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The Sun
24-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
I kissed my fiance goodbye after a wedding rehearsal – two days later cops showed up and my world fell apart
AS my fiancé's coffin was carried from the church, the song By Your Side by Sade played. Jon and I had actually chosen it for our wedding day, but instead I was hearing it at his funeral - the week before we were due to become husband and wife. 4 4 With just three weeks to go before our special day, Jon had died aged 42, and I wasn't sure how to carry on without him. I fell for him instantly when we met in March 2021. Kind, caring and handsome, he made me feel safe and loved. Life hadn't been easy for Jon, who worked as an electrician. He'd suffered from body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) since he was a young man, which had taken its toll on his mental health. But by the time I met him, he was receiving professional help and was open with me about the struggles he'd had in the past. We got engaged seven months after meeting. It was quick, but we knew we were meant to be together, so why wait? We began planning our wedding straight away, deciding to keep it small and intimate – a church ceremony in March 2022, followed by a meal in a restaurant with close family and friends. I have Asian heritage, so I chose a white and gold sari as my wedding gown, as well as ordering a veil and booking a hotel for our first night as a married couple. I was widowed at 26 when I was 17 weeks pregnant - I thought my husband had just gone to work early, the truth devastated me The last time I saw Jon was February 3, 2022. We'd attended a wedding preparation class that day, and he wasn't himself. I felt concerned, but wondered if his BDD was making him feel a bit overwhelmed as the big day drew closer, with the attention it would bring. After the class, he came back to my house – we planned to move in together once we were married – and left soon after, still quiet and pensive. He told me he was going to Norfolk the following day to visit a friend, and would see me the day after that. It never crossed my mind, as I kissed him and waved him off, that I'd never see him alive again. Two days later, when he didn't show up, I began to worry as he was always punctual. After a few hours, when I couldn't get through to him on his mobile, I went to his sister's and she contacted Jon's friend in Norfolk, only to discover he hadn't turned up the previous day. Soon after, two police officers arrived at the door, and gently told me and Jon's sister that he'd been found dead in a London hotel room, due to an overdose. I was so shocked, I felt numb – it was impossible to take in the news that he was gone. 4 In the days that followed, planning a funeral while cancelling a wedding was like a nightmare I couldn't wake up from. Jon's family and my bridesmaids all helped, but I felt my heart would break with the pain. My wedding sari was with a dressmaker for alterations at the time – I left it there and have never collected it. Jon was buried in late February 2022, a week before our wedding day. The months after his death were the darkest of my life. I suffered from PTSD and depression, and I considered ending my life as my grief was so overwhelming. I quit my job at the charity I worked for, because I couldn't imagine going back to the 'old me'. In late 2022, I began to train as a dog groomer and opened my own business, Love Hounds Bedford. I love my work, and it brings me joy and calm. I also discovered the charity Widowed And Young (WAY), and the solidarity, friendship and understanding from the other members who understood exactly how I was feeling, became so important to me. It's been three years since Jon died, and I think of him every day. I will miss him forever, but I also know he'd be proud I rebuilt my life, finding hope again. Jon never became my husband, but I will always carry him in my heart. EVERY 90 minutes in the UK a life is lost to suicide. It doesn't discriminate, touching the lives of people in every corner of society - from the homeless and unemployed to builders and doctors, reality stars and footballers. It's the biggest killer of people under the age of 35, more deadly than cancer and car crashes. Yet it's rarely spoken of, a taboo that threatens to continue its deadly rampage unless we all stop and take notice, now. That is why The Sun launched the You're Not Alone campaign. The aim is that by sharing practical advice, raising awareness and breaking down the barriers people face when talking about their mental health, we can all do our bit to help save lives. Let's all vow to ask for help when we need it, and listen out for others... You're Not Alone. If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health problems, the following organisations provide support: 4
The Sun
10-05-2025
- Health
- The Sun
When I broke out in an agonising rash that left me bleeding docs blamed scabies – but 3 common foods were to blame
I COULDN'T sleep, I couldn't concentrate at work and I was cancelling social plans. I felt like my body was covered in ants due to a persistent itch - but I was completely unaware of a little-known allergy to foods in my daily diet. 6 6 It was January 2022 when I suddenly developed the most frustrating itchiness all over my body; one moment it was my head, the next it was my leg. This wasn't just a little tickle. It was persistent and impossible to ignore. And when I did ignore it, the itchiness would grow and grow. A specialist mentioned that it might be scabies and so for several days, I lathered the cream on and washed my bedsheets every morning. I did two rounds of scabies treatments, but still the itchiness persisted. On a trip to Austria in March 2022, I broke down in tears as my incessant scratching was causing my skin to bleed. It took a (very expensive!) trip to an Austrian dermatologist to discover I had urticaria (the medical term for hives). My body was covered in these hives. And I was then told it caused by a histamine intolerance. Ever wondered why you don't quite feel right after eating certain foods such as cheese or chocolate? Or, feel as though your skin is itchier than normal after drinking red wine? Megan McKenna blasted the Prime Minister today for 'abandoning' a vow to create an 'allergies tsar' Perhaps yoghurt, beer and champagne - which are fermented foods - have left you bloated and struggling with digestive issues, despite the fact you've always eaten them? Or, like me, you have never even connected the dots. Histamine tolerance can also cause a runny nose, brain fog and fatigue. "It can even impact mental health, with reported symptoms such as anxiety, insomnia and panic attacks," says Dr Mohamed Najja from Jorja Healthcare Group. Some foods act as histamine liberators, meaning they trigger the body to release more histamine, even if they don't contain much themselves. Laura Southern nutritional therapist at London Gynaecology The little-known problem primarily impacts women and tends to occur more frequently with age, often in the 40s and 50s but anytime from the age of 30. 