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Daily Mail
5 hours ago
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Will Poulter accused of 'ghosting' AGAIN as actress ex Yasmeen Scott says she's 'not surprised' he left model lover 'blindsided' after brutally 'dumping her via Whatsapp'
Will Poulter has seemingly been accused of ghosting yet again just days after his model ex Bobby T claimed he'd brutally 'dumped her via WhatsApp without warning'. Sandman actress Yasmeen Scott, who dated the Guardians Of The Galaxy star from 2018 until 2019, said she was 'not surprised' to hear of his reported behaviour. Will, 32, and model Bobby T, 45, went their separate ways earlier this year after it was reported he had moved on with Top Boy actress Saffron Hocking. Taking to TikTok Yasmeen, who in 2023 was linked to McFly's Dougie Poynter, commented on a fan post about the split. She quipped: 'I'm not surprised by this behaviour at ALLLLLLL'. Taking to TikTok Yasmeen, who also appeared in last year's Bob Marley biopic One Love, commented on a fan post about the split MailOnline have contacted Will and Yasmeen's reps for comment. Will and Bobby were first linked after being spotted passionately kissing in 2022, following reports he had moved on the model broke her silence on the split. In a lengthy Instagram statement, she wrote: 'Just so there's no confusion, I was in a real relationship for almost three years. 'We built a life together. We planned the details of our wedding. He wasn't just in my life. He was in my son's. 'He called him his stepson and they had a real relationship. Because of his age my son only remembers a life when he was there. That was his normal. 'He was there for first days of school and volunteered his classroom. He came to school meetings and showed up in every way. The school knew him as family. 'Then one day with no warning and no signs of trouble he just ended it over WhatsApp. That was it. Just gone. 'I was in love. We were blindsided. But what hurts most is how easily he disappeared, especially from my son's perspective. Like he never existed. After reports Will has moved on with Top Boy actress Saffron Hocking , Bobby has now spoken out about their split for the first time 'I have waited months in hope that I would have more clarity, but I wasn't given that by him or his family who we considered family too. We didn't even get our belongings back.' She added: 'I am not scorned. I just want the truth to be known so I can move forward with my life in peace. 'Please let this be all and I will not be sharing any more.' MailOnline has contacted Will Poulter's representatives and Bobby for comment. Last week Will was spotted looking close with actress Saffron, 31, over lunch after the pair had been also snapped hanging out together at Glastonbury in June. An insider told The Sun: 'Will and Bobby had a great time together but at the end of the day they realised it wasn't going to last long term.' Detailing the beginning of his relationship with Saffron they continued: 'He's known Saffron for a while but they have been spending more time together recently. 'They were both hosted by Barbour at Glasto and got on like a house on fire. It's very early days and while they might be telling people they are just friends, the sparks between them are obvious to everyone.' Saffron is best known for her role in the rebooted Netflix series of Top Boy as Lauryn, a pregnant mum-to-be who suffers domestic abuse before taking matters into her own hands. She was been nominated for a TV BAFTA for her role. She has also starred in Strangeways Here We Come, Marvel Disney+ series Moon Knight as well as Prime Video series Riches and The Devil's Hour. She and Will are thought to have met two years ago when they both worked on a Friend of the Earth campaign. They both attended Glastonbury with Barbour. Meanwhile Will was first seen pictured passionately kissing Bobby, real name Erin Campaneris, on the streets of West Hollywood in 2022 with an insider close to the couple saying they spent Christmas together in the UK with Will's family. Bobby has modelled since she was 15 and is currently signed to agencies Ford Models, LA Models, and New York Models. Will, famed for his roles in Netflix series Black Mirror and Leonardo DiCaprio film, The Revenant, had also grown close to Bobby's son, Daniel, eight, who she shares with former quarterback and NFL analyst Mark Sanchez.
