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If Your House Is In A Bit Of A State, You Probably Need These 35 Cleaning And Organization Products

If Your House Is In A Bit Of A State, You Probably Need These 35 Cleaning And Organization Products

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These will make getting your house in order an easier task.
1. An adjustable bakeware rack so you can neatly store your cake pans and baking sheets instead of sort of tossing them in a cabinet and quickly closing the doors so nothing falls out...
YouCopia is a woman-owned small biz that makes ingenious home and kitchen storage solutions.
Promising review:"Loved it so much I bought a second one immediately! Works great for circular pans, 9x13 cake pans, heavier pans, jelly roll pans, awkward collapsible colanders, cutting boards, whatever you want. Having nonskid feet is a big plus." — Organization Freak/Hobby Cook
2. The Pink Stuff cleaning paste — a miraculous problem-solver that can help you get rid of stains, streaks, gunk, and dirt from just about anything. I'm serious. That pan you don't use anymore because of all the caked-on food you couldn't remove? The Pink Stuff's got that covered. Literally. Try it on your stovetop, your sneakers, your walls, your toilet...you get the picture.
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Promising reviews:"I need this in bulk!! I have tried so many cleaning solutions to get out hard cooking stains on my stove top and nothing worked! This stuff took it right out without a problem!!" — Micaela Gunderson
"I was trying to get adhesive off of drywall and nothing was working. THIS WORKS on everything! It easily took off the adhesive. Then I had Corningware with a stubborn stain; I had tried everything. Then I tried The Pink Stuff, and it easily removed the stubborn stain. I will now always keep this on hand!" — David C. Rein
Get it from Amazon for $5.97.
3. A collapsible pants hanger because it'll help you both see all of your pants (when opened horizontally) and save space in your closet (when collapsed vertically). Your jeans are begging not to be balled up in a mess of denim on the floor of your closet.
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Promising review:" Total game-changer. I couldn't find a thing in my rather small closet and was constantly knocking down items when looking for the things I wanted to wear that day. These are easy to assemble, rather attractive, sturdy, and really do save space! Now, I can fit 10 pairs of pants in a rather small section of my closet. I will probably end up buying another set before long. I recommend these highly!" — Gigis Mom
Get it from Amazon for $19.99 (available in four colors and two pack sizes).
4. A plant-based stainless steel cleaning kit made with lavender essential oil that's safe to use on all of your stainless-steel appliances. It'll also leave behind a protective barrier to help resist smudges and fingerprints, so you don't have to clean as often.
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Therapy Clean is a family-owned small biz using safe-for-you ingredients to make cleaning products.
Promising review:"This is the best cleaner I've found. It outperforms other cleaning products like Weiman and other brands I had tried and tossed because they left a multitude of streaks. I can happily say this cleaner truly does leave a streak-free finish and polish. I also like that it's a plant-based, solvent-free, and cruelty-free cleaning product. Considering all the boxes it checks, it's a good investment because it works so well. Our appliances finally have their streak-free shine and polish back as though they were brand new again." — Feathered Nest
5. A set of foldable bedsheet organizers so that when you open your linen closet, you're not welcomed by a toppling mass of tangled sheets. Each organizer has a little window so you can even see which sheet set is inside.
Promising review: "I'm in love with these; they helped me get organized with all my bedding! A set of sheets fit perfectly. Easy to assemble, durability is great, easy to clean, and a huge value for the price." — Christy Hawkins
Get a six-pack from Amazon for $39.98+ (available in eight colors; also available in a nine-pack).
6. An acrylic makeup organizer — you're about to switch over to your warmer weather color palettes and skincare products anyway, so maybe you should have a place for them to be instead of just kinda cluttered on your vanity. It has several drawers as well as 16 slot compartments for all your organizational needs.
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Promising review:"I absolutely love this! The spacious design is perfect for keeping all my makeup, skincare, and even some jewelry neatly stored and easy to find. The clear acrylic material looks sleek on my vanity and allows me to see everything at a glance — no more digging through messy drawers! The drawers slide smoothly, and the organizer itself is sturdy and well-made. It's a great space-saver for my countertop and helps keep everything tidy. If you're looking for a functional and stylish makeup storage solution, this is a must-have! Highly recommend!" — Marlana
Get it from Amazon for $36.99+ (available in two sizes and 11 colors).
7. A handy duster if your window blinds get caked in layers of dust super quickly. Just spray a little cleaner, and this will remove buildup from several blinds at once! You can even use it on your air conditioner's vents.
