House of the Week: A Santa Fe Home in a Gated Golf Community
'We were ready to try something new,' said Susan, 73.
During a trip to Santa Fe in 2018, the Robecks bought two lots for a combined $715,000 in Las Campanas, a gated golf community about 20 minutes outside of the city's central plaza. They were drawn to the community's privacy and amenities. A year later, the pair moved into a Santa Fe rental and hired local architect Lorn Tryk to build their new contemporary home.
The couple say they were very hands-on when it came to the design, and were influenced by the minimalism of the Getty Museum in Los Angeles. They didn't want baseboards or crown moldings, and instead opted for walls that hover a few inches off the ground. They also wanted the main living spaces to be open to each other, but also separate—something they achieved using countertops and walls that don't reach the ceiling, visually breaking up the space.
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