It's the most common problem that ends middle-aged marriages: The woman goes off sex. Now, as a desperate husband writes to me of his despair, here's my surprising answer: CAROLINE WEST-MEADS
Q I love my wife and we have a good relationship. We have been married for more than 30 years and are both in our 60s. However, though we do still have sex occasionally, her libido is out of step with mine. She just doesn't seem to be interested any more.
Having talked to a couple of male friends, this does seem to be a common problem for men of my age. It makes me sad because I miss the intimacy and physical closeness as well as the thrill. Our sex life used to be good, but there seems to have been a gradual decline over the years.
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