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The Verge
a day ago
- Entertainment
- The Verge
1.02 patch will add improvements
Make it Nightreign. Next week's Elden Ring Nightreign's for solo runs, including an automatic revival once per main boss and an increase in the runes you get. Like my colleague Ash, I had fun with solo runs even though they were tough, so this should make them better.
South China Morning Post
3 days ago
- General
- South China Morning Post
Singapore couple row over husband's colleague calling him ‘baby', argues it is workplace norm
A video recording a fierce quarrel between a couple in Singapore over the fact that one of the husband's female colleagues calls him 'baby' has gone viral. Advertisement Footage released on a leading social media platform in mid-May shows the man standing on the ground floor near a car park while a woman, thought to be his wife, confronts him from the first floor of a building. The infuriated woman's voice is so loud that she can be clearly heard berating him in the clip. Video footage online shows the man standing near a car park as his wife harangues him from a balcony. Photo: Instagram/tiagong_sg When the woman questions him why a female colleague calls him baby, the man asks her to lower her voice. But this only irritates her more. 'I want to let everyone hear. You betrayed me!' shouts the woman. The man says: 'She calls everyone in the office baby. Everyone.' Advertisement The woman apparently does not buy it, and asks: 'She calls everyone baby. Are you sure?' While the man begs the woman to stop quarrelling, she continues: 'You do not tell me what to do. I tell you what to do.'
The Sun
5 days ago
- General
- The Sun
I found strength to end my marriage to my abusive husband but I fear eight-month affair is now over
DEAR DEIDRE: I'VE had the most beautiful sex with a colleague — it was the opposite of how my abusive husband treated me and the start of an eight-month affair. I've even found the strength to end my marriage but now I'm very worried that my love affair is over. I'm a 43-year-old woman. My work as a radiologist has always been an escape from my toxic relationship. Over the years I got close to a male colleague who's a couple of years younger than me. One day a woman came in with a broken arm — her boyfriend had beaten her. The incident really triggered me and this colleague spotted how upset I was. He invited me for a drink later saying he was worried about me. One drink led to more and we then had incredible sex in his car. It felt wonderful to be desired again. He wasn't happy with his wife and within weeks we admitted we loved each other. My marriage, to my mind, had ended long ago. My monster of a husband became abusive after his mother died. He's 47. He began drinking heavily and would beat me but always ensured I could hide my bruises. Two months ago my lover left his wife to rent a flat in town and I finally left my husband. I decided I wouldn't move straight in, just in case of gossip. Now this guy has been seconded to a different department and he's not answering calls or texts. I'm pleased to be out of my marriage but I'm worried about the future with the new man I love. Dear Deidre: Cheating and can you get over it It is wise not to hurtle into your next relationship, and to have suggested living separately. The thrill of an affair is so different to a committed relationship. Once you mentioned 'gossip', he may have been worried about how his bosses, friends or family would see things. At best, accept he's mixed up and needs some space. He's not handled this well but tell him you're ready to talk when he is – but give yourself a time limit. See this as your opportunity to reassess and adjust. If he doesn't come back within that time, you might have to accept he's not in it for the long haul. Your ex was abusive and perhaps you've fallen for another man you cannot rely on. My support pack, Finding The Right Partner For You, explains more. CLIMAX IS SLOW SO I DODGE FULL SEX DEAR DEIDRE: I'VE never had sex with my girlfriend because I'm worried it will take me too long to climax. She's a virgin and I've had sexual partners in the past, but I've never had full sex. She's 17 and I'm 19. We do have a lot of foreplay and sometimes she gives me oral sex but it takes so long for me to get to that peak of excitement. It's been like that with other girls too. I do things for her but we've not gone all the way because I feel useless. My girlfriend keeps asking when we are going to have full sex but I'm scared she'll get fed up if it takes too long. Can you help? DEIDRE SAYS: The first thing to tell you is that most women don't orgasm through intercourse, so lots of foreplay is exactly what you should be doing. Many men don't climax through oral sex. Your first sexual relationship doesn't come with a manual, so you're bound to feel awkward and clumsy but remember, you're in this together and try to enjoy it. To reach climax you need to feel relaxed and confident together. If you don't get this right the first time, have a giggle about it and try again another day. My support packs – First-time Fears and Find It Hard To Climax? should help you to feel more confident. Don't forget to use contraception too. GIRLFRIEND SEEMS IDEAL BUT FEAR