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16-07-2025
- General
- Yahoo
People Who Divorced In Their First Year Of Marriage Are Revealing The "Final Straw" Moment That Ended It All
We recently wrote a post where people who got divorced in their first year of marriage revealed the shocking reasons why. In the comments, more readers shared their stories, which range from devastating to absolutely shocking. Here's what they had to say: 1."We were together for seven years before getting married, so I thought it was a sure thing. About six months after the marriage, he started getting distant. One night, I asked what was wrong. Completely blindsided me by saying he couldn't do it anymore, and he wanted out. He moved out shortly after claiming we had grown apart and weren't the same people. It turns out he was with a woman from his work; they married two years later and have a kid now." "I thought I'd never get over him and that heartbreak, but I've been in a long-term relationship for eight years. I'll never get married again; that ruined it for me." —Anonymous, 40, Canada 2."I was in my early 20s and had a young child from a previous relationship when I married my high school sweetheart. I broke up with him in high school because he cheated. I never felt the same about him. He had never gotten over me and pursued me consistently. Against my better judgment, I gave in because marrying him seemed to make sense. He proposed, probably a month after I agreed to be his girlfriend. He went out of his way to care for my daughter and me. After marriage, he flipped a switch." "He became aggressive and controlling. We didn't last long after that. I learned that pushing for a quick commitment can be a sign of an abuser. I don't think he ever stopped cheating, either. I wish I had followed my intuition and stayed away." —Anonymous, 45, Florida 3."I married the Mormon missionary who baptized me. Moved from California to Tennessee, where his mother refused to let go of her 'baby.' I was pregnant after one month of marriage. His mother convinced him that he didn't love me and needed to divorce me. She had us over for dinner, where she tried to convince me to give our son up for adoption to his only sister. My dad flew out to Tennessee and packed my Ford Ranger up and drove me back to California." "Horrible 18 years of raising our son alone with my ex-husband, who was diagnosed many years later with bipolar disorder. Also, Tennessee racism is appalling, and I would never want to raise a child there. It was the most traumatic experience." —Anonymous, 43, California 4."She was emotionally cheating on me with a friend for about 10 months and had had multiple physical affairs I never knew about. We'd been together five years, living together for three, and had a house together. We got married last June, then in September, our mutual friend, with whom she was having an emotional affair, gave her an ultimatum of either leaving me for him, or he would break things off. She freaked out and wrote me a letter about how she had been having this emotional affair since our engagement, six months before the wedding, and it was going strong, but she wanted to be honest with me and tell me herself. ... I decided to stay with her and give couples therapy a chance because I was raised that you don't just give up on a marriage. After all, a situation gets difficult, or someone makes a mistake. Through that, though, she ultimately confessed that she had several physical affairs in the past five years." "Her last long-term relationship broke up because she had a sexual affair with him. She has been cheating in every relationship, ever. By January of this year, it was clear that her issues were a lot deeper than I was equipped to handle. The divorce went through a week or two ago. Ultimately, what happened was awful, but at least now I know, and my mutual friend and I talked everything through. We're not friends by any means, but we have an understanding. When I first found out, I definitely blamed him, but now, knowing everything, I'm 99% sure she pursued him for the attention and preyed on his existing struggle to find a solid long-term partner, I have better empathy for the situation he found himself in and am grateful that 1) he was the kind of guy to not take it physical, and 2) I found out when it was still early days of the marriage, and I had time to get out. No kids, no obligations, really. It sucks starting over again and losing five years with the wrong person, but at the end of the day, it is what it is, and I know I did everything I could to save the marriage and made the right choice for me. Oh, and the day I moved out, she was blowing up his phone (though he had blocked her), then got a friend to call him from their phone so he would pick up, not knowing it was her, and he blocked her again. And when I pushed through the divorce paperwork, she was blowing up my phone, but I later found out she had two other guy friends over at the house for 'emotional support.' Yeah, fun times, but pretty sure I dodged a bullet in the long term." —Anonymous, 29, California 5."I had just turned 21, and he was 31 when we first got together. We were together for four years, and it was alright (in hindsight, there were tons of red flags I ignored). We rushed the marriage because I needed health insurance. We were already engaged, but I had doubts that I chose to ignore because of health insurance. We had a little court wedding, and that night, he started laying out 'rules' for how a wife *should* act. I knew then I had messed up badly. Four months later, I filed for divorce." —Anonymous, 31, Texas 6."He was a Navy corpsman stationed out of state. When I called in the wee hours to tell him I was taking our infant son to the ER, a sleepy woman answered. I heard her tell him, 'It's your wife. Tell her, don't call here anymore.' When he came home, the top picture in his wallet was a strange baby girl. I found out that it was his daughter. He had started a new family near his post. I was done." "After I got a divorce, I found out he had told people at both our wedding and the reception that if it didn't work out, he could always get a divorce. They thought it was just a bad joke. We're Catholic, so it was also grounds for an annulment. He hasn't seen our son since the boy was 11; he's 35 now. I'm a happily married mother of three and grandmother of two now. My second husband raised my son and our children with me." —Anonymous, 63, Pennsylvania 7."I was older, 36, previously married, and had a child. He