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Yahoo
23-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
What to Say When You Forget Someone's Name
Credit - Photo-Illustration by Chloe Dowling for TIME (Source Image: humblino via It's a wonder that anyone remembers anyone else's name after just meeting. Most people are visually wired, which means we're good with faces, but—was it Alyssa or Elizabeth? Hewitt or Wyatt? Elijah or Isaiah? 'When we're meeting someone, there are so many things going through our minds,' says Thomas Farley, an etiquette expert also known as Mister Manners. 'We're trying to remember, 'Have I met this person before? Who do they remind me of? Oh, I love that necklace they're wearing. That's a great haircut. I wonder where she got that purse.' At the moment when someone is giving us their name, we're flooded with so many other things we're thinking about and processing at the same time.' Hence: those tricky moments when we meet again and have no idea how to address them. What do you say, especially when the other person seems to know exactly who you are? We asked experts what to say when you forget someone's name. People tend to feel 'very awkward' asking someone to repeat their name if they didn't properly hear it the first time around, Farley says. He doesn't understand why: 'Have you ever been in a scenario where you kindly asked someone to repeat their name, and the response you got back was no, they already said it once?' Exactly—so ask directly instead of silently agonizing over what they might have said, he advises. Read More: The Best Way to Interrupt Someone Ideally, you can provide some context that indicates you remember your last encounter. Maybe you met at an anime convention, for example, or a mutual friend's wedding. Otherwise, 'You're not only name-blanking them, but also face-blanking them, which I think is more uncomfortable—when you just blank stare at someone and have zero recollection,' Farley says. 'That's telling them, 'You were so unmemorable, I don't even remember your face. I don't remember a thing about you.'' Before the other person responds, he adds, you should mention your own name—because chances are, they've forgotten who you are, too. This line is both playful and intentionally over-the-top: 'Nobody thinks you seriously believe their name is Archibald, like it's the year 1899,' says Jeff Callahan, a communication expert who's the founder of Become More Compelling. 'You're using humor to turn a moment of awkwardness into connection.' Plus, he likes that it signals confidence: You're not afraid to call yourself out in a fun way. Say it with mock certainty and a slight smile, Callahan advises, and pause before the punchline. You'll usually get a laugh before you get a name. By owning that you're the one who forgot, you make the predicament about you, not the other person. 'It shows respect,' Callahan says. 'You're saying the lapse is yours, and you're fixing it.' If it feels natural, pair your delivery with a small smile or laugh, he adds, which can lighten up the moment. Read More: How to Say 'I Told You So' in a More Effective Way Everyone has so-called senior moments. This is a way to use humor to acknowledge what's happening, while signaling self-awareness and warmth, says Melissa Klass, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles. She suggests using a bright tone and maybe pairing it with a small shrug. 'You're not groveling,' she says. 'You're inviting connection." Reframe what could be an awkward moment as an opportunity to include the other person, shifting attention away from your memory lapse. The caveat: You can only use this strategy if there's truly an introduction to make. Give this question a spin in casual or professional settings where first names are the default. 'It gives them a chance to say it without calling out your forgetfulness,' Klass says. But she advises using it sparingly—it's clever but not foolproof, especially if they reply 'J-O-E.' Wondering what to say in a tricky social situation? Email timetotalk@ Contact us at letters@
Yahoo
21-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
What to Say When You Forget Someone's Name
Credit - Photo-Illustration by Chloe Dowling for TIME (Source Image: humblino via It's a wonder that anyone remembers anyone else's name after just meeting. Most people are visually wired, which means we're good with faces, but—was it Alyssa or Elizabeth? Hewitt or Wyatt? Elijah or Isaiah? 'When we're meeting someone, there are so many things going through our minds,' says Thomas Farley, an etiquette expert also known as Mister Manners. 'We're trying to remember, 'Have I met this person before? Who do they remind me of? Oh, I love that necklace they're wearing. That's a great haircut. I wonder where she got that purse.' At the moment when someone is giving us their name, we're flooded with so many other things we're thinking about and processing at the same time.' Hence: those tricky moments when we meet again and have no idea how to address them. What do you say, especially when the other person seems to know exactly who you are? We asked experts what to say when you forget someone's name. People tend to feel 'very awkward' asking someone to repeat their name if they didn't properly hear it the first time around, Farley says. He doesn't understand why: 'Have you ever been in a scenario where you kindly asked someone to repeat their name, and the response you got back was no, they already said it once?' Exactly—so ask directly instead of silently agonizing over what they might have said, he advises. Read More: The Best Way to Interrupt Someone Ideally, you can provide some context that indicates you remember your last encounter. Maybe you met at an anime convention, for example, or a mutual friend's wedding. Otherwise, 'You're not only name-blanking them, but also face-blanking them, which I think is more uncomfortable—when you just blank stare at someone and have zero recollection,' Farley says. 