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Newsweek
3 days ago
- Newsweek
Reason Woman Dumps Fiancé After He Learns of Her Lottery Winnings Backed
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. The internet is rallying behind a woman who ended her engagement after discovering her fiancé had kept a major secret—and then demanded a share of her lottery winnings. Redditor u/Amazing_Box_3511, 35, shared her story on the platform, explaining that she had been with her fiancé for two years. He had a good relationship with her 4-year-old son and even got along with her ex-husband. Three years ago, before she met her partner, she won the lottery. While it wasn't millions, it was enough to create a comfortable life and a secure future—especially for her son. She decided to continue working and put 75 percent of the winnings into a savings account for her child, accessible when he turns 21. From the beginning, her fiancé claimed he was financially secure. Still, she insisted on a prenuptial agreement that included full financial disclosure. That's when the problems began. "Now the amount in my son's savings account is about five times more than anything my fiancé has. Completely enraged, he left the lawyer's office and ignored all calls for two days. For me, that was the end of the relationship and I wrote to him saying that he could have the ring back," she wrote in the post, which has received more than 11,000 upvotes in the subreddit AITAH [Am I The A*****]. A week later, he reappeared at her door. He said he had been in shock and wanted to understand where the money had come from. Then came another bombshell: he revealed he had a 5-year-old daughter from a previous relationship—someone the woman had never heard of or seen photos of. "He sees it as justified, as I got the money through luck and not through performance. I gave him back the engagement ring and kicked him out of my apartment. Since then, I've been getting messages from various social media profiles and cell phone numbers that I would be the AH who is ruining his daughter's future," she wrote. Expert Insight Daren Banarsë, a senior psychotherapist with a private practice in Central London, weighed in with Newsweek. "I find the most psychologically damaging aspect of this case not to be the money dispute, rather the sudden revelation of a previously unknown daughter after two years of engagement. This is a fundamental breach of relationship transparency that questions the foundation of trust necessary for a healthy partnership," he said. He explained that hiding a child for two years is a "fundamental breach of relationship transparency" that undermines the foundation of trust. This kind of concealment, he said, can indicate either deep compartmentalization or deliberate deception—both red flags for any long-term relationship. Banarsë added that the man's demand to share lottery winnings, especially those earmarked for the woman's biological child, demonstrated "a sense of entitlement" and a potentially transactional view of relationships. He noted that while the fiancé may have believed his request was fair, it created an "impossible loyalty bind"—asking a mother to prioritize his secret daughter over her own son's future. A stock image of a concerned looking woman looking at a piece of paper. A stock image of a concerned looking woman looking at a piece of paper. Visions/iStock / Getty Images Plus "The woman's decision to end the engagement demonstrates remarkable emotional intelligence and healthy boundary-setting," Banarsë said. "Rather than compromise her integrity or her son's future, she recognized that some betrayals cannot be negotiated around." Renee Bauer, a divorce attorney at Happy Even After Family Law, agreed. She told Newsweek: "This situation is waving all of the red flags. First of all, this couple clearly did not have a conversation about money. When you blend families, it is important to talk about what happens with premarital assets. It's also important to consider a prenup to address this now, so it's not a problem later. Often, one person wants to protect assets for their children, because there is a very real concern that if they do not plan for it, their child could be cut out of an inheritance. "In this case, that relationship is doomed. The fact that a child was kept hidden gives some insight into what else was not disclosed. Broken trust is the demise of many marriages. "If that woman did not end her engagement, I predict, a messy divorce was in her future." Reddit Reacts Redditors overwhelmingly supported the woman's decision. "NTA. You did the right thing, breaking things off. Stay broken up. This dude will ruin your life otherwise," wrote one user. "I think he missed his calling as a telenovela screenwriter. 'but WAIT! I have a child TOO! Which means we should split your son's money. It's only fair...' And actually think that sounds believable. NTA," another added. "You are so smart! Had you not insisted on a prenup, his true character would have been revealed much later and potentially cost you so much financially," said a third. And another summed it up simply: "NTA, but also think it's a red flag he never mentioned a 'daughter' before." Newsweek reached out to u/Amazing_Box_3511 for comment via Reddit. We could not verify the details of the case. Newsweek's "What Should I Do?" offers expert advice to readers. If you have a personal dilemma, let us know via life@ We can ask experts for advice on relationships, family, friends, money and work and your story could be featured on WSID at Newsweek.
