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Cosmopolitan
7 days ago
- Entertainment
- Cosmopolitan
Lelo Sex Toys and Vibrators to Snag During Lelo's Summer Sale
The first time I tried a Lelo vibrator, it was the Sona 2 and it worked so well that it became the only vibrator I used for months. I'm not going to lie, I had high expectations. As an avid Cosmo reader, I already knew Lelo toys were top-of-the-line, and I'd read enough reviews to know that the Sona 2 really is That Girl when it comes to clitoral suction toys. The thing is, I've tried a lot of suction vibes; they're my absolute favorite type of sex toy, and one of the many perks of being a sex and relationships editor is more free vibrators than you could ever possibly test yourself. But Sona 2 really stands out, and it's still heavily active in my rotation. If it isn't a part of yours yet, you're in luck—Lelo's summer sale is happening right now. Until August 31, Lelo is offering 15 percent off site-wide. Which means, hi–not only can you get the Sona 2 for less, you can also apply the discount to anything on Lelo's site using the code HELLOSUMMER15. And trust, there's a lot worth testing. Lelo toys are consistently high-performing and last for years, not to mention they come with a soft storage pouch for discreet pleasure on-the-go. Lelo is a luxury brand, so you can expect to spend more than you would on a drugstore vibrator, but the quality pays for itself—you can rest assured every piece of tech is high quality and made with body-safe materials. But don't just take my word for it—the Dot and the Sona 2 are consistently some of the most popular toys on our site, meaning thousands of readers just like you are adding to cart and indulging every day. And lest you forget, the benefits of masturbation are plenty. A good toy can help you figure out what you like during sex, info that you can and should communicate to your partner so that you're both having the best experience possible. Masturbation can also lower stress levels, boost your mood, relieve period cramps and headaches, help you fall asleep…the benefits are literally endless! There are no cons!! Now that we've (obvi) convinced you, you might be wondering where to start. That's why I put together this handy—pun intended—list of the very best options available on Lelo's website right now. Treat yourself! In this case, it's literally good for you. Clitoral vibrators are specifically designed to directly stimulate the clitoris, and can come in a few different styles. Clitoral suction toys do exactly what it sounds like—apply suction to your clitoris that's meant to mimic the sensation of oral sex. Does it feel exactly the same as a skilled partner's tongue action? No, but some toys can get pretty damn close (see: the aforementioned Sona 2 + a little water-based lube). Other clit vibrators—like bullets, wands, and pinpoint vibrators—provide targeted stimulation by rumbling at various speeds and patterns. Wands are designed to cover larger surface areas (and can be used to massage anywhere on the body), bullets are smaller and meant for clitoral, vulva, or nipple stim, and pinpoint vibrators like the Dot do the same, just with a teeny tiny point for ultra-targeted pleasure. Internal vibrators are designed for stimulation of your internal hot spots, sometimes known as the g-spot (which isn't a technically-correct term since it isn't one singular spot and not everyone feels pleasure there—it's more like a g-area, if you will). They're usually long and sleek for easy insertion and controlled via a set of buttons on the handle end. Some internal vibrators have bulbous heads to stimulate the head of a penis, and cover a larger surface area inside. Others thin out at the tip for more targeted stimulation. Dual-stimulation vibrators are meant to provide both internal and external stimulation; clitoral and vaginal at the same time. Rabbit vibrators are a perfect example, like the Soraya Wave below. The long end vibrates inside you and the short end vibrates outside and stimulates your clitoris. Dual-stim vibes can be a little intense, so if you're new to sex tech, you might want to opt for something simpler like a clit-only vibe or an internal toy to get used to the sensations. Then, when you're ready, graduating to a dual-stim can feel second nature—and absolutely mind-blowing in the best way possible. Truth? Any vibrator can be a couples vibrator if you use it with your partner and you're both enjoying it, whatever that looks like for you. But some sex toys are specifically designed for the simultaneous pleasure of both partners during sex. Wearable vibes (sometimes called C-vibrators because they're shaped like the letter C) like the Tiani 3 and the Tiani Harmony are designed to be worn by the receiving partner during penetration and felt by both partners. Couples rings (aka penis rings or cock rings) are designed to be worn by the penetrating partner and feel amazing pressed up against the receiver during sex. And any remote-control powered toy is great for power play. Think: You're wearing a panty vibe like the Lyla 2 during dinner while your partner controls the functions. Sexy!