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This duster comes with five washable microfiber sleeves.
Promising review:"This thing's so simple but really neat because it actually helps to make cleaning the blinds easier. I have wide wooden blinds on all of my windows (and I have a lot of windows), and they're such a pain to clean. I tried this tool, after spritzing both the pad and the blinds, and it really did work well. I like that there are a few pads included and that they're machine-washable." — Terrier Mom
Get it from Amazon for $6.99.
8. A set of two stackable cabinet shelf organizers that'll help you maximize space in your very overcrowded kitchen cabinets. With these, it is possible to manage your extensive mug collection.
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Promising reviews:"Love these shelves. My cabinets in the kitchen had become a mess. Now I look in and can see everything in them." — Deborah J Baughman
"These shelves are absolutely perfect for the cabinet above the oven where I keep all my glasses and mugs. Great solid quality, very sturdy, well made, and because they are stackable, they fit the cabinet perfectly." — PCDoc54
Get it from Amazon for $21.99+ (available in two sizes and 12 colors).
9. A 16-bin toy storage organizer so you don't end up stepping on stray Lego bricks and start cursing the heavens. Keep all your kiddo's playthings in an easily accessible place, and, who knows, maybe they'll even start to put their things away on their own!
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Promising review:"These are amazing. They have helped so much with the toy clutter. I have one in each child's room and one in our loft/living space. The kids can easily clean up and the toys end up in the right location. I love this!" — DeborahB
Get it from Amazon for $54.71+ (available in 12 colors).
10. A magical water-based instant carpet spot cleaner spray because there's no hiding that huge, old splotch in the middle of your living room. Say goodbye to those stubborn wine, pet, coffee, food, and dirt stains!
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Plus, it works on just about any type of fabric!
Promising review:"My sweet puppy had an accident that left a large stain on my light carpet. I couldn't get it out, but decided to try this product after reading reviews. The stain literally disappeared in front of me. I treated some older stains as well, and those also disappeared. Honestly, both surprised and impressed. I highly recommend." — Meghan Wilkinson
Get it from Amazon for $6.88.
11. A toilet paper holder with a shelf you can use to hold flushable wipes or — if we're being honest — your phone. Its built-in reserve can hold up to three toilet paper rolls, so you'll never have to worry about running out after doing your business.
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Promising review:" This toilet paper holder and stand is perfect for dispensing the TP, storing extra rolls, and is a very sturdy accessory. It requires no tools to put it together. The shelf on top can be used to hold other lightweight items, such as wipes or a cell phone if you absolutely have to have it with you. I would definitely recommend this product." — lpufford
Get it from Amazon for $16.99+ (available in four finishes).
12. A wall-mounted mop and garden tool organizer if the cleaning equipment piled together in the only empty corner you have available is creating a fire hazard. It has five slots and six hooks, so you can hang smaller brushes and cleaning accessories.
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Promising review:"This broom holder is super handy! It stores my kitchen broom, Swiffer wet mop, and a few other long, awkward cleaning tools neatly and all together. The installation was a breeze and very detailed. I watched the video first, and it's absolutely foolproof. I'm going to buy another rack for the garage!" — Avid Quilter
Get it from Amazon for $16.97 (available in four colors).
13. A lemon-scented fume-free oven cleaner so powerful you might just convince yourself you replaced your oven altogether. This heavy-duty cleaner can remove grime, stains, and caked-on food!
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Reviewers suggest letting it sit overnight to remove really tough stains.
Promising review:"I had some oil splatter in my air fryer (oven) that I had tried to scrub away, but it didn't even budge, so I went in search of an oven cleaner and came across this magical stuff. Sprayed it on, left it overnight, and wiped it clean with a small dishcloth — no elbow grease required. I was really impressed." — Mystique
Get it from Amazon for $8.98.
14. A grout and sealant stain remover because you've got mold and mildew building up and it just ain't cute. Just apply it, wait, and rinse the stains away. You read that right, there's no scrubbing needed!
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Promising review:"I struggled for years to clean under clear silicone sealant in our shower. I used everything and have been frustrated that The shower didn't look as clean as I'd like. Enter this product. Most of the affected areas worked the first time. I reapplied the more stubborn areas a second time, and finally, the mold was removed. Now my shower is perfectly clean!!" — Drs. B
Check out our Skylarlife mold and mildew removal gel review for more deets!
