delayed siblings.
In her debut novel All the Other Mothers Hate Me, Sarah Harman proves to be an incisive spectator of these school gate rituals (Harman is American and admits to being bemused by her own child's west London school). Her protagonist, Florence, flirted with fame during an ill-fated career in a girl group, Girls' Night. She is now a single mother, and her son, Dylan, is an eccentric 10-year-old, with an admirably precocious concern for the climate.
Florence's account of the snobbery at Dylan's prep school is scathingly comic. She notes the children with names that sound like they belong to the family dog (Dylan's classmate is called Wolfie), and the dogs which seem to mimic the foibles of their owners (Wolfie's mother has an 'anorexic whippet' in tow).
This comedy of manners quickly careers into a crime novel when a child, 'the heir to a frozen-food fortune', goes missing on a school trip. Florence suspects her son's involvement and becomes an amateur detective. Her investigations expose secrets and deceptions that threaten to undermine these gilded, glamorous lives.
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It is a mark of Harman's ambition as a novelist that she juggles these contrasting tones. At times, however, this variety is distracting: in one instance, a particularly gruesome plan to dispose of a corpse is recounted with cheerful speed.
All the Other Mothers Hate Me showcases Harman's style as a satirist. Her descriptions show her to be laceratingly observant of social pantomimes. There is perhaps a tendency to overexplain and a habit of clunky comparison.
A list of Harman's overstretched similes might include: an anger that aches like Florence has 'just done two Chloe Ting workouts back to back'; women lounging on sofas 'like beached Lululemon mermaids'; a kiss that tastes 'like cigarettes mixed with Doritos'; or an outfit that makes our protagonist feel like a 'slutty troll doll'. Nevertheless, this a promising and enjoyable debut.
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I've already booked my taxi for Christmas Eve! It was still August, just – the last gasp of a summer that never happened. What fresh hell is this? Margo thought as she swung round to see her Forestside heckler. She avoided the busy south Belfast shopping centre on Saturdays precisely because of the heightened risk of this type of enervating encounter. No chance now of escaping a slew of Lady Eleanor's summer exploits, and a raft of smug highlights from the autumn schedule too. How did people get to midlife and still think it was all about them, still think they were in a film that everyone was watching, all the time? Margo regretted the cappuccino she had quaffed earlier, felt the pressure in her wonky bladder as she half-listened to 'scéals' of super yachts in Downings, Best Dressed at the Dublin Horse Show, three generations in Marbs for three weeks, a spa break in Galgorm Resort to come down from all the carry on. I'm raging, that buck eejit's gone and booked us into a mingin' inn for our Darren's weddin' in Eds (Edinburgh? Margo winced at the abbreviation). In a previous life Margo loved the pretext a food shop here offered; springing her out of her suburban home for an hour or two once a week. A sort of mini break or respite for wives who didn't get taken on business trips, or taken anywhere once they were 'taken' or 'spoken for': married. ( Poor Eileen, he never takes her anywhere. Not to the theatre, not to dinner, not abroad, had been something Margo overheard her mother say of a favourite aunt.) READ MORE Margo's parents had been date-night darlings for 60 years. Their we were here first mantra meant they donned their glad rags and set out looking for the heart of every Saturday night of their married lives. Margo stopped lobbying for this kind of life early on and, like so many women before and since who had married Mr Casaubon instead of Mr Darcy, she had learned to live around her marriage rather than in it. This was her happy place then. It was all about lingering and longing and belonging, and still caring massively about the kind of dinners she was putting on the table, and about clothes and how she looked in them. And about who she might meet and chat to about the PTA Dinner Dance, Nigel or Nigella's latest cookbook, the School of Music, the Transfer Test, the house extension or postcode upgrade, the fishmonger's number, the in-laws' visit, the book club's VIP Cinema Experience trip to see Revolutionary Road in the Odyssey (they had smuggled in Chardonnay and paper cups, on a school night, felt so spoiled and liberated in those large leather seats. Somehow women understood that the next best thing to having it all was being perceived to be having it all. 'Having it all' was a tad too Noughties, so wellness gurus had replaced it with 'living your best life' – a less overtly greedy mission statement, but one that would ensnare another generation of women into exhausting themselves in order to at least appear like winners. In many ways it was worse for women today. 'Doing it all' and 'living your worst life' seemed like more honest taglines for most of Margo's peers. Often illness, widowhood or divorce were the only chances they got to recalibrate and recover from the not so merry-go-round of so-called working motherhood. No wonder some felt nostalgic for the lives of their bridge-playing, hostess-trolley-pushing, marriage-bar mothers. The energy she had wasted on all those little wins. He took your best years, Margo, her brother Frank would say Where the f*** are you? How long does it take to buy a few nappies? She remembered the staccato texts, remembered the hit of ignoring the 26 missed calls from her husband, remembered the nervy buzz of trying on skinny jeans in Oasis or dresses in pretty prints from Warehouse (husband and both shops long gone now). Sometimes she would stash a furtive purchase in the boot of the old Saab. It might stay there, behind buckets, spades, windbreaker, tennis rackets, Frisbee, or under a Foxford rug until she could sneak it in, snip the label and slide it on to her wear-again chair as if it had always been hers. Oh that old thing, I've had it for ages. The energy she had wasted on all those little wins. He took your best years, Margo, her brother Frank would say in the aftermath of it all. Her mother, a