'That's telling them, 'You were so unmemorable, I don't even remember your face. I don't remember a thing about you.'' Before the other person responds, he adds, you should mention your own name—because chances are, they've forgotten who you are, too. This line is both playful and intentionally over-the-top: 'Nobody thinks you seriously believe their name is Archibald, like it's the year 1899,' says Jeff Callahan, a communication expert who's the founder of Become More Compelling. 'You're using humor to turn a moment of awkwardness into connection.' Plus, he likes that it signals confidence: You're not afraid to call yourself out in a fun way. Say it with mock certainty and a slight smile, Callahan advises, and pause before the punchline. You'll usually get a laugh before you get a name. By owning that you're the one who forgot, you make the predicament about you, not the other person. 'It shows respect,' Callahan says. 'You're saying the lapse is yours, and you're fixing it.' If it feels natural, pair your delivery with a small smile or laugh, he adds, which can lighten up the moment. Read More: How to Say 'I Told You So' in a More Effective Way Everyone has so-called senior moments. This is a way to use humor to acknowledge what's happening, while signaling self-awareness and warmth, says Melissa Klass, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles. She suggests using a bright tone and maybe pairing it with a small shrug. 'You're not groveling,' she says. 'You're inviting connection." Reframe what could be an awkward moment as an opportunity to include the other person, shifting attention away from your memory lapse. The caveat: You can only use this strategy if there's truly an introduction to make. Give this question a spin in casual or professional settings where first names are the default. 'It gives them a chance to say it without calling out your forgetfulness,' Klass says. But she advises using it sparingly—it's clever but not foolproof, especially if they reply 'J-O-E.' Wondering what to say in a tricky social situation? Email timetotalk@ Contact us at letters@
Daily Mirror
20-05-2025
- Sport
- Daily Mirror
Ange Postecoglou deserves to go out in blaze of glory after Europa League final
Ange Postecoglou deserves to go out with his head held high no matter what happens in Bilbao. Big Ange has shown so much dignity amid the backdrop of an unforgettable season for Tottenham fans. And that is the point. Football should be about glory, trophies and memories. If Tottenham win the Europa League, it will be their first piece of silverware in 17 years. That is what we will remember. It has been a rollercoaster season. For Tottenham to lose 21 games in a Premier League campaign is just unthinkable. But if Postecoglou delivers on his promise - and how people laughed and mocked him - of always winning a trophy in his second season, then he deserves to ride into the sunset with the biggest smile, a winner's medal and an 'I Told You So' T-shirt. I've seen a lot of Tottenham over the last few years. And Postecoglou's reign has been more memorable, more enjoyable and more dramatic than his three main predecessors put together. Jose Mourinho, Nuno Espirito Santo and Antonio Conte were instantly forgettable. Bad fits. None of them worked. The football was dreadful and no-one shed any tears when they left. We will not forget Postecoglou. And that is why it would be so good to see him win a trophy. Yes, Manchester United need the Europa League, too. But they need it for Champions League qualification. That is more important to them. Tottenham want the silverware. That is what matters. Yes, the Champions League qualification would be massive. But it would be a huge financial bonus rather than the main target of Wednesday's final in Bilbao. It is the most ridiculous argument to say they should not qualify because they are in 16th and 17th place respectively in the Premier League. The rules are very clear at the start of the season and do not change just to fit a narrative. The Champions League qualification is vital because otherwise clubs would not take the Europa League so seriously. It keeps clubs interested. That is why UEFA have done it. But it is more for Tottenham. We can all laugh and mock but the club's motto is To Dare Is To Do and it's all about the glory of the game. We should champion that. Even now, so many Tottenham supporters like Big Ange. There is not a debate to be had about him staying. If you cannot see the writing is on the wall then more fool you. What would be the point of getting into the Champions League and then sticking with a manager who has just not been able to get results this season? Manchester United tried it with Erik ten Hag after winning the FA Cup and look how that went. But we can still enjoy the ride. The first six months of his reign - when Tottenham briefly topped the table - were unforgettable. Brilliant football, kamikaze defending and amazing entertainment. They have smashed Manchester City and Manchester United away from home. It is incredible to think those wins were THIS SEASON. But injuries kicked in. And a lack of depth in the squad. I'm torn. On the one hand, Tottenham have spent big in the market. On the other hand, have they bought enough quality? Postecoglou has also been fearlessly naive with his tactics and formations. But I can't deny that he has sucked me in. He reads every word that is written about him. It's self indulgent, but he seems to like newspapers more than radio and TV. He engages with us more and we like him. And if he wins a trophy - something not even Mauricio Pochettino could do - then he deserves to walk into another job. And that club will be lucky to have him. It has been one hell of a ride for Postecoglou at Tottenham. An unforgettable one. But an enjoyable one and one which deserves to end in glory.
