Carolyn Hax: How to fix dull life with incurious spouse — but not blow it all up
Dear Carolyn: I'm in a dead-end job — adjunct teaching — in a smallish town married to a person who has lost all his curiosity, and we have kids. I don't know how to fix any of it: I'm not going to get hired full time, since they hire Ivy grads for full-time tenure-track jobs. I don't know how to make my spouse curious and have intellectually stimulating conversations with him again — our schedules misalign, and he plays a lot of video games. The kids are grand, and I love them to pieces, but it often feels like all I do is feed/launder/ferry them around.
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