Daily Mirror
31-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mirror
'I tested the adult toys from a woman-centred wellness brand'
These fun and friendly adult toys are seriously worth the hype I've been a big advocate for sexual wellness ever since I bought my first glittery toy from Ann Summers at 18. What started as a curiosity has since grown into something much more empowering, and I view self-pleasure not just as fun but also as a form of self-care. When I came across Smile Makers Collection - a brand that champions female pleasure and is known for its colourful, approachable lineup of toys - I knew it was time to explore further. The playful packaging and inclusive messaging had been on my radar for a while and it felt like the perfect time to upgrade my toy box. So, how would I get on with my new bedtime besties? If you're tempted to shop, use the discount code SELFCARE20 for a 20% discount. What I thought of Smile Maker toys Firstly, I had to select my chosen toys, and Smile Makers makes the process incredibly easy, especially for beginners. The site features a quick and friendly quiz that asks about everything from toy experience to pleasure preferences. I matched with The Poet (£79.95), a toy that, incidentally, a friend had already raved about. I also added The Tennis Pro (£49.95), a sleek vibrator, a bottle of toy cleaner, and a lubricant to my cart - essentials for anyone building a thoughtful kit. The toys arrived in colourful boxes, perfectly matching each toy's aesthetic. They feel soft to the touch, thanks to the body-safe silicone and I could tell they were high-quality products. The only buzzkill (no pun intended) was they both needed to be charged before use. Once charged, I reached for The Poet first. It comes with three interchangeable 'mouths' to fit your body properly - something I've never seen from other toys. It also has five pulsation modes. Each one delivered beautifully. There are also squeeze sensors that adjust the intensity, which sounds genius, but I found them tricky to use - especially when trying to maintain a good angle. I find Lelo's Sonic 2 massager easier to use, although it's more expensive at £129. As for the results? Let's say my friend wasn't exaggerating. The Poet is genuinely one of the best toys I've ever tried. However, while it's marketed as 'whisper-quiet', it's more chatty than silent when not pressed against the skin - something to keep in mind if you're sharing walls. Then, it was time to explore The Tennis Pro. With its rounded, angled head, it's designed to target all the right areas - saving me the cost (and clutter) of buying two more toys. If you'd prefer to introduce an external toy, though, I highly recommend Love Not War's Koi Wand (£109.99) - it's been a go-to for a couple of years now and never lets me down. The Tennis Pro has four speeds and pulsation patterns. It's powerful, delivering a lovely deep rumble rather than a buzzy tickle, and the variety of speeds makes it fun to try. It's an excellent toy for solo sessions but an equally welcome guest in partnered play. Unlike The Poet, The Tennis Pro is actually quiet, which means no awkward morning-after chats with my housemate about mysterious noises. Discretion plus pleasure is always a win-win. So, if you're looking for toys that feel modern, body-positive and thoughtfully designed, Smile Makers is worth your attention - whether you're a beginner or a seasoned pro. I'll definitely be going back for more.
France 24
24-04-2025
- Sport
- France 24
Georgia's rugby dreams built on wild folk game
Held every Easter, the fierce contest pits the village's upper and lower halves against each other in a bruising effort to drive the ball into a river. Victory goes to the team that manages to hurl the ball -- stuffed with earth doused in locally made wine and weighing a hefty 16 kilograms (35 pounds) -- into the water. Known as Lelo, the game was first played in Shukhuti in western Georgia more than 150 years ago to commemorate a historic military victory against Ottoman Turkish invaders. Georgians see Lelo as a wild cousin of rugby, a game that has surged in popularity over the last few decades. Fittingly nicknamed the Lelos, Georgia's national rugby team has dominated the second-tier Rugby Europe Championship, clinching the title eight years in a row. "This is where Georgian rugby draws its passion for victory -- from the intense energy rooted in the ancient tradition of Lelo," said local mayor Alexandre Sarishvili. National team head coach Richard Cockerill shares that sentiment. "We're a small country with small numbers, but we're still able to put a team out that can compete with Fiji and Japan and Wales and Italy and win Rugby Europe every year," he told AFP at the squad's Tbilisi training ground. 