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Daily Mail
19 hours ago
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Tinder is testing a HEIGHT filter - as devastated users say it's 'over for short men'
It's the go-to dating app for millions of people around the world. But Tinder has sparked controversy this week, following the launch of its latest feature. The dating app has quietly started testing a height filter. Spotted within the Premium Discovery section of Tinder's Settings, the tool allows users to specify the minimum and maximum heights for their matches. Posting a screenshot to Reddit, user @Extra_Barracudaaaa wrote: 'Oh God. They add a height filter.' Some users have welcomed the tool with open arms, with one asking: 'Why is this a problem?' 'If someone liked a certain height, go for it. It also weeds out the peeps who dont like your height,' they continued. However, others are less than impressed, with one sceptic tweeting: 'It's over for short men. What are they going to do now?' It's the go-to dating app for millions of people around the world. But Tinder has sparked controversy this week, following the launch of its latest feature. The dating app has quietly started testing a height filter Tinder users can already adjust several search preferences within the Discovery Settings - including age range, sexual orientation, and distance. 'Discovery is the part of Tinder where you see other people's profiles. You can adjust your search preferences and control who you see in Discovery by editing your Discovery Settings,' Tinder explains in its Help Centre. However, users who subscribe to Tinder Platinum - a premier subscription tier starting at £16.67/month - have access to additional preferences. This includes the new height option, as well as minimum number of photos, whether or not they have a bio, and specific interests. Technically, these are 'preferences', rather than outright filters. 'Preferences show you people who match your vibe, but won't limit who you see - you'll still be able to match with people outside of your selections,' Tinder explained. While Tinder did not widely announce the height tool, it confirmed to MailOnline that it is testing the paid option. 'We're always listening to what matters most to our Tinder users - and testing the paid height preference is a great example of how we're building with urgency, clarity, and focus,' a Tinder spokesperson told MailOnline. One distraught users claimed it's 'over for short men' after spotting a screenshot of Tinder's new height filter The tool has received a very mixed response across social media, with some welcoming the option 'I 1000% wouldn't have met my wife if this filter existed, I'm short (5'5') and definitely would have been filtered out immediately just by even a basic filter for 5'7'+ (slightly below average height and over). God speed to my fellow short kings. Glad to be out of it,' one user said 'This is part of a broader effort to help people connect more intentionally on Tinder. 'Our new product principles guide every decision, and this one speaks directly to a few: prioritizing user outcomes, moving fast, and learning quickly. 'Not every test becomes a permanent feature, but every test helps us learn how we can deliver smarter, more relevant experiences and push the category forward.' The tool has received a mixed response across social media, with some welcoming the option. 'I honestly don't see what's so bad or wrong about this can someone explain?' one user asked. Another added: 'It's a good thing. Not a bad thing. Now you can match with people whose standards you meet.' And one wrote: 'Good. People have preferences and that's totally cool.' However, other users were more cynical. 'I 1000% wouldn't have met my wife if this filter existed, I'm short (5'5') and definitely would have been filtered out immediately just by even a basic filter for 5'7'+ (slightly below average height and over). God speed to my fellow short kings. Glad to be out of it,' one user said. Another added: 'When are they adding a weight filter so men can do the same thing for women?' And one joked: 'Doesn't matter most people will probably lie about their height lol.' The news comes shortly after it was revealed that women are using ChatGPT to c atch men lying about their heights on dating apps. 'Girls are using ChatGPT to see if men are lying about their height on dating apps,' said Justine Moore, a venture capitalist in San Francisco. 'Upload four pictures, it uses proportions and surroundings to estimate height. 'I tested it on 10 friends and family members – all estimates were within 1 inch of their real height.' HOW DID ONLINE DATING BECOME SO POPULAR? The first ever incarnation of a dating app can be traced back to 1995 when was first launched. The website allowed single people to upload a profile, a picture and chat to people online. The app was intended to allow people looking for long-term relationships to meet. eHarmony was developed in 2000 and two years later Ashley Madison, a site dedicated to infidelity and cheating, was first launched. A plethora of other dating sites with a unique target demographic were set up in the next 10-15 years including: OKCupid (2004), Plenty of Fish (2006), Grindr (2009) and Happn (2013). In 2012, Tinder was launched and was the first 'swipe' based dating platform. After its initial launch it's usage snowballed and by March 2014 there were one billion matches a day, worldwide. In 2014, co-founder of Tinder, Whitney Wolfe Herd launched Bumble, a dating app that empowered women by only allowing females to send the first message. The popularity of mobile dating apps such as Tinder, Badoo and more recently Bumble is attributable to a growing amount of younger users with a busy schedule. In the 1990s, there was a stigma attached to online dating as it was considered a last-ditch and desperate attempt to find love. This belief has dissipated and now around one third of marriages are between couples who met online. A survey from 2014 found that 84 per cent of dating app users were using online dating services to look for a romantic relationship.