'Histamines are chemicals that your immune system makes," explains Dr Najja. "They are released by white blood cells during an immune response, helping to respond to allergy triggers (such as pollen or certain foods)." 6 6 6 Histamine intolerance, he says, refers to an excess of histamine in the body. The body struggles to process or eliminate excess histamine. It can lead to a range of symptoms that may mimic allergies. But while allergies involve your immune system response, releasing histamines to get rid of whatever it sees as a threat (even if it's harmless), histamine intolerance, in contrast, is a problem with the body's ability to process histamine. "When histamine is released then the blood flow to the area increases, causing inflammation such as redness, swelling and itchiness," he says. The symptoms of histamine intolerance Symptoms of histamine intolerance can vary from one person to another. However, Dr Najjar says that common symptoms include: Abdominal pain and bloating Changes of bowel movement, which could include diarrhoea, nausea, gas and reflux. Skin rashes, flushing or hives Headaches Dizziness Fatigue Brain fog Runny nose or nasal congestion Shortness of breath or wheezing Heart palpiations Mental health effects A 2019 study in the journal Intestinal Research found participants suffering from histamine intolerance experienced an average of 11 symptoms. What foods trigger symptoms or antihistamine intolerance? When I got dianogsed, I had to laugh at the fact I was consuming foods and drinks daily that trigger histamine intolerance daily. At the time, I was shotting apple cider vinegar in the morning, drinking a fair bit of champagne and was eating spinach, tomatoes and chocolate every day. High histamine foods include aged cheeses such as parmesan and blue cheese and cured or smoked meats, such as salami and smoked salmon. Fermented foods such as soy sauce and miso also don't help. Aged, fermented and processed foods contain high levels of histamine because histamine forms during bacterial fermentation or food decay. Alcohol, especially red wine, champagne and beer, pickled or canned foods, beans and pulses, salty snacks and chocolate are all no-gos. 6 Laura Southern, nutritional therapist at London Gynaecology says: 'Some foods also act as histamine liberators, meaning they trigger the body to release more histamine, even if they don't contain much themselves." The list of histamine liberators are often 'healthy' foods. They include vinegar, tomatoes, citrus fruits, spinach, strawberries, and nuts, especially walnuts, cashews and peanuts. 'Some foods block DAO, the enzyme that breaks histamine down," says Laura. "These include energy drinks, black and green tea and alcohol.' Laura adds: 'Histamine levels in food can vary based on storage time and processing. 'Histamine is often a 'gut' problem, so foods that damage the lining of the gut, or support the 'bad' bacteria in your gut can cause histamine reactions or make them worse. "These foods are UPFs, sugar, fried foods, processed meats, alcohol and sweeteners.' Hormones, particularly oestrogen, play a big role in the development of histamine intolerance, according to Tara Ghosh, a certified Hormone and Women's Health Coach. Therefore, she says, a lot of women may notice that menopause and perimenopause can make histamine issues worse. 'Having too much oestrogen in relation to progesterone leads to something called oestrogen dominance which can cause our allergies to be way worse or indeed appear out of nowhere for the first time," she says. Generally, oestrogen is on a downward slope during perimenopause, but with unpredictable peaks. 'While oestrogen is on a rollercoaster as we age, progesterone plummets,' Tara says. Tara explains that oestrogen increases histamine and is linked to slowing down the production of the DAO enzyme which clears histamine from our body. As well as hormones, some medications and gastrointestinal issues such as irritable bowel disorder can actually get in the way of DAO working properly. How to treat histamine intolerance The NHS doesn't offer a histamine intolerance test, but you can buy them online. However, Dr Najjar advises against doing them without the support and expertise of a qualified medical practitioner. You may take antihistamines when your body is reacting to histamines - and, after being put on strong ones, I was given a long list of foods that I had to remove from my diet. Although you can take antihistamines, Tara claims: 'Most antihistamine treatments are just a band-aid, blocking your histamine receptors. 'What we need to think is, 'why is my allergy bucket so full and causing me this hell?' 'Reduce dairy, gluten, sugar and alcohol as these are inflammatory and limit fermented food (such as kombucha and sauerkraut), avocados, spinach, tomatoes, chocolate and citrus fruit as these stimulate histamine.' Tara adds: 'High levels of the stress hormone cortisol correlate with high histamine so find ways to calm your nervous system every day and prioritise your sleep. "A high dose vitamin C supplement can also break down histamine.' A process of eliminating potential histamine-rich trigger foods and then slowly reintroducing them, can help you discover where your tolerance lies. In a matter of days, my skin calmed. The itching ceased and I felt like a free woman! Still to this day, I am strict on what I eat and if I know I'll be drinking champagne or wine, or eating smoked salmon or anything fermented, I will take an antihistamine to prepare myself. My histamine intolerance dictates what I eat and drink and every day I have to stop and think before I put anything in my mouth. Honestly, the itchiness isn't worth it. So what can you eat? Laura says that low-histamine staples include fresh meat and poultry (not processed or leftover), freshly cooked fish and eggs (especially the yolks). Gluten-free grains like rice and quinoa, most fresh vegetables (like courgette, carrots and broccoli) and leafy greens (except spinach) are all okay. 'Vitamin C and B6 are crucial for DAO activity," says Laura. "I often suggest foods such as parsley, fresh greens, peppers, blueberries, chicken, turkey and sunflower seeds.' She adds: 'The gut plays a huge role in histamine regulation so I also encourage anti-inflammatory and gut-supportive foods such as freshly cooked root vegetables, herbs such as ginger, turmeric and thyme and omega-3-rich oils from flax or chia seeds." Laura adds that the freshness of your foods plays a part - even food that's been left in the fridge for a day could trigger symptoms.
