Johnny Carson's pal recounts emotional ‘last supper' with TV icon: ‘He knew he was dying'

Fox News

19-07-2025

Howard Smith was often worried about his friend and neighbor, Johnny Carson.
"He smoked a lot - he would smoke three packs of cigarettes a day," Smith told Fox News Digital. "He would come over to my house, and we'd play tennis, and then after that he would light up a cigarette."
"I was probably on him for six months just saying, 'John, you should consider maybe not smoking as much,'" Smith shared. "One day, he finally told me, 'I've realized that it's not good for you and I shouldn't be doing it.' He never smoked after that.'"
For the last 18 years of his life, the legendary "Tonight Show" host didn't smoke, Smith claimed in his book. But irrevocable damage was done. In 2002, he was diagnosed with emphysema, a disease that killed him in 2005 at the age of 79.
Smith, who "knew and loved" the fiercely private TV icon, has recently written a memoir, "My Friend Johnny: The Last 20 Years of a Beautiful Life with Johnny Carson and Friends." The foreword was written by Jay Leno.
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"I wanted people to know John – the John I knew," the retired businessman explained. "I was not in show business. I had the largest software company in the world at that time. And I think because I wasn't in show business, he could trust me. And in showbiz, you sometimes don't know who you can trust. I think that meant a lot to him."
"I have read several things that have been written about John, and I would say that 90% of those articles were not favorable," he shared. "They were down on John. And that was not the John I knew. I wanted people to get to know my friend."
And like any good pal, Smith was concerned about Carson's habits. According to his book, Carson was "an avid smoker," prompting him to ask, beg, and even challenge him to consider quitting smoking. And it was Carson's fourth wife, Alexis Maas, who ultimately got him to quit, said Smith.
"John was a stubborn person," Smith admitted. "I'd give him s—t a lot. I think that's why he liked me, because we'd go back and forth on different things. I never treated him like a star."
In 2002, CBS News published a story titled "Johnny Carson: I'm Not That Sick." At the time, Carson said through a spokesperson that when it came to his illness, "I'm dealing with it the best I can, and it is not causing me any major problems." However, Smith claimed that Carson was a lot sicker than the headline implied. He just didn't want the public "to make a fuss."
"In our 20 years of playing tennis together, I knew the sound of John's laugh, his forehand grunts, and his labored breathing," Smith wrote. "Toward the end, his breathing became increasingly difficult. We started playing less often, and then, sadly, even suddenly, despite all the signs, the day I dreaded arrived."
Smith told Fox News Digital he still vividly remembers the last time he saw his friend. It was after New Year's in 2005. He described their evening as "the last supper."
"I'm at a pharmacy in Malibu, and he happened to be there," Smith recalled. "He goes, 'What are you doing tonight?' I said, 'Nothing.' He said, 'Why don't we go get dinner tonight?' John's wife had a place in Pittsburgh, so she spent a lot of time with her family there. So, he was by himself on that day. I remember he picked me and my wife up, and we went to this restaurant. We were the first people there and the last to leave."
"John was the funniest I've ever seen him," Smith reflected. "He went on and on, told stories about different people that he had on the show… We just laughed so hard. Our stomachs were sore from laughing… At one point, I said, 'I got to go to bed,' and John was like, 'Oh no, Howard, I want to tell you this other story.' And it kept going."
"Looking back, there must have been something going on in his head that night. We probably had 500 dinners together, and he was never that funny, going on and on. We would have dinner at 6 o'clock and be back home by eight."
"For some reason, that night, he just wanted to tell us all these stories and make us laugh," Smith continued. "We've never laughed like that before. It's like he didn't want us to leave without hearing him first. At the end of the night, he drives us up to our house, gets out of the car. He gave both my wife Jane and me a kiss and a hug. Then he tells us, 'I love you.' John was not standoffish, but I'd never seen him do anything like that."
"I think he knew he was dying, but didn't want us to worry," said Smith quietly, fighting back tears. "But at that moment, he just wanted to remember the good times. He wanted to tell us how much we meant to him. He wanted to give us the best of himself."
According to Smith, Carson died 16 days later.
"When I think about that night, I feel he wanted to tell us that he would be OK, and that he loved us," said Smith. "That's the John I knew."
Today, Smith prefers to remember the happier times. While Carson was "intimate and shy," he slowly opened up to his neighbor, who offered to play tennis with him.
"We used to play tennis three to four days a week," Smith chuckled. "Then one day he said, 'Howard, I don't think I can play anymore. I think I ran out of gas. But let's do this. On Saturdays and Sundays, you come over to my house. I'll make you a coffee, and we'll just sit around, talk about life.'"
And in those later years, Carson wasn't craving the spotlight, Smith insisted.
"After he retired, he had another life," Smith explained. "He was traveling around the world. He went to Africa. He spent two months learning Swahili. Then he went to Russia and learned Russian so he could talk to people there. He would use this telescope at his house to look up at the stars. My wife and I would often have discussions with him about the Big Bang Theory."
"A lot of people wished he hadn't retired," said Smith. "But John didn't. He loved being retired. He would study astronomy. He played card tricks. I remember we went to a local restaurant in Malibu for dinner and there was a young kid there doing different card tricks for people. And John was delighted. He would go, 'Can you do this?' He did all kinds of card tricks for this kid… John was shy and quiet, but he loved just being himself."
And Carson was a loyal friend who didn't think twice about offering a helping hand in secret, said Smith. He quietly donated to the Children's Hospital in Los Angeles, as well as to a local group dedicated to helping homeless veterans, among other charities.
"He loved life," said Smith. "And he gave back. He didn't need the publicity for it."
Today, Smith wants the public to discover a new side of "the king of late night."
"I didn't realize that he and I were building this special bond," said Smith. "But I'm still grateful for that day when we first decided to play tennis together."