How Brian Wilson reconciled with estranged daughters and they carried on his musical legacy in pop group

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Brian Wilson's complicated relationship with his daughters Carnie and Wendy Wilson has come into renewed focus following his death on Wednesday at age 82, after a long battle with dementia.
The Beach Boys legend eventually rebuilt a close bond with his two eldest children after years of painful estrangement.
Wilson struggled for decades with mental health issues and substance abuse, which led to fractured family bonds and limited contact with Carnie and Wendy.
Carnie, now 57, and Wendy, 55, were born to Brian and his first wife, singer Marilyn Wilson of The Honeys.
Their 1979 divorce came after years of turmoil, and Brian later remarried in 1995, tying the knot with Melinda Ledbetter, with whom he adopted five children: Dakota Rose, Daria Rose, Delanie Rose, Dylan and Dash.
While his younger children have largely stayed out of the spotlight, Carnie and Wendy stepped directly into it—forming the hit-making pop trio Wilson Phillips in 1989 alongside Chynna Phillips, daughter of The Mamas & The Papas' John and Michelle Phillips.
The group quickly shot to fame with early '90s smashes like Hold On, Release Me, and You're in Love.
But behind the scenes, their relationship with their father remained strained.
'It was chaotic,' Carnie and Wendy recalled of their childhood during a 2020 appearance on The Kelly Clarkson Show, adding that Brian's presence was often fleeting.
Carnie has spoken openly about the pain of growing up without a consistent father figure.
'We can't call him up and we can't see him,' Carnie told the Los Angeles Times in 1992 of Brian, with whom she hadn't spoken in two years at the time.
'I guess we could, but we're so afraid of each other. I don't know what I would say to him.'
That same year, she and Wendy wrote the deeply personal track Flesh and Blood as a musical olive branch to their father.
The song was featured on Wilson Phillips' second studio album, Shadows and Light.
Flesh and Blood marked a rare departure for Wilson Phillips—a group that had largely steered clear of addressing their famous family ties in their music.
Until then, all three members had been careful not to lean on their musical legacies.
'We didn't want to play on (our family connections) before,' Carnie told the Los Angeles Times.
'We didn't want people to think that they were (the reasons for) our success. Because they weren't.'
But Flesh and Blood proved the exception.
The emotional ballad was a lyrical plea to Brian after years of estrangement.
'If you never plan to come out of your shell / You're never gonna get well . . . / For years I've been following your case / It's the only time I see your face,' the sisters sang.
Carnie told the Times she hoped the song would spark a long-overdue family reunion—but she wasn't sure how he'd take it.
'He's either going to cry real hard, or else just stare at something and get (mad),' she said at the time.
Two years later, the breakthrough finally came.
In 1994, Brian reunited with his daughters after years of limited contact, save for the occasional holiday dinner.
The reconciliation marked a turning point.
The trio began making music together, and Carnie expressed hope that the collaboration would grow.
'Wendy and I are doing demo tapes for our debut album as a duo, and I hope Daddy will provide background harmonies,' Carnie told People at the time.
'I know that one day we'll all work together.'
Later in life, Brian became one of Wilson Phillips' biggest cheerleaders—a full-circle moment after years of distance and emotional struggle.
'He also loves Wilson Phillips. He really does,' Carnie told UsWeekly in 2024.
'He's always asking me, 'How's Wilson Phillips?' I go, 'We're great, Dad.' He's funny. He's very proud.'
After decades of estrangement, the family found joy in reconnecting—not just as relatives, but through being artists.
Carnie said they now cherish their time together, often celebrating Brian's legacy in song, even after he had been diagnosed with a neurocognitive disorder similar to dementia.
'We love to sing 'Surfer Girl' and 'In My Room.' Sometimes a little 'California Girls,' [which is] his favorite, and sometimes we do 'Be My Baby,' his favorite song ever by The Ronettes,' she shared to the outlet.
'I like to sing his songs to him. I think they mean a lot to him.'
In the end, Brian Wilson's impact stretched far beyond his pioneering work with the Beach Boys.
His daughters didn't just inherit his musical talent—they used it to reconnect and move forward from a difficult past.
'I think it's kind of unavoidable. Music is in our blood,' Carnie told the outlet.