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The Sun
26-05-2025
- General
- The Sun
I found strength to end my marriage to my abusive husband but I fear eight-month affair is now over
DEAR DEIDRE: I'VE had the most beautiful sex with a colleague — it was the opposite of how my abusive husband treated me and the start of an eight-month affair. I've even found the strength to end my marriage but now I'm very worried that my love affair is over. I'm a 43-year-old woman. My work as a radiologist has always been an escape from my toxic relationship. Over the years I got close to a male colleague who's a couple of years younger than me. One day a woman came in with a broken arm — her boyfriend had beaten her. The incident really triggered me and this colleague spotted how upset I was. He invited me for a drink later saying he was worried about me. One drink led to more and we then had incredible sex in his car. It felt wonderful to be desired again. He wasn't happy with his wife and within weeks we admitted we loved each other. My marriage, to my mind, had ended long ago. My monster of a husband became abusive after his mother died. He's 47. He began drinking heavily and would beat me but always ensured I could hide my bruises. Two months ago my lover left his wife to rent a flat in town and I finally left my husband. I decided I wouldn't move straight in, just in case of gossip. Now this guy has been seconded to a different department and he's not answering calls or texts. I'm pleased to be out of my marriage but I'm worried about the future with the new man I love. Dear Deidre: Cheating and can you get over it It is wise not to hurtle into your next relationship, and to have suggested living separately. The thrill of an affair is so different to a committed relationship. Once you mentioned 'gossip', he may have been worried about how his bosses, friends or family would see things. At best, accept he's mixed up and needs some space. He's not handled this well but tell him you're ready to talk when he is – but give yourself a time limit. See this as your opportunity to reassess and adjust. If he doesn't come back within that time, you might have to accept he's not in it for the long haul. Your ex was abusive and perhaps you've fallen for another man you cannot rely on. My support pack, Finding The Right Partner For You, explains more. CLIMAX IS SLOW SO I DODGE FULL SEX DEAR DEIDRE: I'VE never had sex with my girlfriend because I'm worried it will take me too long to climax. She's a virgin and I've had sexual partners in the past, but I've never had full sex. She's 17 and I'm 19. We do have a lot of foreplay and sometimes she gives me oral sex but it takes so long for me to get to that peak of excitement. It's been like that with other girls too. I do things for her but we've not gone all the way because I feel useless. My girlfriend keeps asking when we are going to have full sex but I'm scared she'll get fed up if it takes too long. Can you help? DEIDRE SAYS: The first thing to tell you is that most women don't orgasm through intercourse, so lots of foreplay is exactly what you should be doing. Many men don't climax through oral sex. Your first sexual relationship doesn't come with a manual, so you're bound to feel awkward and clumsy but remember, you're in this together and try to enjoy it. To reach climax you need to feel relaxed and confident together. If you don't get this right the first time, have a giggle about it and try again another day. My support packs – First-time Fears and Find It Hard To Climax? should help you to feel more confident. Don't forget to use contraception too. GIRLFRIEND SEEMS IDEAL BUT FEAR I'M MISSING OUT DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my girlfriend but sometimes I wonder whether the grass is greener. I've never cheated – in fact, she has been my one and only partner. We are both 23. I'm a guy and we met at university and now live together in our university town. We have been loyal to one another, where other couples we know have cheated and had fall-outs. People ask us what the secret is – maybe it's that we rarely argue. I often think she's the female version of me. My parents are still together but their best friends are going through a divorce after 25 years together. I do wonder whether this could ever happen to us. Is it possible for you to love one person and never stray towards fancying somebody else? DEIDRE SAYS: Yes, of course. But even in the most solid of relationships it's normal to fancy a person outside of the partnership. The difference is whether you act on it or not. The key is realising that what you are looking for, you already have. In our teens and 20s we try lots of relationships but it's usually painful. If you've hit the jackpot with your girlfriend already, then that's fantastic. Don't spoil things by looking elsewhere for a change of personality. My support pack, Learning About Relationships, will help unscramble your feelings. IT'S CLEAR MUM FAVOURS BRUV DEAR DEIDRE: IT'S said that parents don't really have favourites but my mother definitely does – my brother. She smothers him with love. He's a grown man of 27 and he lives with his girlfriend and I bet she's sick of it. My mum texts him every single night and says goodnight to them both. I'm a woman of 24 and I live with my boyfriend. Mum rarely messages me. I have to do all the running around for her because I live near her so she only texts me if she needs something urgently. I visit her every week and she gives me a list of errands. If we eat together it's usually a takeaway, yet if my brother visits her once in a blue moon, she'll always cook his favourite roast dinner. She's 62. Our dad died years ago and Mum never found anyone else to be with. She has one close friend who goes to church with her and other than that, it's me who calls in on her. I feel so taken for granted sometimes – I don't want to feel jealous of my brother but I do. DEIDRE SAYS: My guess is that your brother has more of your father's traits than you do, so she likes to care for him as she once did your dad. But she may not realise that she's being so obvious and damaging your relationship in the process. Take your mum out for lunch or a coffee and tell her that you want to talk. Explain that you love her but that her actions are upsetting you. Gently tell her that while she may not be aware of this, she treats you both quite differently. If she is reminded of your father when she sees your brother then she can talk with Sue Ryder ( 0808 164 4572) which offers six weeks of free bereavement counselling. Let's hope she takes your feelings on board and treats you more equally from now on.
