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I can't get an erection after being kicked in the groin – my partner thinks I'm avoiding her
OUR resident specialist and NHS GP, Dr Zoe Williams, shares her expert advice.
Today, Dr Zoe helps a reader who is unable to get an erection and is avoiding intimacy with his partner.
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Q) A FEW months ago I was trying to help a young woman who had ingested a fair amount of ketamine and was lashing out.
She kicked me twice in my groin area, causing considerable pain. After a few days, I found I was passing blood, which has now stopped.
However, I'm no longer able to get an erection and my partner is getting concerned that I'm having sex with someone else as I try to avoid all intimacy.
I have type 2 diabetes but this is under control through medication and diet. I am a 59-year-old and I have never had erection problems before.
A) Trauma to the groin area can damage arteries, veins, or nerves responsible for erections.
The kicks to the groin followed by visible blood in your urine suggest there may have been some injury to the urinary tract or surrounding structures – possibly the bladder, urethra, or even the blood supply or nerves to the penis.
Visible blood in the urine should always be investigated, so please make an appointment with your GP.
Because your erectile dysfunction began immediately after a traumatic event, this does suggest a physical cause rather than a gradual metabolic cause (like long-standing diabetes).
Although your situation has a clear physical trigger, the fear, embarrassment, and relationship stress can also feed into ED, creating a cycle.
Avoiding intimacy, even for understandable reasons, often increases partner suspicion and tension.
If possible, explain to your partner that this was an injury-related problem, not infidelity.
