Harssh Limbachiyaa says nobody thought he and Bharti Singh would get married, opens up about their dating days: ‘I used to get the gossip'

Indian Express

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Screenwriter Harssh Limbachiyaa recently opened up about his relationship to comedian Bharti Singh, sharing that no one thought it would transition into marriage. 'Aap maanoge nahi, kisi ko nahi laga tha ki hamari shaadi hogi…literally…kisi ko nahi laga tha ki hum genuinely serious hai…humko tha ki aisa kyun nahi lag raha…hum bhi zyaada bolte nahi the…(You won't believe… no one thought that we are that serious about each other…we used to always wonder why that is). No one dared to tell Bharti at shoots…Since I was a writer, I used to get the gossip…' Limbachiyaa, 38, told actor and host Rithvik Dhanjani on their YouTube podcast.
He also opened up about their dating years. 'I live in Mumbai…we only rarely go to Siddhivinayak…once in a year or once in two years…when we started dating…2010-11, we used to wake up at 5 am and go for Siddhivinayak-Mahalaxmi-Haji Ali and then come home….at least 2-3 times a week. This used to be our dating. And we used to do it for many years. I had even discussed this about a year ago with her….reminding her that we used to go frequently. We have gotten out of that habit…But we used to visit on Tuesdays for sure,' he said as Bharti seconded him.
Taking a cue from his candid revelation, let's explore how dating is not always about eating out or watching a movie together.
Delnna Rrajesh, psychotherapist and life coach, emphasised that he wasn't describing just a cute memory; he was unknowingly describing one of the strongest psychological foundations of lasting love: shared rituals that build emotional safety. 'Love isn't made only in grand gestures. It is sustained in the quiet, consistent, emotionally attuned moments – what we call relationship rituals,' said Delnna.
Waking up before sunrise, dressing for the temple, traveling together, praying silently side by side – these aren't just spiritual acts, they are acts of co-regulation. 'In neuroscience and psychotherapy, co-regulation refers to the nervous system's ability to return to calm and connection when anchored in a safe, present relationship. When two people engage in emotionally meaningful rituals – especially repeatedly over time – their nervous systems begin to feel safer together. Trust is built, not through words alone, but through presence,' said Delnna.
Contrary to popular belief, relationships that don't 'look perfect' on the outside often have more resilience on the inside. 'When a couple is not performing for society, they can direct that energy toward meeting each other's needs with honesty and presence. They're less focused on how others see them and more invested in how they hold space for each other,' shared Delnna.
So if you're in a relationship, ask yourself:
– Are we creating rituals that restore us, not drain us?
– Are we checking in emotionally, or just checking off to-dos?
– Are we co-existing… or co-creating meaning?
'Because love doesn't just need passion. It needs practice. The strongest relationships are built, not in moments of perfection, but in moments of shared intention,' shared Delnna.