Ohio EPA to meet with neighbors after frustrations about planned trash facility
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The Ohio Environmental Protection Agency will host a session to gather feedback from the community about the facility, which is planned to accept non-hazardous waste and operate indoors to minimize noise and odor.
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'I'm not too happy about a possible smell and more traffic, like we don't have enough with Bucces,' Bryan Coberly said, a Park Layne resident for 30 years.
Coberly has witnessed various developments on Dayton Lakeview Road over the years, including a driving range where he used to play with his son.
More recently, the land in question was used for community soccer games, which Coberly believes should continue to host community events rather than waste transfer operations.
'Mainly, it's the traffic. It's just too much traffic out here anymore,' he said.
The facility is expected to be operational in late 2025, according to the project's website.
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'Unfortunately, unhappy partners keep the extent of what is going on a secret from their spouse until it is almost too late,' Whetstone said. 'It's so important that partners stay in touch and let the other know when they are struggling.' Below are five stages of a dying marriage outlined by Whetstone. The first four align with some of Vaughan's findings, while the fifth is one that Whetstone discovered in her own research, she said. The first stage, known as the disillusionment phase, is when one person recognizes that they're unhappy in their relationship, but they decide to take a wait-and-see approach. 'They mull it over and say, 'You know, relationships have ups and downs, and I'll just see how this goes and see if my feelings change,'' Whetstone said. But as Vaughan told The Washington Post in a 1986 interview: 'When you keep secrets that have to do with the relationship ― things that make you unhappy, things that can be fixed ― a breach is begun. ... It widens the gap.' The second stage is the erosion phase. This is when one partner realizes that the unhappiness is not just going away and is serious enough that it could lead to divorce. Still, they dismiss the idea of splitting up for a number of reasons — because of kids, finances, reputation, religion, values or 'whatever it is they don't want to lose,' Whetstone said. 'The cracks begin to show,' she said. 'They may make sarcastic remarks to their spouse, complain, get an attitude, or roll their eyes, but whatever it is, it stays between them.' In other words, this person might make snide comments toward their spouse, but only behind closed doors — not in front of other people, Whetstone noted. The third stage is known as the detachment phase, in which a person pulls away from their partner emotionally and looks for things outside of the marriage to help them cope. That might mean investing time in a hobby, a workout regimen or even having an affair, Whetstone said. But this person is still not willing to end the relationship. 'So, they make a deal with themself: I can stay married if I find something outside the marriage and away from my partner that brings me satisfaction,' Whetstone explained. 'They are focusing more and more on their unhappiness, seeing every little negative thing and becoming more blind to the things they once enjoyed.' By this stage, the hostility starts to become apparent to folks outside of the relationship. 'The poisonous feelings seep out in front of others,' said Whetstone. At this point, a person's tolerance for their partner continues to dwindle and the marriage moves into the fourth stage, known as 'The Straw.' Whetstone described it as 'a day when their spouse says or does something that gives them sudden clarity that they can't be married to someone' who would do that thing. 'At this moment, they emotionally unplug, turn their back on the marriage and refuse to cooperate or go along, pretending they are happy,' she explained. The straw that breaks the camel's back might be something that's big, small or seemingly innocent, Whetstone said. But for the disgruntled spouse, everything has changed. 'They will either decide to end the relationship altogether, make a pronouncement of their thinking they want a divorce or emotionally disconnect,' Whetstone said. Rubberball/Mike Kemp / Getty Images In Whetstone's research, she uncovered a fifth stage, which she refers to as death of the marriage. 'Or at least death of what has been going on before, as the spouse will not go back to the way things were,' she said. At this point, divorce is likely, she said, 'but it is possible that a future with their partner can be found under the right circumstances.' The status quo, however, is 'forever off the table,' she added. 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'As soon as you start seeing signs of a potential problem you can't fix yourselves, go,' he said. 'At this stage it's much quicker, cheaper and has much better results.' The adage 'time fixes everything' doesn't apply to marriages on the rocks, Smith said. ''Let's just give it some time' is an avoidance, and sometimes a power play,' he continued. 'Don't accept it. In addition to time, you also have to add strategies and effort to the mix to bring about real change, especially change that lasts. Be smart and be willing to admit when you can't fix it yourself.' What if your partner won't go to marriage counseling? Then go without them, Smith said. 'Marriages can change even if only one person is trying,' he said. 'Ultimately, do you need both partners participating? Sure. But you can get started without them. And often when you do, they'll join you at some point.' HuffPost.
