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Yahoo
14-07-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Dear Abby: I don't know how I'll survive if Social Security gets cut
DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I are retired and on Social Security. We've both worked hard all our lives and are content living a modest retirement. Our house is paid for, and we have little debt. However, we're both experiencing physical and mental decline. I worry about our house. We aren't able to clean and maintain it like we used to because of our physical limitations. We used to have parties, but we're embarrassed to have people over now, which means we're kind of isolated. We also worry that our Social Security and Medicare benefits will be stripped away. We rely on them to live. We both paid into the system since age 15. Shouldn't we expect to reap the benefits of paying into the system all these years? We worry all the time about the future, which seems so grim right now. Even if we can survive the next few years, I'm increasingly concerned about the disintegration of our home. I am not sure where to turn. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. — WORRIED ABOUT THE FUTURE DEAR WORRIED: If there is a senior center in your community, reach out and ask if there are any services that could assist you in finding reasonably priced help with your house. As to your embarrassment about entertaining friends, that concern may be you want company, invite friends over for afternoon tea, a picnic or a barbecue outside if the weather permits. Regarding your anxiety about Social Security, you are far from alone in feeling worried. Approximately 70 million American seniors are worrying right along with you. Every senior should be writing to their local politicians, their state representatives, congresspersons and senators reminding them that those benefits were paid for and, if they are interfered with, it could cost them the next election. DEAR ABBY: I'm a single, never married man. I was having trouble finding a nice woman to date, so I bought a T-shirt from a dating website to show the women at the grocery and hardware stores that I'm single and looking for a date. I now have a new problem — women at the hardware store and grocery stores keep coming up to me, asking about my shirt and trying to get a date with me. I am grateful for it, although I'm having trouble deciding which one I want to go out with. How do I tell the ones I am not interested in that I'm busy or seeing someone else? They don't want to take no for an answer. — FLOODED IN FLORIDA DEAR FLOODED: Stop saying no so quickly. If you are looking for someone special, you are going to have to do some sifting. As you will discover, dating is a process of trial and error. You may find your taste in women will change if you experience a few of them (or more). P.S. I'm sorry you didn't mention which website you bought that T-shirt from. Do they also come in women's sizes? Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Yahoo
13-07-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Dear Abby: I'm in love with my coworker — I don't know to break the news to my boyfriend
DEAR ABBY: I'm 29 and in a 10-year relationship with my boyfriend, 'Justin.' Things have been rocky since his business went under last year. For months, I have been working 10 shifts a week at two jobs to cover our bills, including a mortgage. Barely seeing each other has put a strain on our relationship. I never intended to develop feelings for another man, but I have them, and they are real. 'Brad' and I work together and talk often. He makes me feel a way I haven't felt in years. There is innocent flirting — nothing sexual or inappropriate. We don't communicate outside of work. In my mind, we haven't crossed any lines, except that I have developed feelings for him. I believe he feels the same about me, although neither of us has put it into words. Brad is very shy and doesn't talk to most people. He works two jobs and goes to school. I don't want to leave Justin. I love him, and we are good together. But I can't ignore what is happening inside me right now. Help, please! — TORN IN CALIFORNIA DEAR TORN: Working two jobs with 10-hour shifts is, to put it mildly, stressful. I can see why your relationship with Justin is strained. You are exhausted! I can also understand why you might welcome the distraction of a flirtation with Brad. However, unless you have left something out of your letter, Brad hasn't asked you out even for a coffee, let alone to leave Justin. I'm not suggesting you ignore the feelings you have been developing for Brad, but I am telling you to focus more energy on fixing what has gone wrong with your relationship with your boyfriend. DEAR ABBY: For years, my husband and I have socialized with a small group of couples, all empty nesters in our 50s and 60s. We meet at our favorite neighborhood bars for happy hour, live music, dancing and other city events, and we have a great time. Over the last year, one couple has started inviting several of their 20-something children and a grandbaby (yes, to the bars, at night) to hang out with us. It becomes loud and messy the more the 'kids' drink. The conversations are different, and the baby cries, and it has completely changed the vibe of our get-togethers. I like this couple but not particularly their kids. Is there a tactful way to redirect our get-togethers back to just our mature group (rather than 'family time') without damaging friendships, or should we suck it up or bow out? — UNPLEASANT TIME IN THE WEST DEAR UNPLEASANT: Poll the other members of your group about how they feel about the younger couple and the baby being with you. You may discover you are not the only ones who aren't comfortable with it. If that's the case, then someone is going to have to speak up and object. However, if you and your husband are alone in feeling the way you do, the two of you should bow out and socialize with other friends. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Toronto Sun
02-07-2025
- Toronto Sun
A look at the charges and potential sentencing Sean 'Diddy' Combs faces in his sex trafficking trial
