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Hindustan Times
6 days ago
- Health
- Hindustan Times
Couples therapist shares 7 true or false questions to know the ‘health of your relationship'
Do you want to check the health of your relationship? Couples therapist Jeff Guenther took to Instagram recently to share seven questions that you can ask yourself or your partner to know where you both stand. Also Read | Expert says on Oprah Winfrey's show 'never sleep with your phone, keep it in bathroom'. Explains why it causes anxiety On May 21, the couples therapist shared a video on Instagram where he listed the seven true or false questions. He stated that these will reveal the health of your relationship. He added, 'I am looking for seven trues.' Let's find out what these questions are: A post shared by Jeff Guenther, LPC (@therapyjeff) My world is expanding and growing because of this relationship, not shrinking to keep the peace. True or false? I trust that my partner is emotionally safe. They do not weaponise my vulnerabilities or use my feelings against me. True or false? When something good happens, they are one of the first people I want to tell, and I trust they'll be happy for me, not weirdly competitive or distant. True or false? I don't have to keep major parts of myself hidden - my opinions, my quirks, my dreams - to make this work. True or false? When I set a boundary, it is met with curiosity or respect, not punishment or withdrawal. True or false? I still feel like I have full access to my own life, my friendships, my hobbies, and my decisions. True or false? If a close friend described a relationship just like mine, I would feel genuinely happy for them, not secretly worried. True or false? According to the therapist, ideally, every single question he mentioned in the clip should be true. As they aren't just relationship goals, they're the bare minimum for emotional safety and mutual respect in a relationship. However, if you didn't check all the boxes, do not panic, but don't dismiss these either. 'Figure out why and whether it's something that can be worked on together or a sign that you're settling for less than you deserve,' he added. Note to readers: This article is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical advice.
Hindustan Times
28-05-2025
- General
- Hindustan Times
Couples therapist shares 1 habit that makes relationships feel safe: ‘It is not date nights or knowing love languages'
What makes a relationship last longer? According to the couples therapist Jeff Guenther, it is one single habit that makes your relationship feel safe and satisfying. In an Instagram video posted on April 17, Jeff stressed that it is not 'weekly date nights, having the same attachment style, or knowing each other's love languages' that makes a relationship work and last long. Rather, per the decades of research from the Gottmans and his own experience as a couples therapist of 20 years, the biggest game changer in relationships is 'something you can start doing now until forever: turning towards bids for connection'. Also Read | 10 golden rules every successful couple swears by, according to relationship expert A post shared by Jeff Guenther, LPC (@therapyjeff) According to the couple's therapist, it's any tiny moment your partner tries to get your attention, your affection, or your interest. 'It's, 'Hey, look at this weird TikTok,' or 'I had the craziest dream last night,' or even just a sigh while they stare out the window. That counts too,' he explained. Per Jeff, in such a scenario, one generally has three choices: 'they can turn toward their partner and engage, turn away and ignore them, or turn against and respond with irritation'. 'The couples that thrive turn toward a lot, even if they're busy, even if it's dumb, even if it's about golf,' he explained. Why does this method work? Well, according to Jeff, 'Each time you do, you're basically making a deposit in your emotional bank account. You're saying, 'I see you, I care, I'm here'.' He explained that these tiny moments are what make the big moments easier. They create trust, connection, and resilience. 'So, if your relationship feels a little off lately, start with the smallest thing. Look at the meme, ask about the dream, be curious about their weird hyperfixation. It's not about grand gestures; it's about showing up in the micro moments because that's where the real intimacy lives,' he added. Note to readers: This article is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical advice.
