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Forbes
26-07-2025
- General
- Forbes
The #1 Motivation That Predicts Romantic Success, By A Psychologist
Research reveals that your likelihood of finding love depends largely on your reasons for searching ... More for it in the first place. Here's why. Romantic relationships are viewed almost universally as one of the most important milestones in life, which all people should achieve at some point or another. For some, this is a great motivator; for others, this instills a sense of pressure. That said, not all people pursue romantic relationships for this reason alone. There's even a growing population of individuals who aren't inclined to search for a partner at all. These differing motivations (or lack thereof) were researcher and lead author Geoff MacDonald's main inspiration in a May 2025 study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. More specifically, he sought to uncover which motivations were associated with greater and faster romantic success — if any at all. The Different Motivations For Romantic Pursuit To assess what motivates individuals in their pursuit for a relationship, MacDonald developed a 24-item questionnaire. In total, the measure assesses six core categories of motivation, all of which stem from Self-Determination Theory. In the initial study of over 1,200 single adults, MacDonald and his team were able to associate these different motivations with a host of personality traits: 'Self-Determination Theory was useful because it focuses on a variety of reasons people pursue goals,' explained MacDonald in an interview with PsyPost. He continued, 'And I think most people know that there is some mix of these at play when they are thinking about dating.' Based on this six-factor framework, MacDonald and his research team assessed the extent to which these motivations influenced individuals' desire to find a partner. In turn, they were able to predict which of these motivations — or mixture thereof — led to success in finding a romantic relationship. Which Motivations Led To Romantic Success In the second half of the 2025 study, MacDonald and his co-authors assessed over 3,000 single adults' motivations for finding a partner using their newly developed 24-item scale. Six months later, they checked in to see which of these participants were able to find a partner. Overall, participants with intrinsic and identified motivations were much more likely to find a partner in the six-month timespan. That is, individuals who sought relationships because they viewed them as either enjoyable or personally valuable had more success than those who didn't. As MacDonald explained in his interview, 'The people who both reported that they felt more ready for a relationship and were more likely to be partnered six months later were those who said they were interested in a relationship because they enjoy them and because it was an important life goal.' In contrast, he explained, 'The people who were more strongly motivated to be in a relationship to avoid feeling bad about themselves were particularly unlikely to be in a relationship six months later.' What Motivates You? If, despite your best efforts, you haven't quite found your person yet, it might be worth taking a moment to ask yourself what's actually driving your desire. We're told so often that finding love is a milestone we have to strive for. In turn, we've come to equate relationships as signals of maturity, security and even success. But the moment we internalize these reasonings is the moment we start chasing a relationship for reasons that don't truly serve us in the grand scheme of life. So, take a moment to be honest with yourself: If any of these questions resonate with you, you have no reason to feel ashamed. However, it should prompt you to pause and check in with yourself before continuing your search for love. In most cases, lasting and fulfilling relationships aren't born out of place of pressure, fear or ego. As MacDonald puts it, 'It's boring old wisdom, but I think there is something to the idea that you need to get right with yourself first before putting yourself out there.' Continuing, he explains, 'When you get to a place where a relationship seems like it would be enjoyable and meaningful for its own sake, and not so much about validating your ego, that might be a sign that you're ready.' Love is something that, for a majority of people, you simply have to learn to grow into; it's not a title or status you have to earn or vie for. The more honest you are with yourself about why you want it, the sooner you'll find a partner who sees the good in sharing their life with you. Is the fear of being single sabotaging your search for love? Take this science-backed test to find out: Fear of Being Single Scale
Daily Mail
24-07-2025
- Business
- Daily Mail
Experts determine the single factor which makes you most attractive to a potential partner... and it's NOT personality
It is a well-known saying that money doesn't buy you happiness, but researchers now say that single adults with higher incomes are more likely to find love. The findings, published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, revealed that a higher bank balance could make you more attractive, signalling a sort of romantic readiness. Researchers also found that people with higher incomes felt more ready to date and were more likely to actively look for a partner than those with less. The Canadian researchers conducted two long-term studies—one in the US and the other in Germany—to see how people's relationship attitudes changed over time with their income. In the US study, researchers specifically focused on 25-35-year olds, with the belief that this is when people are most likely to seek a relationship. In both studies, results showed that single adults with higher incomes were more likely to say they felt it was the right time to find a partner. When surveyed again, either six months or a year later, those who enjoyed bigger salaries were more likely to have found love. In the German cohort, the effect was stronger for men than women though researchers said the bias was not significant. Professor Geoff MacDonald, a relationship psychology expert from the University of Toronto, said: 'I think that young people are making rational calculations in unstable economic conditions. 'Young people understand they are not going to be able to enjoy a relationship if they are working 80 hours a week, of if they are not sure where they're going to live next year.' Interestingly, earning more money or less money than the year before had little effect on whether people felt they were ready for a relationship. What mattered most was financial stability, rather than short-term financial influx or decline. Professor Johanna Peetz, study co-author and and personal spending expert, concluded that one reason for money and relationship desirability being so interconnected could be that money enables us to fulfil basic needs. 'With increasing financial resources higher hierarchical needs such as love and belonging—namely the intimacy and romance that are part of partnerships—might become more relevant.' She added: 'This connection helps in understanding the sorts of tasks that many single people may be occupied with and organise their lives around, such as more firmly establishing material security.' The researchers concluded that their findings should serve as a reminder to psychologists that whilst things like personality are important when it comes to forming and maintaining relationships, material conditions also play a significant role. They added that their findings show that the role of income in relationship interest was largely similar in men and women, challenging the common perception that money in a primarily a concern in dating for men. However, the researchers acknowledged that while the study provides evidence for a connection between wealth and relationship intentions, it does not prove that money causes people to enter into relationships. They said a whole host of other factors including personality, life goals and cultural values, also play a role in romantic readiness.
