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6 days ago
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Why ‘imbokodo' should be located in constitutions, budgets, everyday bystander action
National Women's Day is celebrated annually on August 9 to commemorate the 1956 march of 20,000 women to the Union Buildings in Pretoria to protest the apartheid regime's pass laws. MY FIRST real understanding of Imbokodo arrived at a male dialogue I attended years ago. One of the guest speakers, addressing male initiation graduates, young men who had just completed ulwaluko, the Xhosa rite of passage that confers the social status and responsibilities of manhood said this: abafazi are not Imbokodo (women are not a rock). They became Imbokodo by necessity when they had to fight at a time their men were being systematically silenced. Traditionally, he continued, abafazi (women) were known as imbali 'flowers,' valued and protected, while a girl's father and brothers were the Imbokodo, the 'grindstone/rock,' the ones meant to anchor, shield, and enforce consequences. If you as a man touched a girl inappropriately or harmed her, you met the wrath of Imbokodo—those men. That framing jolted me: it repositions Imbokodo not as women's lifelong burden to carry, but as a protective social contract others owe to women. Of course, language evolves. In 1956, 'Wathint' abafazi, wathint' imbokodo' ('You strike a woman, you strike a rock') entered our political bloodstream, rightly honouring women's courage against a brutal state. The problem is what happened next: a slogan hardened into an expectation that many of us wear like a yoke. Be rock. Absorb harm. Keep going. Smile. Be grateful. And when you finally break under the weight of paid work, unpaid care, community activism, and the relentless calculus of safety in a violent society—well, somehow that breakage gets narrated as personal failure, not social failure. Enter the so-called 'soft life.' Among my generation of women, the phrase signals a refusal to be the family's permanent shock absorber. At its best, 'soft life' is not champagne-and-Instagram; it's rest without guilt, boundaries without apology, and care without a moral invoice. It is the audacity to say: I will not earn love through exhaustion. I will not confuse coping with flourishing. But let's tell the truth. 'Soft life' has also been captured by an aspirational, consumption-first aesthetic that drifts dangerously close to dependence on patriarchal provisioning. We've all seen it: softness that is available only if a man (or a brand) foots the bill; softness that makes no demands on systems, only on women's self-presentation. That version sells a lifestyle while leaving intact the conditions that make women harden in the first place. Danger in taxis and streets, precarious work, clinics without staff, classrooms without support, homes without reliable electricity or water. Softness without structure is just a filter. So where does that leave Imbokodo? Not in the dustbin, and not on our backs either. I am arguing for a reframe: Imbokodo must move from an identity loaded onto individual women to a duty borne by institutions and allies—men, families, employers, faith communities, and the state. In other words: let systems be the rock so women can live softly. What does that look like in real terms? First, it means re-reading tradition with integrity. If imbali names women as worthy of care, then the masculine calling of Imbokodo, to steady, protect, and set boundaries should never be a license to control. It should be a commitment to intervene against harm, including harm enacted by men against women. Real manhood is not silent when a friend jokes about 'disciplining' his partner; real manhood breaks the joke and the cycle. The post-initiation speech I heard got one thing exactly right: protection is not a poem; it's a practice. Second, it means institutionalising softness. If 'soft life' is rest, then employers must normalise flexible work, equitable parental leave, and predictable hours, because burnout is not a personal time-management issue, it's a structural design flaw. If softness is safety, then we invest in transport that does not turn dusk into danger. If softness is care, then clinics, shelters, and social work services must be funded as essential infrastructure, not as charity. Softness should read like a budget line, not a mood board. Third, it means politicising pleasure. The right to joy is not frivolous; it is proof of dignity. We should insist on parks without fear, nightlife without predation, and intimacy without coercion. Our mothers' generation fought for legal personhood; ours must fight for a life that feels like it. That is not indulgence; it is completion. Fourth, it demands honest critique of the marketplace of 'soft.' Influencer culture can inspire, but it can also lure us into performance: the candlelit bath as a proxy for a livable wage. If your softness depends on hiding the helper, you're not liberated, you're outsourced. We need a praxis: support women-owned businesses, yes; but also vote, organise, unionise, and litigate. A spa day is lovely. A safe, fairly paid, non-exploitative workplace is softness with teeth. Finally, it calls men back into the story—not as heroes, but as co-builders of conditions. If Imbokodo once meant that fathers and brothers confronted anyone who harmed their daughters and sisters, then the contemporary reading must scale that ethic: stand up in boardrooms, taxi ranks, WhatsApp groups, and taverns. Challenge misogyny in the joke, in the hiring panel, in the budget meeting, in the pulpit. If you claim initiation conferred manhood, show us the courage and care that title demands. Here is my synthesis, and my challenge. We honour the women who became Imbokodo under duress by making sure the next generation does not have to. We keep the memory of the rock as collective resolve, our unions, our movements, our neighbourhood watch groups that protect rather than terrorise, our caseworkers who refuse to normalise abuse, our prosecutors who treat GBV as the national emergency it is. And we elevate imbali from a pretty metaphor to a policy principle: women are not ornamental; they are essential, and their wellbeing is a non-negotiable design requirement for a just society. So, no, I will not discard Imbokodo. I will relocate it. Let it live in constitutions, budgets, and everyday bystander action. Let the grindstone be the system that crushes impunity, not the woman grinding herself down to keep everyone else alive. And yes, I will embrace the soft life, the real one: the one with afternoons free of fear, evenings free of second shifts, mornings where rest is routine and care is shared. Softness is not surrender. It is the dividend of justice. This Women's Month and every month after, may our language be brave enough to evolve, and our structures strong enough to make softness ordinary. Let Imbokodo hold the line so imbali can bloom. Madikizela-Theu is Social Work and Development Intervention Specialist, PhD Candidate (UFH), Master of Social Work-Research (NMU)
The Citizen
21-06-2025
- Sport
- The Citizen
Ikeja Lerato Lamola Winter Games kicks off final stage of 32 knockout matches
The 10th edition of the Ikeja Lerato Lamola Winter Games is in full swing, with action continuing on June 21 at the Lord Khanyile Sports Ground, also known as Esgodini. Fans and teams are eagerly anticipating the climax of the round of 32 knockout stages, with the final four matches of this stage set to take place today. Read more: Super Midrand Ladies Academy conquers Imbokodo women's soccer tournament The matches have already kicked off with high energy, as PSG secured their place in the round of 16 after a tense penalty shootout against Izidla Mlilo, ending in a 4–2 victory following a goalless draw. Mighty Birds will face Zone 14 in what is expected to be a fiercely contested game, while Mantwaleng Shakers will go up against 012 Ayifun Wena. The highlight of the day will undoubtedly be the clash between the defending champions, AT Mambas, and Mashashane. Fans are eager to see whether the defending champions can maintain their dominance or whether Mashashane has plans to upset the reigning titleholders. The excitement will continue on June 22 with the beginning of the round of 16 matches. The schedule features some notable fixtures, including Spain versus Real Super Stars, PEP XI versus Sizanani, and Ama 2000 versus District 10. The first round of 16 encounters will peak with another highly anticipated game as the Chopper Boys, Skepe Nketole, take on Fire Snipers. The winter games remain a showcase of local talent and sportsmanship, bringing the community together in celebration of the sport. Follow us on our Whatsapp channel, Facebook, X, Instagram, and TikTok for the latest updates and inspiration! Have a story idea? We'd love to hear from you – join our WhatsApp group and share your thoughts! At Caxton, we employ humans to generate daily fresh news, not AI intervention. Happy reading!