Time Magazine
16-05-2025
- General
- Time Magazine
The Best Way to Interrupt Someone
If you're the type of person who cares about conversational etiquette, the idea of interrupting someone might make you cringe. But sometimes, cutting in is necessary. However, you should only do it if your conversation partner is 'saying something factually inaccurate,' says Jefferson Fisher, a Texas-based lawyer and author of The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More. 'It's not that you're arguing with their opinion; you're arguing an actual issue of legitimate fact.' With the right words, you can do it in a way that (probably) won't irritate whoever is on the receiving end. Be upfront The best way to interrupt someone is to acknowledge what you're doing. Start with the words 'I know I'm interrupting' or 'I need to interrupt.' With this preamble, 'people don't get defensive, because it's you acknowledging what you're doing,' Fisher says. 'If you're talking and you said something inaccurate, I would say, 'Angela, I need to interrupt you,' or 'I know I'm interrupting you.' You won't see it as an affront or as me just assuming that what I'm saying is more important than what you're saying.' Read More: How to Say 'I Told You So' in a More Effective Way The same philosophy applies to social gatherings. If you want to steal someone away who is already in conversation with another guest, announce what you're doing instead of grabbing the person's arm and pulling them away. 'If somebody comes up and says, 'I need to take Angela for a minute,' and then pulls you, now I understand the dynamic,' Fisher says. 'It's like giving a roadmap for what needs to happen.' Voicing what you're doing is almost always useful, he adds. If you're in an argument with someone and you suddenly slam the door shut and leave the room, for example, it probably won't go over well. If you explicitly state that you need to leave the room, however, you're at least making your intentions clear and setting expectations. 'When you claim it, you control it,' Fisher says. 'When you say something out loud, it shows your confidence in what you're doing, which is powerful in communication.' Use the person's name People like to hear the sound of their own name—which makes it one of the best ways to capture their attention, even when they're busy steamrolling a conversation. If you're in a meeting with a grade-A dominator, and no one can manage to squeeze in, say the person's name: 'I might say 'Angela,' and if you keep on talking, I'll say 'Angela'—and maybe I have to say it again—but eventually you will stop,' Fisher says. 'You'll stop for your name, rather than me trying to fight for the mic.' Pass the mic Sometimes, you'll be caught in a meeting with someone who's been yammering on for 6 minutes and counting. Rather than trying to talk over them—which is akin to 'grabbing for control, which looks desperate'—try to turn things over to someone else. Fisher's favorite way to tactfully do this is to first acknowledge what the person is saying: 'I hear you on X, Y, and Z, and I'm going to follow-up on your points. Now I'd really like to hear from Jessica on this topic.' 'It's a gracious way of trying to pass it on to somebody else, because sometimes people start talking, and they just don't know how to land the plane,' he says. 'They don't know how to exit the stage, so you have to metaphorically get out that hook and pull them from it.'
Yahoo
29-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Carrie Underwood Feels Like a 'Proud Mom' Watching John Foster Perform on 'American Idol' — Here's Why (Exclusive)
Carrie Underwood is gushing over American Idol's John Foster! Speaking with PEOPLE in a roundtable interview after the live show on Monday, April 28, the "Before He Cheats" singer revealed why she has a soft spot for the contestant. "He's so sweet and fresh faced and he's one of those people that I feel like... don't even really know how good you are kind of thing," Underwood, 42, says. "Week to week, we have watched him progress so much," she adds. "We were talking after his performance, me, Luke [Bryan] and [Lionel Richie] and we were just saying he's probably the one that has grown the most since he's been here." Related: Watch American Idol's John Foster Deliver Tearful Tribute to Late Friend Maggie Underwood believes that the Idol audience "loves him" — and there's "so many reasons to want to root for him." But for the "Jesus Take the Wheel" singer, there's a personal connection. "I feel like he kind of reminds me of my oldest son," says Underwood, who shares two boys, Isaiah, 10, and Jacob, 6, with husband Mike Fisher. "When he's over there singing to me, I kind of feel like a proud mom. He's very good." On Monday night, Foster, 18, sang Randy Travis' 1987 hit "I Told You So," which Underwood covered for her 2007 album Carnival Ride. Toward the end of his performance, Foster approached the judges table and sang to Underwood directly. Reflecting on that moment, Foster says she's "the reason" he chose the song — and he knew he needed to sing it to her. "The fact that she was sitting there on the panel... the pressure was on. She has such a great version of the song but I knew that I had to sing to her and I knew that I had to let America know my passion for the song and music by connecting with her," he says. In addition to Foster, Josh King, Jamal Roberts, Mattie Pruitt, Thunderstorm Artis, Slater Nalley, Gabby Samone, Canaan James Hill, Kolbi Jordan and Breanna Nix are in the Top 10. Related: Why American Idol Is the 'Best Thing' to Happen to Breanna Nix: 'I Didn't Think I Was Worth Anything' (Exclusive) On April 20, Foster moved Idol viewers when he sang an original song, "Tell That Angel I Love Her," which he wrote about a friend who died suddenly in 2022. 'You've kind of been a wildcard for me the whole time, but what you just did there removed all doubts in my mind that you deserve to be here," said the "Kick the Dust Up" singer. "When you open your mouth on this song, you're country, but you're also storytelling country," Richie added. "Now whether that's old, new, happening now, later, whatever the case may be, it was so believable and I heard every word of every part of your story and that's what great music is about." American Idol airs Sundays and Mondays at 8 p.m. ET on ABC. Read the original article on People
