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Mum sparks outrage as she admits she HATES her kids as they just ‘fight, destroy my house' & make her cry every day
A MUM has sparked outrage and concern after admitting she "hates" her children.
The woman insisted that she "can't stand" her three kids - who are "all so close in age and so young".
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"All they do is yell, hit each other, fight and destroy my house," she added.
She can't even take them to the park or arrange playdates for them because they're "too full on for other kids".
"This is just a vent post because they have made me cry at least 3 times today," she continued.
" I don't know how to change their behaviour."
And while some commenters were giving her support, others took aim at the mother for using a word like "hate".
"It's disgusting to say you hate them," one wrote in response to the post on The Mum's Lounge Facebook group.
"There's no excuses! Reach out to services and get help, for you and your children."
"If you come on here saying you hate your kids, there will be some raised eyebrows," another insisted.
"It's a horrible thing to say and kids pick up on energy."
As a third agreed, writing: "It's not shaming if she used them words, poor kids!"
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"You hate your kids? I don't think you hate them," someone else commented.
"You're exhausted so please don't say you hate them, you sound like you need a break and some help."
"You can't change them you have to change yourself," another said.
"Do you really feel like you hate them?" someone else questioned.
"I don't think it's bad that people are concerned about a mother saying she hates her kids, that IS a cause of concern.
"You can be overwhelmed and over stimulated but saying and feeling like you hate them is a huge worry for them and the mum."
Different parenting techniques
Here are some widely recognised methods:
Authoritative Parenting
This technique will often foster independence, self-discipline, and high self-esteem in children.
It is often considered the most effective, this technique is where parents set clear expectations - enforcing rules - whilst also showing warmth and support.
Authoritarian Parenting
This is opposite to authoritative parenting, as it is where the parent sets high demands but is low on responsiveness.
It involves ensuring the child is obedient and often employ punitive measures. While this can lead to disciplined behaviour, it may also result in lower self-esteem and social skills in children.
Permissive Parenting
Permissive parents tend to be indulgent and lenient, often taking on a role more akin to a friend than an authority figure. They are highly responsive but lack demandingness, granting children a lot of freedom. This method can nurture creativity and a free-spirited nature but may also result in poor self-regulation and difficulties with authority.
Uninvolved Parenting
Uninvolved or neglectful parenting is marked by low responsiveness and low demands. Parents in this category offer minimal guidance, nurturing, or attention. This often leaves children feeling neglected, which can have significant negative effects on their emotional and social development.
Helicopter Parenting
Helicopter parents are extremely involved and overprotective, frequently micromanaging their children's lives. Although their goal is to protect and support, this approach can hinder a child's ability to develop independence and problem-solving skills.
Free-Range Parenting
Free-range parenting encourages children to explore and learn from their surroundings with minimal parental interference. This method promotes independence and resilience but requires a safe and supportive environment to be successful.
Attachment Parenting
According to Attachment parenting focuses on physical closeness and emotional bonding, often through practices such as co-sleeping and baby-wearing. This approach aims to create secure attachments and emotional well-being, but demands significant time and emotional commitment from parents.
Each of these parenting techniques has its own set of strengths and weaknesses. The key is to find a balanced approach that aligns with the family's values and meets the child's needs for a healthy, happy upbringing.
"Sounds like you're at your breaking point, that's completely understandable," another agreed.
"Little kids close in age is brutal. But I just want to say, try not to say you hate your kids.
"Words like that can stick, even if you're just venting.
"It's okay to hate the chaos, the yelling, the constant nagging.. but saying you hate them might hurt more than it helps, even for yourself."
However, there were also comments from people defending the mum, with many admitting they have felt the same on occasion.
"I get it, I don't really hate my kids, I love them with all my heart but on a real bad day I've had the thought pop in," one wrote.
"I'm sure you don't hate your kids," another said.
"You're just extremely overwhelmed, and overstimulated. And this is okay.
"Motherhood is brutal at times!"
"I don't believe you hate your children," a third commented.
"But you hate their behaviour."
"I have 3 kids under 5, I'm also the same way," someone else admitted.
"I hate life - sick of medicating my kids just to sleep as a normal person or just to eat," another sighed.
"Sick of yelling and screaming just to be heard, sick of never owning anything nice."
"I hate my kid sometimes too man," someone else wrote.
"Look, nobody is perfect, parenthood is a LOT. I'm sure you're doing your best, give yourself a break!"
"Oh mama, I hear you so deeply," another sympathised.
"Please know that you're not a bad mum - you're a burnt out one, and for good reason.
"What you're describing would push anyone to their edge."
