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USA Today
24-05-2025
- General
- USA Today
The truth about people who grew up in families who never apologized
Leo Tolstoy said it best with the opening of "Anna Karenina." "Each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." But what about families who never apologize? A therapist's recent TikTok, with 1.3 million views, asserted "people who grew up in families where no one apologized after disagreements and would just let time pass instead of resolving things, often become anxious adults who over-explain, over-communicate and feel uneasy until things are settled." This theory may not be true for everyone, mental health professionals say, but it's a potential consequence worth unpacking. "When families don't apologize, it often means that there's an environment of emotional invalidation, and ingrained beliefs about perfection," says Regine Galanti, a clinical psychologist. "Apologies are viewed as a negative thing because they admit that you might have made a mistake, which is uncomfortable for most people. When you take apologies off the table, though, you teach family members that it's not OK to acknowledge mistakes, which often makes people think that it's not OK to make mistakes." 'Relationships go through a cycle of rupture and repair' Maybe your parents argued over someone forgetting an anniversary. Or your siblings squabbled about whose turn it was to empty the dishwasher. Whatever the case, arguments silly and serious affect families of all kinds. But "growing up in a home where no one ever apologizes may take an emotional toll," says Amy Morin, psychotherapist, author of " 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" and the host of a podcast. This will look different for different families. But "when people minimize, dismiss or deny someone's experience, they inevitably create feelings of hurt, anger and a sense of invisibility in others," says Cecille Ahrens, a licensed clinical social worker. "People will then cope with these emotions in all sorts of ways, depending on how conflict was modeled to them, their personal histories, their temperament to name a few factors. These experiences often create insecure and anxious attachment styles which then impact all of their future relationships until they get the support they deserve." So, if your home included atypical communication patterns, expect it to potentially affect how you apologize (or don't) as an adult. "Often, relationships go through a cycle of rupture and repair," Morin says. "That means, speaking up for yourself or creating a boundary to rupture the status quo that isn't working. Then, as part of the repair, apologies are often necessary." No apology, little opportunity for repair. Never apologizing may even lead to mental health issues. "If you've internalized the belief that your emotions aren't important, or that mistakes are signs of weakness or that conflict is to be avoided at all cost, those are unhealthy thinking patterns that can keep you trapped in anxiety or depression," Galanti says. 'Heal from the trauma of being ignored' You should look inward and consider whether you grew up in a family who never apologized, and how that affects your life today. Seek support from people you trust, Ahrens says. Therapy, in turn, can help you untangle the past to better connect to your present and future and prioritize healthy communication. And you should consider avoiding triggers as you can, including spending time with certain family members that hurt you. Or at least have a self-care plan in place, like taking deep breaths or stepping away from a conversation if it spirals into a hurricane-level storm. Overall, focus on your own feelings and seek support as you need, especially if feelings grow untenable and, as Ahrens says, "are having a significant impact on your functioning and quality of life."
Hindustan Times
22-05-2025
- Politics
- Hindustan Times
Kangra Agniveer dies in Kargil landslide
A 25-year-old Agniveer from Himachal's Kangra district died in a landslide while he was on duty in the Drass sector of Kargil, officials said on Wednesday. According to officials, Naveen Kumar, a resident of Halun village in Thural panchayat of Sulah assembly segment, was serving with the Jammu and Kashmir Rifles and lost his life in a landslide on May 20. The mortal remains of the deceased soldier are expected to reach his native village on Thursday, where his last rites will be conducted with full military honours, they said. Vandana Kumari, head of Thural panchayat, confirmed the incident and expressed her condolences. 'We were informed by a soldier from the area. The whole village stands with the grieving family,' she said. Naveen had joined the army two years ago through an open rally recruitment under the Agnipath father, Rajmal, also served the nation as a Havildar in the 13 JAK Rifles and passed away four years ago due to cancer. According to family, Naveen had spoken to his mother over the phone on the morning of May 19. He had last visited home in July 2024. Himachal chief minister Sukhvinder Singh Sukhu expressed grief over the incident and prayed for strength to the bereaved family. Deputy chief minister Mukesh Agnihotri also expressed grief over Kumar's demise. Agnihotri conveyed his condolences and prayed for peace to the departed soul. With PTI inputs
IOL News
16-05-2025
- Automotive
- IOL News
REVIEW: BMW X3 30e PHEV is modern and sophisticated, with a few niggles