Time of India
24-05-2025
- Time of India
2 held for peddling cannabis
Udupi/Mangaluru: To curb the transportation and sale of cannabis and to prevent its distribution in Udupi, two individuals, who were frequently involved in such cases, were detained under the Prevention of Illicit Traffic in Narcotic Drugs and Psychotropic Substances (PITNDPS) Act. Krishna Achari,43, from Kolalagiri Uppoor village, and Abdul Jabbar,27, from Kelarkalabettu, were sent to the Central Prison in Dharwad. Mangaluru City police booked several individuals under the NDPS Act after conducting drives through its drug-free city initiative at various police station jurisdictions on Thursday. Mangaluru East police registered a case under the NDPS Act against Sadik,41, of Tannirbhavi, for allegedly consuming various drugs. Kavoor police registered separate cases against Radhakrishnan Nair,58, from Panjimogaru, and Raja,54, a resident of Kodialbail, for allegedly consuming ganja. Bajpe police registered a case against Nagesh Mani,28, a resident of Puttur, for the consumption of marijuana. Mulki police booked separate cases against Mohammed Irshad and Dharmalinga for consuming ganja at Kolachekambla and Kolnad, respectively. Meanwhile, Panambur police registered separate cases against Hamza, 36, and Mohamed Arfaz, 21, residents of Kasaba Bengre, for the consumption of marijuana. Get the latest lifestyle updates on Times of India, along with Brother's Day wishes , messages and quotes !
The Hindu
19-05-2025
- The Hindu
Human Rights Forum urges Andhra Pradesh Government to compensate deceased farmer
The Human Rights Forum (HRF) Rythu Swarajya Vedika (RSV) and BC Welfare Association (BCWA) have called upon the State Government to implement G.O. (MS) No.43 that provides financial assistance of ₹7,00,000 to the family of Balleda Narasimha Murthy (58), a farmer of Peddhakhojiria village in Kanchili mandal in the Uddhanam region of Srikakulam district. Narasimha Murthy ended his life on April 9, 2025, as pressure mounted on him to repay the debts he incurred because of successive crop failure. A six-member HRF-RSV and BCWA team visited Peddhakojiria in Kanchili mandal recently and interacted with Ms. Neelaveni, wife of the deceased farmer, and their son Praveen. The team also interacted with local farmers and residents of Makarampuram village about the ongoing agrarian crisis in the Uddhanam region. According to HRF, Narasimha Murthy cultivated cashew and coconut on an acre of his own land and leased an additional eight acres. He paid the lease amount in advance. The HRF said 'Narasimha Murthy was denied adequate institutional credit, forced to borrow from private sources at high interest rates to cover farm-related expenses.' 'With several years of scanty rainfall coupled with his coconut crop being ravaged by pest, he was pushed into deep debt. He was under regular and persistent pressure from money-lenders demanding repayment. Driven to utter despair, he ended his life on April 9,' the HRF said. The HRF alleged that, though more than five weeks have passed since Narasimha Murthy passed away, the three-member divisional verification committee headed by the Revenue Divisional Officer (RDO) has not visited Peddha khojiria to conduct an inquiry. 'The G.O. 43 mandates that the RDO-led committee visit the village, elicit relevant details and forward proposal to the Collector within a week of the death. In effect, the family has received no assistance, financial or otherwise, from the government. This manner of negligence defeats the very purpose of G.O. 43,' the HRF said. 'Over the past year, there have been five deaths (of farmers) in the North Andhra districts, including that of Narasimha Murthy. However, not a single family has been rendered assistance under G.O 43,' the HRF said. The HRF demanded that the three-member divisional level committee visit Peddha khojiria at the earliest, conduct a proper inquiry and ensure justice to Narasimha Murthy's family as laid out in G.O. 43. The fact-finding team that visited Narasimha Murthy's family include RSV State co-convenor, K.V. Jagannadha Rao, HRF State president K. Anuradha, HRF Publications editor, K. Venkat Rao, HRF Srikakulam district Executive Committee (EC) member. V.S. Krishna, HRF Andhra Pradesh & Telangana Coordination Committee member and B. Dhilli Rao, BCWA State general secretary. (People battling suicidal thoughts can seek assistance for counselling by dialling number 100.)
