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Independent Singapore
22-05-2025
- General
- Independent Singapore
SG worker shares new colleague is being bullied, asks if she should step in
SINGAPORE: A local employee has shared on social media that a newly hired colleague is being relentlessly bullied in the company group chat based on her looks, and is now questioning whether she should speak up or remain silent to protect her own workplace relationships. The employee, who works in an international company made up of both local and expatriate staff, said that the local team shares a casual group chat typically used for lighthearted banter. 'We usually engage in lighthearted small talk, and everyone is genuinely nice to each other; buying snacks for each other, and taking the initiative to celebrate birthdays, just a friendly environment overall,' the employee said. However, she revealed in her Reddit post on Tuesday (May 20) that the tone of the chat shifted noticeably following the arrival of the new colleague, whom the employee described as 'a little chubby and admittedly not very good looking.' From the very first day, she said, some team members began targeting the newcomer with personal insults and body-shaming comments. The employee then detailed several examples of the bullying. 'For example, if she wears clothes that are even a little wrinkled to work, someone will type in the group chat, 'Confirmed, she never irons her shirts—so lazy.' 'When she takes a snack from the pantry, remarks like, 'Eating like a pig every day, no wonder so fat,' appear. Even the fact of her falling sick was not spared, with one staff commenting, 'Confirm eat too much until gastric.'' The employee said that the same individuals who make these comments act civil towards the new hire in person, though she noticed that they still occasionally make 'snide remarks disguised as jokes.' 'The new hire is genuinely quite a nice person, and I really feel bad for her,' the employee added. Though she has not contributed to the bullying, the employee admitted that she has remained silent out of fear. She worries that speaking up might isolate her from the rest of the local team or create tension that could affect her working relationships. Seeking advice from the local community, she asked, 'What would you do in this situation? I'm thinking whether this silence makes me selfish or complicit?' 'Go befriend her and be that genuine colleague for her.' Users quickly flooded the comments section with concern, criticising the toxic group behaviour and encouraging the employee to take action rather than remain passive. One user pointed out that staying in the group chat might do more harm than good: 'If they are doing it to her, they are doing it to you behind your back. I'd make an excuse and leave the chat before it gets leaked. Just being in the chat will make you seem complicit and unprofessional.' Another user questioned the value of preserving ties with such colleagues: 'Why would you want to preserve those relationships with your local staff group? After seeing all those bad-mouthing and snide remarks towards her, doesn't it reveal to you what kind of person they are?' Meanwhile, others offered suggestions on what she could do instead. One user wrote, 'You cannot change what others are doing. But you can change yourself – go befriend her and be that genuine colleague for her. Badmouthing will stop when they see she has friends and that they are no longer the majority.' A fourth added, 'Silence always makes you complicit, bruh. Speak up and speak out tactfully and nicely. Playfully, if you have to, to keep the peace. Have a spine and say something when you see something wrong, especially if it is directed towards someone.' What you can do if you witness workplace bullying Workplace bullying Career experts recommend taking the following steps if you observe a colleague being bullied at work: Offer your support. Don't be afraid to reach out to the person being targeted. Befriending them and letting them know that they're not alone in the workplace can go a long way. Confront the bully. If you personally know the individual responsible for the bullying and feel safe, confident, and comfortable, consider having a calm and respectful conversation with them. Point out how their actions may be affecting the team and workplace morale. Report the issue. If the bullying continues or worsens, bring it to the attention of a supervisor or your HR department. Alternatively, you can reach out to the Tripartite Alliance for Fair and Progressive Employment Practices (TAFEP) for guidance and support. Read also: 'I just want to shout at them' — Man says he's frustrated that his elderly parents always come to him for the 'smallest matters in life' Featured image by Depositphotos (for illustration purposes only)
Daily Mail