It's got presence, but the big grille is a bit polarising. Image: Supplied I test drove the new BMW X3 around the time it was announced as South Africa's 2025 Car of the Year winner, and its victory certainly got us debating its worthiness as an all-round victor. While many were relieved that the winner was not a more expensive vehicle, like the 7 Series that won in 2024, one can't get away from the fact that the X3 has become a rather expensive vehicle, like just about any desirable vehicle emanating from one of the traditional manufacturers these days. The X3 is priced from R1,13 million in 2.0d xDrive diesel guise, while the 30e xDrive plug-in hybrid that we tested recently is a R1.26 million proposition. And that's before you add an M Sport package, which brings the bill up to R1.31 million. ALSO READ: Why the BMW X3 might not be a worthy Car of the Year winner Granted, the Mercedes GLC now costs from R1.24 million to R1.56 million, and there isn't a hybrid option to choose from, while Porsche's Macan starts at R1.62 million. There is of course also a feel-good factor emanating from the fact that the X3 is built right here in Mzansi, following a R4.6 billion investment, with 96% of production being exported to other world markets. The plug-in hybrid covers up to 90km on electric power. Image: Supplied While the excellent X3 20d oil burner is the mainstay of the range, and for good reason, the 30e xDrive plug-in hybrid (PHEV) variant is the innovation hero in the range. It pairs a 2.0-litre turbopetrol engine to an electric motor for system outputs of 220kW and 450Nm. BMW claims this PHEV model cover up to 90km on electric power alone, and I was impressed with how long it held its battery charge during my test drive, as I was able to waft along on battery power for a good few days. It can get a little thirsty when that charge runs out, however, with two days of purely urban driving pushing my consumption to around 10 litres per 100km. But that's the thing with a plug-in hybrid. If you want to reap the benefits of that heavy battery that it lugs along, you have to charge it on a regular basis. Do that and you effectively have an EV for your daily commute and weekend runabouts, with the petrol engine serving as a back-up plan for long-distance trips. It's a refined package as far as I'm concerned, and the petrol engine kicks in seamlessly when called upon, although it can get a little noisy at higher revs. Performance is sublime, and the steering and road holding are in line with what you'd expect from a modern BMW, with the ride slightly firm but definitely comfortable. Forward-looking cabin The interior is a big departure from what we've seen previously in BMW's small to medium products. It's very evident that the company's stylists modelled it on the latest 7 Series, which is something of a revolution on wheels when it comes to cabin ambience and tech. The interior: futuristic but finicky. Image: Supplied The futuristic-looking cockpit features a new lighting scheme that adds a colour contrasting border to elements like the centre console and door trims. In traditional BMW style, the dashboard curves slightly towards the driver, and the command centre is an ultra-wide curved screen with graphics that wouldn't be out of place on Star Wars. It houses BMW's latest Operating System 9, and there's also a slightly gimmicky 'Interaction Bar' beneath the screen for additional functions. While the X3 packs an impressive amount of technology and functions into the cockpit, it did feel like a bit of a digital overload to me, and many of the functions - particularly the driver info displays - took some getting used to. The cabin as a whole is well executed and while I wouldn't describe the rear legroom as abundant, there appears to be enough space to meet the needs of an average family. I like that BMW has broken the mould with the interior styling, but given its lower price point, the materials and ambient lighting systems don't dazzle in the same way that they do in the larger 7 Series. Not even close, which is understandable given the price difference. But there were some surfaces in the front of the cabin, as well as the front seat-back shells, which felt too cheap for a R1.3 million car, in my book. More standard features On the upside, the X3 does have more standard features than before, with some of the highlights being electrically-powered sports seats with leather upholstery, dual phone charging pad, three-zone climate control, navigation, comfort access, electric tailgate, park assist and driving assist, the latter including lane change warning and traffic sign recognition. Items such as adaptive cruise control, head-up display and a Harman Kardon sound system are optional through various available packages. THE VERDICT The new BMW X3 is a highly refined, sophisticated and innovative new SUV package that is now arguably the best vehicle in its class. But given how the smaller BMW X1 has grown in terms of interior space while still being somewhat cheaper, at R828,899 to R1.18 million, I think there is a big argument in favour of its smaller sibling. Granted, the latter is still built on a front-wheel drive platform, but I don't see that as being a deal breaker for most SUV buyers. IOL
News18
12-05-2025
- Entertainment
- News18
Rocky Hits The Road Again: #RoadTrippinWithRocky Returns With A New Tamil Nadu Adventure