'Jeopardy' With just 8,000 registered players -- a fraction of the numbers seen in Tier One nations -- Georgia have managed to beat the four sides mentioned above in recent years. Their Under-20s team defeated England ahead of the 2023 World Cup. Yet Georgia remain locked out of the Six Nations, a closed competition that hasn't welcomed a new team since Italy joined in 2000. Former England hooker Cockerill wants meritocracy to trump tradition when it comes to the Six Nations line-up. "We deserve an opportunity to play-off against the bottom team, to prove that we are good enough," he said, referring to Wales's ongoing dismal losing streak. "If a team's lost 17 Test matches on the bounce and is bottom of the Six Nations two years in succession, surely at some point there's got to be an opportunity for Georgia. "We're above Wales in the world rankings... But the gate's shut, isn't it?" Though he admits the push for inclusion is a long shot, Cockerill argues a promotion-relegation playoff would introduce both incentive and risk -- benefitting the sport. "There's a realistic chance that whoever wins Rugby Europe would actually put huge pressure on whoever finishes bottom of the Six Nations. If we're going to grow the game... then I think there should be some jeopardy." 'Containment' With enthusiastic public support and strong government backing, rugby is thriving on a grassroots level in the capital Tbilisi and beyond. But Cockerill warns growth will stall without greater competitive exposure. "We need to learn how to lose, and play as Italy have, as France did when they joined the Four Nations to make it Five Nations, as Fiji have done when they've joined Super Rugby." He envisions a similar trajectory for Georgia, and laments that all the country's best players move abroad to play in competitive club competitions. For now, Georgian rugby is stuck in a holding pattern. The new Nations Cup format, which groups them with other Tier Two sides, offers no path for promotion until at least 2030. "We're being told to wait five more years," Cockerill said. "That's not growth, that's containment." In Shukhuti on Sunday, after hours of punishing scrums, torn shirts, and battered bodies, the men of Upper Shukhuti finally broke through and claimed a hard-won victory. "Lelo captures the combative spirit of Georgians," said local doctor Nanuli Khalvashi, 64, who came to cheer for the Upper Shukhuti team.
Yahoo
31-03-2025
- Politics
- Yahoo
The Trump Administration's War on Activists Is Escalating
Early last Tuesday, 25-year-old Alfredo Juarez Zeferino—a longtime farmworker union organizer who goes by the name 'Lelo'—was driving his partner to her job on a tulip bulb farm in Skagit County, Washington, when officers with Immigration and Customs Enforce pulled him over. According to those who've spoken with him since, Juarez Zeferino stopped, rolled down his window and asked the officers if they had a warrant before being asked to show identification. As he reached for his ID, ICE officers allegedly broke the window of Lelo's car, told him to get out, and handcuffed him. He was taken first to an unmarked warehouse that, in 2021, Lelo and other local organizers had revealed to be an ICE holding facility. He's currently being held at the Northwest ICE Processing Center in Tacoma, where hundreds have rallied over the last week to demand his release. A berry picker who's organized with the Indigenous farmworkers' union Families Unidas por la Justicia since he first came to the United States from Mexico as a teenager, Lelo is well known to farmworkers and campaigners in Central Washington, as well as to state lawmakers. Juarez Zeferino was a key part of strengthening Washington's heat protections for outdoor workers. Those protections now mandate that workers receive water and regular breaks to cool off once temperatures reach 80 degrees. He lobbied, as well, for a 2021 state law to guarantee that farmworkers receive overtime pay. Lelo is one of several prominent activists to have been abducted by ICE in recent weeks. While the most prominent of those arrests have targeted participants in pro-Palestine demonstrations on college campuses, Lelo's detention and other recent developments suggest to some that the White House may be broadening its attacks on free speech and its political enemies. 'We think this is a politically motivated detention,' says Edgar Franks, political director of Families Unidas por la Justicia, who met Juarez Zeferino when he was a teenager. When farmworkers were on strike more than a decade ago, Lelo volunteered to translate during daily assemblies for fellow Indigenous Mixteco workers who didn't speak Spanish. Fluent in English, Spanish, and Mixteco, Lelo has been consistently eager to help members of his union and anyone else who called looking for advice on how to demand higher wages and navigate the court system or the DMV, Franks said. ICE reportedly arrested several other people on Tuesday, and claims to have detained Juarez Zeferino—who does not have a criminal record—for refusing to comply with a 2018 removal order. According to Franks, Lelo had 'no idea' about the order. 'He was not hiding,' Franks told me. 'He was in the media and in videos. He goes to lobby in our state Capitol. If he thought he had a deportation order, he wouldn't have done that.' (DHS did not respond to a request for comment for this story.) Franks credits Lelo for helping come up with the recommendations their organization and allied groups made to state officials in updating Washington's heat protections for outdoor workers, after several farmworkers died throughout the Pacific Northwest during a brutal heat wave in 2021. 