Independent Singapore
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- Independent Singapore
Woman says she's ‘bewildered' after man asks her to 'PayNow him' for their first date dinner
SINGAPORE: A woman was surprised when a man she went on a first date with asked her to send him money via PayNow for dinner, several days after they met. She shared her experience on the r/askSingapore forum on Saturday (May 31), explaining that she had agreed to meet the man, who is in his 30s, after they had developed a good connection through their conversations on a dating app. Describing the date, she recounted, 'He kindly offered to pay for the meal, which I appreciated, so I suggested we head to a nearby bar afterward so I could return the favour and buy the drinks.' However, when they arrived at the bar, the man mentioned that he had leftover drink credits from previous visits, so he did not order anything new. As a result, she ended up paying for her own drinks alone. She also noted that the chemistry in person did not quite match the spark they had during their online conversations, making the overall experience somewhat underwhelming. 'The vibe just wasn't the same as it was over chat, so after the date, our texting kinda fizzled and slowed down. I didn't reply for a few days.' However, several days later, she was caught off guard when the man suddenly messaged her, asking her to transfer her share of the dinner bill via PayNow. See also Man asks how to recover S$60K his friend borrowed 3 years ago 'He messaged me saying the dinner was XXX each and asked me to PayNow the amount. For context, it wasn't an expensive restaurant, and let's just say he earns quite a bit and owns a condo he bought himself,' she said. 'While I do think it's a nice and gentlemanly gesture when a guy covers the bill on the first date, I'm not trying to be entitled — I'm totally fine with splitting bills and going Dutch. I did transfer him [the money], but this is the first time someone has asked me to transfer money after a first date, especially when (I assume) it's pretty clear to him that there's no second date, haha. I find it more amusing and bewildering than anything.' Curious if others had similar experiences, she asked the forum, 'Is this normal? Would love to hear your thoughts and POV from both female and male!' 'He sees it's not going anywhere, and so he thinks he wasted his money…' In the comments section, some Reddit users defended the man's actions, suggesting that he might have only asked for the money after feeling ignored. They speculated that while he may have initially been willing to cover the cost of dinner, the woman's lack of response after the date could have triggered his decision to request repayment. See also 6 effective approaches when dealing with difficult people at work One said, 'He might have been ok with paying for the meal, but is now upset about the lack of a reply. I know of people of both genders who hate not getting replies, so now he asks to chop up the bill. This is not what I would have done, but I can see why some people might feel they are getting ghosted and respond in this manner. We also don't have his side of the story, so who knows what really happened?' Another commented, 'I think it's only right to pay your share since it is a first date and neither of you is an item. I've always told my daughters not to let the other party pay all the expenses.' However, not everyone agreed. Others felt that asking for repayment days after the date was a bad move. One explained, 'It would have been perfectly normal for you guys to have split the meal at the time, or even if you agreed to split it, but just pay (the) merchant on a single card, and then you PayNow him instantly back there and then. See also GF ends relationship because BF's S$16,000 savings too little But to pay for dinner and then wait a few days and send a bill, that's just weird. He sees it's not going anywhere, and so he thinks he wasted his money. Well, tough luck, this ship has sailed already.' In other news, a woman took to an online forum to share her frustration about her boyfriend, claiming that in their nine-month relationship, he had never once initiated a date or treated her to even a simple meal. 'In these nine months, he's never initiated bringing me out on a date once, never treated me to a meal, and never surprised me with any gifts (no matter how small).' According to her, the only times he's ever bought her anything were under certain conditions: when she asked for it, when he felt pressured to return a gift, or when he sensed she was upset and offered her a fast food meal. Read more: 'Is this SG men these days?' — Woman says her BF never once initiated a date or treated her Featured image by Depositphotos (for illustration purposes only)
Yahoo
3 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
My cultural awakening: A Timothée Chalamet drama made me leave my partner – and check him into rehab
Two summers ago, I met a man on a dating app who would become my boyfriend. The red flags were there from the start, but I ignored them all. When I stayed at his, he didn't have a towel to offer me, and he never changed his sheets. It became obvious that he didn't know how to look after himself. Even though, in reality, he could survive without me (similar to how a teenage boy would survive on his own, eating burgers in bed), I felt like, if I wasn't there to buy groceries, cook and clean, he might die. He would disappear for days, on a drink- or drugs-fuelled bender, and I'd assume he'd overdosed in a basement somewhere. I lived in fear that something terrible would happen to him. I became his boyfriend and his caregiver. This was a familiar role for me: I'd done it in all my previous relationships. I needed to be needed. If the person I was dating didn't need me, then what value did I have? I found safety in taking care of someone. This started as a family dynamic: as the eldest child, I had to look out for my younger brothers, and learned to overlook my own needs. Then, when I was 14, my girlfriend