5 days ago
People say I'm a Short King... I told a girl my height on a dating app and her rejection was horrible
A man who is 5'6 is opening up about the controversial way that he was rejected by a woman - calling it a 'humiliation ritual.'
In a viral video posted to TikTok this week by Atlanta-based musician Ian, who goes by the username @ian3snacks, he chronicled an 'embarrassing' experience he recently had while dating.
'Yesterday, I matched with this absolute goddess of a woman, like, just draw-droppingly beautiful,' Ian began.
'I noticed that she's taller than me, which, for queer women, normally that isn't an issue, I'm a short guy, I'm only 5'6, but she was straight, and that tends to be a deal breaker for a lot of straight women, which is not a big deal,' he continued.
He joked that he only checks two out of the three 'tall, dark and handsome' boxes that most women are looking for.
'So, per my standard protocol, I DM her, and I say, "Hey, you're stunning, did you see that I am only 5'6?"' he said.
In response, the woman said that she didn't happen to see how tall he was on his profile.
She then asked Ian if he cared if she was taller than him or even wore heels on their date.
'I think she thought I was gonna get insecure and bail out so that she wouldn't have to be the bad guy, but I hit her with the Uno reverse,' Ian said.
'I said, "Actually, I'm totally comfortable with it, like you do you, just getting to have dinner with you would be compliments enough. Or, otherwise, if you want to politely see yourself out now, no harm, no foul, I get it,"' he continued.
After he sent her that message, Ian claimed that she 'immediately' unmatched with him.
However, it looks like Ian didn't take it personally.
'This is not a woe is me story, I just like telling funny dating stories,' he explained.
In a recent interview with Newsweek, the filmmaker shared that he likes to be as 'upfront as possible' on dating apps.
'Men's height gets talked about enough online that I try to get it out of the way immediately if I suspect it might be an issue that got overlooked,' Ian told the outlet.
'In the same way, I've had curvier women ask me if I was OK with how they look - which I always am,' he continued.
'I just want to make sure that it's clear that this girl is not a bad person. I do not want her [seen] as a shallow-minded villain.'
In the comments section, however, people were divided over his tactic, with some revealing they respected his transparency while others suggested he was to blame for the woman's decision to unmatch.
'Not giving short kings a chance is the biggest error of my 20s and 30s,' one person admitted.
Another shared, 'Your response would have made me want to date you even more regardless of height!!!!! She's missing out!!!'
'Ladies need to remember that rockstars are always short kings and their model girlfriends are always taller than them. I think it's hot,' someone else typed.
Others thought that he may have given her the 'ick' by asking about his height - and then giving her the opportunity to bow out of the match.
'Listen! You gave her the ick with the 'if you want to see yourself out now' I'm telling you ! That's what it was. It showed you were saying you weren't worthy,' one TikTok user wrote.
'Ok, I don't think she bounced because of your height. When she asked if you were cool with heels, just say yes and go on the date. Don't ask again. You have more to offer than height,' another echoed.
'As a taller woman, we were bullied relentlessly by boys growing up so that's what might be informing that preference,' someone else agreed.
