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Former 'Bachelor' star Vanessa Grimaldi says she had a second miscarriage: 'My heart aches for the baby I never got to meet'
Vanessa Grimaldi is opening up about her second miscarriage. On Monday, the former 'Bachelor' star took to social media to share her feelings and 'grief' while navigating her second pregnancy loss. The 37-year-old Montréal native shared a photo of herself to Instagram, drinking a Tim Hortons Iced Cappuccino along with her thoughts on the 'complicated' grief she's experiencing.
'This is my second miscarriage. Saying that out loud still feels surreal. Especially finding out during my ultrasound. Again,' she said. 'It adds another layer to the grief, one that's heavier, more complicated and harder to put into words.'
Grimaldi said she's been finding comfort in her 2-year-old son Winston's bedroom. The former reality star said she was so 'grateful' for her son, who she shares with husband Josh Wolfe.
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'And at the same time, my heart aches for the baby I never got to meet,' she said. 'I keep thinking about Winston as a newborn. All the firsts, the sleepy snuggles, the tiny milestones. I imagined getting to live through those moments again.'
Grimaldi said her 'mind feels foggy' and that she's been doing her best to keep busy instead of 'sitting too long' with her grief.
'Grief is strange,' she added. 'It sneaks in, even in the middle of gratitude.'
She added that her husband brought her an iced cappuccino, something she had avoided since she found out she was pregnant.
'It feels simple, but also like the first small step back to myself.'
She concluded her post with a message of 'love and comfort' to other women experiencing loss.
'And maybe the next time you're sipping an iced cappuccino you'll be reminded that you're not alone in this. I see you, I'm grieving with you.'
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In the caption of the post, Grimaldi shared the statistic that 1 in 4 known pregnancies end in miscarriage.
That number could be higher, since many women can miscarry before they know they're pregnant. Eighty per cent of miscarriages occur within the first trimester (before the 12th week of pregnancy), however, the term applies to pregnancy loss before the 20th week. Pregnancy loss after the 20th week - the halfway point of a full gestation- is considered a stillbirth.
Grimaldi's post earned an outpouring of love from followers, many of whom have also dealt with pregnancy loss.
"Such a beautiful post. I have two angel babies. My heart is with anyone who shares the same loss and grief. God Bless," one follower wrote.
"[I] so needed this. I too am going through a miscarriage," another said. "No one talks about this and the heartache and tribulations of grief! Hang in there... focus on you and Winston."
"I had one myself in January and the pain is still so profound," someone else said. "Do all your crying, you're entitled but get right back up and carry on for your family, especially your son. I had my miscarriage on the day of my daughter's second bday. When I look back on her pics, my smile is there but my eyes are not."
In 2024, Grimaldi shared that she had experienced a miscarriage via social media.
'I knew I wanted to help other women feel less alone in their miscarriage journey,' she wrote. 'I know the shock, the pain, the confusion, the feeling of hopelessness and uncomfortable 'When are you having another?' Conversations all too well.'