Get it from Amazon for $14.99.
15. An over-the-door organizer with six spacious pockets for housing just about anything creating clutter in your home. So that means it'd be great in your pantry, your bathroom, your laundry room, and/or your bedroom — reviewers have used it as a medicine organizer, spice rack, linen storage, and more.
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Promising review:"I am so happy I found this little gem of a product. I got one for myself and one for a friend who I was helping get organized. The little pockets are great and hold more than you think they will. I love that the front of the pockets has a clear view, so you can see everything that is in the pocket. The product is very sturdy and really super easy to put together and hang up on the doors." — MM1986
Get the six-shelf version from Amazon for $19.87+ (available in eight colors and a four-shelf version).
16. A pack of Affresh dishwasher cleaner tablets so you don't risk limescale and mineral buildup affecting your dishwasher's performance. Because if a dishwasher can't properly wash dishes...it's essentially just a wet cabinet.
Promising review:"The stainless steel inside my dishwasher wasn't stainless anymore. It looked like a sheen of milk on the silver parts. One cycle with this, and it was all sparkly again. It's been three weeks since I used it, and it remains sparkly." — BillinDC
Get six tablets from Amazon for $8.99.
17. A pack of duster sponges you simply dampen, and then you're ready to clean! It's that easy. Watch as it catches and removes dust, debris, hair, and stains around your home.
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Promising review:"I am a bit of a neat freak. These have been soooo useful for cleaning my baseboards, blinds, and fans. They can be used on really any surface, but they are specifically good in those spots. They can be submerged in warm, soapy water and reused over and over again. They are comparable to the Scrub Daddy damp dusters. There are a bunch of them in the box, and they are all individually wrapped. A great deal and a great product!" — Bryn
Get them from Amazon for $9.99+ (available in six color combinations and packs of two, four, and eight).
18. A bottle of Wet & Forget shower cleaner because you have never once had the desire to clean your tub, which likely means you haven't in quite some time. With this, you'll just spray it on, wait 8–12 hours, then rinse it off. Super easy!
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Promising review:"I have well water. Something in my well water reacts with copper plumbing and turns my shower tiles blue. Since my bathroom color scheme isn't on the blue spectrum, this is problematic. The well water also causes the shower glass to film up quickly. I've tried dozens and dozens of cleaners and scrubbed 'til my arms ached, trying to get ahead of the blue and scumminess. My ambition in life is NOT to be a full-time bathroom scrubber! I saw this stuff on a professional house cleaner's TikTok (sorry, I don't remember which one) and thought, 'What the heck, might as well give it a try.' Oh my goodness, the first day after my shower, I sprayed this stuff all over and walked away. The next morning, there was a NOTICEABLE reduction in the blue, and the glass looked clearer, too. On day two, I sprayed again and walked away. The next morning, the blue was gone except for a few spots on the floor tile, and the glass looked amazing. On day three, I sprayed the remaining spots, and the next morning, the shower practically looked new. NO SCRUBBING AT ALL!!!! This is my new favorite shower cleaner. The ONLY con I have is that it makes me sneeze while I'm spraying from inside the shower, but I can live with that." — L. J. Petillo
Get it from Amazon for $20.98+ (available in two scents, two sizes, and in a pack of two).
19. And a multi-surface, bleach-free Wet & Forget outdoor cleaner to get rid of the moss, mold, mildew, and/or algae staining up your walkway. All you have to do is spray your outdoor surface and over time, the stains will be lifted away. No scrubbing required!
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Promising review:"I have a brick patio. When I bought this house, it was covered, and I mean covered, with moss. A good power wash each spring was never enough to stop the moss from returning, and month after month during the summers was a struggle, man versus plant. I did that for two years, cursing and complaining the whole time. This April, I did my spring power wash as usual and immediately treated this patio. It is now going into August, and I have not had even a wisp of moss this year — I mean nothing! I would recommend this product without any reservations. When you put it on, you may think that it doesn't look like you really did much. It dries quick and looks the same as it did before, but wow, does it do exactly what it says it will do." — PM in NH
Get it from Amazon for $19.75.
20. A cutlery organizer with stacked compartments for each set of utensils. Now you can easily reach for and grab a butter knife instead of having to search through a cluttered drawer.
