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Scottish Sun
3 days ago
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- Scottish Sun
My husband took his own life after I left him for first love – the guilt is unbearable
My childhood sweetheart has tried to be supportive but lately things between us have been strained DEAR DEIDRE My husband took his own life after I left him for first love – the guilt is unbearable Click to share on X/Twitter (Opens in new window) Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window) DEAR DEIDRE: I LEFT my husband for my childhood sweetheart – but now I'm living with a guilt that's tearing my new relationship apart. I'm 47, my husband was 52 and we were together for more than 20 years. We once had an amazing relationship but over time we grew apart and, while I cared for him deeply, the love faded. Sign up for Scottish Sun newsletter Sign up Around that time, I reconnected with my first boyfriend via Facebook. I've known him since primary school and it started as a friendly exchange — then old feelings resurfaced. We began seeing each other in secret but, eventually, I told my husband the truth and left him. He was devastated but I truly thought it would be the best thing for us both in the long run. A few months later, he took his own life. It shocked me to my core and the guilt has been unbearable. I blame myself every single day, and it's weighing me down. My childhood sweetheart has tried to be supportive but lately things between us have been strained. I cry often, snap at him and find it hard to be emotionally present in our relationship. As a result, he's started to distance himself from me. I feel torn between guilt, shame and deep sadness. I'm not sure I deserve happiness after what has happened. I want to fix my new relationship but I don't know how to move forward or even live with myself. Relationships, jealousy and envy DEIDRE SAYS: Losing your husband in such a tragic way is a deeply traumatic experience but it's important to remember it isn't your fault. Allow yourself to grieve for your husband and the relationship you had with him, as you move forward. Guilt forms a substantial part of grief no matter what the circumstances of the death, but particularly when suicide is involved. However, it doesn't make you responsible for what happened to your husband. You're Not Alone EVERY 90 minutes in the UK a life is lost to suicide It doesn't discriminate, touching the lives of people in every corner of society – from the homeless and unemployed to builders and doctors, reality stars and footballers. It's the biggest killer of people under the age of 35, more deadly than cancer and car crashes. And men are three times more likely to take their own life than women. Yet it's rarely spoken of, a taboo that threatens to continue its deadly rampage unless we all stop and take notice, now. That is why The Sun launched the You're Not Alone campaign. The aim is that by sharing practical advice, raising awareness and breaking down the barriers people face when talking about their mental health, we can all do our bit to help save lives. Let's all vow to ask for help when we need it, and listen out for others… You're Not Alone. If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health problems, the following organisations provide support: CALM, 0800 585 858 Heads Together, HUMEN Mind, 0300 123 3393 Papyrus, 0800 068 41 41 Samaritans, 116 123 Your partner may not fully understand the complexity of your emotions but it's essential to be open with him. Communicate the emotional turmoil you're facing and let him know that while you are struggling, you want to work through it together. It might be helpful to seek counselling to help you process the grief. Cruse Bereavement Care (0808 808 1677, provides specialised counselling. My support pack, Coping With Bereavement, will also help. Get in touch with Deidre Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays. Send an email to deardeidre@ You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page. THERE IS NO TRUST AS HE LIES ABOUT EVERYTHING DEAR DEIDRE: I'M at my wits' end with my lying boyfriend. I don't know what to do any more. I'm 34, he's 36 and we've been together for two years. He's recently been diagnosed with ADHD and while I try to be understanding, he's constantly telling fibs about everything. It's starting to feel like I'm being taken for a fool. He claims he can't afford to pay bills, even though he earns a decent salary. He tells me he's going to sleep but I catch him hours later still scrolling through his phone. He's also told me he's 'too busy' to do simple chores or help around the house, yet I find him wasting time playing video games. He's even lied about meeting friends, telling me he was going to one place only for me to later find out he was somewhere else. I love him but the constant dishonesty is making me question everything. DEIDRE SAYS: Living with ADHD can make timekeeping, organisation and even honesty difficult, but that doesn't mean you have to tolerate constant lies. ADHD isn't an excuse for disrespect. Choose a calm and quiet moment to talk and set clear boundaries and let him know how his behaviour is affecting your trust. Focus on how you feel rather than what he's done wrong. Encourage him to seek support managing his ADHD. My support pack Neurodiversity Questions will help you. HOW CAN I HELP HIM OUT OF SQUALOR? DEAR DEIDRE: MY grandson and his family live in squalor. It breaks my heart knowing I can't do anything to help. I'm his 75-year-old grandfather. He's 27 and has been living with his girlfriend and their three children – all under six – in awful conditions for months. Their flat is cold, damp and overcrowded. They're barely getting by. He's trying to find better work but is stuck in low-paid jobs, and they're falling further behind on bills every month. I'm a pensioner and don't have the money to help them out. It's heartbreaking to see the kids living like this, with no space to play and no stability. My grandson seems defeated and I'm scared he's giving up hope. I don't know what to do or where to turn but I can't just stand by and watch them live like this. Please help. DEIDRE SAYS: It's heartbreaking to see loved ones struggle, especially when you feel powerless. Your concern shows how deeply you care and while you may not be able to offer financial support, your emotional presence and support are just as valuable. Encourage your grandson to seek help at (0808 800 4444) or (0808 802 2000) who can offer advice on housing, finances and accessing emergency support. My support packs Solving Debt Problems and Help For Job Seekers, will provide useful resources and practical advice. I FEEL USED AND UNAPPRECIATED DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE been with my partner five years, but I feel more like a bank account than a boyfriend. The emotional connection we once had has completely disappeared, and I'm starting to feel like she only keeps me around to pay the bills. I'm 39, she's 36, and we have a three-year-old son together. She also has a daughter from a previous relationship, who I've always treated like my own. These days it's hard not to feel taken for granted. I pay for nearly everything – rent, bills, food – and get nothing in return emotionally or physically. Our sex life was never amazing, but at least before we were intimate occasionally. Since our son was born, she's refused to touch me at all. I've tried to talk to her about it, but she shuts me down or says she's too tired. I'm beginning to wonder if she's just with me for security. I love her but I feel unwanted and used. I'm becoming resentful, and I don't know how much longer I can go on like this. I miss affection, connection and just feeling close to her. Is there any way to fix this or have I just become a pay cheque in her eyes? DEIDRE SAYS: It's understandable that you're feeling used and unappreciated, especially when you're carrying the financial load and not receiving emotional or physical connection. Relationships require balance, and it's clear that you're not getting the support you need. You've already expressed your feelings, but if your partner continues to shut you down, you need to have a more serious conversation about your needs. Tell her calmly and clearly how you're feeling, avoid blaming her and instead focus on how the situation is affecting you and your relationship. My support pack Relationship MOT will help guide you on how to move forward together.
The Irish Sun
7 days ago
- The Irish Sun
Skydiver feared to have taken her own life after jumping 10,000ft from plane ‘had split with boyfriend before tragedy'
A TRAGIC skydiver is feared to have taken her own life jumping 10,000ft from a plane the day after splitting from her boyfriend. Advertisement 7 Jade Damarell is believed to have taken her own life Credit: Jade Damarell / Facebook 7 The 32-year-old had reportedly been in a relationship with Ben Goodfellow, 26, before the tragedy Credit: Facebook / Ben Goodfellow 7 A friend claimed they split the day before Jade died Credit: Jade Damarell / Facebook An inquest heard there were Her club, Sky-High Skydiving, later said the horror appeared to be 'a deliberate act'. Durham Constabulary ruled out any third party involvement, and there was no suggestion of any wrongdoing or negligence by the skydiving centre. It has now emerged letters were left behind by Jade which suggested she intended to take her own life. Advertisement Read More As reported by Mr Goodfellow, who was also a skydiving enthusiast, had been in a relationship with the 32-year-old for around eight months. A friend said dubbed the pair "inseparable" and claimed they "spent all their time together". They had been living together in a lodge on the skydiving site since Christmas. Advertisement Most read in The Sun "The night before Jade died, they called off the relationship," claimed the source. "He went to work the next day, and that's when Jade fell to her death." Mr Goodfellow, a car technician and musician in the band Post Rome, has not spoken on the tragedy but cancelled performances due to "unforeseen circumstances". The source added how he is "absolutely distraught" by Jade's death. Advertisement Coroner's officer Alexis Blighe said Jade's provisional cause of the skydiver's death was listed as "blunt trauma". Crook Coroners's Court heard Jade's body was identified by Bryn Chaffe, the chief instructor at Ms Damarell's skydiving club. 7 Jade had more than 400 jumps under her belt Credit: WNS 7 Her devastated family paid tribute Credit: WNS Advertisement 7 The experienced skydiver is understood to have left letters stating her intentions Credit: WNS Area coroner Jeremy Chipperfield adjourned the full inquest until August 21. The Nigel Wreford, 56, who works on farm nearby, previously said: 'I've been told by quite a few people that she knew what she was doing — she had apparently left a suicide note.' Advertisement While a friend said at the time: 'This wasn't an accident. We believe she intended to take her life, sadly." Jade studied marketing at university in Leeds before marrying solicitor James Damarell in 2019. It was previously reported they lived in Yorkshire but are believed to have separated, with Jade later moving into rented accommodation used skydivers in Peterlee. You're Not Alone EVERY 90 minutes in the UK a life is lost to suicide It doesn't discriminate, touching the lives of people in every corner of society – from the homeless and unemployed to builders and doctors, reality stars and footballers. It's the biggest killer of people under the age of 35, more deadly than cancer and car crashes. And men are three times more likely to take their own life than women. Yet it's rarely spoken of, a taboo that threatens to continue its deadly rampage unless we all stop and take notice, now. That is why The Sun launched the You're Not Alone campaign. The aim is that by sharing practical advice, raising awareness and breaking down the barriers people face when talking about their mental health, we can all do our bit to help save lives. Let's all vow to ask for help when we need it, and listen out for others… If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health problems, the following organisations provide support: CALM, Heads Together, HUMEN Mind, Papyrus, Samaritans, Jade's family paid tribute following her death and called her a "brilliant, beautiful, brave and truly extraordinary person". Advertisement They said professionally, she was "exceptionally talented" and had found "freedom and purpose" with her skydiving. The family added: "A bright, adventurous, free spirit, she lived with immense energy, passion, and love, and touched countless lives with her warmth and kindness. "We miss her beyond words but Jade's love, brilliance, courage, and light will live on in our family and among all those who knew and loved her. 'Some stars are so bright they burn through their time too quickly – but their light never truly fades. Advertisement 'We want to extend our heartfelt thanks to everyone in the emergency services and the local first responders as well as the skydiving community. Your care and compassion mean more to us than we can express. 'Lastly, if you are struggling, please reach out. Talk to someone – a friend, loved one, or professional. You are never alone." If you are affected by any of the issues raised in this article, please call the Samaritans for free on 116123. 7 Jade had been in a relationship with Ben for around eight months, a friend claimed Credit: Midlands Media Agency Advertisement
Scottish Sun
22-05-2025
- Scottish Sun
Tragic update into death of skydiver, 32, feared to have taken own life after jumping 10,000ft from plane
A SKYDIVER who died after jumping 10,000ft from a plane had no sign of equipment failure, an inquest heard. Jade Damarell, 32, died instantly after hitting the ground in Peterlee, County Durham, without her chute opening. 5 Jade Damarell died while skydiving Credit: WNS 5 The experienced skydiver is believed to have taken her own life Credit: WNS Her skydiving club, Sky-High Skydiving, later said the horror appeared to be 'a deliberate act'. An inquest heard today how there was 'no reason to suspect equipment failure'. Coroner's officer Alexis Blighe said Jade's provisional cause of Jade's death was listed as "blunt trauma". Crook Coroners's Court heard Jade's body was identified by Bryn Chaffe, the chief instructor at Ms Damarell's skydiving club. Area coroner Jeremy Chipperfield adjourned the full inquest until August 21. The tragedy unfolded on April 27 as Jade, who had completed more than 400 jumps, hit the ground at Wrefords' Farm. Nigel Wreford, 56, who works on farm nearby, previously said: 'I've been told by quite a few people that she knew what she was doing — she had apparently left a suicide note.' While a friend said at the time: 'This wasn't an accident. We believe she intended to take her life, sadly." Durham Constabulary confirmed the Jade's death was not being treated as suspicious. Jade studied marketing at university in Leeds before marrying solicitor James Damarell in 2019. It was previously reported they lived in Yorkshire but are believed to have separated, with Jade later moving into rented accommodation used skydivers in Peterlee. Jade's family paid tribute following her death and called her a "brilliant, beautiful, brave and truly extraordinary person". They said professionally, she was "exceptionally talented" and had found "freedom and purpose" with her skydiving. You're Not Alone EVERY 90 minutes in the UK a life is lost to suicide It doesn't discriminate, touching the lives of people in every corner of society – from the homeless and unemployed to builders and doctors, reality stars and footballers. It's the biggest killer of people under the age of 35, more deadly than cancer and car crashes. And men are three times more likely to take their own life than women. Yet it's rarely spoken of, a taboo that threatens to continue its deadly rampage unless we all stop and take notice, now. That is why The Sun launched the You're Not Alone campaign. The aim is that by sharing practical advice, raising awareness and breaking down the barriers people face when talking about their mental health, we can all do our bit to help save lives. Let's all vow to ask for help when we need it, and listen out for others… You're Not Alone. If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health problems, the following organisations provide support: CALM, 0800 585 858 Heads Together, HUMEN Mind, 0300 123 3393 Papyrus, 0800 068 41 41 Samaritans, 116 123 The family added: "A bright, adventurous, free spirit, she lived with immense energy, passion, and love, and touched countless lives with her warmth and kindness. "We miss her beyond words but Jade's love, brilliance, courage, and light will live on in our family and among all those who knew and loved her. 'Some stars are so bright they burn through their time too quickly – but their light never truly fades. 'We want to extend our heartfelt thanks to everyone in the emergency services and the local first responders as well as the skydiving community. Your care and compassion mean more to us than we can express. 'Lastly, if you are struggling, please reach out. Talk to someone – a friend, loved one, or professional. You are never alone." If you are affected by any of the issues raised in this article, please call the Samaritans for free on 116123. 5 Jade had more than 400 jumps under her belt Credit: WNS 5 The marketing manager had reportedly left a note Credit: WNS
The Irish Sun
22-05-2025
- The Irish Sun
Tragic update into death of skydiver, 32, feared to have taken own life after jumping 10,000ft from plane
A SKYDIVER who died after jumping 10,000ft from a plane had no sign of equipment failure, an inquest heard. , 32, died instantly after hitting the ground in Peterlee, County Durham, without her chute opening. Advertisement 5 Jade Damarell died while skydiving Credit: WNS 5 The experienced skydiver is believed to have taken her own life Credit: WNS H er club, Sky-High Skydiving , later said the horror appeared to be 'a deliberate act'. An inquest heard today how there was 'no reason to suspect equipment failure'. Coroner's officer Alexis Blighe said Jade's provisional cause of Jade's death was listed as "blunt trauma". Crook Coroners's Court heard Jade's body was identified by Bryn Chaffe, the chief instructor at Ms Damarell's skydiving club. Advertisement Read more news Area coroner Jeremy Chipperfield adjourned the full inquest until August 21. The Nigel Wreford, 56, who works on farm nearby, previously said: 'I've been told by quite a few people that she knew what she was doing — she had apparently left a suicide note.' While a friend said at the time: 'This wasn't an accident. We believe she intended to take her life, sadly." Advertisement Most read in The Sun Exclusive Durham Constabulary confirmed the Jade's death was not being treated as suspicious. Jade studied marketing at university in Leeds before marrying solicitor James Damarell in 2019. It was previously reported they lived in Yorkshire but are believed to have separated, with Jade later moving into rented accommodation used skydivers in Peterlee. Jade's family paid tribute following her death and called her a "brilliant, beautiful, brave and truly extraordinary person". Advertisement They said professionally, she was "exceptionally talented" and had found "freedom and purpose" with her skydiving. You're Not Alone EVERY 90 minutes in the UK a life is lost to suicide It doesn't discriminate, touching the lives of people in every corner of society – from the homeless and unemployed to builders and doctors, reality stars and footballers. It's the biggest killer of people under the age of 35, more deadly than cancer and car crashes. And men are three times more likely to take their own life than women. Yet it's rarely spoken of, a taboo that threatens to continue its deadly rampage unless we all stop and take notice, now. That is why The Sun launched the You're Not Alone campaign. The aim is that by sharing practical advice, raising awareness and breaking down the barriers people face when talking about their mental health, we can all do our bit to help save lives. Let's all vow to ask for help when we need it, and listen out for others… If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health problems, the following organisations provide support: CALM, Heads Together, HUMEN Mind, Papyrus, Samaritans, The family added: "A bright, adventurous, free spirit, she lived with immense energy , passion, and love, and touched countless lives with her warmth and kindness. "We miss her beyond words but Jade's love, brilliance, courage, and light will live on in our family and among all those who knew and loved her. 'Some stars are so bright they burn through their time too quickly – but their light never truly fades. Advertisement 'We want to extend our heartfelt thanks to everyone in the emergency services and the local first responders as well as the skydiving community. Your care and compassion mean more to us than we can express. 'Lastly, if you are struggling, please reach out. Talk to someone – a friend, loved one, or professional. You are never alone." If you are affected by any of the issues raised in this article, please call the Samaritans for free on 116123. 5 Jade had more than 400 jumps under her belt Credit: WNS Advertisement 5 The marketing manager had reportedly left a note Credit: WNS 5 Jade's devastated family paid tribute Credit: WNS
The Irish Sun
18-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Irish Sun
Grief-stricken Aisleyne Horgan Wallace suffers secret miscarriage as cops are called in same week close pal and dog dies
AISLEYNE Horgan Wallace has revealed her secret baby loss as she spirals in grief. The devastating miscarriage happened in the same week her 3 Aisleyne Horgan Wallace has sparked concern as she grieves loved ones 3 The Big Brother star has opened up about her tragedies 3 Emergency services were called to the Big Brother legend's nan's house over concerns for Aisleyne's safety. Her dad and his girlfriend rushed to be by the reality star's side after sparking serious concern. It follows the heartbreaking losses of her best friend and nephew. The 46-year-old spoke honestly about her struggles with fans on Instagram. READ MORE ON AISLEYNE She wrote: "Another lost baby. One week ago. 2025. Dead." It followed a series of heartbreaking posts about the loved ones she's lost since last year. She shared pictures of those she is grieving alongside messages for eache. "Best friend, brother loyalty... dead 2024." Most read in Celebrity "Nephew, real love, baby boy, dead 2024." "First born, love of my life, surrogate son, dead 2025." "Precious, delicate, baby girl, dead 2025." You're Not Alone EVERY 90 minutes in the UK a life is lost to suicide It doesn't discriminate, touching the lives of people in every corner of society – from the homeless and unemployed to builders and doctors, reality stars and footballers. It's the biggest killer of people under the age of 35, more deadly than cancer and car crashes. And men are three times more likely to take their own life than women. Yet it's rarely spoken of, a taboo that threatens to continue its deadly rampage unless we all stop and take notice, now. That is why The Sun launched the You're Not Alone campaign. The aim is that by sharing practical advice, raising awareness and breaking down the barriers people face when talking about their mental health, we can all do our bit to help save lives. Let's all vow to ask for help when we need it, and listen out for others… If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health problems, the following organisations provide support: CALM, Heads Together, HUMEN Mind, Papyrus, Samaritans,