Yahoo
2 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
What a viral TikTok teaches us about ghosting
You match with that perfect-on-paper person on a dating app. You chat back and forth for a few days, butterflies fluttering in your stomach. A fantastic first date begets a second. You check in about a third date, and then – crickets. Nada. Zilch. What gives? You've been ghosted, an all-too-common phenomenon in the digital age where your date loses interest and cuts off communication. Gut-wrenching for you, yes, but is it just as awful for your loved ones? A recent viral TikTok with 1.6 million views offered a crucial, confounding statement: "When you ghost me, just know you're not punishing me. You're punishing my best friend. You're punishing the group chat. Because I will be talking about you and all the scenarios that led up to you ghosting me 150,000 times, and they're going to have to hear it." As silly as the TikTok is, mental health experts caution the framing of expressing your feelings to loved ones as punishment, and discourage letting the "ghoster" hold power over you. "It's important to remember that the ghoster's behavior is ultimately a reflection of their own emotional handicap and impaired value system," says Cecille Ahrens, a licensed clinical social worker. "They often are wounded themselves, and lack the proper relationship and communication tools to navigate more complex emotions." In case you missed: This new dating trend is leaving people baffled and heartbroken. It's called 'Banksying.' 'Ghosting prevents development of these important relationship skills' Date around long enough, and you've likely been ghosted and/or have done the ghosting yourself. Hit a "mute" button on your phone, block a number, ignore that notification bubble – all easy. But actions have consequences. "Ghosting in my clinical opinion is a form of emotional neglect, as well as a form of conflict avoidance," Ahrens says. "In extreme cases, it can be part of a larger pattern of emotional abuse on the part of the ghoster." Sometimes ghosting, even if impolite, is understandable. "If you're going through a depressive episode or you're so burned out that you can't get your thoughts together, it makes sense that you'd have trouble communicating," says Kimberly Vered Shashoua, a licensed clinical social worker. "The ideal thing to do is let people know you're struggling and that responses will be delayed." In healthy, safe relationships, upfront, honest communication remains the best course of action. "Learning how to confront a difficult situation or have a challenging conversation is an emotional skill that is necessary for healthy relationships," adds Laura Petiford, a licensed marriage and family therapist. "Engaging in ghosting prevents development of these important relationship skills." Did you see? A woman's canceled Hinge date went mega-viral. Here's what she did next. Yes, it's OK to talk to friends, family for support How the person ghosted reacts depends on their own trauma. "In my experience, if the person being ghosted has a particular history of abandonment, abuse or rejection, they tend to suffer greatly, often internalizing and personalizing the ghoster's behaviors," Ahrens adds. It's no wonder, then, that people will reach out to loved ones to lick their wounds. But don't let this viral (albeit unserious) TikTok cloud your thinking: "In no way is having to hear about a friend's grief and loss over an attachment injury somehow worse than being injured in that way yourself," says Sheila Addison, a family and marriage therapist. If you find yourself ghosted again and again, though, there's nothing wrong with seeking professional help, especially "if one finds themselves excessively preoccupied and significantly distressed by the act of ghosting," Ahrens says. The next time you're waiting for that text back, wait. Take a deep breath. They'll text you back or they won't. And that's OK. This article originally appeared on USA TODAY: Relationship issues: Viral TikTok teaches us truth about ghosting Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
3 days ago
- Business
- Yahoo
In a ‘world of ghosting,' this KC-area matchmaking service helps singles find love
Dating in the Kansas City metro isn't for the faint of heart. For many singles in their 20s and 30s, the experience is filled with fleeting connections, making modern love feel more complicated than ever. In an age dominated by dating apps, ghosting and judgments based on profile pictures, finding a real connection can feel like trying to win a game where the rules are always changing. 'The dating world here nowadays isn't the greatest,' said 30-year-old John Scavuzzo of Kansas City. 'I've been on dates and everything, but it never goes past a couple of months, because there's always the whole world of ghosting.' While modern online dating has its benefits, Scavuzzo, like many singles in the metro, has struggled to find a connection. One organization based in KC, however, is making efforts to help singles in the region find their perfect match. But unlike common dating apps, this organization takes a more outdated route to modern dating. How Midwest Matchmaking came to be Courtney Quinlan, CEO and founder of Midwest Matchmaking, a Midwest-focused matchmaking service with the tagline 'Love Without Swiping,' realized she had a passion for helping others find love, a dedication that emerged from her post-grad position working for a national matchmaking company. In an email to the Star, Quinlan expressed how this position pushed her to launch her own matchmaking agency. 