13-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Lena Dunham is unrecognizable in eye-catching T-shirt and long dark hair at screening
Lena Dunham made a rare red carpet appearance on Monday. The Girls star, 38, was at a New York City special screening of Pee-wee As Himself at the Museum of Modern Art. She was almost unrecognizable because her normally short light brunette hair was seen long and black. Dunham also had on dramatic makeup with black eyeliner and ruby red lipstick for a goth appearance as she added earrings, rings and several necklaces. The talent had on a Pee-Wee T0-shirt underneath a black-and-brown striped jacket with matching slacks and black shoes. The outing comes after Dunham admitted that she stepped back from acting over body-shaming comments. Last year Lena revealed she was stepping back from acting because she didn't want her body to be 'dissected again' by critics. The star decided to cast Megan Stalter instead of herself in her semi-autobiographical 10-episode comedy series Too Much, which is set to premiere on Netflix this year. 'I was not willing to have another experience like what I'd experienced around [my HBO series Girls] at this point in my life,' the star explained to the New Yorker. 'Physically, I was just not up for having my body dissected again. It was a hard choice, not to cast Meg — because I knew I wanted Meg — but to admit that to myself.' 'I used to think that winning meant you just keep doing it and you don't care what anybody thinks. I forgot that winning is actually just protecting yourself and doing what you need to do to keep making work.' Lena continued: 'I remember looking at Meg and being, like, "You are my muse. You inspire me every single day to go home and tap out pages upon pages." I definitely don't want to be my own muse.' Dunham gushed over how 'inspiring and unbelievably talented' the 33-year-old Hacks star is as her thinly-veiled character Jessica, who falls in love with a British musician called Felix (Will Sharpe) after moving from New York to North London. The eight-time Emmy nominee also happens to be a New Yorker who had a bad break-up (Jack Antonoff) and moved to London where she married British-Peruvian musician Luis Felber, who's the composer and co-creator of Too Much. 'It's not a huge leap. But I knew from the very beginning I would not be the star of it,' Lena noted. 'I was thinking a lot about, like, What is it that allows women to be complicated on TV and still be embraced and seen and understood? There's an openness to Meg's presence that I think goes a long way. She has whatever the opposite of resting b***h face is. She has resting angel face.' Dunham continued: 'Meg is one of the beautiful women working today. She is so alarmingly gorgeous. The fact that she is not a size 0, or that she's not part of the new class of Ozempic-thin women, is not part of really important to me that there be a love affair between a guy and a girl where the fact that she is not teensy-weensy doesn't drive were, like, "We don't want anyone to think we're doing a show about a beautiful man doing someone a favor."' However, the tattooed millennial does have a small acting part in Too Much as the spouse of the character played by Andrew Rannells, who previously played her Girls character Hannah Horvath's gay best friend Elijah. The ensemble cast also includes Emily Ratajkowski, Richard E. Grant, Adèle Exarchopoulos, Rita Wilson, Andrew Rannells, Janicza Bravo, Rhea Perlman, and Stephen Fry. Dunham created, wrote, and starred in the HBO television series Girls from 2012 until 2017. The show garnered critical acclaim and numerous awards. The show also notably launched the career of Adam Driver, 41, who played her charismatic boyfriend Adam, and went on to star as Kylo Ren in the Star Wars franchise. He has since nabbed multiple Academy Award nominations. Lena has recently entered a creative partnership with Netflix. The streamer secured the rights to her rom-com 'Good Sex' — which she will write and direct — starring Natalie Portman, in a $55 million worldwide deal. Dunham is also writing a film about cryptocurrency fraudster Sam Bankman-Fried for Apple and A24, adapted from Michael Lewis's book Going Infinite. In 2010 she directed and starred in the film Tiny Furniture. Last May, Lena spoke out about her genetic condition, Hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, in an Instagram post. The star revealed she was diagnosed with hEDS in 2019. Hypermobile Ehlers-Danos syndrome is one type of EDS, caused by defects in a person's collagen. Common symptoms of the condition include muscle and bone pain, hypermobility, easily bruised, skin that is slightly elastic, according to the Genetic and Rare Diseases Information Center. The star has been also candid about her struggles with endometriosis, her decision to have a hysterectomy at 31 due to her endometriosis and also mental health issues.
Malay Mail
13-05-2025
- Health
- Malay Mail
Kelly Osbourne says ‘being fat' got her more hate than drug addiction
LOS ANGELES, May 13 — Kelly Osbourne says the harshest criticism she has ever received was not for her past drug use, but for her weight. Speaking at a health summit in Los Angeles on May 10 May, the 40-year-old said body shaming has followed her throughout her life in the public eye, People reported. 'We live in a fat-phobic world,' she told the audience, adding that the judgment for being overweight outweighed any reaction to her struggles with addiction. Osbourne revealed that even at her lowest points, people seemed more concerned with how she looked than how she was doing. She recalled hearing comments like, 'You're so pretty. Why don't you just lose a little bit of weight, and then you'll be the total package.' The reality TV star said she once accepted these comments as normal, even though they cut deep. Her remarks reveal the continuing stigma around body image in celebrity culture and society at large. She stressed that weight loss, for her, was not just physical but also emotional and psychological. 'You have to come to peace and acceptance about where you are in your life before you can start,' she said. Osbourne, who previously underwent gastric sleeve surgery, said it helped — but only after she spent a year in therapy to prepare.
Fox News
12-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Fox News
Kelly Osbourne ‘got more s---' for her weight than being a drug addict, alcoholic
Kelly Osbourne says she's received more criticism over her weight than anything else she's ever done, including drugs and alcohol. On Saturday, the reality TV star participated in a panel at the Inaugural Beacher Vitality Happy & Healthy Summit at the Hollywood Roosevelt Hotel in Los Angeles. During her appearance, the daughter of rocker Ozzy Osbourne and TV personality Sharon Osbourne opened up about the scrutiny she's endured over the years due to her physical appearance. "We live in a fat-phobic world," the 40-year-old told the attendees, as quoted by People magazine. Being body-shamed even overshadowed some of her past struggles, Osbourne insisted. "I have been a drug addict, an alcoholic… I've been a complete mess, disrespectful to people, horrible – but I got more s--- for being fat than I did for anything else. It's insane." Osbourne described how, when she was heavier, she often received backhanded comments. "People [would] say, 'You're so pretty. Why don't you just lose a little bit of weight, and then you'll be the total package?'" she said. According to the outlet, the "Dancing with the Stars" alum "tried everything" to shed the pounds. However, it wasn't until Osbourne addressed her mental health that she started to see results. "I tried probably everything that there is out there, whether it be surgery, medication, diet and exercise," Osbourne explained. "I got my mind where I needed it to be, and everything started to fall into place." "It's not just as simple as change your diet and move," she said. "You have to change your brain. You have to come to peace and acceptance about where you are in your life before you can start." In 2020, Osbourne told the Hollywood Raw podcast that her gastric sleeve surgery was "the best thing I have ever done." Still, she stressed it wasn't an overnight solution. "The kind of surgery I had… if you don't work out, and you don't eat right, you gain weight," said Osbourne at the time. "All it does is move you in the right direction. So, anyone who's thinking of doing something like this, really think about that." "I had to do a year of stand-alone therapy to prepare myself for the surgery before I even had it," she continued. "What people don't realize is, it cuts out this hormone that if you have addiction issues, it stops your craving, and it makes you not emotionally eat, which is a huge problem for me. It doesn't solve all your problems. It's not a quick fix." Back in 2023, Osbourne told Fox News Digital that she spent the nine months of her pregnancy in hiding with her father. She and Slipknot musician Sid Wilson welcomed their son Sidney in late 2022. "I literally sat with my dad for nine months in a house, and I had the best pregnancy ever," she said at the time. "We had a lot of fun. We really did. But there was no way I was going to go out and about and have people see me and shame me because I was so big." Osbourne said that while she was eager for motherhood, she was terrified of facing public scrutiny over her growing baby bump. "I have been body-shamed since I was 14, 15 by the media," Osbourne explained. "I was known as Ozzy's chubby daughter. They'd always comment about my body and the way I looked. And I just wanted to be myself. I didn't want to be the prettiest girl in the room, but I was penalized because I wasn't. It's one of those things where I am totally fine with the way that I look and am happy with myself and how I am as a person, but other people aren't. And that's on them. It's not on me." "But people need to realize that we are responsible for our words," she said. "Just because you're behind a keyboard doesn't make it OK. And I do think there should be more laws and rules against what people can do to another person [online]. It's horrible." WATCH: OZZY OSBOURNE'S SON JACK OSBOURNE SAYS ROCK STAR'S VOICE IS STILL 'SPOT ON' DESPITE HIS HEALTH STRUGGLES "Sometimes, the comments section of my social media, you just can't look at it because just as there are many mean ones, there are nice ones, and people say really lovely things, but your mind doesn't focus on that. You focus on the bad ones that you have. It can derail you for the entire day, week or month." Osbourne said she tries not to let any comments about her weight and speculation about whether she's had any work done get to her. But some days are better than others. "I won't lie and say there aren't some days when I'm just like, 'Holy f---, that is mean,'" she said. In her third trimester, she was diagnosed with gestational diabetes, People magazine reported. According to the outlet, she cut down on processed sugar to deal with the symptoms of weight gain, fatigue and ankle swelling. "I hid for nine months when I was pregnant because I didn't want what they did to Jessica Simpson when she was pregnant [to happen to me]," said Osbourne about the star being mercilessly body-shamed. "I think it was disgusting," said Osbourne. "I still think it's disgusting. It's horrible, absolutely horrible. She was pregnant. What are you supposed to look like when you're pregnant?" "Rihanna changed the pregnancy style game in such a magical way," said Osbourne about the singer's daring maternity looks during her pregnancies. "I think what she did was incredible, but not every girl is Rihanna," Osbourne continued. "I definitely felt the pressure [to lose weight after giving birth]. And I 100% caved into losing the baby weight. I'm happy I lost it, but it was because I didn't want to be picked on."
