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Yahoo
3 days ago
- Politics
- Yahoo
School shooting leaves Austria's second city in shock and grief
There is shock, sadness and disbelief in Graz, after the worst shooting in modern Austrian history left 11 people dead, including the gunman. "We never could have imagined that this could have happened here, in our place. It's a sad day for the whole city," said Reka, who lives close to the school. For many years, Austria had been spared the pain of mass school shootings. But that all changed at about 10:00 on Tuesday when a former student ran amok at a secondary school in the Dreierschützengasse, close to the main station in Austria's second largest city. Morning classes were under way when the attack took place. Some students at the school would have been taking their final exams. It took police 17 minutes to bring the situation under control. By the time it was over six female victims and three males had died. Hours later, a seventh female victim, an adult woman, died in hospital. Several others remain in hospital, some with critical injuries. The gunman, a 21-year-old Austrian citizen with two firearms, took his own life at the school. A former pupil who never passed his final exams, he is reported to have seen himself as a victim of bullying. Local resident Reka told me she couldn't understand how an attack like this could have happened in her well-ordered city. "This area is quiet, safe and beautiful," she said. "People are nice, the school is good." Austria's President Alexander Van der Bellen said: "This horror cannot be put into words. What happened today in a school in Graz, hits our country right in the heart. These were young people who had their whole lives ahead of them. A teacher who accompanied them on their way." He said there was "nothing at this moment that can alleviate the pain that the parents, grandparents, siblings and friends of those murdered are feeling". Austria's Chancellor Christian Stocker, who rushed to the scene with the Interior Minister Gerhard Karner, called it "a national tragedy, that had shaken the entire country." He said there were no words to describe "the pain and grief that we all – the whole of Austria – is feeling". Three days of mourning have been declared in Austria. Flags on the Hofburg Palace in Vienna, where President van der Bellen has his office, will fly at half-mast. Austria has one of the most heavily armed civilian populations in Europe, with an estimated 30 firearms per 100 persons, according to the Small Arms Survey, an independent research project. But school shootings here are rare. There have been a few incidents over the years that have involved far fewer casualties: In 2018 a 19-year-old was shot by another youth in Mistelbach, north of Vienna In 2012 in St Pölten, a pupil was shot dead by his father In 1997, in Zöbern, a 15-year-old killed a teacher and seriously injured another And in 1993 a 13-year-old boy in Hausleiten seriously injured the head teacher and then killed himself. Austria's most violent gun attack in recent years took place in the heart of Vienna in November 2020. Four people were killed and 22 injured when a convicted jihadist ran through the centre of the city opening fire, before he was eventually shot by police. Machine guns and pump action guns are banned, while revolvers, pistols and semi-automatic weapons are allowed only with official authorisation. Rifles and shotguns are permitted with a firearms licence or a valid hunting licence, or for members of traditional shooting clubs. The Graz gunman is understood to have owned both firearms legally, and he had no criminal record. One of his guns was bought only the day before the attack, according to one report. Outside the school, a young man on a bicycle watched as the police allowed security vehicles through the security cordon round the school. "It's horrific," he told me. "This is my home. I can't understand how so many people my age are dead. This shouldn't happen here."
BBC News
3 days ago
- Politics
- BBC News
Graz school shooting: Grief and shock in Austria's second city
There is shock, sadness and disbelief in Graz, after the worst shooting in modern Austrian history left 11 people dead, including the gunman."We never could have imagined that this could have happened here, in our place. It's a sad day for the whole city," said Reka, who lives close to the many years, Austria had been spared the pain of mass school that all changed at about 10:00 on Tuesday when a former student ran amok at a secondary school in the Dreierschützengasse, close to the main station in Austria's second largest classes were under way when the attack took place. Some students at the school would have been taking their final took police 17 minutes to bring the situation under control. By the time it was over six female victims and three males had died. Hours later, a seventh female victim, an adult woman, died in hospital. Several others remain in hospital, some with critical gunman, a 21-year-old Austrian citizen with two firearms, took his own life at the school.A former pupil who never passed his final exams, he is reported to have seen himself as a victim of bullying. Local resident Reka told me she couldn't understand how an attack like this could have happened in her well-ordered city."This area is quiet, safe and beautiful," she said. "People are nice, the school is good."Austria's President Alexander Van der Bellen said: "This horror cannot be put into words. What happened today in a school in Graz, hits our country right in the heart. These were young people who had