I'M MISSING OUT DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my girlfriend but sometimes I wonder whether the grass is greener. I've never cheated – in fact, she has been my one and only partner. We are both 23. I'm a guy and we met at university and now live together in our university town. We have been loyal to one another, where other couples we know have cheated and had fall-outs. People ask us what the secret is – maybe it's that we rarely argue. I often think she's the female version of me. My parents are still together but their best friends are going through a divorce after 25 years together. I do wonder whether this could ever happen to us. Is it possible for you to love one person and never stray towards fancying somebody else? DEIDRE SAYS: Yes, of course. But even in the most solid of relationships it's normal to fancy a person outside of the partnership. The difference is whether you act on it or not. The key is realising that what you are looking for, you already have. In our teens and 20s we try lots of relationships but it's usually painful. If you've hit the jackpot with your girlfriend already, then that's fantastic. Don't spoil things by looking elsewhere for a change of personality. My support pack, Learning About Relationships, will help unscramble your feelings. IT'S CLEAR MUM FAVOURS BRUV DEAR DEIDRE: IT'S said that parents don't really have favourites but my mother definitely does – my brother. She smothers him with love. He's a grown man of 27 and he lives with his girlfriend and I bet she's sick of it. My mum texts him every single night and says goodnight to them both. I'm a woman of 24 and I live with my boyfriend. Mum rarely messages me. I have to do all the running around for her because I live near her so she only texts me if she needs something urgently. I visit her every week and she gives me a list of errands. If we eat together it's usually a takeaway, yet if my brother visits her once in a blue moon, she'll always cook his favourite roast dinner. She's 62. Our dad died years ago and Mum never found anyone else to be with. She has one close friend who goes to church with her and other than that, it's me who calls in on her. I feel so taken for granted sometimes – I don't want to feel jealous of my brother but I do. DEIDRE SAYS: My guess is that your brother has more of your father's traits than you do, so she likes to care for him as she once did your dad. But she may not realise that she's being so obvious and damaging your relationship in the process. Take your mum out for lunch or a coffee and tell her that you want to talk. Explain that you love her but that her actions are upsetting you. Gently tell her that while she may not be aware of this, she treats you both quite differently. If she is reminded of your father when she sees your brother then she can talk with Sue Ryder ( 0808 164 4572) which offers six weeks of free bereavement counselling. Let's hope she takes your feelings on board and treats you more equally from now on.
The Sun
24-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Kinky one-night stand has reignited my sex life with husband – but now he's asking where my new fetish has come from
1 DEAR DEIDRE: My husband loves my new and improved sexual appetite but what he doesn't realise is the trigger was a very raunchy one night stand. I hadn't planned on being unfaithful but when a colleague from another office made a beeline for me at an award ceremony, I was swept up in the moment. Now I've developed a huge appetite for mixing food and sex - it's the ultimate turn-on. My fling was so handsome, successful and made it very clear that he wanted me. By the end of the champagne reception he'd already whispered in my ear that he had another bottle of fizz in his bedroom and that he intended to pour it all over my naked stomach by the end of the night. I was stunned that he was so bold, but also hugely turned on. And just as he'd predicted we went back to his suite at the end of the night where he stripped me and then drank the champagne off my body. I don't think I've ever had such an erotic experience. I've only been married two years and this was the first time I cheated. I do feel bad and don't want to be the sort of person who keeps letting their partner down. I regularly think back to my night of passion - it was electric and has ended up improving our sex life. I'm 31 and my husband is 33. Since my experience with champagne, I've tried all sorts with my husband - chocolate, honey, wine and even milk. At first he was a bit dubious but after persuading him to spread it over me and then lick it off, he's really got into the swing of things. Dear Deidre: Spotting the signs your partner is cheating He's even started to ask me to spread food and drink over him. The only drawback is there is a lot more washing. I was a bit worried he might have been suspicious because he asked a few times where this food interest had come from. Taken off guard, I fobbed him off at first and then when he asked again, I said I had a good imagination. He's stopped asking awkward questions since, but I'm left feeling very guilty and wonder if the only way forward is to admit to cheating. At least then I would know everything is out in the open. DEIDRE SAYS: This is a