'I'm 21 and my partner is 44, I'm closer in age to my step-kids'
A 21-year-old woman admitted that she gets accused of being a 'gold digger' because of the 23-year age gap relationship she has with her boyfriend - but she is encouraging people not to judge
A 21-year-old woman has shared how she is accused of being a gold digger because of her 23-year age gap relationship with her 44-year-old partner. Ellie said she hates being online because of the "judgment" she gets from other people, who claim she is only "with Mark for the money," something she says is not the case at all.
Recalling how they met, Ellie told the Love Don't Judge YouTube channel that, "to cut a long story short," one of her friends gave her Mark's number. She said while she had never met him before, they met up for some food - and the rest is history.
Mark has two children - Marcus, 12, and Izabelle, 16, which means there's only a five year age-gap between Ellie and Mark's eldest child.
This isn't a problem for the couple, however. Mark said Ellie is "quite good" and "energetic" with the kids because she's "not in her 30s or 40s" and she can "relate" to them more because she's young.
Izabelle even describes Ellie as her "best friend," saying that they "gossip" together, and she does her make-up and hair. Ellie says "they're good kids" and that she enjoys spending time with them.
Izabelle said that Ellie is even the same age as her some of her friends' older sisters, but Ellie joked that was "cool mum vibes," and Izabelle agreed.
Ellie first met the kids on a drive to Alton Towers, which she described as "a bit awkward." Once they got there, however, the theme park "broke the ice amazingly."
Ellie said that her family were shocked when she and Mark first got together because of the age gap; however, "as time passed," they realised they were "happy" together.
The pair then spoke about the criticism they get online, with Ellie saying: "90% of the hate we get is because of our age gap".
She explained that Mark gets called an "old man," or people call her a "gold digger". "At the end of the day, as long as we're happy, that's all that matters," Ellie said, as they both agreed that these people must have something "missing" from their lives if they feel the need to leave nasty comments on someone's Instagram.
Some people claim Ellie is "wasting away her younger years," but she doesn't see it in that way at all.
"I see it as, I've got my head down, I've got a great life ahead of me, and I'm having a great time," she added.
She continued: "Since I've become a step-mum, I've changed as a person. I've always been mature for my age, but I think I've matured even more.
"To be honest, I feel like it's fallen into place so naturally. Now that I've got step-children, I said to Mark, 'I couldn't have no step-children, I love a loud house'."
And Ellie and Mark are about to have their own bundle of joy together, as three weeks ago Ellie announced their pregnancy on her Instagram page.
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