Daily Record
08-05-2025
- Politics
- Daily Record
In Pictures: Scotland remembers its wartime heroes to mark the 80th anniversary of VE Day
Scotland fell silent to remember its wartime heroes with a series of events taking place around the country. At the Scottish Parliament and at public spaces including train stations, a national two-minute silence was observed at midday. Holyrood Presiding Officer Alison Johnson said: 'We honour the generation that gave so much to secure our peace and freedoms. 'We owe it to them to strive for that peace, to remember and to encourage future generations to remember.' Party leaders also marked the anniversary in a series of tributes before First Minister's Questions. John Swinney paid tribute to his uncle Corporal Tom Hunter of 43 Royal Marine Commando, who died on April 3 1945 in Comacchio, Italy. He was posthumously awarded the Victoria Cross for offering himself as a target to German guns in order to save his own troop during the battle. The First Minister said: 'I think of my uncle, Thomas Hunter, killed in Italy protecting his comrades 35 days before the end of the war.' Scottish Conservative leader Russell Findlay said: 'None of us here can truly appreciate the selfless sacrifice, duty and bravery of the greatest generation who fought and died for our freedom.' Scottish Labour leader Anas Sarwar said: 'We remember those who gave everything for the fight against fascism, the greatest tyranny we have ever faced.' Scottish Green co-leader Lorna Slater said: 'We cannot be complacent in the face of growing threats of fascism, international violence, hatred and oppression,' while Liberal Democrat leader Alex Cole-Hamilton added: 'We must rededicate ourselves to the promise of that peace and its furtherance for our children and theirs to come.' A service of thanksgiving took place at Glasgow Cathedral at 1pm, with guests including representatives from the military, veterans' organisations, emergency services and religious groups. Members of the Royal British Legion, the Royal Air Forces Association, and the Armed Forces charity the SSAFA took part in the service, along with their families. Speaking ahead of the service, Scotland Office minister Kirsty McNeill said: 'It's a huge privilege to attend the VE Day commemoration in Glasgow to honour all the men and women in Scotland who served during the Second World War, and also to recognise the great sacrifice of the people of Glasgow during the Clydebank Blitz in March 1941. 'We owe our lives to those who served, and what will be a moving ceremony in Glasgow Cathedral is a fitting reminder of that.' Lord Provost of Glasgow Jacqueline McLaren said: 'Thursday's service in Glasgow Cathedral is a time for us to come together to remember and reflect on the sacrifices made, courage displayed and the resilience of those who put their lives on the line to keep us safe and help build a better world. 'It's also a day to rejoice in peace and freedom, sometimes things that we take for granted.' The anniversary was also marked in Scottish Government buildings, where a two-minute silence was observed at midday. The Scottish Government's Victoria Quay and St Andrew's House buildings in Edinburgh will also continue to be lit up in red as part of a campaign to light significant buildings across the UK. Edinburgh Castle was among the buildings to be lit up in red on Tuesday in the run-up to the anniversary. Memorial events are also set to continue in Lerwick aboard vessels that arrived there from Norway on Tuesday, in commemoration of the Shetland Bus that operated between Scotland and Norway during the war. The events mark 80 years to the day since the formal acceptance by the Allies of Nazi Germany's unconditional surrender on May 8 1945, bringing the Second World War in Europe to an end after more than five years of bitter fighting.
CBC
08-05-2025
- CBC
Man, 43, faces charges of sexual assault, interference involving girl
A man has been charged with sexual assault involving a teenage girl in Winnipeg's St. John's neighbourhood. The girl told Winnipeg police that last year, she was befriended by a man, who invited her to a home on Cathedral Avenue near Salter Street and gave her drugs. On Sunday, the girl was invited to the home, where she was given drugs and sexually assaulted by the man, police said in a news release Thursday. She left the home and reported the incident to police. The man, 43, has been charged with sexual assault and sexual interference. He was detained in custody.
