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Washington Post
26-05-2025
- Health
- Washington Post
Tara Brach on dealing with fear and uncertainty
The 7 team is off for Memorial Day so we're bringing you a conversation our colleague Elahe Izadi had recently that we've been thinking about a lot. It digs into how to manage what we can't control as the world can feel increasingly uncertain. I Elahe sat down with Tara Brach, a therapist with a PhD in clinical psychology who has also spent years studying Buddhism and mindfulness. Tara teaches meditation, and she's written several books including one called 'Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha.' If you're interested in learning more about her work or accessing her podcast and meditations, you can find that here. This episode was produced by Emma Talkoff and mixed by Sam Bair. It was edited by Maggie Penman. Subscribe to The Washington Post here.
Washington Post
17-05-2025
- Health
- Washington Post
How to deal with fear and uncertainty
The world can seem like a really scary place right now. Many of us look around and see wars, climate change, economic uncertainty and a lot of overwhelming things we can't control. So today we're going to share a conversation about fear. Elahe Izadi spoke to Tara Brach, a therapist with a PhD in clinical psychology who has also spent years studying Buddhism and mindfulness. She teaches meditation, and she's written several books including one called 'Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha.' If you're interested in learning more about her work or accessing her podcast and meditations, you can find that here. Today's show was produced by Emma Talkoff and mixed by Sam Bair. It was edited by Maggie Penman. Subscribe to The Washington Post here.
The Guardian
04-05-2025
- General
- The Guardian
In a culture obsessed with positive thinking, can letting go be a radical act?
Have you ever been in the middle of difficult life circumstances to be told 'let it go' or 'don't dwell on it' as if it were a simple choice? Such advice can have the effect of minimising our distress and abruptly changing the subject. Yet it is not the phrases themselves that are troubling – there is real substance to them – but the missed opportunity to grasp the true meaning of what Buddhist teacher Tara Brach calls 'radical acceptance'. Radical acceptance represents a fundamental principle in both Buddhism and modern psychology and is neatly summarised in the psychotherapeutic expression 'the only way out is through'. In a culture that emphasises positive thinking, many tend to avoid, repress, or downplay negative emotions and complex life events. Acceptance offers a powerful alternative. It encourages us to acknowledge and allow challenging states of mind and paves the way for greater wholeness, healing and ease. However, acceptance cannot be achieved instantaneously or via platitudes, nor can it be attained through willpower alone. It requires consistent effort and repeated application. In an era where viral self-help mantras like Mel Robbins' 'Let Them' theory seem appealing, it is tempting to seek quick fixes to complex problems. However, authentic radical acceptance involves more than detaching from others' behaviours; it requires accepting one's own fluctuating mind states and engaging with the world from a place of wisdom, flexibility and humility. When my immediate family member died recently after a prolonged period of illness, the dimensions of my grief were (and continue to be) varied – sometimes jagged, sometimes soft and sometimes hard to accept. Yet I reminded myself that nothing was wrong. This was not a mistake. It was exactly as it was. Over months, I noted 'anguish', 'desperation', 'bargaining', 'funny story', 'loving memory', 'fretting', 'attempt to fix', and so on. With time, a relationship of friendliness emerged and, alongside it, a growing acceptance of what had initially felt unbearable. The practice is to accept each small, containable moment over and over rather than being lured into a grand narrative about a catastrophic life event. According to Brach, radical acceptance invites us to pause, recognise and allow whatever arises within us with a spirit of tenderness and care. It can take the form of a gentle 'yes' or a knowing bow to our predominant experience, whatever shape it takes. As we learn to accept complicated and unwanted feelings such as confusion, disbelief, despair, judgment and resistance, we gradually relate to our circumstances with realism and courage. We notice our thoughts, yearnings and corresponding body sensations and set aside our desire to control or improve our situation. With time, we sow seeds of compassion, even joy, amid difficulty. And our wisdom grows. Of course, this is easier said than done. Even in spiritual circles, there is a tendency to bypass difficult experiences or unacceptable emotions. The late Buddhist psychotherapist John Welwood coined the term spiritual bypassing to warn against misusing spirituality, even popular psychology, to avoid the necessary emotional and psychological work required for healing. While certain interpretations of spirituality can make us feel good or righteous in the moment, they can also serve to control and avoid what is happening beneath the surface, which has been proven to result in undesired psychological outcomes. So, what does it mean to practise acceptance without bypassing intolerable experiences and feelings? The first step is admitting that what we are going through is hard and that it is very human to resist what is painful. We might start by saying, 'I am suffering right now' or 'This is hard, and I don't like it'. Next, we strive to set aside our desire to replace negative experiences with positive ones. While this may seem at odds with the pursuit of happiness – particularly if we equate happiness with pleasure – it offers a more realistic and potentially fruitful way of being with our human predicament. As we become more willing to accept the unacceptable, buried, unconscious memories and feelings may emerge and ask to be held in loving attention. You might wonder: what if things are genuinely catastrophic? What if I am faced with circumstances I cannot possibly accept? The answer lies in abandoning the struggle. In Buddhism, we are encouraged to 'let things be' – a phrase many Buddhist teachers prefer to 'letting things go'. This means seeing each moment, whether pleasant or unpleasant, as complete and whole, reflecting the flow of causes and conditions that constitute it. Let it be! You don't have to enjoy every part of reality – in fact, things would get boring and you might get very disappointed if you only welcomed pleasant experiences – but instead, you can allow it to unfold as it will. As Rumi writes in his beloved poem The Guest House, 'This being human is a guest house … the dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.' He calls on us to invite all 'unexpected visitors' in – it's a radical proposition. Buddhist monk Ajahn Sumedho captures the heart of radical acceptance with the instruction, 'It is like this right now. Life is like this right now.' In moments of distress, we might repeat these words. The striking part of his suggestion is that you do not have to do anything in particular. Life flows on and you meet it precisely as it is. With time, you may come to realise that you are not the boss of your life or anyone else's. And that fact in itself may offer you inexplicable relief. Dr Nadine Levy is a senior lecturer at the Nan Tien Institute. She coordinates its health and social wellbeing program and the graduate certificate in applied mindfulness