died in a drug-related car accident. My therapist helped me to see the connection; that because I couldn't save her, I sought romantic relationships with men or women I thought I could save instead. I hadn't seen how much I was damaging myself by trying to help him. And that I never would never be able to One evening, after being recommended it by Netflix, I began watching Beautiful Boy, a film about the breakdown of a father's relationship with his son, who is an addict. It was about halfway through that I decided to leave my relationship. When Steve Carell's character (David) hangs up on Timothée Chalamet (Nic), saying, 'I wish I could help you, but I can't do that,' I knew I couldn't either. I admired the strength it took to end the cycle of trying (and failing) to save his son. Even though he was my boyfriend and three years older, I related to the father-son dynamic in Beautiful Boy. I felt responsible for him, and he would tell me that he would die without me, threatening to take his own life. Until then, I hadn't seen how much I was damaging myself by trying to help him. And that I would never be able to, not really. He had to learn how to take care of himself. As David says: 'I don't think you can save people.' Despite deciding to end the relationship in September 2023, I didn't take action until October, when I cheated on him. I felt I had to do something irreparable that would make it impossible for us to stay together. I told him what I'd done over the phone, then I called his mum to tell her about his drug problem. I don't think she knew: she lived in another country and he hid it from her. Finally, I called a psychiatric facility and did all of the admin to make sure that he would be taken care of, and then never spoke to him again. The guilt I felt was overpowered by the feeling that this was something I had to do. That was my last codependent relationship. I have a new boyfriend, who tells me that my company alone is enough. I'm the most peaceful I've ever been, but sometimes the voice that says I'm only lovable if I'm useful comes back. If I try to cook for my boyfriend when I'm tired and he tells me I don't have to, I can spiral. But slowly, with help, I'm building a sense of self that doesn't rely on being of service. Beautiful Boy helped me see that I don't need to take care of someone else to have value. Action on Addiction is available on 0300 330 0659.
CTV News
26-05-2025
- CTV News
Toronto man who allegedly misrepresented himself on Hinge, Telegram charged with sexual assault
Adnan Menderes Obuz has been charged with sexual assault. (Toronto Police Service) A Toronto man who allegedly misrepresented himself on a dating app has been charged with sexual assault. In a news release issued Monday, police said the suspect met the victim through Hinge and communicated through the messaging app Telegram. The suspect and victim agreed to meet in person at an undisclosed time, they said. The suspect then allegedly brought the victim to his apartment where he allegedly sexually assaulted them. It's unclear if the victim sustained any injuries. Toronto Police Service (TPS) did not say how exactly the suspect misrepresented himself. The suspect, identified by TPS as 61-year-old Toronto resident Adnan Menderes Obuz, was arrested and charged on May 22. Investigators say Obuz is known to use names such as 'Zane' and 'Call me Zane Edward Adnan the Buzz' online. 'Investigators believe there may be more victims and are urging anyone with information to come forward and contact police,' a news release read. Police are asking anyone with information about the investigation to contact them at 416-808-5200 or Crime Stoppers anonymously.
Daily Mail
25-05-2025
- Daily Mail
Cops arrest woman who used latino dating app to lure man in before robbing and shooting him
Two Oregon women are facing serious charges after allegedly using a dating app to lure a man into a robbery that ended in a violent shooting, according to the Benton County Sheriff's Office. Julia Dell Yepez and Alexa Montano Corral, both 20, were arrested days apart following an investigation into the May 17 incident in Corvallis. Authorities say the women connected with the victim through Chispa, a dating app geared toward Latino and Latina singles, and arranged to meet him under false pretenses. Instead of a romantic encounter, the meeting turned into a planned setup. Deputies believe the pair intended to rob the man, but the situation escalated and the victim was shot. The incident unfolded around 5:30 a.m. near the intersection of Highway 99W and Lakeside Drive. When officers arrived at the scene, they found the man suffering from a gunshot wound. He was rushed to a nearby hospital, where he remains in stable condition with non-life-threatening injuries. Witnesses described seeing two Hispanic women fleeing the area on foot. One of them was reportedly wearing a long-sleeve black shirt, which helped authorities later identify one of the suspects. Following the investigation, Yepez was arrested on Tuesday and charged with attempted murder, first-degree assault, kidnapping, and additional charges. She is currently being held at the Benton County Jail with her bail set at $300,000, according to court records. Corral was taken into custody on Thursday and is facing several conspiracy charges in connection to the scheme. Her bail has been set at $250,000. Investigators have also tied both women to similar alleged criminal activity in a nearby county, although specific details about those incidents have not been publicly released. In a statement, the Benton County Sheriff's Office issued a warning to anyone using dating platforms, especially those that involve meeting in person. 'Always meet in public and never isolate yourself until you are certain of the other person's intentions,' the statement read. 'Trust your instincts, share your plans with a friend or family member, and take steps to stay safe.' The investigation remains ongoing. Authorities have not released the name of the victim, citing privacy and safety concerns.
