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Yahoo
25-05-2025
- General
- Yahoo
I'm an etiquette expert – here's how to recline your plane seat without causing air rage
Reclining a plane seat can lead to ferocious air rage. This makes the advice here on the etiquette around this seemingly innocent manoeuvre all the more important. It comes courtesy of Diane Gottsman, author and founder of the Protocol School of Texas, who leans into the debate around leaning back with definitive advice. She admits that she herself is not a recliner. She tells The Independent: "Personally, I don't recline my seat and I'm not uncomfortable because I am not very tall. "It does not take a great deal for me to feel comfortable." But Diane understands why many passengers need to reangle themselves and has this key "must" for them. She reveals: "I do understand wanting to be comfortable in your seat. However, when someone reclines their seat, they should at least look backwards to make sure they are not cramping someone's longer legs. "Be respectful of fellow passengers. Airplanes are generally very tight on space and it's polite to recline with courtesy." Diane suggests that to further reduce the risk of "recline rage", you could also tell the person behind: "I'm going to lean back a bit and want to let you know." But she stresses that you should "be prepared for a negative reaction and a definite eye roll". "If the space looks tight and you're on a short flight, use your best judgment," continues Diane. "If it's an overnight flight, it's certainly a different consideration, where a reclined seat is an expectation." But regardless of the length of flight or the time of day, Diane underscores that you should not recline during drink or meal service "for obvious reasons". She adds: "Remember, the seat is not your personal property and is not your living-room recliner. Just because you can recline, doesn't mean you should." Is it okay to object to someone's request to recline? "You can certainly say, if someone asks, 'I would prefer you not recline,'' says Diane. But she stresses that 'it's important to think about how the other person is going to react' and there's never a guarantee it'll be in a calm manner. For more from Diane visit
Fox News
23-05-2025
- General
- Fox News
Splitting a restaurant bill with friends? Expert shares 'most desirable' approach
Dining out can be an expensive undertaking. Dining out with friends can be even more costly. When dining with others at a restaurant, what's the best approach to settling the tab when the check arrives? An etiquette expert revealed the best way to avoid those awkward moments or potential conflicts that could damage a friendship. "It's not uncommon for friends at a restaurant to suggest at the end of the meal, 'Let's just split the bill equally,'" Diane Gottsman, founder and owner of the Protocol School of Texas in San Antonio, told Fox News Digital. "At this point, there are several people at the table agreeing outwardly but secretly irritated that they are overpaying for other people's food and drink. It feels uncomfortable because no one wants to be the person that speaks up." To avoid this situation, said Gottsman, it's important to communicate in advance. Someone with financial constraints might be inclined to pay separately. "Let the server know directly who you are going to be responsible for when the bill comes." "The most desirable and sophisticated way to handle this situation is to look directly at the server when he approaches you and say, 'I'm going to take these two' or 'Please give me a separate check,'" said Gottsman. "Let the server know directly who you are going to be responsible for when the bill comes. It's always better to separate it at the beginning rather than at the end." If you do decide to split the bill evenly, it's best to know what the others at your table are eating or drinking. Alcohol can quickly add up when it comes to the final bill, which might leave some feeling uneasy, especially if someone else at your table isn't drinking. "If someone decides to order an extremely expensive bottle of wine, for example, you can speak up and say, 'Hey guys, please enjoy, but I don't want to pay for that wine because I'm not drinking. Letting you know now.'" Splitting a bill down the middle can sometimes be the easiest, least-complicated way to handle things, but people with children should consider paying separately, said Gottsman. "You should also not expect for everyone to assume that splitting the bill is going to be appreciated," she said. "If you speak out once, there are going to be several others [who] are going to take a huge sigh of relief because you verbalized what they were thinking." Another piece of advice, Gottsman told Fox News Digital, is to avoid such scenarios with someone who you know "historically gouges you on the bill." "You can say, I'm going to pass on the invitation, but let's get together next week for lunch," said Gottsman. "In other words, accept an invitation where you can navigate how the bill is paid." In the end, said Gottsman, setting expectations is one of the best ways "to get around this uncomfortable yet common scenario."
The Independent
20-05-2025
- General
- The Independent
I'm an etiquette expert – here's how to recline your plane seat without causing air rage
Reclining a plane seat can lead to ferocious air rage. This makes the advice here on the etiquette around this seemingly innocent manoeuvre all the more important. It comes courtesy of Diane Gottsman, author and founder of the Protocol School of Texas, who leans into the debate around leaning back with definitive advice. She admits that she herself is not a recliner. She tells The Independent: "Personally, I don't recline my seat and I'm not uncomfortable because I am not very tall. "It does not take a great deal for me to feel comfortable." But Diane understands why many passengers need to reangle themselves and has this key "must" for them. She reveals: "I do understand wanting to be comfortable in your seat. However, when someone reclines their seat, they should at least look backwards to make sure they are not cramping someone's longer legs. "Be respectful of fellow passengers. Airplanes are generally very tight on space and it's polite to recline with courtesy." Diane suggests that to further reduce the risk of "recline rage", you could also tell the person behind: "I'm going to lean back a bit and want to let you know." But she stresses that you should "be prepared for a negative reaction and a definite eye roll". "If the space looks tight and you're on a short flight, use your best judgment," continues Diane. "If it's an overnight flight, it's certainly a different consideration, where a reclined seat is an expectation." But regardless of the length of flight or the time of day, Diane underscores that you should not recline during drink or meal service "for obvious reasons". She adds: "Remember, the seat is not your personal property and is not your living-room recliner. Just because you can recline, doesn't mean you should." Is it okay to object to someone's request to recline? "You can certainly say, if someone asks, 'I would prefer you not recline,'' says Diane. But she stresses that 'it's important to think about how the other person is going to react' and there's never a guarantee it'll be in a calm manner.