Promising review:"I have a tiny kitchen with only three drawers, so space is at a premium. My silverware organizer took up almost all of one drawer, so this organizer is a godsend. You can fit quite a few spoons, etc., in each slot. My beater attachments fit perfectly into the top two hollows. I will say I have to flip my forks over face down in order to be able to shut and open my drawer, but then the drawer itself is kind of shallow. You NEED this if you have a small kitchen with few drawers!" — mialro
Get it from Amazon for $8.89+ (available in three sizes).
21. Some reusable mop pads made using extra-thick microfibers that are super absorbent because dirt and dust might have teamed up to take over your home, but they don't stand a chance against pads. And now you don't have to waste money on single-use Swiffer pads for your deep cleans.
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They're compatible with the original Swiffer Sweeper!
Turbo Mops is a family-run small business that wants to help you live (and clean) more sustainably.
Promising review:"The Velcro closure alone is worth the purchase. It was really easy to put on (no more pinched fingers) and the hold is very strong. No more having to handle the dirty, drippy sheets to try to reattach them in the middle of cleaning the floor. I noticed that my floors are cleaner because the microfiber absorbs more and doesn't just push the grime around the floor. Also, these can be washed in the washing machine for the next use." — Rosemary Patterson
Get a pack of two from Turbo Mops on Amazon for $10.99.
22. A four-tier slim wheeled organizer because even teeny tiny spaces can be converted to storage space. This rolling cart can fit between kitchen counters and be used as a makeshift pantry.
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Psst — lots of reviewers use this for their bathrooms and laundry spaces, too! Need a more colorful storage solution? Check out this slim turquoise cart!
Promising review:"I love this mobile organizer. It has a lot of storage and accommodates a lot of different size spice containers as well as extra oils, baking sprays, and extracts. I do a lot of baking and cooking and love to use spices and such, and this really helped free up some counter space." — April Lambert
Get it from Amazon for $29.03.
23. A pet hair remover so you'll be able to reclaim your couch from the mob of fur that's been calling it home in a few quick swipes. And because it doesn't use disposable adhesive strips, you can use this thing over and over and over and over and...
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Promising review:"I've had it in my possession for like two hours, and I've cleaned everything. The couch, the blinds, the cat tree pad, the chair; I'm obsessed. I feel like this thing should win an award for being so awesome. I feel like it should be in raffle baskets and giveaways and silent auctions for every event that highlights 'things cat people need.' It's better than those sticky rollers, and it's better than the one-directional velvet wand thing that I always use the wrong way. It's the best." — Meowser
Check out our ChomChom pet hair remover review for more deets!
Get it from Amazon for $19.59+ (available in two colors).
24. An electric fabric shaver that'll rescue your furniture from pills, fuzz, and matted fibers. It has two speeds and three shaving hole sizes, so you can customize it to the fabric you're trying to revive. You'll be able to get your lived-on couch back to just-bought-it condition in no time flat!
Promising review:"It works wonders on all my clothes, removing pilling and fuzz in seconds. I've used it on sweaters, old shirts, blankets, and even my couch! Everything looks brand new again. The design is sleek and easy to hold, and the adjustable settings make it perfect for different fabric types. The shaver is powerful yet gentle enough not to damage delicate fabrics. Also very easy to clean after use. The large shaving head covers enough surface area, saving time, and the battery life is impressive. I was initially skeptical about how effective it would be, but after using it, I'm glad I bought it. Highly recommend it to anyone who wants to extend the life of their clothes to make it look brand new!" — Alex Park
Get it from Amazon for $8.99+ (available in two sizes and five colors).
25. A portable Bissell multi-purpose carpet cleaner to take care of the spots and stains your carpets and couches garnered throughout hibernation season. No need to go out and rent a cumbersome contraption when you've got this compact bad boy at home. It's got powerful spray and suction, so those stubborn pet messes will be gone in mere moments. Deep clean made easy!
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Promising review: "Wow! Bought this little steamer and am really impressed. I did one go on my brothers' couches, and [there's a] difference. It could use one more go to get to the 'looking like brand new,' but this is amazing!!! When you watch the video in the product description, there is something oddly satisfying about watching the dirty water get suctioned in after spraying the surface you are cleaning, but I must admit I didn't believe it would work that well. Well, it does!! Just like advertised! I am so impressed. If you are considering this cleaner, get it; you will not be disappointed." — edina bajraktarevic
26. Spice strips you lay in your kitchen drawers so you can neatly store your cinnamon, nutmeg, cloves, and more.
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This is also made by YouCopia.
