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Rakyat Post
2 days ago
- Rakyat Post
The RM200,000 Question: Malaysian Woman Treats Boyfriend Like Human ATM
Subscribe to our FREE A 38-year-old Malaysian man's cry for help on Facebook has become a social media phenomenon, after he detailed how his 31-year-old girlfriend of five years treats him like a walking ATM. The post, shared on the XUAN Facebook page, has triggered a massive online debate about money, relationships, and modern dating expectations. What started as relationship troubles has snowballed into three major financial disputes, resulting in the couple fighting almost daily. The man, clearly at his wits' end, laid out the brutal math of dating someone who expects him to bankroll her entire lifestyle. First Strike: The RM28,000 Japan Dream The girlfriend wants a two-week vacation in Japan with a jaw-dropping budget of RM28,000 – RM5,000 for flights, RM8,000 for accommodation, and RM15,000 for shopping and entertainment. When her boyfriend tentatively suggested she might contribute something, anything, to the trip, she shot him down cold. 'Why should I pay? That's what boyfriends are for,' was essentially her response, according to his post. After two months of arguing, she 'graciously' agreed to cover her own RM2,500 plane ticket. How generous. Spring in Gunma, Japan: Where abandoned railway tracks wind through carpets of purple wildflowers beneath blooming cherry trees. Behind every viral relationship story lies a beautiful trip to Japan that costs more than expected. (Pix: Fernando Fong) Second Strike: The CX-5 Car Loan Saga Next up: she wants a Mazda CX-5 with monthly payments of RM1,500. The problem? Her monthly salary is only RM6,000, which drops to about RM5,000 after taxes and EPF deductions. Basic math suggests this is financial recklessness, but she's convinced she can handle it. Her boyfriend's concerns about the crushing debt load? Completely dismissed. Meet the Mazda CX-5 that's causing relationship drama. (Pix: Third Strike: The RM200,000 Wedding Extravaganza Here's where things truly take off. She's demanding a minimum dowry of RM25,000, plus wedding expenses that could hit RM150,000 – bringing the total close to RM200,000. When he suggested maybe they could use that money for a house down payment instead, she wasn't having it. The cherry on top? After they hypothetically buy a house, she expects him to handle the RM1,000 monthly loan payments on his own. Because apparently, that's 'men's responsibility.' Throughout all this, she has been spending between RM1,000 and RM1,300 monthly on a supplementary credit card that he provides. Double happiness, single income: When your 囍(shuāng xǐ, the traditional Chinese symbol used at weddings) comes with a RM200K price tag and zero financial contribution. (Pix: Fernando Fong) The Verdict is In: Public Opinion Weighs the Cost of Love The financial pressure and fundamental disagreements about money have left him questioning whether they can 'grow together' or if they're just fundamentally incompatible. The post has triggered an avalanche of responses, with the public split between outrage and dark humour. 'She doesn't want a husband, she wants an ATM,' wrote one commenter. 'Run now before you're paying off her CX-5 after marriage too,' warned another. 'When the money stops, so does the love,' observed a particularly cynical user. Some supporters rallied around the woman, arguing that traditional gender roles mean men should provide financially. But the overwhelming sentiment seems to be that this relationship is doomed. When Tradition Meets the Credit Card Statement What makes this story particularly striking is how it captures the collision between traditional expectations and modern financial realities. The man clearly feels trapped between wanting to be generous and being financially drained, while his girlfriend appears genuinely convinced that her expectations are reasonable. The viral nature of the post suggests it's touched a nerve about contemporary dating culture, where financial compatibility has become as important as emotional connection. As one commenter bluntly put it: 'Marriage can't survive on feelings alone – you need matching life values and financial goals.' Whether this couple will overcome their financial struggles remains to be seen, but their story has undoubtedly led to numerous discussions on Malaysian social media. The consensus seems clear: when your partner treats you like a human cash machine, it might be time to close the account. READ MORE : READ MORE : READ MORE : READ MORE : Share your thoughts with us via TRP's . Get more stories like this to your inbox by signing up for our newsletter.
The Sun
6 days ago
- The Sun
M'sian man's wife pays off RM100k gambling debt, files for divorce after relapse
A Malaysian man recently expressed his deep regret over losing his wife and child due to his gambling addiction. In a heartfelt submission on the Facebook page XUAN, he shared that his bad habits led his wife to file for divorce. 'Now I live alone. Every day after work, I come home and stare at the four walls, open my phone and look at old photos of our family of three, and my heart aches as if it's being torn apart. I can barely sleep at night,' he wrote. He admitted to gambling away all of his savings and resorting to loans and maxing out his credit cards. He also confessed to secretly using his wife's savings and stock investment accounts to fund his addiction. 'I hid this from her for half a year before I finally gathered the courage to confess. She chose to forgive me and even helped me pay off RM100,000 in credit card debt,' he revealed. Despite paying off such a large sum, his financial situation worsened, leaving his wife to bear the bulk of the household expenses. Their marriage began to deteriorate as trust was broken. 'If I made even a small mistake, it would be magnified; even if I did something right, it was just 'what you should have done',' he claimed. Things took a turn for the worse when he relapsed and gambled again, using and losing her savings again. He confessed immediately this time, but his wife no longer hesitated—she filed for divorce. He initially refused to accept the divorce and begged for another chance to make things right, but she stood firm, telling him she could no longer trust someone who had betrayed her repeatedly. 'She said she had no reason to hold on anymore. 'It was only then that I truly woke up. Why did I never think about the consequences when I was gambling? Why did I keep saying my wife and child were everything, yet I personally destroyed this family?' he reflected. He said he was especially worried about his wife having to raise their three-year-old child alone. Still, she firmly asked him to leave the home, saying she could no longer continue living with him. Following their separation, he even attempted to take his own life, thinking his death might allow her to claim compensation to help repay the debts. However, the attempt failed. He chose not to tell his wife, fearing she would see it as a ploy for sympathy. 'The only thing I can do now is work hard to pay off my debts, and occasionally see my child,' he said. Facing this difficult situation, he wondered whether he should continue hoping for his wife's forgiveness or let her go and wish her a better life. Netizens overwhelmingly supported the wife and advised the man to release her from the burden of his mistakes, fearing a third relapse if she ever took him back. 'Set her free. You're not going to change. If she stays with you, it will only lead to endless debt and a bottomless pit that can never be filled,' one user commented. 'A gambler can't change. If you truly wanted to change, you wouldn't keep making the same mistake over and over again. Let her go—set someone's daughter free,' another added.
