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Yahoo
28-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Every time I meet someone new, I worry they'll find my scarred face hideous
Hi Ugly, I just turned 25. My long-term partner and I broke up recently, and I've been going on dates. My problem is I hate my skin. I have large pores, acne scarring, chicken pox scarring. Every time I meet someone new, I feel scared that they will find me hideous and think I catfished them. I've also been zooming in on pictures of my skin and looking at it in different lighting, which is worsening my insecurity. Rationally, I know men probably won't mind, because my previous partner – who had perfect skin! – still found me beautiful. And nobody I've gone on a date with has seemed to care so far. But I still criticize myself for it over and over again. How do I get over this? – Not A Catfish Back when I was on the apps, I'd upload slightly unflattering photos of myself: an up-close, no-makeup selfie; a wide shot in a muumuu the size of a small circus tent. I wanted to meet men who weren't primarily interested in looks. Bonus: in person, I exceeded all expectations! I've found love two, maybe even three times this way – the last one stuck – despite the fact that my skin, like yours, is marked by acne scars, visible pores and a smattering of old chicken pox pits (plus the burgeoning wrinkles of a woman 10 years your senior). I call this the Inverse Catfish Method. If it seems like I have a neurotic need to diminish myself first before a man does it, well … guilty as charged. After reading your question, Not A Catfish, I'd say we have this in common. How did we end up this way? Aside from, you know, living under patriarchy, internalizing the male gaze and unconsciously inhaling the lessons of beauty culture like so much secondhand smoke. For me, it was my ex-husband. A few months after we got married, he started making comments about my skin: suggesting I wear more makeup, telling me to 'go on medication already' when I broke out. This charming new habit coincided with his decision to join Donald Trump's mailing list and purchase a pack of 'Make America Great Again' plastic straws as a 'joke' to rile me up. Coincidence? I wonder if something similar is contributing to your insecurity. You're wading into the dating pool when the most powerful men in the world – and Kid Rock – are arguing that women exist to serve men; that our faces should be optimized for beauty, our bodies optimized for breeding. And it's working! Data shows gen Z men are embracing regressive gender roles and leaning right. The resulting dating scene is reportedly in a sorry state. There is a possibility that some men are looking for a barely sentient Stepford wife with skin like glass, like a screen, like an inanimate object under their thumbs. But there are also many men who want a real, live, regular partner. On subway seats, in coffee shops, across candlelit tables, I see people with scars and spots and dark under-eye circles being held and kissed and loved like it's the most natural thing in the world. Because it is! You don't have to fix a single thing about your face to find that. It strikes me that becoming obsessed with your skin started with a change in your romantic life. In Love: A New Understanding of an Ancient Emotion, philosopher Simon May writes that the loved one can give us something essential we can't generate alone, like the feeling of being truly understood or 'safety from a paralyzing source of insecurity'. Love 'empowers us by intensifying our sense of existence and also humbles us by bringing to light our ontological smallness', he says. It expands our world and puts the little things, like acne scars, in proportion. But when love is lost, it shrinks the world – to the size of a pore, perhaps. It may 'tear us from the familiar moorings of an 'attachment' or undermine our self-esteem', according to May, leaving us 'less able to be present' and scrambling to prove we still exist. We reach for something, anything, to anchor us. Cue: hyperfixation on your face. Which makes sense! Skin is solid. It senses the outside world and confirms you're in it and of it. It's also the focus of countless beauty industry ads that claim attaining clear, poreless perfection will finally make you the real you, the 'best version of you'. Sometimes, they even frame skincare as a replacement for love. See Cutocin, a brand that markets its Social Exchange Serum as an alternative to the oxytocin-releasing effects of, well, social exchange. But it isn't. More from Jessica DeFino's : I could tell you that making peace with every last epidermal divot is an inside job – to love yourself first, that no product or partner can help you. But I don't think we're meant to love, heal, or even become ourselves alone. Humans are communal creatures. We need each other. I'm not saying you're doomed to spiral about your selfies until a boyfriend appears. The perspective-shifting power of love that May describes applies to non-romantic relationships, too. Family, friends and communities can bring us a similar sense 'of an ethical home, of power over our sense of existing and of a call to our destiny', he says. 'A work of art, a vocation, a god, a new country, even a landscape' can inspire sublimity, too – that feeling of being both empowered and humbled. So stare at a sunset instead of the mirror. Put down the phone and pick up a guitar. Go to a museum! Volunteer! Take a mini road trip with your mom! Find God in the mosh pit of a punk show! Make your world bigger, and soon enough, your scars will seem appropriately small. One last tip: Data from Pew Research Center shows only one in five partnered adults under 30 first connected with their current partner online. Some of the above suggestions double as great ways to meet potential partners in real life – no anxiety-inducing online avatar necessary. Delete her. Be free. But if you continue online dating? Give the Inverse Catfish Method a go.