scorched-earth Joan of Arc, liked to declaim, If I had an axe I would cleave it through his head. Margo's father, with all the kind ineptitude of a latter-day Mr Bennet, merely said that the best thing about marriage was that you could always get out of it: In one great bound, my darling Margo, you are free! Her maternal grandmother used to tell her that a neighbour in Shandon Drive, a Mrs Purcell, had negotiated a Fry's Chocolate Cream for herself every week with the shopkeeper on Doyle's Corner. Her regular indulgence would never appear on a receipt. Margo guessed that her grandmother admired the woman's petty subterfuge and derring-do in 1940s Dublin: and that this was perhaps an early lesson for her in how a woman might prevail, however pifflingly, in a man's world. Was Mrs Purcell a role model or a warning? If a woman took more than the paltry statutory maternity leave, or went back to work part-time, or not at all, she was still at the mercy of her husband's largesse. 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She had become a basket shopper again, only this time an M&S Meal For One felt like a badge of honour, rather than evidence of the sad-eyed, single-lady life of a character in an Anita Brookner novel. Today she would just fire a Coke Zero and a microwaveable Chicken Tikka Masala & Basmati Rice into her old navy Longchamp tote, if only she could get Eleanor to stop blathering. Eleanor couldn't seem to say a sentence that didn't have the words ski trip , David Lloyd , hot tub ( the size of a sw imming pool, it really is a swimming pool) , vintage Rolex waiting list, BMW luxury subcompact SUV, lobster season, air-miles, personal trainer, Dr Bonny, Camino or Prosecco in it. Margo was exhausted at ski trip. Besides, it was still August, surely a little early to be chatting about Chamonix or Christmas Eve? Here's me, yousins have no class, sure the cockapoos on the street know I have standards to uphold: in Belfast it has to be the Culloden, Dublin the Merrion, and the Balmoral in Eds. I says to him, I'll settle for it on this one occasion, but I'm scundered so I am ... Mercifully, Eleanor's dog sitter called and cancelled at this point. Eleanor lost interest in her one-woman show and made to leave. Motherhood for Eleanor had been an episodic and socially expected inconvenience. She had buried three husbands and several dogs. The loss of the latter always hit her hardest. Oh to be worried about doing a star jump. Carefree pantyliners now, please! Margo feigned the disappointment expected of her and encouraged her old friend to get back to Burberry, her rescue dog du jour. That's the second time Rupert's Granny Iris has died. Chillin' out hard indeed. Him and his beetroot coffees. Does he think I came down the Lagan in a bubble? The same as me new cleaners, cancellin' at the drop of a hat, off to Poland for three weeks at a time. Me head is melted! Adíos missus – did I tell ya I'm doin' me GCSE Spanish? 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Or maybe they ran up the Mournes. Maybe they were having the best sex of their endless lives, like celebrities in magazines who insisted ageing was for losers who refused to put the work in. Some women were lucky or plucky enough to have opted for what was seen in Margo's day as the heretical, unnatural choice of an elective C-section, rather than the good-girl push and cut of an episiotomy in childbirth. A quick Google search revealed that as early as 1985 the WHO recommended the abandonment of routine episiotomies; something about incontinence issues and painful sex in later life. Meanwhile, shame, pain and chastity remained the holy trinity of Irish menopause for another generation of mammies. Margo was just stepping off the escalator when she saw her. If she was lucky Tara would turn into the posh Dunnes and succumb to a Paul Costelloe coat or a Catherine Donnelly jacket. No chance. Barrelling towards Margo, she whinnied: Hey girl! Otis got 10 A stars and has been selected to play for Ulster under 18s, Auerila is off to do Med in Durham and Hunter has been paddleboarding with me in Helen's Bay, and doing jolly super post-op. It was good to hear that the old golden retriever had rallied, his left side shaved and stitched after the sarcoma excision. Back on the water. He was such a sweet dog. But oh my days, those choreographed, perfect, boring, Hollister-model children, in their Lululemon and Birkenstocks, ordering oat flat whites and Buddha bowls in the claustrophobic confines of their postcode. Margo had tutored too many of them. She was sorry she didn't just nip down to Dunnes, but a ready meal meant it had to be Marks. [ 'I'm gone frail? Excuse me, but I'm as healthy as a goat' Opens in new window ] You look terrible Margo. I gave you the name of my acupuncturist didn't I? I don't know why you are so resistant to Chinese medicine. 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Nests had emptied, husbands had died or left, or were left, lifestyles had changed. The emergence of hipster local shops on the edgy but somewhat gentrified Ormeau, a revamped Asian supermarket and an excellent Dunnes foodhall on the embankment (full of Neven Maguire goodies, great Irish ham on the bone, and yoghurts from west Cork), were all making Margo and others vote with their feet. She always bought her flowers from Marks. Lilies usually. You could take them to a wedding or a funeral. They celebrated and consoled. She mostly just took them home. Margo had been buying herself flowers for years, a decadent but necessary gesture (like the fire she lit most evenings). She liked the way they would bloom overnight or while she was out at work: enigmatic and majestic in the Judy Greene vase that held their elegant stems perfectly. She looked at the headlines, picked up The Irish Times and The Guardian and moved across to the checkout. The checkout girl, who was often working this late afternoon shift, looked so young. She always asked the same question in the same monotone voice: Are you doing anything nice today? No matter what answer you gave, the girl always said: Well that's nice, so it is. I'm going to look at intermittent self-catheterisation videos on YouTube, smiled Margo . Well that's nice, so it is. Sandra Kavanagh is a teacher and freelance writer based in Belfast
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