'While I loved the work, I knew I could improve the experience for clients and had my own ideas about how matchmaking should be done—more personalized, more genuine, and more regionally focused.' In 2009, Quinlan launched Omaha Love and in 2017, she expanded her company into Midwest Matchmaking to provide her services throughout the entire region. Serving exclusively the Midwest, it is the only matchmaking service dedicated to the region. 'We offer a more personal, high-touch approach—no blind dates or endless swiping,' said Quinlan. From scheduling dates to introductions, the agency also takes care of all of the logistics for its clients. 'Clients see photos and profiles before agreeing to meet someone and we personally meet and screen every candidate to ensure quality and compatibility.' How the matchmaking process works For Midwest Matchmaking, the process involves providing singles with qualified individuals for guidance during the dating process. From professional photos and introductions with other singles to post-date feedback and coaching, the agency refines its process per individual in order to find a successful match. Continuously refining their systems through actual humans over algorithms and technological methods within dating apps has a more personal approach, according to Quinlan. 'There's no algorithm that can replace human intuition, empathy, and experience when it comes to matters of the heart.' But there's more to a successful match than meets the eye. Matchmakers at the agency must collect a wide variety of information to take into consideration, such as lifestyle choices and politics, parenting preferences, age ranges and other aspects of life such as smoking, drinking and tattoos. 'Our experienced matchmakers use their instincts and expertise to suggest strong matches, but we always include the client's voice in the final decision,' Quinlan told the Star. 'We know attraction is subjective and chemistry can't always be predicted by a profile.' Midwestern values and dating pools When it comes to specifically focusing on the Midwest, Quinlan told the Star how differences in the dating scene vary in coastal states from the Midwest and how, with these differences, come lasting outcomes. 'People in the Midwest tend to settle down earlier than those on the coasts. As a result, we often see younger divorcees. The cultural pace here is just a bit different, more family-focused and grounded.' But values and priorities have changed over time for the dating pool. According to Quinlan, the main priority for local singles no longer focuses on traditional milestones such as marriage or having children, but on emotional connections. 'The focus has become less about 'checking boxes' and more about finding someone they can truly enjoy life with.' While matchmaking services may seem obsolete to some, others have been turning to them after failing to make a connection through dating apps or in real life. 'I've been trying to look for more alternatives to get off the dating apps,' said 27-year-old Daniel Gray of Kansas City, Missouri. 'It's interesting because at that point, I feel like it's out of my hands. I'm trusting these people to make a judgment that I think I would be better making myself. But I do think there's a space for them. I think there could be a sense of novelty that comes with it.' Putting your love life in the hands of another can be a risky move. For 23-year-old Derri Morrison, dating has had its struggles after experiencing the vast differences of Midwestern values compared to other regions. Previously living in major cities such as Houston and Dallas, Texas, Morrison has also resided in quiet towns of Ottawa and now Olathe, Kansas. 'In smaller towns in Kansas, what they expect out of a relationship and the kind of person they are expected to bring home is very different from a big city. People that live out there, they're more open to any type of person than here.' While she has struggled to make a connection via dating apps or face-to-face, Morrison is still hesitant about matchmaking services, as they require a lot of opening up on her end for a matchmaking service to work. 'They (matchmakers) would have to really know the type of person I am,' said Morrison. 'Really get to know me and know the type of person that I even want to be around, or the type of people I allow to be around me. But it is refreshing. I feel like people that go to matchmakers know more of what they want if they're taking that step to actually find someone to help them, instead of relying on an app or themselves. Matchmakers pick the qualities in two different people that they could see together, even though it doesn't always work out, they were matched for a reason.' How to find 'love without swiping' Find Midwest Matchmaker's prices, services and locations on its website at Solve the daily Crossword
The Sun
3 days ago
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Will Poulter's ex slams him for ‘ghosting her' after brutally dumping her via WhatsApp – as his new romance revealed