Pink Villa
26-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Pink Villa
5 Bollywood films that faced delays before finally hitting screens: Shah Rukh Khan's Raees to Akshay Kumar's Mere Jeevan Saathi
Several Bollywood films saw many delays before finally reaching audiences, battling challenges like financial crises, box office clashes, and legal disputes. Despite these hurdles, they eventually made their way to the big screen, sometimes years later. Today, let's dive into some notable movies that endured long waits before their release like Shah Rukh Khan's Raees and Akshay Kumar's Mere Jeevan Saathi, proving that good things truly come to those who wait. 1. Raees (2017) Delay Duration: 1 year The 2017 film Raees, starring Shah Rukh Khan in the lead role, showed the superstar's brooding intensity and his performance is still remembered till date. The crime drama faced a delay to avoid box office clash. Set to release in Eid 2016, it was pushed to Republic Day 2017 release to avoid clash with Salman Khan's Sultan. The film was further rescheduled to January 25, 2017, to avoid another box-office clash with Kaabil. Directed by Rahul Dholakia and produced by Red Chillies Entertainment and Excel Entertainment, it also stars Nawazuddin Siddiqui in an important role. Raees was a significant commercial and critical success. 2. Hum Tumhare Hain Sanam (2002) Delay Duration: 6 years Hum Tumhare Hain Sanam stars Shah Rukh Khan, Madhuri Dixit and Salman Khan in lead roles. The film shows a complex love triangle as it revolves around themes of insecurity and emotional turmoil. SRK's character gets jealous and finds it difficult to deal with his wife's close bond with her childhood friend. The film was delayed for six years. Producer K.C. Bokadia was dealing with the financial crisis in the 1990s despite giving big hits like Aaj Ka Arjun and Phool Baney Angaaray leading to the delay in Hum Tumhare Hain Sanam. Though star-studded, it was a moderate success. The film became an average grosser earning Rs 34.76 crore worldwide and was made on a budget of Rs 12 crore. 3. Ugly (2014) Delay Duration: 2 years Directed by Anurag Kashyap, the 2014 film Ugly is a neo-noir psychological thriller that revolves around the kidnapping of a young girl. The film showcases human greed, egos, and the perfect presentation of emotions. The film faced a delay in release due to a legal battle with CBFC over anti-smoking disclaimer. Anurag filed a case against the rule of mandatory anti-smoking disclaimer and lost the case. This caused the delay in the release of the film. Ugly became a critical success, but unlike other Anurag's films it wasn't a massive box office hit. 4. Pakeezah (1972) Delay Duration: 16 years Pakeezah is directed by Kamal Amrohi and features Meena Kumari, Ashok Kumar, Kamal Kapoor, and Veena. Set in early 20th-century Lucknow, the story follows a courtesan and dancer who clings to the belief that her purity, both of heart and body, will lead her to find true love and honor. However, the film faced many obstacles. The personal fallout between director Kamal Amrohi and lead actress Meena Kumari in 1964 caused delays, and Kumari's struggle with alcoholism often hampered shooting. Tragically, she passed away just weeks after the film's release. Released in 1972, Pakeezah emerged as a landmark hit, becoming one of the most commercially successful films of its time. 5. Mere Jeevan Saathi (2006) Delay Duration: 2 years Starring Akshay Kumar, Karisma Kapoor, and Ameesha Patel in lead roles, Mere Jeevan Saathi revolves around Vicky, madly in love with Anjali. However, things take a turn when his ex-college friend Natasha enters their life and aspires to make him a global singer at all costs. The film faced delays due to several reasons like timing of cricket matches, production's financial crisis and more. There were also reports that a 'cat fight' between Kareena and Ameesha was also one of the reasons behind its delay. Mere Jeevan Saathi did not become an average grosser upon its release. Why do films get delayed? Films get delayed due to a mix of several reasons such as creative, logistical, and external challenges. Issues such as creative disagreements between cast and crew, script rewrites, reshoots, stalling progress, scheduling conflicts, financial crisis, filming halted natural disasters, pandemics, post-production hurdles, and more push release date ahead. Sometimes even to avoid box office clashes or to release it on certain festivals, studios also delay films' releases. The above-mentioned Bollywood films prove a perfect example of being patient and never losing hope. Despite several delays, the cast and crew remained committed to bringing the film to the audiences, and their wish ultimately got fulfilled. It shows passion, patience, and persistence ultimately pays off when the time comes.