Promising review:"This is hands down the best product on Amazon for organizing spices! This liner is a thick, high-quality liner that you cut to fit your drawer size, and it's incredibly easy to work with. The spice bottles stay put and don't roll around, making the drawer much more functional." — Arpita
Get a 10-foot roll from YouCopia on Amazon for $16.39+ (available in two colors).
27. A heavy-duty ceramic cooktop cleaner kit for those caked-on messes, tough-to-remove stains, and splattered-on grease spots. And though it may be heavy-duty, it's still non-abrasive, so you won't leave your stove covered in scratches.
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Promising review:"Hands down this is the best stove top cleaner that I've ever used!! It doesn't scratch the glass top but it still gets everything up! There's no question that I will continue to buy this set." — Chelsea LaValle
Get it from Amazon for $13.43+ (available in two kit sizes).
28. A set of two collapsible sock (or underwear) drawer organizers to help you save space in your overflowing dresser by giving each article of clothing its own dedicated square.
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Promising review:"Love this for socks and underwear. It enables me to find what I want quickly. I used to spend a lot of time digging through piles to locate what I wanted. No more. I love this product. It fits in the drawer perfectly." — Sandra Cummings
Get the pack of two from Amazon for $8.49+ (available in two sizes, six pack sizes, and 12 colors).
29. An ingenious brush and squeegee combo gadget that'll allow you to easily and quickly clear your countertop of messes by swiping them straight into the sink. It's designed to hang on the countertop or sink edge, so it can drip dry and is always nearby when you need it.
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Promising review:"LOVE THIS PRODUCT! Saves me so many paper towels, easily washed in the dishwasher, and the small size saves space! Will always have one of these on hand for sure!" — Prime Time Review
Get it from Amazon for $10.63.
30. A washing machine cleaning gel you'll wanna use to clean your gasket because the hazardous mold that's been growing in there is close to gaining sentience. Just let it sit for a few hours and then wipe away!
Promising review: "I had stubborn mold on the caulk in my kitchen sink and bathtub in my apartment. I tried bleach spray, toilet cleaning bleach gel, and everything else I had, but nothing even put a dent in it. This stuff works and is easy to use; it sticks where you put it and gradually removes mold. On the white caulk in my tub, the stains were gone in about two hours. I left it on for a whole day to get the clear caulk clean. You can see through the gel to tell if it's done or not. It took about half a bottle to do the tub. I'm very pleased and will buy again." — J. Waller
Get it from Amazon for $9.99+ (available in four sizes).
31. And a pack of six citrus-scented washing machine cleaner tablets because no one wants to toss dirty clothes into a dirty machine. The tablets dissolve to remove any residue that may have built up, so you can be sure your favorite blanket comes out smelling fresh!
Promising review:"I have a GE combo washer/dryer that every now and then would leave oily spots on my clothes. After digging through the internet, I saw this could be due to a dirty washer. And even though we run the self-clean option a lot, I figured I'd give this a try. Once it was done, I checked the barrel to make sure no residue was left, and it was definitely clean! Tossed in some rugs to be safe, and they came out great! Decided to do my hoodies that always have the spots on them afterward, and they came out perfect! Highly recommend! Simply pop a tablet in and run the wash cycle (self-clean if your device has that option). Very effective!" — Anthony B.
Get a pack of six tablets from Amazon for $11.98.
32. An under-the-bed storage container with wheels so you can easily slide it out when you need to grab something and then slide it right back under when you're done. These are great if you're out of dresser and closet space but still have clothes that need a home.
Promising review:"I'm so glad I bought these under-bed storage containers. They are perfect for my bedroom organization. The large capacity is generous, and I can easily store shoes, out-of-season clothing, and linens. The clear lid and wheels on the bottom make it easy to access and use, and the quality is top-notch. Considering the price, I think these containers are a fantastic value. If you're looking to declutter and organize your bedroom, I highly recommend giving these a try. Five stars and I couldn't be happier!" — YY!
Get it from Amazon for $19.53+ (available in two sizes, two colors, and multipacks).
33. A two-section Joseph Joseph hamper with a lid since it's surprisingly chic and will help keep your chairs, floor, and bed free of mountains of clothes. It comes with two removable bags, making laundry day a breeze.
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Promising review:"I love this hamper. It was easy to set up, and it's spacious and sturdy. I can see it's going to keep my laundry space well-organized. Removing the hamper to dump loads in the washer was easy. This product exceeds my expectations and does exactly what it's intended to do! Highly recommend." — Susie
Get it from Amazon for $60.50+ (available in two sizes, two styles, and four colors).