The Sun
23-04-2025
- General
- The Sun
'Throw them out if you want' – Siblings tell M'sian woman
A Malaysian woman's heartbreaking experience of being left alone to care for her ageing parents has sparked outrage online, after she shared her story anonymously on XUAN's Facebook page. Despite growing up in a moderately comfortable family with two older brothers, the woman—who remains unmarried and still lives with her parents—revealed she's been left to shoulder the entire burden of caregiving. ALSO READ: 'You think I'm a bank?' - Son stuns shoppers by slapping elderly mum over RM1 at store 'Now that my parents are getting older, my mother has become less mobile and is unable to take care of herself. 'My father's health is also declining—he's in and out of the hospital. Since I still live with them, the responsibility of caring for them naturally falls on me. 'Outside of work, all my time goes into looking after them. I can't even enjoy my weekends freely. Every time they need to go for check-ups or hospital visits, I have to take leave to accompany them. I basically have no personal life anymore,' she wrote. 'I've tried talking to my brothers about the possibility of placing our mom in a nursing home, but once money is involved, everything becomes complicated. 'A decent nursing home for someone who needs full-time care costs at least RM4000 a month. Even if we split the cost, that's around RM1400 each. As soon as this came up, my brothers started shirking responsibility—one said he couldn't afford it, another told me to apply for financial aid. It's always the same attitude: 'It's your problem.'' 'They already do nothing to help with caring for our parents. Even when Dad was hospitalized for a whole week, I was the one who took leave to be with him. 'When I asked if we could take turns taking leave, they claimed their jobs were too busy or that their companies wouldn't allow it,' she shared. 'They just refuse to help. On weekends, when I ask them to come over so I can have a break, they always have excuses—'my son has tuition,' 'my daughter has dance class,' 'my wife needs to visit her family'... It's like they've never once thought this responsibility should be shared. 'Recently, we got into a heated argument over all this. In frustration, I blurted out, 'Don't force me to throw our parents out onto the street!' And one of them coldly replied, 'If that's what you want to do, we can't stop you. If you're not afraid of getting struck by lightning, go ahead.' 'That response broke me. I don't understand—why is all the responsibility of caring for our parents falling on me alone? Just because I'm single, do I have to be morally blackmailed into sacrificing my life? Why is filial piety suddenly the sole duty of the unmarried child, and not a shared responsibility among all of us?' she asked.
The Sun
23-04-2025
- General
- The Sun
'Throw them out if you want' – Siblings tell M'sian woman who asked for help caring for parents
A Malaysian woman's heartbreaking experience of being left alone to care for her ageing parents has sparked outrage online, after she shared her story anonymously on XUAN's Facebook page. Despite growing up in a moderately comfortable family with two older brothers, the woman—who remains unmarried and still lives with her parents—revealed she's been left to shoulder the entire burden of caregiving. ALSO READ: 'You think I'm a bank?' - Son stuns shoppers by slapping elderly mum over RM1 at store 'Now that my parents are getting older, my mother has become less mobile and is unable to take care of herself. 'My father's health is also declining—he's in and out of the hospital. Since I still live with them, the responsibility of caring for them naturally falls on me. 'Outside of work, all my time goes into looking after them. I can't even enjoy my weekends freely. Every time they need to go for check-ups or hospital visits, I have to take leave to accompany them. I basically have no personal life anymore,' she wrote. 'I've tried talking to my brothers about the possibility of placing our mom in a nursing home, but once money is involved, everything becomes complicated. 'A decent nursing home for someone who needs full-time care costs at least RM4000 a month. Even if we split the cost, that's around RM1400 each. As soon as this came up, my brothers started shirking responsibility—one said he couldn't afford it, another told me to apply for financial aid. It's always the same attitude: 'It's your problem.'' 'They already do nothing to help with caring for our parents. Even when Dad was hospitalized for a whole week, I was the one who took leave to be with him. 'When I asked if we could take turns taking leave, they claimed their jobs were too busy or that their companies wouldn't allow it,' she shared. 'They just refuse to help. On weekends, when I ask them to come over so I can have a break, they always have excuses—'my son has tuition,' 'my daughter has dance class,' 'my wife needs to visit her family'... It's like they've never once thought this responsibility should be shared. 'Recently, we got into a heated argument over all this. In frustration, I blurted out, 'Don't force me to throw our parents out onto the street!' And one of them coldly replied, 'If that's what you want to do, we can't stop you. If you're not afraid of getting struck by lightning, go ahead.' 'That response broke me. I don't understand—why is all the responsibility of caring for our parents falling on me alone? Just because I'm single, do I have to be morally blackmailed into sacrificing my life? Why is filial piety suddenly the sole duty of the unmarried child, and not a shared responsibility among all of us?' she asked.