Buzz Feed
30-04-2025
- General
- Buzz Feed
'I Ghosted My Friend After She Asked To Split Her Birthday Bill. Was I Unfair?'
A 2024 Thortful report found that 71% of cash-strapped Brits have skipped a friend's birthday party because they simply can't afford it. And with the cozzie livs showing absolutely no signs of relenting in 2025, it doesn't seem like the trend will reverse any time soon. Which makes Redditor u/Quick_Aioli6466 ′s recent post to r/AITAH (Am I The Asshole Here) seem even more unfair. The 30-year-old poster said she felt blindsided by her friend's seemingly self-serving (and misleading) birthday party payment plan. So, we spoke to Dr Pamela Walters, a consultant psychiatrist, about what's fair to ask of your guests financially.
Daily Mail
25-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Husband blasted over cruel 'prank' he played on his wife - which cost them £8,000 and constantly arguing
A woman has revealed how a very expensive prank her husband played on her has left her wondering whether she can ever forgive him. The 29-year-old, believed to be from the US, took to Reddit to explain the conundrum after her husband's cruel trick left the couple £8,000 poorer. Writing on the Am I The A****** (AITAH) forum, the anonymous poster branded the expensive joke the 'dumbest thing that's ever happened to me in my entire life.' She explained that she and her husband had been taking a romantic boat ride together, when all of a sudden, he issued a startling confession. 'This past Sunday, my husband and I were on our boat together. We were just relaxing and talking and having a good morning,' she wrote. 'All of a sudden, my husband gets really serious and tells me 'baby, I'm so sorry but I have to tell you something. I'm so sorry, please forgive me, I had an affair".' Gobsmacked by the revelation, the woman couldn't help herself in reacting with 'blind rage'. In the heat of the moment, she ripped both of her wedding rings off and furiously tossed them into the ocean. 'I was blinded by rage and hurt and I'm not a confrontational person at all so all I did was stand up, take my rings off, and throw them into the ocean,' she confessed. In retrospect, she admitted she wasn't even sure why she had reacted in such a way - but that it had been the 'first thing I thought of doing'. She noted that although her husband likes to think of himself as 'a comedian', he had never made jokes about their relationship. 'He says dumb s*** all the time but he's never joked about our marriage or relationship or cheating, ever. 'The way he said it, I fully believed him,' she fumed. Her husband couldn't believe what she had done and immediately began screaming that the admission of adultery wasn't true. 'He immediately started to yell at me that it was a joke, a prank, he wasn't serious and I was an idiot.' Realising what she had done, the woman began to cry, devastated to discover she had thrown her 'sentimental' rings into the sea for no reason. 'My jaw dropped then too. I yelled at him too and called him the same. I cried too, realising I just threw my lovely and sentimental rings into the ocean,' she explained. She said the two had been left 'arguing for days' after the incident, with each believing the other to be at fault. The Reddit user said she had 'no idea who's right' and begged Reddit users to share their thoughts on the situation. 'He says I'm the a******, I say he's the a******,' she wrote. 'Yes admittedly I threw about £10,000 worth of rings into the ocean and we will never find them again - but he looked me in my eyes and told me he had an affair. I am upset about my rings.' Although she had apologised for the outburst and for throwing the rings in the sea, she insisted she didn't 'feel like the a******'. Offering their thoughts on the situation, several took to the comments to defend the woman's actions, with one calling the situation 'traumatic'. One wrote: 'If someone lies to you about your child being killed in a car accident, then tells you later that it's just a joke, that doesn't change the traumatic experience you just had of believing your child is dead. Making someone experience trauma isn't a prank, it's engaging in cruelty for your own amusement.' Another even suggested she divorce her husband for the cruelty. 'Someone who breaks your heart as a "prank" isn't someone I'd wanna be married to if I were you. You're so young don't be stuck with this jerk for the next 50 years,' they wrote. A third added: 'There are a hell of a lot of people whose ego won't allow them to admit being wrong. These people are incapable of apologising, it's a hit to their pride,' adding that they were 'concerned' for the long term wellbeing of the poster. Others even went as far as to call the behaviour 'abuse' and told her to be wary of staying married to her husband. However, one viewer suggested the affair may have been real. 'Maybe he actually had an affair and just backpedaled when he saw how mad she got,' they said.