34. A vertical shoe rack because your current disorderly pile of shoes is an entryway hazard (you would know since you keep tripping over your favorite wedges). This rack can hold up to five pairs of shoes.
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Promising review:" This is great! Fits vertically in my small entryway, just what I was looking for. If you want a modern, stylish, clean-looking shoe rack with a small footprint, this is the perfect selection! It's lightweight, so of course it's not the sturdiest piece of furniture, but for storing five pairs of shoes, it's great! It fits men's size 10 shoes perfectly." — Aaron Staley
Get it from Amazon for $64+ (available in two colors and widths).
35. A styling tools station so your hair dryer, curling iron, and hair straightener don't take over the very limited counter space in your bathroom (cuz it looks like you're also using your sink as storage space 😬). It's made with a heat-resistant mesh that allows for airflow so your hot tools can cool down safely. There's also space in the back to help keep the cords from getting tangled.
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Promising review:"I have a ridiculously small bathroom and a super small vanity. After too many instances of my dryer and straightener falling to the floor, I went searching for an option to get them off the nonexistent counter and onto the towel holder next to my sink. This product has done the trick — it helps me keep my counter space organized and provides me with a great, heat-resistant holder to place them in while I'm working through my hair. Highly recommend!" — Amazon Customer
Get it from Amazon for $24.43+ (available in three colors). Or, check out an over-the-cabinet-door styling station.
The reviews for this post have been edited for length and clarity.

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Red flag this, green flag that. When dating, people have so many characteristics they look for in a partner. Or more truthfully, traits they try to avoid. Sometimes, though, one person's red flag is another person's green flag. We asked the BuzzFeed Community for examples of things that, when dating, some might see as a reason for pause, but they see as a good thing. The responses were fascinating: Responses have been edited for length and clarity. 1."Not having social media. I have heard (and read on BuzzFeed) that 'not having any social media is a huge red flag for me.' WHY?! HOW?! So you're upset that you don't have to police their Instagram, Facebook/Messenger, TikTok, Snapchat, etc? My partner of six years only has Snapchat and literally has like 25 friends. They are 99% friends I have met, have mutual friends with, or are his family. It's a HUGE green flag that they don't give a crap about social media and what others think about his life/our life. It's OUR life, so why should anyone expect to see into it if you're not invited? I have social media only because it's how I communicate with family. He has full access, and I have full access to his phone, etc. Why? Because we trust each other. It's so nice having a partner who doesn't give a fuck about what others think of him as much as I don't give a fuck. If you think it's a red flag, you need to ask yourself why." —Anonymous, 36; Tennessee 2."Having a quirky or weird interest. That does not automatically make someone a weirdo or obsessive. For example, my husband has ADHD and tends to get very interested in a hobby or topic quickly and loves to geek out about it. Some of his interests are kind of out there. For example, he's 27 and LOVES Disney (especially the parks and movies), LOVES gardening, LOVES caring for our bearded dragon, LOVES working on his tank, and LOVES improving his life quality. A lot of other girls in college thought he was weird for his niche and intense interests, especially because he can be kind of shy and quiet. I was the only girl who gave him a chance. And I won the jackpot! He's caring, romantic, respects me, takes great care of me and our home, and he's wicked smart. Sure, he's quirky. Sure, he doesn't have typical 'masculine' hobbies. But he's a great guy, and I wish more people saw more for him than his quirks." —Anonymous, 25; Virginia 3."Not doing surprise gifts, dates, etc. Spontaneity and big gestures are highly romanticized, but they can often set both parties up for disappointment or unrealistic expectations. Communicating and involving your partner instead is a green flag for me. My partner and I like to discuss and plan fun ideas together. We go shopping for gifts together as well, so we get to pick out exactly what we like. It's so much more fun, and there is less pressure to like a gift or hope they like a gift. (And wastes less money)." —Anonymous, 30; Canada 4."Inserting himself into my college life. We currently go to different colleges, but he makes the effort to see me at my college because he wants to get to know my friends and new interests I've picked up. It's so, when I talk, he knows how to contribute to our conversations in a way that he understands what and who I'm talking about. Some people may see it as signs of insecurity or jealousy, but he truly wants to see the way I've been growing as a person now that I'm in college." —Anonymous, 18; New York 5."Online gaming. I've dated a couple of people I've met through online gaming. I know people tend to think that's