DEAR ABBY: Frank conversation hasn't paid off in the bedroom SIMMONS: No reason to believe Maple Leafs could ever win in the playoffs with Mitch Marner A look at the charges and potential sentencing Sean 'Diddy' Combs faces in his sex trafficking trial Article content Reviews and recommendations are unbiased and products are independently selected. Postmedia may earn an affiliate commission from purchases made through links on this page. NEW YORK (AP) — The jury in Sean 'Diddy' Combs sex trafficking trial reached a verdict on all but the most complicated counts – racketeering conspiracy – against the hip-hop star. Jurors are continuing their deliberations Wednesday after saying they couldn't reach a consensus on that top count. Advertisement 2 Story continues below This advertisement has not loaded yet, but your article continues below. THIS CONTENT IS RESERVED FOR SUBSCRIBERS ONLY Subscribe now to read the latest news in your city and across Canada. 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REGISTER / SIGN IN TO UNLOCK MORE ARTICLES Create an account or sign in to continue with your reading experience. Access articles from across Canada with one account. Share your thoughts and join the conversation in the comments. Enjoy additional articles per month. Get email updates from your favourite authors. THIS ARTICLE IS FREE TO READ REGISTER TO UNLOCK. Create an account or sign in to continue with your reading experience. Access articles from across Canada with one account Share your thoughts and join the conversation in the comments Enjoy additional articles per month Get email updates from your favourite authors Don't have an account? Create Account or Sign in without password View more offers Article content Here's what we know about the charges and potential sentencing: Article content tap here to see other videos from our team. Try refreshing your browser, or A look at the charges and potential sentencing Sean 'Diddy' Combs faces in his sex trafficking trial Back to video tap here to see other videos from our team. Try refreshing your browser, or Play Video Article content What are the charges against Sean 'Diddy' Combs? The three-time Grammy Award winner has pleaded not guilty to five felony charges: one count of racketeering conspiracy; two counts of sex trafficking by force, fraud or coercion; and two counts of transportation to engage in prostitution. Prosecutors say Combs coerced women into abusive sex parties involving hired male sex workers, ensured their compliance with drugs like cocaine and threats to their careers, and silenced victims through blackmail and violence that included kidnapping, arson and beatings. Combs' lawyer, Marc Agnifilo, portrayed the Bad Boys Records founder as the victim of overzealous prosecutors who exaggerated elements of his lifestyle and recreational drug use to bring charges that resulted in what he called a 'fake trial.' Your Midday Sun Your noon-hour look at what's happening in Toronto and beyond. There was an error, please provide a valid email address. Sign Up By signing up you consent to receive the above newsletter from Postmedia Network Inc. Thanks for signing up! A welcome email is on its way. If you don't see it, please check your junk folder. The next issue of Your Midday Sun will soon be in your inbox. Please try again Article content Advertisement 3 Story continues below This advertisement has not loaded yet, but your article continues below. Article content What is racketeering conspiracy? The most serious charge in this case, it alleges that Combs ran a criminal enterprise for two decades that relied on bodyguards, household staff, personal assistants and others in his orbit to facilitate and cover up crimes. It's commonly used to tackle organized crime, with prosecutors using the Racketeer Influenced and Corrupt Organizations act, or RICO, to take on the Mafia in the 1970s. To prove the charge, prosecutors must show that an enterprise existed and was involved in a pattern of racketeering activity. In this case, the alleged activity includes kidnapping, arson, bribery and sex trafficking. What is a partial verdict? The panel of eight men and four women said in a note that 'unpersuadable' views on both sides kept them from reaching a unanimous verdict on the racketeering charge. The jury has made a decision on the other charges, however that remains under wraps. 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Yahoo
21-06-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Dear Abby: I'm the breadwinner — but my husband won't do any chores
DEAR ABBY: I was once a stay-at-home wife. I did all the cooking, housekeeping, etc. Due to a downturn in the industry where my husband was a highly paid executive, he returned to a health-care career using his bachelor's degree. I returned to work in a well-paying but demanding job. So now I cook, we eat. He sits down to watch TV, and I clean while watching TV. When I ask for help, he accuses me of being a nag. I'm growing more and more depressed over this. Advice, please. — FEELING DOWN IN THE SOUTH DEAR FEELING DOWN: You married an old-fashioned guy. He worked while you 'kept the home fires burning.' When reality hit and you needed to rejoin the workforce, he forgot the principle of 'each according to his ability, each according to his need.' Your darling needs a cold dose of reality. Times have changed, and he's not doing his fair share. Remind him so you can work out a more equitable agreement. P.S. You may be more tired from doing double duty than depressed. Think about it. DEAR ABBY: I am a giver by nature. This is how I show my love. I like to cook, knit, sew and buy gifts for the people who matter most to me. I have recently noticed that when I buy gifts for my fiance, he looks them up to see how much I paid for them. He isn't doing this to say I spent too little, but rather to say I spend 'way too much' on him. I consider what he's been doing to be rude, and I told him so. I also told him it is none of his business how much I spent on him. Am I wrong? — GIVING OF MYSELF IN ILLINOIS DEAR GIVING: I think you overreacted by becoming defensive. Rather than scold your fiance because he chided you for spending the amount you have on his gifts, it could have been handled more delicately. All you needed to say was, 'To me you are priceless. I get great pleasure when I find something I think you can use and will enjoy. Please stop looking a gift horse in the mouth.' P.S. Make sure you are both on the same page regarding finances before you are married. DEAR ABBY: My 19-year-old son, who is on the spectrum but high-functioning, has left home. He's legally an adult but wouldn't allow me to teach him normal survival skills, such as balancing a checkbook, paying with a debit card, etc. He knows very little about the world; he learns from his online friends. It has been four months, and he has now changed his phone number and won't call, email or text. He moved across the country to live with an online friend. I'm very concerned about him. What should I do? I don't email him often, but when I do, I just tell him I love him, and I never say anything negative. — LOST IN CALIFORNIA DEAR LOST: Four months, you say? Assuming you have his current address, perhaps it is time for you — and his other parent, if he or she is in the picture — to pay the young man a visit to see how he's doing. Because he won't respond to phone calls, emails or texts, I don't think you have a choice other than that. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