Newsweek
24-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Newsweek
Daughter, 18, Backed for Bringing Man, 38, to Family Dinner as 'Boyfriend'
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. The internet is applauding an 18-year-old woman who brought a man two decades her senior to dinner in what she admitted was a ploy to annoy her dad. Posting to Reddit under the handle u/Adorable_Cost806, the woman wrote that her father, now 45, had an affair when she was 12 with a woman who was then 20. Her parents divorced, and her dad has been with his now-26-year-old girlfriend ever since. "She's clearly only after his money, but he's too stupid and stubborn to understand," the original poster (OP) wrote in the subreddit AITAH [Am I The A****]*, where the post racked up more than 16,000 upvotes. As a form of payback, the OP asked her 38-year-old friend to pretend to be her boyfriend and accompany her to Easter dinner with her father and his younger partner. Her dad did not take it well. He expressed discomfort, to which she replied that she hadn't done anything wrong — after all, "love has no age." "He told me that I ruined everyone's Easter by being selfish and bringing someone his age to dinner." Following the dinner, the OP returned to school, only to receive a flood of messages from relatives urging her to apologize and to "break up" with her fake boyfriend. "I flew back to school, but now I'm getting messages from a few relatives saying I should apologize to my dad and break up with my "boyfriend." I haven't responded. I don't think I'm in the wrong because he's made my life uncomfortable since the moment he cheated on my mom. AITA?," she asked the Reddit community. In a follow-up, she acknowledged the immaturity of her stunt but stood by her actions. "I KNOW THIS IS IMMATURE PEOPLE! I know it's extremely immature of me, but I wanted to show him how it feels. Thanks a lot for the advice everyone, I'll update for Christmas, lol." A stock image showing a woman fed up whilst out for dinner. A stock image showing a woman fed up whilst out for dinner. stockbusters/iStock / Getty Images Plus Expert Insight Dr. Mosun, a consultant psychiatrist at Cassiobury Court, explained to Newsweek that when adult children witness or are impacted by infidelity—especially when it involves someone close to their age—the emotional toll can be deeply complex. In this scenario, the young woman is not only coping with her father's betrayal, but also navigating the discomfort of his long-term relationship with a woman nearly her peer. "The concept of mirroring or 'acting out' behaviour, such as bringing a much older man as a pretend boyfriend, may seem like a cathartic expression in the short term. It might feel like you have a sense of control over a situation that has left you feeling powerless. But there is a danger here. It can feel like a justified response but it may also deepen feelings of resentment and further entrench negative family dynamics," she explained. Dr. Mosun noted that for many young adults, seeing a parent leave for someone closer to their own age can provoke "feelings of confusion, rejection, and betrayal—not only of the marriage, but also of their own sense of self-worth and boundaries." Dr. Mosun emphasized the importance of emotional maturity and motivation. If the action stems from revenge, it risks perpetuating emotional harm. But if it's an attempt to reclaim agency and process grief, it should be acknowledged in a way that encourages growth. Ultimately, she advised that "healing often requires confronting the feelings of hurt directly, without resorting to further emotional games or displays." Reddit Reacts Redditors were overwhelmingly in support of the OP. "I would message all those people back asking 'why is an age gap ok for dad but with me it's a problem?'" said one user. "Yeah – the only reason dad has a problem with it is that he knows EXACTLY why he got together with that much younger female and he doesn't like the thought that someone else is using his daughter the same way. Guys like this make my blood boil," shared another viewer. "Be sure to mention it isn't like you cheated during a marriage to be with the 'boyfriend' with a huge age gap. That would be bad...." another user quipped. "She should also reach out to step mom and ask for advice on how to please an older man, just really lay it on thick," suggested another commenter. Newsweek reached out to u/Adorable_Cost806 for comment via Reddit. We could not verify the details of the case. Newsweek's "What Should I Do?" offers expert advice to readers. If you have a personal dilemma, let us know via life@ We can ask experts for advice on relationships, family, friends, money and work and your story could be featured on WSID at Newsweek.
