Dread answering calls? It's called telephobia
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Today, most Gen Z and Millennials often feel anxious or uneasy when their phone starts ringing. For generations who've grown up in a digital era, calls can feel awkward and unpredictable.
According to Anuja Luniya, a behaviour expert, 'There's been a noticeable rise in phone-related anxiety, especially among younger adults. Many share that phone calls feel intrusive or energy-draining, like a sudden demand on their emotional bandwidth.' This phenomenon is called
telephobia
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Telephobia is not just about avoiding calls. It's the emotional uneasiness people feel when the phone rings. It can show up as panic, freeze, dread, or discomfort. In my practice, I've seen the condition rise significantly among Gen Z and Millennials. It's not that they don't want a connection. They're just emotionally overwhelmed
Esha Bhardwaj, emotional wellness coach, therapist
WHY GEN Zs DON'T LIKE ANSWERING CALLS
Aishwarya Iyer (28) from Thane agreed to share her experience, over text, of course. 'For me, long phone conversations are anxiety-inducing and largely unnecessary.
If something can be conveyed through texts, that's easier communication. I also feel that texting shows respect because you allow the other person to respond at their convenience.'
Similarly, Purbali Sarmah (27) from Pune shares, 'I just can't do long conversations. Phone calls feel like too much pressure. With texts, I can respond on my own terms and exit the conversation when I need to. But talking on the phone? It drains me.
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I only answer my parents' calls every day.'
Pooja (27), based in London, adds, 'After being on calls with clients all day, who wants to take another call? I don't ignore calls from close family unless I'm too drained. When it comes to friends, I have a tier system. I'll take calls from my inner circle. The second-tier friends? Maybe 50 per cent of the time. Tertiary? Just text me.'
According to Esha Bhardwaj, an emotional wellness coach and therapist, today's generation is functioning under the weight of emotional hyper-availability.
'There's an unspoken expectation to always be reachable. This has created a false sense of urgency. People aren't just afraid of phone calls. They fear the lack of space to pause, process, and respond with clarity. The pseudo-emergency culture bred by 24/7 connectivity has drained our capacity to relax, ease into conversations, or stay emotionally present.
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DOES THIS REFLECT AN UNDERLYING ISSUE?
Avoiding phone calls may hint at deeper nervous system overload.
'In states of chronic stress or burnout, even small tasks like answering a call can feel like too much.' says Luniya.
She adds, 'Constant exposure to alerts, deadlines, and emotional demands can keep the brain in a hypervigilant state. Communication that requires spontaneity or emotional energy begins to feel draining. For many, dodging calls is not just a preference. It's a red flag. A sign to pause, reset, and evaluate what's really exhausting the system.'
However, she also notes that this phenomenon partly reflects a shift in how we connect. 'Thanks to digital advances, texts, DMs, and voice notes offer flexibility and control. These modes suit a generation that grew up online.'
Reji Modiyil, a technology entrepreneur, adds, 'The younger generation prefers texting because it offers comfort and control. They can communicate at their own pace. It also reduces the social anxiety of spontaneous speech.
Nonverbal modes are now the norm, especially for quick check-ins, even though phone calls and in-person chats still hold value for emotional expression or clarity.'
IMPACT ON INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
The rise in phone anxiety is also affecting our personal relationships. Modiyil points out, 'Telephobia results in a loss of spontaneity and emotional nuance. Texting can feel detached and miss the nuances of voice, tone, pauses, and emphasis that come with verbal communication.'
In relationships, dodging calls can come across as disinterest or emotional distance, even if that's not the intent. Luniya notes, 'If left unaddressed, phone anxiety can lower social confidence and deepen withdrawal. It also limits chances to practise presence, navigate discomfort, and build emotional intelligence. All of these are vital to social connection.'
RIGHT WAY TO DEAL WITH THIS
Being aware of your emotional needs and boundaries makes everything more manageable. Kanika Kishnani (28) from Ajmer says she's found a balance. 'I don't avoid all calls. I always answer calls from work and family. But I do avoid calls that can wait when I'm focused or deeply immersed in work. Messaging gives me the space to respond with intention without disrupting my flow. If something's urgent, people usually call twice.
That's my cue to answer the call.'
Today's generation is not emotionally disconnected. They are emotionally overconnected, stretched thin, and craving a connection that doesn't drain their energy. We don't need to shame people into returning calls. We need to help them build safer, softer ways to be present. Where boundaries are honoured, presence is respected, and peace isn't lost in the pursuit of performance
Esha Bhardwaj, emotional wellness coach and therapist
Bhardwaj recommends dealing with phone anxiety in emotionally mature ways:
Create boundaries: Let people know you respond best with some notice
Send voice notes: Practice listening and speaking without the stress of live response
Take grounding breaths: Place a hand on your chest, breathe deeply before picking up
Start small: Begin with calls from emotionally safe people and slowly build tolerance
Daily nature walks: A 15-minute walk can help regulate emotional energy
Use auto-responses: Try, 'Hey, saw your call. I'll get back once I settle down'
Prioritise presence: Reply when you can be engaged, not just reactive
Follow up with texts: A simple 'Hey, just catching my breath. Will call soon' helps
Avoid ghosting: Silence can hurt more than a delayed reply
Set a check-in window: Dedicate 10 minutes daily to follow up on missed calls
Express intent: Let people know you care, even if you can't always respond right away
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