Last Updated: Join Rocky Singh in #RoadTrippinWithRocky Season 13 as he explores Tamil Nadu's food and landscapes from May 12-19. Follow on HistoryTV18 and Rocky's social media Sizzling summer got you trapped indoors? Don't worry—Rocky is back with an irresistible serving of the outdoors that promises to be both delicious and entertaining! Get ready for a flavour-packed adventure across Tamil Nadu with the much-loved traveller and food enthusiast Rocky Singh, as he hits the road to escape the searing northern heat in #RoadTrippinWithRocky Season 13. Follow his journey as he explores the state's iconic food joints, breath-taking landscapes, and hidden gems, from May 12 to May 19, across HistoryTV18's and Rocky's social media accounts. Rocky kickstarts the journey from Delhi Airport itself, where he checks out the world-class facilities, like a lounge that provide unmatched relaxation at this bustling hub of activities. Upon reaching Tamil Nadu, he heads straight to the hills for a day of chill in Madikeri. The next day, he enjoys a scenic drive to Virajpet, where he spends the day before heading to the 'Queen of Hill Stations'—Ooty. After a day in Ooty, Rocky's travels take him to the heritage city of Mysuru, before his journey culminates in the capital city, Chennai. In between the breath-taking drives and well-earned moments of relaxation at Mahindra resort properties, Rocky makes sure to indulge in his one true love — food. Whether he's cooling off with scoops of lip-smacking ice cream at Ibaco, or discovering local favourites at legendary tea stalls in Chennai, every stop becomes a chance to taste the heart of Tamil Nadu. With his trademark curiosity and appetite, Rocky will show that in Tamil Nadu, good times aren't just scenic — they're seriously flavourful! Over the years, the #RoadTrippin format has evolved into one of HistoryTV18's most successful and engaging digital properties, consistently achieving impressive traction on social media platforms. With each new season, audiences return in large numbers—drawn to its unique blend of travel, food, culture, and light-hearted storytelling. What sets the series apart is its digital-first approach, crafted especially for audiences who consume content on the move and across devices. The show's relatable humour, spontaneity, and conversational tone resonate strongly with viewers, making it a much-anticipated return every season. Along the way, the content struck a viral chord, amassing over 2 billion impressions and generating nearly 540 million video views, reflecting the format's wide appeal and staying power in the digital space. Tune into the journey May 12 onwards on HistoryTV18's and Rocky's YouTube, Twitter, Instagram and Facebook pages. First Published: May 12, 2025, 16:43 IST
Yahoo
08-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Jesse Williams Accuses Ex Aryn Drake-Lee of Violating Custody Order
Originally appeared on E! Online Jesse Williams is continuing his legal battle with his ex-wife Aryn Drake-Lee. Nearly two months after the Grey's Anatomy alum was awarded sole custody of their 11-year-old daughter Sadie and 9-year-old son Maceo's healthcare, he accused his ex of violating the court's order during an April 3 orthodontist appointment, according to documents obtained by E! News. 'During our meeting with the children's orthodontist, when we were to discuss among other things, the doctor's game plan for treating Sadie's impacted upper right canine tooth and the growing cyst around her tooth,' the May 6 Ex Parte Request for a Temporary Emergency Orders read, 'Aryn aggressively told the doctor she does not consent to treatment and that she will SUE the doctor if he touches the children. The orthodontist promptly asked us to leave.' Williams—who was married to Drake-Lee from 2012 to 2017 before finalizing the divorce in 2020—said that he apologized to the doctor for her outburst and left the office. He also said in the filing that after the incident, Sadie and Maceo asked him, 'What is wrong with Mom? Did we get kicked out? Why does she keep doing this? Why won't she let me get braces? Can we just go back without her?' More from E! Online Why Cardinals Are Banned From Eating Ravioli During the Conclave Who Won The Masked Singer Season 13? Country Star Revealed as Pearl Timothée Chalamet's Ex Eiza González Reacts to His Kylie Jenner Romance E! News has reached out to Drake-Lee and reps for Williams for comment and has not yet heard back. The 43-year-old accused Drake-Lee—with whom he shares joint legal and physical custody—of compromising their children's 'health and specific treatment,' along with destroying 'relationships with healthcare providers who are now terrified to treat our children for fear of her erratic and aggressive antics.' Williams noted that Maceo needs braces and added that Sadie 'has an impacted upper right canine, and a cyst around the root,' to which the orthodontist recommended her tooth 'be extracted and orthodontic treatment be started.' 'Aryn has demonstrated that if she is notified about treatment, she will physically appear and sabotage the treatment, scarring and scaring the children in the process,' the documents shared. 'Given Aryn's conduct, I will be unable to obtain any healthcare treatment for the children.' He argued that Sadie 'should not have to wait any longer for treatment' since her oral issues could be 'complicated with more risks' if not treated. Williams is requesting that he 'be permitted to obtain healthcare treatment for the children without any notice to Aryn, and that Aryn be prohibited from interfering with or communicating with the healthcare providers.' According to the filing, the Cabin in the Woods star, per a March 20 hearing, emphasized that he has 'sole legal custody to make all decisions related to the children's medical, dental, and orthodontic care and treatment.' Per the court order, Williams was to keep Drake-Lee 'fully informed of all medical, dental, and orthodontic appointments and treatment,' and she also has 'the right to attend all such appointments.' For the latest breaking news updates, click here to download the E! News App
