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New York Post
5 days ago
- Entertainment
- New York Post
Boyfriend slammed after what he did to soup made by girlfriend's mother: ‘Where are your manners'
A baffled boyfriend drew the ire of his girlfriend after he picked through her mother's soup in an insulting way – sparking a social media firestorm. Posting his story on a popular Reddit forum, the young man said the couple was visiting his girlfriend's mom's house when they were served seafood chowder. '[My girlfriend's mom] made it once before and it was really good, but she add[ed] a few pieces of ginger to flavor it,' he wrote. 'I really, really, really hate biting into ginger,' he said. 'I don't mind the flavor it imparts, I just hate the taste of actually eating a piece.' The boyfriend said that he once bit into a piece of ginger in her past soups and it 'almost ruined the whole meal.' This time, the man said, he asked the mother if she used the root vegetable. She replied that she did and forgot to pick the pieces out. 'She seemed genuinely apologetic about it,' the man recalled. 'I told her it was no problem and I had an idea.' He continued, 'I saw a colander hanging on a rack on the kitchen counter and I went to the kitchen and strained the soup into another bowl (which I asked if I could grab) and picked out the couple pieces of ginger.' A man on Reddit received criticism after he admitted to picking ingredients out of a soup his girlfriend's mother made — before it was even served. Duí¡an Zidar – He then 'dumped the remaining strained pieces of potato and fish and shrimp and scallops and stuff back into the liquid.' The man said, 'I even [apologized] for the extra dishes and offered to help clean up afterward.' The girlfriend's mom didn't seem to mind at the moment, but the Redditor's quick-thinking did not please his partner — who was quiet during the drive home. 'She told me I didn't have to be such an a–hole and make a big show and dance about insulting her mom's food,' he said. Every morning, the NY POSTcast offers a deep dive into the headlines with the Post's signature mix of politics, business, pop culture, true crime and everything in between. Subscribe here! But the boyfriend tried to defend his actions, saying he liked the food 'except for a couple of ingredients.' 'Still didn't smooth things over, though,' he added. The Reddit community nearly unanimously branded the boyfriend as rude and tone-deaf. 'This is … actually really embarrassing for you,' one person wrote. 'Picking them out of individual spoonfuls would have been much less dramatic,' another added. 'Stop being so picky or just don't eat those things from your bowl,' a third person said. 'No, you don't grab a strainer and do that. Where are your manners?' Carole Lieberman, M.D., a psychiatrist based in Beverly Hills, California, weighed in on the ginger dilemma. The relationship expert described the boyfriend's behavior to Fox News Digital as a 'red flag.' 'Not just because it was rude, but because it signals a lack of awareness of other people's feelings, a need [for] control and self-centeredness,' Lieberman said. 'The key to understanding the ginger dilemma is first understanding what the mother's intentions are in serving them [the] soup.' A home-cooked meal, she observed, is a symbol of nurturance and affection – in this case, a mother's love. 'So, even though he reports that the mom didn't react like it was a big deal, when he hacked into and dismembered her soup, it was hurtful to her because it felt like he was rejecting her love,' the psychiatrist said. The boyfriend would have been better served if he quietly placed the ginger pieces to the side instead of making a dramatic gesture, Lieberman said. 'What he did not only strained the soup, it strained their relationship,' she noted. But the silver lining, Lieberman said, is that the boyfriend's intentions were pure. 'He didn't do these things to be rude,' she concluded. Instead, 'he rationalized that he was being thoughtful in taking care of the ginger dilemma himself, rather than asking the mother to fix it.' Lieberman suggested that the girlfriend 'should observe whether he is self-absorbed and controlling in other situations … before making any rash decisions about the relationship.'
New York Post
18-07-2025
- General
- New York Post
Man's refusal to buy girlfriend kombucha after work sparks debate
A man's rant about having to do special shopping errands for his girlfriend divided hundreds of social media users, sparking a debate about relationship expectations. In a post on a Reddit page with over 24 million members, the man began by noting that he works 12 hours a day while his girlfriend works between four and eight hours. 'At least once a week, she asks me to stop by the store on my way home and grab kombucha (only she drinks) or random other stuff like beer, Diet Coke or snacks,' the Reddit user said. 'Usually she [goes] grocery shopping that same day and says she forgot an item or so.' But the requests for her fermented tea drink and other specific choices weighed on him, he said — leading him to finally put his foot down. It's a move that made him 'the bad guy,' he said. 4 A man took to Reddit to rant about the shopping errands his girlfriend sends him on, sparking debate about relationship expectations. rh2010 – 4 'At least once a week, she asks me to stop by the store on my way home and grab kombucha (only she drinks) or random other stuff like beer, Diet Coke or snacks,' he said. sheilaf2002 – 'Considering I leave before her and get home after her with only a few hours at the end of my day to rest, I finally started telling her no, and I am made to be the bad guy,' the man concluded. The post drew a wave of mixed reactions, with many commenters criticizing the man for his stance. 'You're already out and probably driving past the store,' one person observed. 'Stop at the darn store. It's not a competition. Just contribute. This is a very immature attitude to have.' 'Who cleans the toilets? I rest my case,' another said. 'You can buy girly pop a kombucha a few times a week. Get her some flowers next time.' 4 'You can buy girly pop a kombucha a few times a week. Get her some flowers next time,' one user responded. p-fotography – Others supported the boyfriend's point of view, arguing it was reasonable for him to deny the request. 'I worked [12-hour] shifts for years in the past and I was a zombie during those times,' one person said. 'Never was able to get the sleep I needed. I wouldn't be going to a store unless it was an absolute necessity.' Another said, 'Don't listen to these delusional people who don't know what real work is.' Others were more neutral about the topic — suggesting the issue could be resolved with better communication. 4 Other comments suggested that the two discuss the matter to resolve the issue. C Coetzee/ – 'Talk it out and you can probably find a solution,' one person advised. 'It's no wonder she doubts his love when he measures things in this cold, tit-for-tat way.' 'Have a conversation with her about it first,' another said. 'Once or twice a month is fine, but once or twice a week is not.' Carole Lieberman, M.D., a psychiatrist based in Beverly Hills, California, shared thoughts with Fox News Digital about the relationship issues at stake. Lieberman said the boyfriend's complaints seem valid on the surface but that he is 'missing the point.' 'His girlfriend is asking him to pick up things she 'forgot' at the store as a way of proving he loves and cares for her,' the expert observed. 'It's no wonder she doubts his love when he measures things in this cold, tit-for-tat way, by the number of hours they each work.' Lieberman stressed that love 'shouldn't be measured – it should be given freely and warmly.' She added, 'If he tries it, he'll see the rewards.'
