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Stop Waiting To Be Promoted—Promote Yourself
Dr. Marita Kinney, BCC, Msc.D, CEO of Pure Thoughts Publishing & Wellness. Board-certified coach with a doctorate in metaphysics.
There is a quiet and undeniable power that awakens the moment you stop waiting to be promoted and decide to promote yourself. You no longer look for validation in titles, applause or closed-door decisions; you recognize that the authority you were searching for was within you all along.
For years, I showed up with excellence, worked hard, exceeded expectations and still found myself waiting. Waiting to be noticed. Waiting for someone to call my name, to validate what I knew was already inside of me. But I reached a turning point the moment I understood that the role I was waiting for was the one I was meant to create.
That realization changed everything. I stopped hoping someone would discover my brilliance, and I started declaring it. I built what I couldn't find. I became who I needed.
The Freedom Of Owning Your Truth
There's something freeing about realizing that you don't need to mimic anyone's voice, strategy or success. You don't need AI to think for you; you don't need to copy and paste your way to significance. Your originality is your competitive advantage. There is a brilliance inside you that can't be replicated.
And when you finally stop comparing yourself to everyone else and start owning your truth, you tap into a power that only you possess. Your path was never meant to mirror someone else's. So, stay in your lane, even when others assume your greatness must be borrowed or manufactured.
I've experienced that firsthand. When your gift is undeniable, people often struggle to believe it's truly yours. But that's not your problem to fix. You don't owe anyone proof. You owe yourself consistency. You owe yourself confidence. You owe yourself permission to be fully seen and fully heard without apology. Because the truth is: Your voice is not only valid, it's necessary.
At some point, you stop asking for opportunities and start creating them. You realize that your job title does not define your identity. You are not the role, you are the message. The energy you carry, the wisdom you've earned and the impact you leave behind speak louder than any promotion ever could. If your gifts are only being used within the four walls of your job, you're playing too small.
Building A Legacy
In my case, I knew I had more to give. So, I started writing books, launching programs, coaching people around the world and showing up with the kind of clarity that couldn't be ignored. Not because someone gave me permission, but because I stopped needing it.
This isn't about ego; it's about legacy. About owning every layer of who you are: the nurturer, the executive, the creator, the visionary. It means not waiting for someone to grant you a title, but walking in purpose regardless of recognition.
Your job might fund your lifestyle, but your voice builds your legacy. That's why it's not enough to just "do good work." Share your journey. Speak your truth. Don't let fear of judgment keep you silent. There's someone waiting on the other side of your story who needs to know it's possible.
Responding To Our Changing World
The pandemic exposed this truth in a way the world couldn't ignore. As people stepped away from office buildings, daily commutes and rigid work routines, they finally had space to reflect. The Great Resignation wasn't just about quitting jobs; it was about reclaiming identity. People remembered who they were outside of their titles. They rediscovered passions, talents and values that had been buried under burnout and expectations. For many, it was the first time they gave themselves permission to be fully seen—and they didn't wait to be promoted to do it.
Even as the world reopened and workplaces filled again, something had shifted. People returned, but they came back differently. Or did they return as their authentic selves? They brought with them a new sense of clarity, a deeper connection to purpose and a firm decision never to dim their light again. They began showing up to work not just to fulfill a role, but to live a calling. They built side businesses, launched online brands, wrote books, shared their voices and never stopped glowing.
I've especially seen this same fire spark in other women. We're no longer waiting to be chosen; we're choosing ourselves. Women are reclaiming their narratives and defining success on their own terms. No longer waiting to be seen, but showing up and introducing themselves to the world—with or without a promotion. No longer needing to wait for a company to bestow a title before they begin building a legacy.
For me, that realization was liberating. I stopped hoping to be chosen and made the bold choice to choose myself. And I want to encourage you to do the same. You don't need to prove your authenticity to anyone. Consistency is your best defense. Confidence is your strongest strategy.
Stepping Into Your Brilliance
Your personal growth is not a liability to your organization; it's an asset. When you step fully into your brilliance, it elevates your company's brand, culture and credibility. You become the evidence that they don't just hire talent; they cultivate greatness. But even more than that, your growth is proof that you are the brand. The real promotion is not in your title; it's in your presence, your perspective and your purpose.
Stop waiting for someone to tap you on the shoulder and say, "You're ready." You're already ready. The only person who needs to believe it is you. And if you needed a sign: This is it.
So, write the book. Start the podcast. Launch the course. Mentor the next leader. Take the mic. Share your story. You don't need permission to lead. You don't need approval to expand. You don't need a promotion to start building your legacy. You are already enough. You are already powerful. You are already the recognition.
Stop waiting. Promote yourself. Let your light shine.
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