their whole lives ahead of them. A teacher who accompanied them on their way."He said there was "nothing at this moment that can alleviate the pain that the parents, grandparents, siblings and friends of those murdered are feeling". Austria's Chancellor Christian Stocker, who rushed to the scene with the Interior Minister Gerhard Karner, called it "a national tragedy, that had shaken the entire country." He said there were no words to describe "the pain and grief that we all – the whole of Austria – is feeling".Three days of mourning have been declared in Austria. Flags on the Hofburg Palace in Vienna, where President van der Bellen has his office, will fly at has one of the most heavily armed civilian populations in Europe, with an estimated 30 firearms per 100 persons, according to the Small Arms Survey, an independent research school shootings here are rare. There have been a few incidents over the years that have involved far fewer casualties:In 2018 a 19-year-old was shot by another youth in Mistelbach, north of ViennaIn 2012 in St Pölten, a pupil was shot dead by his fatherIn 1997, in Zöbern, a 15-year-old killed a teacher and seriously injured anotherAnd in 1993 a 13-year-old boy in Hausleiten seriously injured the head teacher and then killed most violent gun attack in recent years took place in the heart of Vienna in November 2020. Four people were killed and 22 injured when a convicted jihadist ran through the centre of the city opening fire, before he was eventually shot by guns and pump action guns are banned, while revolvers, pistols and semi-automatic weapons are allowed only with official authorisation. Rifles and shotguns are permitted with a firearms licence or a valid hunting licence, or for members of traditional shooting Graz gunman is understood to have owned both firearms legally, and he had no criminal record. One of his guns was bought only the day before the attack, according to one the school, a young man on a bicycle watched as the police allowed security vehicles through the security cordon round the school."It's horrific," he told me. "This is my home. I can't understand how so many people my age are dead. This shouldn't happen here."
Hindustan Times
07-05-2025
- General
- Hindustan Times
Why do people cheat? Relationship coach decodes 7 possible reasons: 'Isn't always about sex'
Infidelity can be a complex issue, often stemming from deeper underlying factors. On May 6, Reka Dutka, a relationship coach, shared an Instagram post on how understanding the underlying causes of infidelity can help individuals and couples address the root issues and work towards healing and growth. Also read | 7 questions 'that can save any marriage', according to a relationship coach Relationship issues, such as lack of intimacy, trust, or commitment, can contribute to infidelity. (Representative picture: Freepik) In her post titled 'Why do people cheat', Reka shared possible reasons, writing: 'Cheating rarely comes out of nowhere. It is often a symptom of something deeper, not just in the relationship, but in the person who cheats.' She went on to list 'the main emotional or mental states that commonly lead people to cheat': 1. Avoidant emotional repression Reka said, 'They don't know how to sit with discomfort, communicate unmet needs or deal with conflict. Instead of leaning in, they escape. (Not to be confused with being dismissive or fearful avoidant).' 2. Low self-worth or validation seeking 'Some people use attention or sex as a way to feel desirable, seen or alive, especially if they have tied their self-worth to external validation,' she said. 3. Resentment and emotional buildup 'Instead of speaking up about their pain, they silently resent. They act out that resentment by cheating as a form of self-righteous sabotage,' Reka added. 4. Addiction, trauma or impulsive issues She said, 'For some, cheating is less about the relationship and more about dysregulation. They use sex or thrill to escape themselves.' 5. Entitlement or lack of empathy Reka added, 'Some people genuinely believe they deserve to do what they want and minimise the impact of their actions. (This can be narcissistic, but not always).' 6. Fantasies of freedom She further said, 'People in long-term relationships sometimes cheat to rebel against feeling 'trapped' even if the trap is just emotional intimacy they are afraid of.' 7. Core truths 'Most cheating happens in a moment of disconnection: from the partner, from the relationship, or from oneself. Cheating says more about the cheater's inner world than the partner's worth,' Reka shared. Cheating can be about pain or unmet needs She concluded, 'Someone else's betrayal is not a reflection of your worth. It is a reflection of their own disconnection from themselves and their inability to communicate or choose differently. If you have been cheated on, you are allowed to grieve. You are allowed to feel angry, shattered and confused. But you also deserve to heal in a way that does not involve blaming yourself.' Reka's caption read, 'Cheating isn't always about sex. Sometimes it's about pain, emotional disconnection, unmet needs, or trying to feel something when we've gone numb. This post isn't about justifying betrayal. It's about understanding the why beneath the behaviour. Because when we understand the root, we stop repeating the same painful cycles.' Did you know microcheating, often seen as a form of infidelity, includes subtle actions like liking a co-worker's photo or sending direct messages? Click here to know more about it. Note to readers: This article is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.
