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Yahoo
21-05-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Expert Reveals Secrets to Raising Happy Kids
When it comes down to it, what we really want for our kids is for them to be happy. What better way to work on this than to look to Gretchen Rubin, who wrote the book on it. Rubin's bestseller, The Happiness Project, and her award-winning podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin, gives a lot of pointers on finding joy. Her latest book, Secrets of Adulthood, is out now, but in a piece on CNBC, Rubin shared some solid parenting lessons to help us raise happy kids. Related: Rubin's lessons to parents include: 1. Avoid cheering your kids up every single time. It's a slight shift in what parents feel compelled to do. Instead of saying things like "It's fine! Don't let it bother you!" or attempting to snap them out of the bad mood by pointing out the positive, try validating their feelings. Something like, "I understand you are really upset. You're going through a hard thing." might go a long way in helping them through their challenging time and land on the other side in a healthier way. 2. Realize that acceptance is love. Get better grades! You should study this! Why don't you do that? Sound familiar? This could be a parent's way of trying to impress their own wants onto our kids. We don't want to be annoying parents, we want to be accepting parents. Accepting who our kids are, what they like, and how well they do in school is key to letting them feel loved for who they truly are. 3. Be kind to yourself. If we as parents are cranky, kids are going to pick up on it. That creates a big cloud of unhappiness. We can find ways to be kinder to ourselves, finding our own paths to happiness, so we can be a better parent to our kids. Kids will pick up on happy energy and it will shine in them as well. Related: 4. Cherish all the moments. Parents know that sometimes the days feel long but then you blink and your kids have grown four inches, their voices deepened, and they're old enough to not need a babysitter anymore. When we cherish all the moments with our kids, we are building memories with them that will be imprinted on them as they grow into adults. The secret ingredient is love. Up Next:
Axios
02-04-2025
- Lifestyle
- Axios
What one-liners can teach us about life
Bestselling author and happiness expert Gretchen Rubin has distilled life lessons into a new book of aphorisms, " Secrets of Adulthood," out today. Why it matters: Profound truths often come in small packages. What she's saying:"Over and over, I've found that the right aphorism, invoked at the right time, can help me manage the complexities of life," Rubin writes in the book, which she penned for her daughters. One line — "Choose the bigger life" — helped her decide to get a dog. A few memorable gems from Rubin's collection: "Recognize that, like sleeping with a big dog in a small bed, things that are uncomfortable can also be comforting." "The world looks different from a footpath than from a car." "When in doubt about how to spend our time, energy or money, spend it on relationships." "It's easier to notice the exceptional than the familiar, so to observe the obvious requires intense attention." "If we're not failing, we're not trying hard enough." "No tool fits every hand." "If you don't know what to do with yourself, go outside or go to sleep." Carly's thought bubble: The aphorist in my life is my grandfather, aka Pop-Pop, who turns 94 next week. Among his signature sayings:
