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Daily Mail
2 days ago
- Business
- Daily Mail
EXCLUSIVE Hotel chef sacked over blazing row with boyfriend in front of guests because he had slept with one of her friends blames anxiety as she wins £13,000 for wrongful dismissal
A young chef who was sacked from a luxury hotel after a foul-mouthed rant at her 'cheating' boyfriend in front of shocked guests has been awarded more than £13,000 by an employment tribunal. Abbie Garner, 21, triggered a slew of complaints when she accused colleague Dylan Bolt of sleeping with one of her friends, screaming: 'You f****** made me love you, then you cheated on me, you c***.' She was dismissed following a surly appearance at a disciplinary hearing where she turned up late and snapped: 'I have apologised. What else do you want?' But she has won a claim for disability discrimination against The Lifehouse Spa and Hotel in Thorpe-le-Soken, Essex, after arguing her 'inability to control her anger' was because she was suffering from anxiety and depression at the time. The commis chef was told she would receive £13,455 in damages due to her 'unfavourable treatment'. The four-star 12-acre resort, which promises guests 'a world of complete serenity in our adults-only oasis' and charges up to £269 for an exclusive spa day, declined to comment when approached by the Mail. A spokeswoman said: 'This is a personnel-related matter and our company policy means we will not comment on an employee, either current or previous.' Ms Garner's father, David, 51, said: 'You can't see all disabilities. 'I'm not trying to say that the hotel are bad people. They made a common mistake and they have to realise that this is now unacceptable to treat staff or anyone in that manner. There needs to be more understanding.' He added: 'It was a horrible break-up, unfortunately, but as they worked and lived together we tried to support them. But at work we couldn't do anything. 'She's doing well in herself [now]. She's got a new job, totally changed career because she could not handle the stress in a kitchen and the way it was handled. 'She's now working in care, so she's away from the one room hot stress scenario. 'The money won't change anything. She wants to work.' The peace and quiet at the hotel was shattered on August 9, 2023, when Ms Garner, who worked in the hotel's two AA Rosette restaurant, got into an argument with her then-boyfriend at the start of her shift. 'Several of the staff heard [Miss Garner's] voice loudly swearing', the tribunal heard. 'She was arguing with Dylan Bolt, who she had been in a relationship with at the time. Mr Bolt had apparently slept with one of her friends. 'The argument started in a corridor outside the laundry room near the kitchen. This corridor connects to both the spa reception and an outdoor sunbathing area, both of which are used by guests. 'This corridor is open plan, with hard walls and floor – we accept that the sound echoes – and the door to the spa reception is open during the summer months. '[Miss Garner] was heard shouting 'f***' and 'c***' at Mr Bolt by numerous staff and guests, including in the spa reception. 'The argument continued into the outdoor loading bay area next to a sunbathing area used by guests.' A staff member told the hotel's investigation: 'I could hear shouting and swearing. The swearing from the female could be heard in the spa reception areas. 'The female member of staff was saying 'You fucking made me love you, then you cheated on me, you c***'. 'The male member of staff was saying 'I'm not f****** doing this now' and she replied 'F*** off then'. 'She was obviously angry and screaming and shouting but the language used and the shouting was not acceptable.' The argument continued until a restaurant manager, Jean Mercure, intervened, the hearing was told. He took Miss Garner into reception, while the head chef led Mr Bolt into the changing rooms. The next day Sarah Tester, the hotel's finance and operations director, received several complaints about the shouting, with one guest giving negative remarks upon checking out. After the investigation, Miss Garner was asked to attend to a disciplinary hearing on August 15, 2023. But she failed to apologise when she turned up late, admitted she had not fully read her invitation letter and was not accompanied by a representative. She admitted to the shouting and swearing and that it was unacceptable in the workplace but blamed Mr Bolt for her behaviour. At the end of the meeting, she told Ms Tester: 'I have apologised. What else do you want? Ms Tester concluded that Miss Garner had committed serious misconduct and decided to fire her. The decision was then appealed, with Miss Garner stating that her irritability, anger and mood swings arose from her disabilities of depression, anxiety and polycystic ovary syndrome - a condition that affects fertility, metabolism and overall health - which she had previously made the hotel aware of. When her appeal was turned down, she took the hotel's owners, Thorpe Hall Leisure Limited, to the tribunal in east London where she won claims for disability discrimination and a failure to make reasonable adjustments. Employment Judge Catrin Lewis accepted Ms Garner's 'continued employment posed a risk to the respondent's reputation' but added this didn't justify filing to consider whether her conduct was linked to mental health. She said: 'We have found that [Miss Garner's] inability to control her anger and her abruptness in the disciplinary meeting both arose in consequence of her disability. 'It was not disputed that being dismissed amounted to unfavourable treatment. 'We are satisfied that Ms Tester was aware that [her] behaviour was unusual and she was also aware that [she] had recently returned to work after a period of poor mental health and was on anti-depressant medication.' The hotel, which has treatment rooms, a gym, pool, spa and 89 guestrooms, was dubbed the UK's first 'dementia spa' in 2019 after it started offering treatments for people with the condition.
Daily Mail
3 days ago
- Automotive
- Daily Mail
Is this Australia's worst driver? Watch the shocking encounter that needs to be seen to be believed
Australians have slammed the 'anger issues' of a reckless Ford Ranger Raptor driver after shocking dashcam emerged. The video showed the Raptor dangerously and illegally changing lanes at an intersection, accelerating behind another vehicle before sharply cutting in front. When the other driver made an attempt to continue on, they were aggressively pursued by the Raptor. The confrontation escalated when the Raptor swerved and collided with the front of the other vehicle during another reckless manoeuvre. After the crash, a man wearing a CFMEU-branded hoodie and a young boy, believed to be his son, then jumped out of the Raptor and approached the other driver. The young boy, could be heard through the car window yelling 'f*** sake' while filming the driver. Inside, the driver could be heard locking his doors and calmly informing them that the entire incident had been captured on his dashcam. Australians tore into the Raptor driver for his behaviour, condemning his 'anger issues'. 'Imagine getting so mad (due to your own dumb f***ery) you drive so aggressively and recklessly that you cause another car to crash into you,' someone said. 'All while your child is in the car, watching, learning. Weak men raise weak men.' Another criticised the illegal behaviour from the driver. 'In the wrong lane at lights, then drives erratically and intentionally cuts off dash cam driver, endangering not just him but this (driver) in the dashcam car and his mini-me son in the passenger seat.' One user also commended the driver of the vehicle recording on Dashcam for keeping their cool during the incident. 'Love that the DC driver is so calm as he knows he's 100 per cent in the right,' one said. NRMA's Peter Khoury told Daily Mail Australia he was left speechless by the video. 'I don't really know what to say, I'm pretty shocked. We hope that erratic behaviour and road rage is rare' he said. 'If you are going to drive like that, not only do you embarrass yourself but you've also broken a number of laws. Just don't do it,' he said. Mr Khoury added that NRMA data suggested at least one in 10 vehicles record dashcam footage. He said dashcams have become more common and subsequently issued a warning to drivers exhibiting poor behaviour: 'You've made the police's job a little easier.' He also advised that, for victims, 'safety is the priority'. 'Call the police, stay in the vehicle and, if you can, get yourself away from that location,' he said.
Yahoo
12-05-2025
- General
- Yahoo
The youngsters desperate for help as anger problems on the rise
The youngsters desperate for help as anger problems on the rise A growing number of youngsters have sought support from Childline for anger issues over the past year. New data shows the helpline, which is run by the NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children), delivered close to 3,000 counselling sessions about the issue, online and over the phone — a 6% increase on the previous 12 months. The rise in contact on the topic has made anger issues a top ten mental health concern for both genders contacting the service. This data gives insight into a generation increasingly struggling to manage and control their emotions in the face of a range of pressures at home, school and online. A boy of secondary school age in Wales said: 'My friend massively embarrassed me in front of this girl I like. I'm so angry about it, all I want to do is hit him even though I know that's not the best way to deal with it. I need someone to talk me out of it or take this anger away.' ADVERTISEMENT READ MORE: The latest Foreign Office advice for anyone heading to four popular holiday destinations READ MORE: 'Hardest man in football' left Vinnie Jones trembling with seven-word message after car crash A 14-year-old girl from Wales said: 'When I get really mad, I throw things, break things, shout, swear. I scare myself honestly but it's so hard to find things that actually work to calm me down. Childline helps, but only when I haven't broken my phone in anger.' Counselling sessions delivered by Childline reveal several recurring themes when children are discussing anger. Some are struggling with regulating their emotions during challenging situations and often experience frustration with parents and peers following disagreements. Others share that they are aggressively criticising themselves. One nine-year-old girl told Childline: "I feel so angry all the time, shouting is just how I express myself. When my parents shout at me, I shout back. They tell me to talk in arguments and tell people how I feel but no one cares, no one listens unless I shout." ADVERTISEMENT Childline director Shaun Friel said: 'The fact that children are reaching out for help about their anger issues reflects the growing emotional challenges young people face in today's complex world. "At Childline, we're seeing first-hand how pressures at home, school, online and in communities are affecting children's ability to manage and deal with difficult emotions. 'This Mental Health Awareness Week, we want to emphasise how crucial it is for children to learn healthy ways to process and express their feelings. We are also reminding young people that our counsellors are here to provide that safe space and can help them to learn vital skills for their wellbeing." The service has been working with children's mental health charity, Place2Be, to advise on looking after mental wellbeing. Their tips include talking to someone you trust; finding healthy outlets, like physical activities and creative expression, for emotions; and taking care of your body with regular sleep, a healthy diet and exercise. Dr Rebecca Kirkbride, clinical director at Place2Be, said: "At Place2Be, we know that learning to express and process emotions healthily during childhood builds resilience and establishes positive coping mechanisms that serve young people throughout their lives. ADVERTISEMENT "The rise in children seeking support for issues related to anger, as highlighted by Childline's data, demonstrates the importance of early intervention and teaching children healthy ways to process emotions. 'By creating safe spaces where young people feel heard and validated, we can help them develop the emotional vocabulary and self-regulation skills needed to navigate complex feelings, without expressing feelings through angry or aggressive behaviour — which may have implications for themselves or others around them.'
Daily Mail
11-05-2025
- Health
- Daily Mail
Rise in anger issues among children blamed on 'growing emotional challenges' including social media
Childline is reporting a rise in the number of callers with 'anger issues' amid 'growing emotional challenges' among youngsters today. The charity said it provided 2,895 counselling sessions for children with anger in 2024/25, a six per cent increase on the previous year. Anger issues ranked among the top ten mental health concerns reported by children contacting the service – among boys it was sixth and among girls it was tenth. Reoccurring themes in the counselling sessions included anger at parents and friends, while many young people also felt anger at themselves. The charity said many were engaged in 'negative self-talk', for example, wishing they were 'smarter, less useless, less ugly'. It is thought increased time on social media may be a contributor to youth anger, due to online bullying and a lack of interactions in the real world. Pressures on family finances from the rising cost of living and exam stress are also sources of anger. One boy, aged 15, told Childline: 'For months I've been struggling with my anger. 'I started punching the wall, but I had to stop because it was messing up my knuckles.' Meanwhile, a girl aged nine, said: 'I feel so angry all the time, shouting is just how I express myself.' Shaun Friel, Childline director, said: 'The fact that children are reaching out for help about their anger issues reflects the growing emotional challenges young people face in today's complex world. 'At Childline, we're seeing firsthand how pressures at home, school, online and in communities are affecting children's ability to manage and deal with difficult emotions.' The charity warned parents to look for signs of 'emotional struggles', such as shifts in sleeping patterns, appetite, social withdrawal, or increased irritability. It said families should 'normalise seeking help' by 'talking positively about therapy, counselling and support services'.