WILL Poulter's ex has slammed him for 'ghosting her' and her son, after brutally dumping her via WhatsApp. The Bear star, 32, called it quits with mum-of-one Bobby T, 45, earlier this year after a whirlwind romance before getting to know Top Boy star Saffron Hocking. 5 Will was spotted looking very close with Saffron over a lunch date in London last week after hanging out at Glastonbury festival last month and enjoying Wimbledon together. Now, his ex Bobby T has publicly slammed the star for 'ghosting her.' On social media she shared a statement, and wrote: 'Just so there's no confusion, I was in a real relationship for almost three years. 'We built a life together. We planned the details of our wedding. He wasn't just in my life. He was in my son's. 'He called him his stepson and they had a real relationship. Because of his age my son only remembers a life when he was there. That was his normal.' She went on: 'He was there for first days of school and volunteered his his classroom. 'He came to school meetings and showed up in every way. The school knew him as family. 'Then one day with no warning and no signs of trouble he just ended it over WhatsApp. That was it. Just gone.' Bobby said: 'I was in love. We were blindsided. But what hurts most is how easily he disappeared, especially from my son's perspective. Like he never existed. Will Poulter is terrified of new horror Midsommar - even though he's IN it, he tells Chris Evans Virgin Radio Breakfast Show 'I have waited months in hope that I would have more clarity, but I wasn't given that by him or his family who we considered family too.' She shared how they didn't get their belongings back, and said she's faced judgment and cruelty from other women since their split. Bobby ended by writing: 'I am not scorned. I just want the truth to be known so I can move forward with my life in peace. 'Please let this be all and I will not be sharing any more.' Saffron, 31, who Will is getting to know, is a British actress who has worked on a number of hit shows and is well loved for playing Jaq's sister Lauryn Lawrence on the award winning Top Boy. Will and Saffron are thought to have first met two years ago when they both worked on a Friend of the Earth campaign. It was first revealed that the Guardians of the Galaxy star, was d ating Bobby, who is 14 years his senior, in January of last year after they reportedly spent Christmas together. The pair previously sparked romance interest in 2022 when they were spotted kissing on the streets of West Hollywood. Bobby, real name Erin Campaneris, made a name for herself by modelling with a string of US agencies including Ford Models, LA models and New York Models. Will first rose to fame in the early 2010s after starring in The Chronicles of Narnia: The Voyage of the Dawn Treader. Since then, he has been seen in several other productions including Dopestick, We're the Millers alongside Jennifer Aniston, Maze Runner: The Death Cure, and Black Mirror: Bandersnatch. He also worked with the likes of Leonardo DiCaprio in The Revenant. The star has also won multiple awards including the 2014 BAFTA Rising Star Awards, and the 2015 MTV Movie & TV Award for Best Fight. He started off his career in the Son of Rambow at the age of 13. 5 5
Yahoo
4 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
If After A Few Texts Your Crush Has Gone AWOL, They May Be Ghosting You
Dating is spookier than ever, and I'm not just talking about people who list "the gym" as their love language on Hinge. I'm referring to the modern dating trend of "ghosting." Ghosting isn't necessarily new. While the word itself—plus its modern definition—wasn't added into the dictionary until 2017, the behavior of cutting off communication without explanation has always existed in some way or another. However, with the rise of social media and dating apps, the act of ghosting has become more prevalent and the psychological effects cannot be ignored. According to a study published in the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, nearly a quarter of daters in the United States have been ghosted by a romantic partner. What's more? Those who have experienced ghosting—or a combined form of breadcrumbing and ghosting—reported less satisfaction with life and greater feelings of loneliness. Meet the Experts: Kalley Hartman, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Newport Beach, California and the men's clinical director at Ocean Green, LCPC, is a psychotherapist based in Chicago, Parmar, MD, is a forensic psychiatrist and mental health expert at Clinic Spots. If you fear you have been ghosted, or simply want some advice on how to move on from a ghostly experience, ahead relationship experts break down what ghosting is, exactly, and what to do if you, too, have been personally victimized by Casper the Not-So-Friendly Ghost. What is ghosting? Ghosting, per the experts, is suddenly ending communication with someone without explanation. This can apply to romantic situations, which is how it's often discussed, but ghosting can also occur between friends or acquiantances. The key is the abrupt stop in return calls, text, emails, or DMs, says Chicago-based psychotherapist Tiffany Green. And people who ghost provide 'no explanation for why they are choosing to end communication,' Green adds. Imagine you're texting a new person you went on a few dates with pretty consistently—a little flirty banter, perhaps talks about your next date—and that person just stops answering mid-convo. You try after a few hours, and then again after a day, only to find out your usually blue iMessages have all of a sudden gone green. Sorry to break it to you, but may have been ghosted. Obviously, the impact of this behavior varies depending on your level of intimacy. Being ghosted by a person you've been DM-ing back and forth on a dating app may sting a bit less than, say, your bestie. Nevertheless, when someone completely cuts off communication with you without saying why, it can rattle your sense of confidence and reality. 