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The subtle signs someone is quietly planning to leave their relationship according to a dating expert
Sometimes a breakup can come as a complete shock.
It may feel like you had no way of knowing that it was coming - but according to a relationship expert, there are actually some subtle signs to look out for that may warn you that your partner is gearing up to leave you.
Dating guru Jaime Bronstein told the Daily Mail that in many cases, there multiple hints that a lover is no longer invested in a romance, but she warned that they are often 'silent and subtle.'
'In many cases, it's not just one sign; it's many signs that alert someone to the red flags,' she told the Daily Mail.
Jaime, a Licensed Relationship Therapist and author of MAN*ifesting, said often an individual will feel that something has shifted, or is 'off.'
'Always trust your intuition,' she warned. 'The best way to deal with this feeling would be to have an honest discussion, sharing that you sense something has changed, and then give the other person a chance to respond with how they are feeling.'
'They might be honest, or they might brush it off and say things are 'ok,' but at least you know you tried,' she added.
People have been discussing the often over-looked signs that a relationship has fizzled out on Reddit.
It began after someone asked the question, 'What's a sign someone is quietly planning to leave their relationship/marriage?'
The post sparked an overload of responses, with many people sharing their own experiences in the comment section.
'When the conversations get shorter and the silences get louder,' one user wrote.
'They stop arguing. Total silence replaces fights they've checked out,' suggested someone else.
'Yup. I had been planning on leaving my ex for nearly a year. I was quiet,' replied a different user.
'There was no point in arguing. I was already leaving. By the time I left, I couldn't even manage to cry because I had already mourned that loss.
'Meanwhile, he was shocked. We hadn't been "arguing" so he thought we were doing great.'
Jamie agreed that less arguing in a relationship could definitely be a bad sign, because it likely means the person who has decided to leave knows it's over and there's nothing to work out or try to make better.
And if your partner purposely stays away from home for extended periods and goes out more frequently, or if they're more secretive with their phone, it's likely your romance may be headed towards a split.
The next thing Jaime said to look out for is a 'a blasé neutral attitude,' or overall lack of effort in all areas of the relationship, such as them not appearing to care anymore.
She listed some more warning signs, such as not sharing a lot about their life or if they make any 'shady and untrustworthy' comments.
'[Or if] their stories do not seem to add up,' she added.
'You observe them just going through the motions, but no real intention or feelings in the relationship anymore.'
Other red flags in the relationship include conversations involving plans for the future ceasing, less sex, and someone not being present in conversations anymore.
'If you previously had a healthy sex life and it has changed, that's an indication that someone could be ready to leave the relationship,' she advised.
Jaime noted that the end of a relationship can be a traumatic experience - and to some, it can feel as significant as a death.
'The end of a relationship is one of the worst feelings in life,' she acknowledged.
'It's important to talk to someone, a friend, family member, or professional, if you feel depressed, hopeless, or distraught in any way, so they can help you navigate through your very real feelings.'
