1 Chinese auntie, 5 apps, 60 first dates
So yes, this is about dating. On Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, all while donning the armour of a Chinese
diasporic auntie in sensible shoes and with 40-something hang-ups.
Too old for bars, I launched a three-pronged plan: swing dance classes (fun, but everyone was already coupled up from primary school), community centre craft sessions (mudslinging with lovely people – all born before 1955), and the intervention of meddlesome friends.
'Divorce market is hot right now,' said meddlesome friend E. 'Asian women are ageless! Just redefine 'relationship'.'
Her bold new suggestion? An agricultural economist who did Aikido. We met – I soon ran out of Aikido-related small talk.
So I turned to dating apps. Five of them. Because I am nothing if not a pragmatic auntie maximising outcomes.
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