controversial opinion but I don't believe coming clean will solve anything. The temptation to absolve oneself of any guilt is understandable, but the practicalities are that it often simply shifts any upset and hurt onto the innocent partner. Ask yourself why you want to admit to your one night stand, is it so that you can improve your relationship, or is it so that you can feel better about yourself? Of course if you were regularly cheating, or had no regret at all, I'd be suggesting something different. However, you say you don't want to stray again and want to work on your marriage, so there is little to be gained by coming clean. Keep focusing on your marriage. It's good that you have both reignited your sex life - a key part of maintaining a happy and well connected relationship. My support pack 50 Ways To Add Fun To Your Sex Life gives plenty more ideas on how to keep things fresh in the bedroom. Dear Deidre's Fetish Files Deidre's mailbag is bursting with kinky sex problems. One reader struggled to look past her husband's hosiery fetish, while another discovered his interest in cuckolding after his girlfriend's infidelity. And one woman discovered her husband's affair with a woman on a fetish website. Get in touch with the Dear Deidre team Every problem gets a personal reply from one of our trained counsellors. Sally Land is the Dear Deidre Agony Aunt. She achieved a distinction in the Certificate in Humanistic Integrative Counselling, has specialised in relationships and parenting. She has over 20 years of writing and editing women's issues and general features. Passionate about helping people find a way through their challenges, Sally is also a trustee for the charity Family Lives. Her team helps up to 90 people every week. Sally took over as The Sun's Agony Aunt when Deidre Sanders retired from the The Dear Deidre column four years ago. The Dear Deidre Team Of Therapists Also Includes: Kate Taylor: a sex and dating writer who is also training to be a counsellor. Kate is an advisor for dating website OurTime and is the author of five self-help books. Jane Allton: a stalwart of the Dear Deidre for over 20 years. Jane is a trained therapist, who specialises in family issues. She has completed the Basic Counselling Skills Level 1, 2, and 3. She also achieved the Counselling and Psychotherapy (CPCAB) Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Studies. Catherine Thomas: with over two decades worth of experience Catherine has also trained as a therapist, with the same credentials as Jane. She specialises in consumer and relationship issues. Fill out and submit our easy-to-use and confidential form and the Dear Deidre team will get back to you. You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page or email us at: deardeidre@
The Sun
16-05-2025
- The Sun
I'm terrified I've caught STI after learning girlfriend is a prostitute… I feel so humiliated
DEAR DEIDRE: THE woman I was seeing didn't tell me she was a prostitute and now I'm terrified I've caught an STI. What's worse is that everyone else in my town knows what she does for a living. Now, I'm too embarrassed to go out. I can't even face going to the doctor. I'm a 36-year-old guy. Last year, I moved to a small town for work. I started going to the pub and one night, I got chatted up by a gorgeous woman. I couldn't believe my luck — or that she was interested in me. I'm nothing to write home about and have never had much luck with women. We went back to my place and had fantastic sex. She said she wanted to keep seeing me, which I was only too happy about. She was always vague about what she did for a living, but it didn't bother me. We always had fun together, and she was easy to talk to. I'll admit I was falling for her. What did bother me was the fact there were times she said she couldn't meet, usually at the last minute. She would never allow me to come round to hers without agreeing it in advance and there were nights when she would ghost me. I'd call and text but she'd be unavailable. Yesterday, at work, I was chatting to a colleague about my new girlfriend. I showed him a photo of her on my phone. His face fell. 'Mate,' he said. 'I'm sorry, but you need to know that your girlfriend is a prostitute.' He told me half the town had slept with her. I'm gutted. She never asked me for payment, but still I feel I was little more than a distraction. Dear Deidre on relationships, jealousy and envy I'm angry she lied to me and, obviously, I can't see her any more. Stupidly, I never used a condom when we had sex. I dread to think what I might have caught. I feel dirty, but I don't have any symptoms. I know I need to get checked out, but I feel so humiliated. DEIDRE SAYS: You've had a big shock. Perhaps your girlfriend lied because she wanted a normal relationship with someone who wouldn't judge her. It might give you both closure if you could have an honest conversation about this – give her a chance to explain her perspective. She may have genuinely liked you. But you were both taking a big risk by forgoing protection. It's crucial that you swallow your pride and go to a doctor for tests. You can visit a hospital sexual health clinic without a referral. If you've caught anything, you can get treatment. Please be aware early detection always