Sinar Daily
25-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Sinar Daily
'Kollywood Queen' Simran lights up Edison awards in Penang
Simran's recent comeback in 'Good, Bad, Ugly' rekindled her on-screen chemistry with the film's lead actor Ajith Kumar. 24 May 2025 12:00pm Simran's recent comeback in 'Good, Bad, Ugly' rekindled her on-screen chemistry with the film's lead actor Ajith Kumar. - Photo GEORGE TOWN - Penang's Setia Spice Arena transformed into a slice of Kollywood - as the Chennai, India-based Tamil language film industry is known as - last Saturday during the 17th Edison Awards, an annual event recognising the industry's legendary and emerging talents. From the moment the red carpet rolled out at 5pm, fans were treated to a dazzling parade of Kollywood's biggest names, among them being 'Premam' actress Madonna Sebastian; the legendary Kushboo Sundar who has graced over 185 films; acclaimed choreographer Baba Baskar; Santhosh Kumar, better known as Sandy Master; and director Venkat Prabhu. However, the night truly belonged to actress Simran Rishi Bagga, the evergreen heroine of the late 1990s and early 2000s, who received the Golden Empress of Tamil Cinema award. Simran's recent comeback in 'Good, Bad, Ugly' rekindled her on-screen chemistry with the film's lead actor Ajith Kumar. The two have paired in successful movies such as 'Vaali' in 1999, 'Aval Varuvaala' (1998) and 'Unnai Kodu Ennai Tharuven' (2000). At the recent Edison Awards, the 49-year-old actress proved once again why she remains a fan favourite by charming audiences with her grace, selfies with fans and a heartfelt wave on the red carpet. The six-hour event honoured excellence across more than 30 categories, recognising the contributions of Kollywood directors, musicians, choreographers and technicians. Among those who received awards were Sakthi Sree Gopalan, who clinched Best Female Playback Singer for her captivating vocals; Venkat Prabhu, who walked away with Best Director for his film 'GOAT;' and Sandy Master, who won Best Dance Choreographer. Adding his signature humour to the mix was crowd favourite Red Kingsley who took home the Best Comedian award, while Ananth Ram was named Best Debut Director. Meanwhile, 74-year-old veteran actor YG Mahendran was honoured with the Lifetime Achievement Award. The event was elevated by dance and music performances, along with a fashion showcase by Malaysian artists, making it a celebration of both Kollywood and local talent. Meanwhile, Penang chief minister Chow Kon Yeow, who officiated the event, said hosting such a prestigious ceremony aligned perfectly with the Penang2030 vision to diversify the state economy, strengthen creative industries and establish Penang as a leading hub for arts, culture and innovation. He described the event as not only a celebration of artistic excellence but also a platform to elevate Penang's global profile as a destination for cultural diplomacy and creative tourism. "The Edison Awards, I have been told, is a prestigious platform that celebrates both legendary and emerging talents in Tamil cinema. Over the years, it has honoured icons like Vijay, Dhanush, Simbu and Vikram, as well as rising stars like Sivakarthikeyan and Anirudh. "Now that Kollywood has arrived in Penang, I sincerely hope this is just the beginning. Perhaps next, we can welcome Bollywood to our beautiful island too,' he said in his speech. Also present were Penang Tourism and Creative Economy Committee chairman Wong Hon Wai and state Housing and Environment Committee chairman Datuk Seri S. Sundarajoo. - BERNAMA More Like This
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First Post
25-05-2025
- Entertainment
- First Post
Netflix's 'Black Warrant' actor Rahul Bhat criticises Cannes festival, says 'Didn't walk the red carpet for fashion, PR or...'