'Alfredo would be out in the fields talking to workers and letting them know about the old rule, asking about what they thought,' Franks said. 'Most of the recommendations that we gave were because of the work Alfredo was doing listening to workers,' including to lower the temperature at which heat protection rules kick into effect. Republican governments in Texas and Florida have overruled municipal-level workplace heat protections in recent years. The Trump administration has now halted a pending rule from the Occupational Health and Safety Administration that would have established the country's first-ever national heat protections. Aside from pushing to strengthen those rules in Washington state, several farmworker organizations that Juarez Zeferino has organized with have been an active part in climate policy fights in the state. That includes a recent effort to rebuff several ballot initiatives targeting the state's climate measures, backed by hedge fund millionaire and Republican donor Brian Heywood. Lelo's immigration status hasn't been confirmed. The Bellingham Herald has noted that he would have been eligible to apply to the Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals, or DACA, program given that he was only 13 when he arrived in the U.S. (DACA provides a path to citizenship for undocumented U.S. residents who arrived in the country before the age of 16.) In 2015, Lelo was detained and then transferred to ICE by Bellingham police after he drove the wrong way down a one-way street and police were unable to verify his identity. He was released after a brief stay at the Northwest ICE Processing Center. Zeferino's family sued the police department, alleging racial discrimination; they later settled with the city for $100,000. He served on Bellingham's Immigration Advisory Board until it was dissolved last October. Among its recommendations was to create a resource center for immigrants in Whatcom County. 'We're worried they're going to deport him to El Salvador, Gitmo, or these other places that are horrific,' Rosalinda Guillen, longtime organizer and founder of Community to Community Development, where Lelo volunteered, recently told Seattle-based news publication The Stranger. 'This administration is just punitive and mean. They're cruel.' Lawyers in Seattle have filed a lawsuit against the Department of Homeland Security to prevent the administration from deporting people without legal status to 'third countries' rather than their countries of origin. But in other recent cases, DHS has continued to defy federal courts and send people arrested by ICE to a hellish El Salvador prison under the Alien Enemies Act of 1798, refusing to acknowledge mounting evidence that people are ending up there who have no connections to criminal gangs, as the White House alleges. The administration is also now embroiled in a court battle over whether it can deport legal residents it deems to threaten national security. The case—currently being heard in Newark—centers on 31-year-old Columbia University graduate student and green card holder Mahmoud Khalil, whom ICE abducted from his university-owned apartment earlier this month. Khalil had not been charged with a crime. The State Department said it revoked his legal status because he was undermining the Trump administration's foreign policy goal of halting the spread of antisemitism via his involvement in pro-Palestine protests on Columbia's campus. Several other students and academics have been targeted by ICE on similar grounds, under obscure and legally dubious federal statutes. In what her lawyers argue is a politically motivated arrest, high-profile immigrant rights advocate Jeanette Vizguerra was ambushed by ICE while on break from her job in Denver, Colorado, on March 17; she's currently being held in an Aurora detention facility. Lelo's arrest has sparked some of Washington's largest protests since Trump's inauguration. The Washington State Labor Council mobilized its members in some of the state's largest unions to a rally outside of the ICE facility where he's being held alongside Lewelyn Dixon, a University of Washington lab tech and SEIU member who's been detained since late February over a nonviolent misdemeanor she was convicted of in 2001; a green card holder, Dixon first came to the U.S. in 1974. As the Trump administration widens its attacks on migrants and free speech, even U.S. citizenship likely won't be enough to protect people whose views the White House wants to punish. Trump officials have promised to charge those who vandalize Teslas as domestic terrorists and revoke federal funding from any university that allows 'illegal protests.' As Juarez Zeferino and other activists snatched up by ICE sit in federal custody, Franks says that the attention Lelo's capture has garnered is a testament to the organizing work that Lelo has devoted his life to. 'If it wasn't for us being organized,' he told me, 'Lelo would just be another guy that ICE picked up.'
