09-05-2025
Woman Wants to Rush Wedding Plans So Younger Sister Can't Get Married Before Her: 'It's My Right to Have That Moment First'
A woman shared on Reddit that she wants to rush her wedding plans after her younger sister expressed her intention to get engaged and marry soon
"As the eldest daughter, I want to have my first dance with my dad before her. It just feels like it's my right to have that moment with him first," the Redditor argued
After her sister refused her request to wait and let her get married first, the Redditor said she feels pushed to have her wedding "ASAP"
A woman is in a race against her younger sister to get to the altar first.
In a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, the 26-year-old woman said that she and her boyfriend of 10 years got engaged last month and are planning their wedding — but suddenly her sister, 22, has put pressure on their timeline.
According to the OP (original poster), her sister has been dating a man for six months and, while they are not engaged yet, they are talking about getting married soon. The OP is not happy about this, as she feels it's her "right" to be the first of the sisters to marry.
"I would of course be overjoyed for her, but I really want to be married before them. I admit it's for a selfish reason," she wrote, explaining, "As the eldest daughter, I want to have my first dance with my dad before her. I'm a daddy's girl, always have been. It just feels like it's my right to have that moment with him first."
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The OP went on to share that there are also other reasons why she doesn't want her sister to get married before her.
"They haven't been together long, and I worry they are rushing it. She hasn't had the best relationships in the past, and my whole family is still unsure of the new guy. They both need to mature more, and I'm really worried for her," she explained.
Justifying her decision to speak up to her sister about holding off on her wedding plans, the OP noted that she helped "take care of" her younger sister during their childhood while their parents were working and has "always been selfless" regarding her sibling.
It seems the conversation did not go well.
"After I worked up the courage and mentioned that I would like them to wait until we get married, I was jarred to get a scoff and a 'we aren't going to wait, so you guys need to hurry up if that's what you want,' " the OP recalled.
"Now I feel rushed to plan my wedding and have it ASAP," she concluded her post, asking fellow Redditors, "AITA [am I the a------]?"
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In the comments section, most readers shared the opinion that the OP was wrong to demand that her sister put her own plans on hold.
"YTA [you're the a------]. She doesn't have to work around your timeline. She has her own," the top-voted comment read. "As you said, you want this for selfish reasons. I would express your concerns and say exactly what you said here, see if she'll compromise out of kindness and understanding, but don't be surprised if she doesn't. Some people move faster in relationships than others, and if you wanted to get married first that badly you could've done so years ago."
Someone else bluntly said: "It's not your 'right' to have the first daddy-daughter dance. I don't know who you think you are even considering asking someone to wait until when/IF you get married. Your boyfriend waited 10 years to propose to you. That's a 'you' problem."
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Another commenter wondered, "What's next? Going to tell your sister to dare not get pregnant before you, so that you can make sure your dad's first grandchild comes from you?"
Yet another reader urged the OP to "let it go."
"I think it was big of you to at least be honest and admit that the motivation behind not wanting your sister to get married first is mostly selfish," they wrote. "That being said, you're gonna need to let this go. Don't be that person who causes unnecessary family drama over what amounts to petty jealousy."
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