Yahoo
02-04-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Parents Furious After Grandma Cut Their Daughter's 'Long, Curly Hair' Without Consent
The grandparents privileges vs. rights dynamic is a tricky one. We appreciate and respect the role they play in the "village" that raises our kids–but how far is too far? Are there separate bedtime and eating rules between home and Grammie's house? Does Pop-Pop have a right to decide how much TV his grandson can watch while visiting? And what about grooming decisions? One dad on Reddit is still reeling from a recent confrontation he had with his own mother, after she decided to cut her granddaughter's hair without her parents' permission. The dad, who posts under the handle u/TinyPixiex hopped into the AITAH (Am I The A**Hole) subreddit to share his story. He starts the thread by sharing that his 6-year-old daughter Lily, "has long, curly hair that she absolutely adores. Taking care of it is a bonding activity for her and the wife, they do hair masks, try out different braids, and Lily loves showing off her princess curls." He writes that his mom, who he refers to as "Karen", offered to babysit Lily so he and his wife could have a date night. But when they returned, they were furious to see Lily's hair had been cut short into a chin-length bob. "My mom proudly said she fixed it, claiming it was too unruly and that Lily would look more mature this way," dad writes. He goes on to describe how Lily, devastated by her haircut, cried for hours afterwards and said she was worried she'd "look like a boy." After telling "Karen" she had no right to make that decision, dad said he no longer trusted her to watch Lily unsupervised. "Karen was livid, accusing me of overreacting and punishing her over a haircut," dad writes. "She insists she was just trying to help and says I'm being disrespectful by taking her grandparent rights away." He ends the post by sharing his sister thinks he's being too harsh–but he feels like boundaries were crossed. The Reddit thread has received a wave of comments (over 1.5K currently) almost unanimously in support of the decision to at least suspend "Karen's" unsupervised time with Lily. Most point to the fact that cutting hair without consent feels like a violation, and a more serious offense than forcing a child to wear clothes they don't want to wear for instance. "Oh hell no. I would straight up go no contact with anyone who violated my child's rights/autonomy that way," writes one commenter. "Ffs it was only a couple hours! She HAD to have already planned to do that. Huge hugs to Lily I'm so sorry!!!" "NTA - Your mom should know better. You NEVER cut a child's hair or make a change to their appearance without parental approval," writes another. Someone else comes in hot with, "She has NO grandparent rights. Hold fast to your decision. If your sister gets up your colon again, offer to cut HER hair. If she refuses tell her she's not being fair. I'm betting your sister was in on this with your mom." Other commenters suggest the language "Karen" uses when describing Lily's hair might point to some cultural insensitivity, and at the very least, carelessness. The OP dad does respond by providing the info that his wife is a POC (person of color) and his mom is white–though he says he isn't sure if that has anything to do with "Karen's" decision, since she hasn't shown any previous bias towards his wife. It goes without saying that this is a pretty big line-stepping by the grandmother in this instance. Even in a scenario where she felt comfortable enough to suggest cutting her granddaughter's hair, it's still surprising that she actually did it on her own. Unfortunately, the lasting impact is on Lily, with how much she loved her hair and loved bonding with her mom around her hair. That, to me, is the extra layer of violation here. The relationship between mother and daughter was breached–particularly involving an area of great importance and sensitivity for women of color: their hair. Would I go as far as cutting off grandma's access after this? I don't know. But I would definitely have some hard conversations moving forward about how she views my child and her own role as a grandparent. Relationships are important, and they can have many lines of connection. But once you cut certain lines, carelessly or otherwise, it's really hard to get them back. The hope is the repair work will be done more delicately. Read the original article on Parents