'Ghosting can be a difficult and painful experience for both parties involved,' says Kalley Hartman, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Newport Beach, California. 'But it can leave the ghosted partner feeling especially confused, hurt, and abandoned.' Why do people ghost? There are many reasons—trust me when I say I've considered them all—as to why people ghost. But quite often, people abruptly end all communication with another person because they do not want to feel any kind of discomfort, and they'd rather digitally drop off the face of the Earth than have an honest conversation or even shoot a text message, says Green. And while it's not the nicest way to cut things off, some people just can't tolerate emotional conflict, Green notes. Let's say you got into a seemingly innocent political discussion over drinks. And maybe what you thought was a harmless quip about your political leanings was actually a huge deal or game-changing piece of information for your date. Rather than just, ya know, saying something, some people would rather just vanish. 'People often ghost when there are difficult topics they do not want to explore or discuss,' explains Green. However, if a date you thought you had a good rapport with suddenly goes AWOL, Dr. Ketan Parmar, MD, a forensic psychiatrist and mental health expert at Clinic Spots, urges a bit of empathy. The person you've been chatting with may be too scared to explain their feelings or is simply not emotionally mature enough to do so—a frustrating but common phenomenon, he says. 'They may also be trying to avoid a potentially awkward confrontation or even just trying to protect themselves from getting hurt. Whatever the reason, ghosting is a way out.' How should I respond if I think I've been ghosted? Well, first off, it's important not to jump to conclusions, Green says, which is difficult in a situation like this. But remember: People are busy and things do come up! If you think your friend, or potential romantic partner, is in a state of overwhelm, it may be worth reaching out. Maybe they truly do have a lot of stress at work or at home, and perhaps they mentioned something about it earlier in your conversation. Sending a note letting them know you're thinking of them—a sort of "Hey, I'm thinking of you and I hope you're okay"— can go a long way, says Green. 'It is not uncommon for people to resurface after their life circumstances have been resolved and they are interested in reconnecting,' Green adds. If this is a true ghost, though, it is important to take matters into your own hands. Ask yourself what would make you feel better in this situation, says Hartman. You may want to take time to process your feelings and try to come to terms with the ending of the relationship however feels right to you. That can look like busting out your journal, calling a friend, or just taking a few days away with your thoughts. But whatever your form of self-care and processing is, make time for it. This is not something to gloss over, says Hartman, as it can be startling. 'It is also important to remember that whatever the reason for the ghosting, it is not a reflection of your worth or value as a person,' she adds. Period. After taking some time to reflect, it can also be helpful to reach out in a kind and respectful way. Sending a message expressing how that person's behavior made you feel and getting your own form of closure can be key here, explains Hartman. 'This will help build your resilience and help protect against further hurtful behavior in the future.' What's the best way to get over being ghosted? Someone you care about cutting you out of their life without explanation hurts. There are no "ifs" or "buts" about it. But creating safe, supportive environments to express your feelings and talk through everything can help you in the long run, says Hartman. Schedule time to talk to the people that get you and can help you build yourself back up. Self-care—like journaling, meditating, resting, or perhaps hitting the streets for a good old Hot Girl Walk—can also really help boost your self-esteem, Hartman adds. To paraphrase the Ghostbusters themselves: 'Who you gonna call?' Your therapist! According to Hartman, it can be helpful to speak to a professional who can walk you through coping skills and allow you to debrief on anything you might have overlooked in the relationship. Also important to remember here: 'Ghosting says more about the other person, their communication style, and investment in your relationship than about you," says Green. "Try to see it as a warning sign of potential red flags about a relationship if it had continued.' How do I avoid accidentally ghosting someone? As difficult as it can be to have open and honest conversations, communication is key when dating—and in life in general! Simply sending someone a message saying you are no longer interested can save them weeks, months, or even years of 'what ifs,' say the experts. Not only is it a decent thing to do, but in this Taylor Swift era, where karma is your boyfriend, I, for one, definitely want it to be on my side. You Might Also Like Jennifer Garner Swears By This Retinol Eye Cream These New Kicks Will Help You Smash Your Cross-Training Goals 😵💫 Need to unwind after a long day?