Daily Mail
09-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Modern Family star Ariel Winter says cruel body-shaming comments had profound effect on her mental health
has spoken about the agonizing effect that being body shamed as a child had on her mental health while starring as Alex Dunphy on ABC's hit show Modern Family. In a rare interview, since taking a step back from the spotlight, the actress admitted the relentless scrutiny over her body had a profound effect on her mental health. 'That was a major part of my teenage years,' she told People of the online criticism for the way she dresses and being a woman with curves. The SAG Award winner, 27, went on to describe being bombarded by cruel headlines saying she 'looked terrible or pregnant or like a fat slut'. 'It was just everywhere. It was every headline I read about myself,' Winter recalled. 'I mean, I was 14.' Winter, who was navigating puberty in the spotlight, explained , at the time, she 'was on an antidepressant in high school that caused' her 'to gain 30lb.' 'I couldn't lose that weight, but I prioritized my mental health over that weight. I wasn't willing to sacrifice my well-being,' she said. After she got older and tried a different medication, Winter said she 'happened to lose all that weight' and was immediately accused of being 'way too skinny' or 'on drugs.' 'I was just a growing, changing person. It was really, really hard to be torn down constantly,' the performer emphasized. This resulted in her struggling to look at herself in the mirror and 'love' herself. After years and years of fighting back with body shamers, Winter said she, now, understands that 'no matter what' she was going to be 'a target.' After moving out of her hometown in Los Angeles and going to therapy, she finally feels comfortable in her own skin. 'I went on a journey of self-healing,' Winter said. 'A big part of it was just realizing you don't get to redo your childhood. It's gone. And that hit me so hard.' She continued: 'I really had to focus all my time on healing that past because now I want my future to be great. I want to have a family of my own, and I have to be healed to the best version of me to be able to pour into being a mom myself someday.' 'Would it be nice if people would shut the f*** up about how I look? Sure. Is it going to happen? No. But do I particularly care anymore? No. I have so many other things that I'm doing that I want people to care about that have nothing to do with the way I look,' she said. Winter, who made her acting debut in a Cool Whip commercial at age four, also stated that she feels grateful not to have fallen into addiction, like many other child stars do. 'I've been blessed with opportunities and blessed to have the resources to seek healing. I've got great people around me and a great second chance, and that's major,' she said. During her interview with People, Winter also opened up about her decision to move out of her hometown of Los Angeles. After her hit series Modern Family wrapped in spring 2020, Winter and her boyfriend Luke Benward packed up and moved out of the city to Nashville, Tennessee. 'I just left the city of LA. It holds some not so great memories for me, and I'm young and never lived anywhere else, and thought, "Why not?"' At 14, the Department of Child and Family Protective Services removed Winter from her home with her mom, Chrisoula Workman, and placed her under the guardianship of her sister, Shanelle Gray. 'I went on to have a great rest of my teenage years thanks to being under her custody,' Winter said. Three years later, Winter was 'legally emancipated and declared an adult' and has 'since refrained' from talking to her mom, according to People.