a bad thing (to game a lot), but it requires communication and planning skills, especially when their gaming group includes people around the world." —Anonymous, 39; Phoenix, AZ 6."Not being close to their parents. It's great if your family is close. It's also absolutely okay if it's complicated, but sometimes it is better to cut ties with abusers or toxic people. I think it can be healthy to be no or low-contact, and it can protect partners and future children. It takes a lot of strength to break cycles." —Anonymous, 32; California 7."It's not toxic to have never dated someone before. Like, they're waiting for the truly right person to date." —Anonymous, 20; South Carolina 8."When people always respond with 'What do YOU want to do?' People find it weirdly annoying, but I think it just means they care about how you feel. I don't like it when people are like, 'What do you want to do?' 'Oh, I was thinking ice skating, then lunch at this restaurant, then a museum…' That just feels like they've been creepily putting this whole date together for months. No, thank you." —Anonymous 9."Not responding to texts quickly. My bf was sooooo slow to respond to texts when we first exchanged numbers. I thought he wasn't interested, but it turned out that he was not a very tech-savvy guy and had no interest in his phone. This makes dates great as we can converse for hours on end and away from screens. Our interactions are always genuine, and he's so thoughtful!" —Anonymous, 16; Oklahoma 10."Having girl friends as a man. It's not a red flag. It actually tells me women feel safe around you, and you can build a relationship with a woman other than a romantic one. So that means you don't see women only as objects for your pleasure. You actually see them as human beings you can interact with just like you do with other men." —Anonymous, 22; Romania 11."Not telling someone their WHOLE life story. The older I get, there are things people keep to themselves for a reason. Doesn't mean they don't trust you or you can't trust them. If it's significant enough, it will reveal itself. I am not going to force someone I am with to tell me everything if they're not comfortable doing so. That being said, if you don't communicate what is important to you for them to share about themselves, that is all on you." —witchysorcerer621 12."Not being a self-proclaimed nice guy. This might be specific to my relationship, but he straight up told me he was 'kind of an a**hole' on our first date and said he wasn't good with emotions. It was refreshing as hell, coming from seemingly endless dates with self-professed 'nice guys' who were anything but. Turns out he's not an asshole at all, and he's pretty damn good with emotions now. That first date was 15 years ago." —rakishrogue 13."A guy cooking, cleaning, and being able to do stereotypically 'female' stuff." —Anonymous, Maddi, USA 26 14."Being upfront about dating other people. It might seem like a red flag at first, but it's actually a green one. Honesty about where you stand shows emotional maturity and respect. It also sets the stage for clear communication when the time comes to discuss exclusivity — if and when both people are ready for that step." —Anonymous, 37; Mexico "On a blind or first date: I am totally OJ with small talk. People have all sorts of different levels and experiences when it comes to meeting with a person for the first time. Being nervous is OK, and not knowing what to say is OK." —sparklysalt40 Have examples of your own where a perceived red flag is actually a green flag? Let us know in the comments or through the anonymous form below!

15 Relationship Red Flags That Are Huge Green Flags
15 Relationship Red Flags That Are Huge Green Flags

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15 Relationship Red Flags That Are Huge Green Flags

Red flag this, green flag that. When dating, people have so many characteristics they look for in a partner. Or more truthfully, traits they try to avoid. Sometimes, though, one person's red flag is another person's green flag. We asked the BuzzFeed Community for examples of things that, when dating, some might see as a reason for pause, but they see as a good thing. The responses were fascinating: "Not having social media. I have heard (and read on BuzzFeed) that 'not having any social media is a huge red flag for me.' WHY?! HOW?! So you're upset that you don't have to police their Instagram, Facebook/Messenger, TikTok, Snapchat, etc? My partner of six years only has Snapchat and literally has like 25 friends. They are 99% friends I have met, have mutual friends with, or are his family. It's a HUGE green flag that they don't give a crap about social media and what others think about his life/our life. It's OUR life, so why should anyone expect to see into it if you're not invited? I have social media only because it's how I communicate with family. He has full access, and I have full access to his phone, etc. Why? Because we trust each other. It's so nice having a partner who doesn't give a fuck about what others think of him as much as I don't give a fuck. If you think it's a red flag, you need to ask yourself why." —Anonymous, 36; Tennessee "Having a quirky or weird interest. That does not automatically make someone a weirdo or obsessive. For example, my husband has ADHD and tends to get very interested in a hobby or topic quickly and loves to geek