Yahoo
08-03-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Widening age limits on dating apps could be key to finding THE one
I do think we're in the middle of a serious trend.' Theresa MacPhail is a medical anthropologist and associate professor in the science and technology programme at the Stevens Institute in New York. But she's not just an academic – she's also a single woman in her fifties with extensive first-hand experience of using dating apps. And the 'trend' she's referring to concerns age gaps. We're well used to scrutiny and discourse around the older man, younger woman trope – see the million or so thinkpieces about Leonardo DiCaprio and his bevy of love interests, who never seem to get past the age of 25 without being abruptly dumped, like some mad dating version of Logan's Run – but MacPhail is talking about the reverse phenomenon. Over the past 10 years, she says, there's been a steady and significant increase in the number of men aged between 23 and 30 messaging her on all the major dating apps, including Hinge and Tinder. 'What really changed is that I'm now seeing men as young as 19 message me,' she says. 'I have been single and dating from age 40 to my current age of 52. Over that time, I would say that the percentage of men who are younger than me that find their way into my inbox has grown two or even threefold.' She's not averse to casting the net wide – at the age of 42, she embarked upon a serious three-year relationship with a man 15 years her junior. Her current dating-app parameters are set between 35 and 55, though she says she'll go up to 65 if someone 'seems interesting and active in the world', and she sets her cut-off on the other end of the spectrum at 30-year-olds. 'I am very comfortable dating younger and older – for me it's more about how we get along, and if we share interests and values,' she tells me. MacPhail isn't alone. A new survey from luxury sex-toy purveyor Lelo found that more than four out of five people (83 per cent) had widened their age preferences on dating apps in the past year. The Bumble dating app has picked up on a similar trend; globally, singles are widening their age-range filters, with more people open to dating both older and younger partners. Nearly two in three (63 per cent) of Bumble's users believe that age is no longer a defining factor in dating. In the UK, 84 per cent of men are open to dating older or younger, while more than half (61 per cent) of women say they would consider going out with someone their junior. 'Our perspective on age-gap relationships is shifting,' agrees Dr Caroline West, Bumble's sex and relationship expert. 'More than one in three women (35 per cent) on Bumble say they have become less judgemental towards generation-gap relationships in recent years.' One reason could well be the plethora of recent films that have been anchored around the idea of age gaps – particularly those featuring older women and younger men. The latest Bridget Jones movie, starring Renee Zellweger and Leo Woodall, and last year's Nicole Kidman and Harris Dickinson vehicle Babygirl, are just the tip of the iceberg; recent releases with a similar premise include A Family Affair (Nicole Kidman and Zac Efron), The Idea of You (Anne Hathaway and Nicholas Galitzine) and Lonely Planet (Laura Dern and Liam Hemsworth). Although arguably, our fascination with the idea is nothing new: back in the Noughties we had Something's Gotta Give, featuring Diane Keaton and Keanu Reeves; Prime, starring Uma Thurman and Bryan Greenberg; and The Rebound, with Catherine Zeta-Jones and Justin Bartha. The predilection for dating outside our demographic seems to be generational. Data from dating app Flirtini released last year revealed that more than half (52 per cent) of Gen Z men would date a women from four to 10+ years their senior, compared to just 9 per cent of millennial men and 1 per cent of Gen X. Going in the other direction, just 7 per cent of Gen Z males would be prepared to pursue romance with a woman four or more years younger, which leaps up to 67 per cent of millennials and a whopping 95 per of Gen X. Meanwhile, Gen X women – those aged between 45 and 60 years old – are by far the most likely female cohort to accept a younger partner. Some 34 per cent said they'd date 10 or more years below their own age bracket, a number that dropped down to 10 per cent of millennial and 0 per cent of Gen Z women. So what's the appeal? Tom*, a 28-year-old Bumble user, has always found himself drawn to older women, even before he finds out what age they are. He's currently chatting to a 31-year-old on the app – something of a departure for him, as he usually sets his parameters to five years his senior and above. 'I believe I grew up fast so I found myself more attracted to older women; I believe because of their life experiences they are more intentional and assertive about the things they want,' he says. 