has the best outcomes. And if you're in the clear, it will set your mind at rest. My support pack, Sexual Health Worries, has more information. THANK YOU FOR... HELPING ME DITCH DEADBEAT BLOKE DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER three years with no sex, I was thinking of leaving my partner. I felt so unattractive and unwanted. He claimed he had no sex drive, but then I found out he had been talking to other women online, and I suspected he might have met them too. We had been together for eight years. I'm 34 and he's 36. He denied doing anything wrong and said he loved me. I didn't want to lose him but felt I couldn't trust him. When he announced he was going on holiday with his mates, not me, it was the final straw. I wrote for advice. You told me it sounded like he'd checked out of our relationship as he wasn't interested in sex, was lying about his interactions with women and had planned a holiday without me. You suggested he was gaslighting me so I wouldn't leave. And you suggested I read your support pack, Addictive Love, to help me understand why I still felt so attached to him. After thinking deeply about it, I realised you were right. I told my partner I wanted more, but he just made empty promises. I have now ended our relationship. It wasn't what I wanted but I know it's for the best. Thanks so much for helping me to see the truth about him. TEENAGE TROUBLES Our sex life is great, so I don't understand why he has to do this. We're both 19 and have been together for a year. I'm not naive – I know guys watch porn. But he says he loves sex with me, so why does he still want to see other women's bodies? I told him how I felt and he explained it had nothing to do with our sex life. He just enjoys watching it sometimes. DEIDRE SAYS: Many guys do watch porn and it doesn't mean they don't love or desire their partners. But you are entitled to feel upset. Perhaps it's shocked you because you thought you knew everything about him, or because it's made you feel insecure. My support pack, Upset By Porn may help you. NEW LESBIAN LOVE KEEPS GIVING MIXED SIGNALS DEAR DEIDRE: I AM in my first same-sex relationship after a lifetime of only dating men. But the woman I'm seeing is blowing hot and cold on me and I'm not sure if she is leading me on. I'm female, 39 and divorced. In the past, I only ever had boyfriends, but recently I have started noticing that I'm attracted to women too. Part of me wondered if it was just a mid-life crisis, but I knew it was something I wanted to explore. So I went on a lesbian dating site and started talking to several women on there. I met one of them and had sex with her. It was a really enjoyable experience. Then I met someone else who I really hit it off with. We've been talking and texting loads, and have been out on a few dates. She said she wanted to take things slowly, so we've only kissed. But I've noticed that sometimes she is distant with me. She doesn't reply to messages, or takes days to do so. And she has also cancelled a few dates at the last minute. When I asked what was going on, she said she needed time and I should maybe find someone else. But then, when I start to give up and stop messaging her, she comes back to me as if nothing has happened and seems really keen again. I'm not sure what's going on. Should I end our fledgling relationship? DEIDRE SAYS: It's hard to say why she is being like this. It's possible she is seeing other women (or men), or that she has questions about her own sexuality. Or she may even feel you are too keen to get serious, given your lack of experience. Perhaps she doesn't want to be used or hurt. You need to talk to her honestly and tell her how you feel. Ask her to be truthful with you so you know where you stand. If things don't improve, walk away. ANXIOUS AT WIFE'S SEXUAL PAST DEAR DEIDRE: WHENEVER I think about my wife's sexual past, I feel jealous and insecure. She has had far more lovers than me. Sometimes it bothers me, and I wonder if I'm enough for her. We're both in our early 40s and have been married for 11 years, with a young son. Before we met, she thought nothing of having one-night stands, and also had a couple of friends with benefits. I'm no prude and would never judge her for it, but I was never sexually confident or adventurous. I only had three lovers before her, and they were all long-term relationships. Our sex life is good and we're very happy. I have no reason to believe she feels she's missing out. But every so often – like when she meets up with old friends who knew her back then – I'm reminded of her past and feel anxious. If I mention it to her, she tells me not to be so silly. I wish it didn't bother me. DEIDRE SAYS: Your wife can't change her past. You married her knowing all about it, and she chose you, not any previous lover. What's more, you've been happily married for 11 years. Your relationship is good. You know all this. But jealousy and insecurity aren't always rational. Your feelings may stem from your childhood experiences, where you were made to feel not good enough. And maybe, on some level, you do judge her past, perhaps because of the way you were brought up. My support pack, Dealing With Jealousy, should help. If this continues to bother you, think about having counselling.