Rahul highlighted that his appearances at Cannes were rooted in the merit of his films. 'People come here to take pictures on the red carpet.' read more Actor Rahul Bhat, whose films have been officially selected at the Cannes Film Festival twice, has shared his disappointment over how the event seems to have shifted its focus from cinema to style. In a conversation with Brut India, he reflected on how the festival's essence has changed, and many online seem to agree with him. Rahul highlighted that his appearances at Cannes were rooted in the merit of his films. 'People come here to take pictures on the red carpet. But I'm proudly saying that I have walked the red carpet. Shouldn't that be of some value? Instead, I'm having to point out the difference and tell people I was part of official selections.' STORY CONTINUES BELOW THIS AD He also spoke about the struggle to be recognised for the right reasons, 'I walked the red carpet for real, not for fashion. Not for taking pictures, not for PR machinery. I walked the real red carpet. Two of my movies (Ugly, Kennedy) have been (premiered) here. What to do? I am forced to tell this to people, but I don't know how to blow my own trumpet,' he said. Online, many say Cannes has lost its prestige With influencers and celebrities making frequent appearances on the red carpet, the festival's image seems to be shifting, and not everyone is happy about it. 'Not relevant anymore now…. before it used to be film exclusive, now anyone can go there so it's lost its significance,' wrote one Instagram user. Another added, 'It's time Cannes realises that it's a movie's Mecca not a pop gathering.' The sentiment was echoed across several comments, with some calling the festival a 'circus.' 'It's sad to see such a prestigious film festival turn into a circus,' said one. Another remarked, 'Cannes has turned into a circus ! So sad.' One even likened it to another major fashion event: 'They have turned a film festival into a ramp walk , met gala knock off at this point.' A user even joked, 'Soon influencers will go to Noble Prize ceremony too…and when it will happen we must know that the end is near.'
Hindustan Times
23-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Hindustan Times
Rahul Bhat rues how Cannes Film Festival is all about fashion now; internet says it ‘turned into a circus'
There has been growing discontentment among many about how the fashion on the Cannes Film Festival red carpet is overtaking the movies being premiered there. And it looks like actor Rahul Bhat also agrees to it. In an interview with Brut India, he pointed out how much the point of the festival has changed, and the internet agreed. (Also Read: Influencers are taking over Cannes Film Festival. Is it that easy to get there?) Rahul said that he walked on the 'real' red carpet of Cannes twice now, 'People come here to take pictures on the red carpet. But I'm proudly saying that I have walked the red carpet. Shouldn't that be of some value? Instead, I'm having to point out the difference and tell people I was part of official selections.' He then rued how he had to tell people he was at Cannes for the films and not the fashion, 'I walked the red carpet for real, not for fashion. Not for taking pictures, not for PR machinery. I walked the real red carpet. Two of my movies (Ugly, Kennedy) have been (premiered) here. What to do? I am forced to tell this to people, but I don't know how to blow my own trumpet,' he said. With the influx of celebrities, influencers, et al walking the red carpet every day at the Cannes Film Festival, people on the internet believe the exclusivity is gone. 'Not relevant anymore now.... before it used to be film exclusive, now anyone can go there so it's lost its significance,' commented an Instagram user. 'It's time Cannes realises that it's a movie's Mecca not a pop gathering,' wrote another. Some even called it a 'circus', leaving comments like, 'It's sad to see such a prestigious film festival turn into a circus.' and 'Cannes has turned into a circus ! So sad.' One even called it a 'Met Gala knockoff', 'They have turned a film festival into a ramp walk , met gala knock off at this point.' An Instagram user joked about the influencers, writing, 'Soon influencers will go to Noble Prize ceremony when it will happen we must know that the end is near.' Rahul was most recently seen in the web series Black Warrant and Crime Beat.