out about it. Some of his interests are kind of out there. For example, he's 27 and LOVES Disney (especially the parks and movies), LOVES gardening, LOVES caring for our bearded dragon, LOVES working on his tank, and LOVES improving his life quality. A lot of other girls in college thought he was weird for his niche and intense interests, especially because he can be kind of shy and quiet. I was the only girl who gave him a chance. And I won the jackpot! He's caring, romantic, respects me, takes great care of me and our home, and he's wicked smart. Sure, he's quirky. Sure, he doesn't have typical 'masculine' hobbies. But he's a great guy, and I wish more people saw more for him than his quirks." "Not doing surprise gifts, dates, etc. Spontaneity and big gestures are highly romanticized, but they can often set both parties up for disappointment or unrealistic expectations. Communicating and involving your partner instead is a green flag for me. My partner and I like to discuss and plan fun ideas together. We go shopping for gifts together as well, so we get to pick out exactly what we like. It's so much more fun, and there is less pressure to like a gift or hope they like a gift. (And wastes less money)." —Anonymous, 30; Canada "Inserting himself into my college life. We currently go to different colleges, but he makes the effort to see me at my college because he wants to get to know my friends and new interests I've picked up. It's so, when I talk, he knows how to contribute to our conversations in a way that he understands what and who I'm talking about. Some people may see it as signs of insecurity or jealousy, but he truly wants to see the way I've been growing as a person now that I'm in college." "Online gaming. I've dated a couple of people I've met through online gaming. I know people tend to think that's a bad thing (to game a lot), but it requires communication and planning skills, especially when their gaming group includes people around the world." —Anonymous, 39; Phoenix, AZ "Not being close to their parents. It's great if your family is close. It's also absolutely okay if it's complicated, but sometimes it is better to cut ties with abusers or toxic people. I think it can be healthy to be no or low-contact, and it can protect partners and future children. It takes a lot of strength to break cycles." "It's not toxic to have never dated someone before. Like, they're waiting for the truly right person to date." —Anonymous, 20; South Carolina "When people always respond with 'What do YOU want to do?' People find it weirdly annoying, but I think it just means they care about how you feel. I don't like it when people are like, 'What do you want to do?' 'Oh, I was thinking ice skating, then lunch at this restaurant, then a museum…' That just feels like they've been creepily putting this whole date together for months. No, thank you." "Not responding to texts quickly. My bf was sooooo slow to respond to texts when we first exchanged numbers. I thought he wasn't interested, but it turned out that he was not a very tech-savvy guy and had no interest in his phone. This makes dates great as we can converse for hours on end and away from screens. Our interactions are always genuine, and he's so thoughtful!" —Anonymous, 16; Oklahoma "Having girl friends as a man. It's not a red flag. It actually tells me women feel safe around you, and you can build a relationship with a woman other than a romantic one. So that means you don't see women only as objects for your pleasure. You actually see them as human beings you can interact with just like you do with other men." "Not telling someone their WHOLE life story. The older I get, there are things people keep to themselves for a reason. Doesn't mean they don't trust you or you can't trust them. If it's significant enough, it will reveal itself. I am not going to force someone I am with to tell me everything if they're not comfortable doing so. That being said, if you don't communicate what is important to you for them to share about themselves, that is all on you." —witchysorcerer621 "Not being a self-proclaimed nice guy. This might be specific to my relationship, but he straight up told me he was 'kind of an a**hole' on our first date and said he wasn't good with emotions. It was refreshing as hell, coming from seemingly endless dates with self-professed 'nice guys' who were anything but. Turns out he's not an asshole at all, and he's pretty damn good with emotions now. That first date was 15 years ago." "A guy cooking, cleaning, and being able to do stereotypically 'female' stuff." —Anonymous, Maddi, USA 26 "Being upfront about dating other people. It might seem like a red flag at first, but it's actually a green one. Honesty about where you stand shows emotional maturity and respect. It also sets the stage for clear communication when the time comes to discuss exclusivity — if and when both people are ready for that step." Finally, "On a blind or first date: I am totally OJ with small talk. People have all sorts of different levels and experiences when it comes to meeting with a person for the first time. Being nervous is OK, and not knowing what to say is OK." —sparklysalt40 Have examples of your own where a perceived red flag is actually a green flag? Let us know in the comments or through the anonymous form below!

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