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NDTV
2 days ago
- NDTV
Stepdad's Viral Push-Up Punishment For Stepson Divides Internet On Parenting Style: 'Not Okay'
A stepfather's actions to discipline his stepson has divided the internet, leading to extensive debate regarding the right kind of parenting style. In a now-viral video posted on Instagram, the child can be seen completing push-ups and 60 squats after he seemingly gave a sassy reply to his mother. The punishment was handed over after Dustin Maletich overheard his stepson, Tommy, tell his mother to "chill". In response, Mr Maletich, who works as a prison corrections officer, immediately told Tommy to get down and start with the push-ups. "I will never stop being grateful to be raising kids with a real man who knows how to be a father, especially to his boys. This is masculinity," the mother, Katie Maletich, captioned the video. "I was trying to send a work email while making breakfast for my family and my son kept asking me to use my phone after I had repeatedly told him "no, you need to wait." His dad overheard him tell me to "chill" and here is how he handled it," she added. After the punishment was complete, Mr Maletich had a calm discussion with the child about the importance of speaking respectfully. They ended the conversation with a hug as Mr Maletich told Tommy he loved him. See the viral post here: View this post on Instagram A post shared by Katie & Dustin. Blended Family. Oregon (@raisingmaletich) Also Read | 'Bhopal To Harvard': Indian Student's Emotional Family Reaction To Admission Goes Viral Internet divided However, as the video went viral, the reactions were mixed. While a section of users agreed with the parenting style, others said the use of physical punishment was abuse. "Umm nope! That's not ok. Physical punishment is never ok. I can't believe the mom just stood there and let it happen," said one user while another added: "This is abuse and also posting it on the internet is even worse!" A third commented: "My favourite part was when the dad hugged him and gave him love reassurance after putting boundaries and teaching discipline, he made sure the kid's feelings count too." A fourth said: "Great parenting! Both mom and dad. Your kid might not be able to do a push up but every physically mobile kid can do burpees until they're too tired to smart-mouth momma!" "If you have ever done 60 squats, you know it is painful, especially in a young prepubescent child," Dr Dyan Hes, paediatrician and medical director at Highline Modern Medicine in New York told Fox News. "Regardless, this is still a form of corporal punishment. Exercise should invoke positive connotations, not negative ones."
New York Post
3 days ago
- New York Post
Parents who forced 9-year-old son to do push-ups, squats in viral video defend punishment after backlash
Katie and Dustin Maletich, Oregon parents of four, have gone viral on social media for a parenting moment that's sparked some debate. After Dustin's 9-year-old stepson, Tommy, told his mother to 'chill,' he was instructed to do several push-ups and 60 squats as a form of discipline. Advertisement The workout was met with a father-son conversation about the tone in which he should be speaking to his mother. Tommy was attentive and apologized to his mom. Dustin Maletich, who is a corrections officer at a prison, ended the confrontation with an 'I love you' and a hug. While some praised the stepfather for his approach, others were concerned about using physical exercise as a form of punishment. Dr. Dyan Hes, pediatrician and medical director at Highline Modern Medicine in New York, reacted to this discipline method in an interview with Fox News Digital, calling it a 'ridiculous punishment.' Advertisement 'If you have ever done 60 squats, you know it is painful, especially in a young prepubescent child,' she said. 'Regardless, this is still a form of corporal punishment. Exercise should invoke positive connotations, not negative ones.' 5 Katie and Dustin Maletich, Oregon parents of four, have gone viral on social media for a parenting moment that's sparked some debate. Fox News Educational psychologist and parenting expert Dr. Michele Borba shared a different perspective, stating that the stepfather approached it the 'right way' by responding calmly and enforcing a punishment that seemed familiar and doable for the child. The California-based expert was more concerned about how posting the video online could emotionally impact the child and invoke 'public shame.' Advertisement In an on-camera interview with Fox News Digital, the Maletich family shared that fitness isn't used as a punishment for their children, but as a method of teaching self-control and emotional regulation. 5 The workout was met with a father-son conversation about the tone in which he should be speaking to his mother. @raisingmaletich/Instagram 'It's never like, 'We're punishing you because you were bad,'' Katie Maletich said. 'It's, 'Hey, let's help you figure out some better self-control and a better outlet for whatever is going on.'' Dustin Maletich added, 'We try to have the consequences correlate with the inappropriate behavior. If you demonstrate the inability to control your actions, then by doing physical activity, you're showing yourself that you are in control of your actions.' Advertisement 'There are plenty of times that I get frustrated,' he went on. 'I can't lash out at my boss. I can't yell at somebody. I can't throw a tantrum. That's not the way the world works.' 5 After Dustin's 9-year-old stepson, Tommy, told his mother to 'chill,' he was instructed to do several push-ups and 60 squats as a form of discipline. @raisingmaletich/Instagram The couple shared that their oldest daughter, who is 13, chooses to walk or jog if her emotions are feeling out of control, before engaging in a conversation with her parents. '[Our daughter] said, 'I don't want to have a sit-down conversation with you when I'm cranky,' but when she goes jogging on the treadmill, she said she finds that afterward, she's able to better communicate her feelings because she's more centered,' Katie Maletich said. 'Our kids like working out. They don't do it every day, but I think overall they enjoy it, because it's such a central part of our home.' Fitness is a 'positive bonding experience' for the Maletichs, she said. 'They feel better, and they voice it afterward … They're happier, they're less frustrated. And so, to us, we see that as a win.' This approach to discipline can differ for each child and circumstance, the Maletichs shared, which involves 'intention and intuition.' Advertisement 5 While some praised the stepfather for his approach, others were concerned about using physical exercise as a form of punishment. @raisingmaletich/Instagram 'The biggest thing is just learning to respond as a parent rather than reacting,' Katie said. The couple's approach to parenting is 'we're not raising kids, we're raising adults,' Dustin shared. 'I think putting more focus on how our kids are going to be able to handle life when they're adults is more important than figuring out how to make them happy and comfortable right now,' Katie said. Advertisement 5 'It's never like, 'We're punishing you because you were bad,'' Katie Maletich said. 'It's, 'Hey, let's help you figure out some better self-control and a better outlet for whatever is going on.'' Fox News For other parents, Katie noted that physical activity has worked 'really well' when followed by 'connection and conversation.' 'That's a really essential part of this,' she said. 'You have to explain it to them afterward and make sure that connection, both emotionally and to the issue and consequence, is there.' The couple also responded to the backlash they received after posting the video, mentioning that they asked their son for consent before sharing it. He responded with hopes that it would go viral.
