22 Extremely Kind, Loving Things Men Have Said To Women
Okay, even I, with my cold, cold heart, know rom-com material when I see it. So, when I came across this post on the popular Ask Reddit page, I had to check it out. In it, user Anxious-Guarantee111 asked, "Women, what has a man told you that touched your heart more than you let on?" and the answers are even better than you might think. Here are some of the best:
"Whatever we are, I'm just glad I have you in my life. If you aren't in the future, this will be an amazing memory. If you are, I won't let you go."
"Almost four years ago now, my best friend committed suicide. At the time, me and my current boyfriend had only just gotten into a relationship. I lost my mum when I was pretty young and I knew I was going to be mourning for a while. I gave him an out. Told him he didn't sign up for this and that there were no hard feelings and we could still be friends if he walked away."
"He said to me that he did in fact sign up for this. He told me that when you commit to someone, supporting them when they're not at their best is in the small print of a relationship. He said he wasn't going anywhere."
"That night, and many nights after it, he held me as I cried myself to sleep. He didn't expect me to be fixed overnight, he just gave me the time and space to heal."
"'You can do it.' — my husband, when I was trying to decide whether or not I should go back to school at 40 when I lost my job due to COVID."
"I made my boyfriend meet my whole family in one go, basically."
"One of my best friends is a man; he's a physician. I got really sick a couple years ago, and I was in the ICU where he works."
"My fiancé tells me I'm his best friend and favorite person."
"'I feel like I can be myself with you.' I strive to find a relationship where we can both be that comfy and at home again."
"'If you get hurt, I get hurt.' Something my father told me once that I remember."
"'I still can't believe I'm with you, I'm the luckiest man in the world.' He said it at least once a week when we were together, big smile and eyes glowing. I still can't believe it's over."
"We were talking about moving and making a place feel like home. Then he just said, 'It doesn't matter where, as long as you're there. You're my home.' It completely caught me off guard, I even teared up. I smiled for days after that."
"'You are my daughter. That means my love for you is unconditional.'"
"'I'll be on the next flight. You're not going through this alone.' — my fiancé after my dad passed."
"I was at my brother's wedding. It was a great time, and I was feeling very good about how I looked. Things were going great, I was a little tipsy, my gown got caught on my heel and I fell right on my butt in front of the uncles' table. Not bad guys, just ones who will tease you about something for the rest of your life if they have something."
"This is a dumb one but he told me unprompted that my carnitas are better than Chipotle's and I'm still floating from that."
"I had a pretty traumatizing childhood and then teenage years and the effects are lingering still. My mum passed away suddenly when I was 13, then my dad basically drank himself to death last year; it's been a wild ride for sure."
"He told me, 'You made me feel special' just because I couldn't wait to see him. The fact that something so simple was genuinely enough for him, and that I could tell no one had made him feel that way in a while, really moved me."
"He told me he never knew what real love was before he met me. I was not his first girlfriend."
"My boyfriend once said, 'I'm just here to make you smile. The rest is gravy.'"
"The first time we had an issue between us, instead of blaming me and absolving himself of any wrongdoing, he immediately apologized, acknowledged what he did, and asked me what steps we needed to take to fix it. And I was just gobsmacked."
And finally: "'I'll wait for you.'"
If you're as dewy-eyed as I am, you might need to go put on Notting Hill or When Harry Met Sally. If you have your own similar romantic moment to share, feel free to do so in the comments! Or, check out this anonymous form. Who knows — your story could be part of a future BuzzFeed article!
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