'They're more expressive and they are often better communicators.' Tom has 'no reservations' about age-gap relationships; 'Love is love regardless of age, as long as you both are happy, fulfilled and compatible,' he adds. I believe I grew up fast so I found myself more attracted to older women Tom, 28 The younger men whom MacPhail has dated or chatted to online always give roughly the same answers when she asks why they're interested in pursuing an older woman: 'That older women are easier to be around, that we're often more interesting to talk to (which I can see, because we have more time to accrue stories and experiences), and that we have more sexual experience and are more open, and they hope that we can teach them something.' The sexual element is key, she believes: 'I think younger men watch – or have been exposed to – porn with 'stepmoms' and 'teachers' and the like, and they think it's sexually attractive to be with someone older who they think knows what they're doing.' On the flipside of the equation, Hayley*, 34, has recently decided that dating older might be the way forward. She's changed her Bumble age parameters to match, setting them to up to 55 years old. What others might see as an obstacle she sees as a benefit, citing 'differences' as one appeal of older men: 'Opposites attract, as they say.' She also believes they offer more stability, are more sure of themselves, and are more comfortable and settled in life. 'Older guys know what they want and aren't afraid to go for it,' she says. Though 34-year-old Emma* hasn't quite taken the plunge yet, she is starting to think about dating younger, partly inspired by her social circle. 'Four of my closest friends are currently in relationships with younger men – three of whom they met organically, while one intentionally adjusted her app settings after seeing how well it worked for the others,' she says. 'Their experiences have made me more open to considering it, but I'm still weighing the idea.' While she thinks representation of the older woman/younger man dynamic in the media is a crucial step forward, she believes 'there's still work to be done in shifting societal attitudes'. It's hard to argue. For all that Kidman is doing God's work in attempting to shift these attitudes, there's no doubt that stigma remains. The very existence of the term 'cougar' – used to describe an older woman being with a younger man – when there is no male equivalent, is arguably proof enough. And you only have to look at the media's obsession with the relationship between actor Aaron Taylor-Johnson, 34, and his wife of 13 years, 58-year-old filmmaker Sam Taylor-Johnson, to get a sense of the discomfort that pervades. Likewise, 47-year-old French president Emmanuel Macron's marriage to Brigitte Macron, a woman 14 years his senior, has never ceased to be framed as titillating by certain quarters. As an anthropologist, MacPhail is always curious about 'when and why people express disgust or discomfort'. 'These relationships are still taboo,' she says. 'All cultures have taboos, and they work to maintain social cohesion and identity. When people transgress social norms, by dating someone much younger or older, they are trafficking in taboo behaviours.' I'm now seeing men as young as 19 message me Theresa MacPhail From what she's seen and experienced, people are far more comfortable with the idea of women having sexual relationships with younger men than they are romantic ones. 'When love and committed relationships come in, it's harder for people to accept,' she says. The questions come thick and fast, adds MacPhail, often displaying a bias against the younger generation: 'What did you talk about?' 'Was it just about the sex?' 'How old were you when they were born?' (with a residual disgust if it's more than five to 10 years old). Still, those willing to break the taboo could well reap the rewards of widening their choice of potential partners. 'The relational literacy among younger generations is impressive and attractive,' argues Dr West. 'Many younger men, particularly Gen Z and millennials, exhibit strong emotional intelligence and better sex education, which explains why more women are expanding their dating pool to include them. While relationships with significant age gaps are often seen as transactional – based on the assumption that the pair have nothing in common – this is far from the truth today. These couples often share a commitment to personal and emotional growth.' There will, of course, still be challenges to navigate, as there are in any relationship. Communication and honesty about the future are vital, according to Kate Moyle, a psychosexual therapist and Lelo's in-house sex and relationship expert. 'Your partner isn't a mind-reader, and it can be useful to listen and discuss each other's concerns and what potential hurdles you might face so that you can be better equipped as a couple to tackle them when they arise,' she says. You also have to learn how to tune out external noise. 'One of the biggest external influences on age-gap relationships is social input, messages and opinions received from others, which many of us allow to impact our feelings in some ways,' adds Moyle. 'Try not to take on the opinions of others, and focus on your own feelings and those of your partner – people will always have opinions about something.' And there's absolutely no need to humour others' voyeuristic curiosity about your relationship, she advises: 'If intrusive questions cross boundaries, you don't have to feel prepared to answer them – with more obvious differences, people often feel that they have more of a right to ask, even though they don't.'' At the end of the day, the modern adage 'you do you' is probably the best response to someone else's relationship, rather than interrogation or judgement. As MacPhail puts it: 'Personally, I'm a big fan of letting people do what works for them, even if it wouldn't work for me.' *Names have been changed
