Body positivity losing its lustre on social media
Opinion
In a scene from this week's episode of And Just Like That…, HBO's Sex and the City sequel series, Anthony (Mario Cantone) is lamenting the fact that no one is coming to the grand opening of the brick-and-mortar location of his bakery, Hot Fellas.
'Where is everybody? Are people scared of carbs again? Is body negativity back?' he asks.
As he might say: it certainly frickin' seems like it, Anthony!
Last week, TikTok made the move to ban the hashtag #SkinnyTok from its platform after European regulators sounded the alarm over the kinds of content being posted there, most of it promoting extreme thinness and the equally extreme measures it takes to get there.
That Anthony should note the 'again' and 'back' of it all speaks to just how cyclical — and how positively Y2K — this stuff is. After all, he was there in the late '90s/early 2000s on Sex and the City when Carrie famously wore a belt over her bare, toned, tanned midriff.
After a brief moment in the 2010s when the body positivity movement made it feel like maybe, just maybe, we'd turned a corner, it feels, culturally, like we're sliding back to the era of low-rise jeans, impossibly thin physiques and diet culture that doesn't even attempt to pretend it's about health.
Look at any comments on social media and you'll see body shaming is alive and well; actively trying to become the smallest version of yourself is encouraged and lauded.
My point being, TikTok banning the hashtag is great and all, but these cultural ideas didn't need TikTok to take root before.
As Kate Lindsay writes in the Internet-focused newsletter Embedded: 'Until we fix society's sinister, pervasive and constantly fluctuating standards for what bodies are acceptable bodies, everything is SkinnyTok.'
She's right. From the 'what I eat in a day' videos to the relentless fitness obsession with both packing away obscene amounts of protein and getting 10,000 steps (although, according to the cursed algorithm that has found me, that target has moved to 20K) to even the blatant use of the word 'skinny,' it's all SkinnyTok even if it's not explicitly labelled as such.
The goal is the same: get smaller.
Besides, young, internet-native users are crafty. They know how to get around censors — pro-tip: seggs = sex, unalived = killing/suicide — to keep making the kind of content that is clearly popular among social media users.
As to why these retrograde, 'nothing tastes as good as skinny feels' social mores are trending again is more difficult to parse. It could have to do with the mainstreaming of GLP-1 medications such as Ozempic, which have made previously unattainable body types much more attainable, so long as you can afford it.
It could have to do with the fact that we live in deeply uncertain times, and restriction reliably offers an illusion of control. It could also have to do with the fact that we're just more aware of how we're perceived, owing to social media.
But it could also be pop culture's tendency to treat body types — you know, something we famously have control over — like cuts of jeans: in one season, out the next.
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The body-positivity movement, like all social movements, wasn't perfect. It didn't leave a lot of room for ideas around body neutrality, for example, or even weight fluctuation, leading to a lot of body policing and complicated feelings when artists/creators/influencers who built their businesses on body positivity started losing weight.
But it did see people pushing back against social pressures around thinness. It gave us the language to be able to recognize that well-meaning sentiments such as 'strong is the new skinny,' were just valourizing a different (but still thin) feminine ideal. It allowed us to see a diversity of bodies in advertising and online.
Crucially, it called out fatphobia, discrimination and inequitable access to health care.
Thin is in again. But maybe it was folly to think it was ever out.
jen.zoratti@freepress.mb.ca
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