was younger, 30, and never married. After a few dates and starting to have strong feelings, I had a conversation like, 'It's early and probably too soon, but it's pointless to go further if you want to have children. I'm not having any more, my tubes are tied.' He reassured me that he would be happy with me and my child. Fast forward, we get married within a year of dating, and then after a couple of months of marriage, he asks me to have my tubes untied. Um, no, that's why I told you that from the start." "He should have been more honest with me and himself. We were divorced within the year. He remarried a few years later to another older woman, but convinced her to untie her tubes; they had a child." —Anonymous, 62, New Hampshire 8."We met in college and stumbled through years of an on-and-off, mostly long-distance relationship. I was young, hopeful, and maybe too eager to become a wife. We hopped from state to state, chasing fresh starts, but everything shifted once we landed in Texas. That's when the distance between us wasn't just about geography anymore. He started pulling away, blaming stress from his new job. His phone was always off. When I asked why, he casually turned it on like I was overreacting. When I questioned the woman who kept calling, he brushed it off: 'Just a colleague,' he said. She even vouched for their 'friendship,' managing to convince me I was out of my mind for doubting it. Still, something felt off. Marriage — once the topic we danced around with excitement — suddenly became a conversation he avoided like the plague. When I finally threatened to leave, he flipped the script." "He said the reason for his distance was that he was secretly planning to propose. And three months later, we were married. That should've been the happy ending, right? Instead, it was the unraveling. The 'friend' turned furious and spilled everything to me and the world. She started harassing him nonstop. Frankly, he deserved it. But then, she started calling my job. Reaching out to my family. Turning her rage on me. And she wasn't alone. His so-called 'lesbian' best friend — yeah, her, too. Another secret. Another lie. What he exposed me to — the emotional wreckage, the betrayal, the danger — was more than careless. It was cruel. I don't care to ever see him again. Some endings aren't bittersweet; they're necessary. And mine was overdue." —Anonymous, 30, Texas 9."I asked for a divorce exactly a year later when his drinking became his only priority, and his family made excuses for it. In our year of marriage, he lost his job, drove drunk with my child in the car, and told his mom every 'bad' or 'wrong' thing I did so she would yell at me for her son. It got so toxic, I felt like the only good thing I could do was walk away." "Hindsight being what it is, I knew we would divorce eventually, walking down the aisle. Always trust your gut or the little voice when there are concerns BEFORE you say I do." —Anonymous, 36, Minnesota 10."I knew it was a bad idea. His horrid mother had pushed us until we married after canceling a wedding that she had taken over. My parents were shell-shocked that I still married the guy. It was over as it began, but we stayed married for nine years. Again, my mother-in-law pushed us to stay together, have a kid, etc. We were so young that neither of us realized that his mom just wanted to dominate our lives." "Well, she's dead now after driving one son to die by suicide, turning her daughter into a drama queen responsible for a boyfriend's death, and permanently stunting my ex's emotional development. If you let crap in, it splashes on you." —Anonymous 11."It all started in January when I met my ex. I wasn't looking for love — just something new, a shift in my routine. But he had this way of making everything feel alive. We clicked instantly. Conversations felt effortless, like we'd known each other in another life. By March, we were practically inseparable. It was fast — too fast, according to some. But to us, it felt right. We got married in June, in a small ceremony with just our closest people. There was so much hope at that moment. We really believed love could carry us through anything. But by September, the cracks started to show. Living together uncovered more differences than we anticipated — how we communicated, handled stress, and what we each wanted out of life. What used to feel exciting started feeling like constant friction." "He struggled with trust; I needed space. I needed calm; he thrived in intensity. It wasn't one big blow-up that ended things; it was a slow unraveling. By December, we both knew it wasn't working. It wasn't that we didn't love each other — we did — but love just wasn't enough. We got divorced before the year hurt more than I ever thought it would. I questioned everything — my choices, my sense of judgment, even my ability to recognize real love. But time has a way of putting things into perspective. I started to heal. I realized that two people can care for each other deeply and still not be right for each I'm doing better. Things are calmer. I've been focusing on myself — rebuilding routines, reconnecting with people I lost touch with, finding joy in solitude. I'm not bitter. I'm just more grounded. I understand myself better now, and I'm clearer on what I want from love and life." —Anonymous, 34, California 12."We were together for four years before getting married, and there were so many signs I should run for the hills and moments I would think, 'You don't want this; leave now!' We were both previously married and were trying to blend our families. We decided to get married before our actual wedding. I didn't tell my parents or friends, which is unlike me because they knew everything. On our wedding day, I knew I should walk away, but I didn't." "The day after our wedding, he was intoxicated and ended up punching one of my sons in the stomach. He claimed he was playing; however, the shock with our other children and the pain of betrayal from the one who was punched said otherwise. I knew immediately we were done. It took me three months to get the money and funds together to move out. I moved out while he was out of town and never looked back. Always trust yourself, even when it's hard. I could have avoided so much pain for my children if I had trusted myself from the very beginning." —Anonymous, 47, Arizona 13."My ex-husband and I had an on-and-off relationship for several years. We shared a child and later married simply because he had nowhere else to go. On our wedding day, after we exchanged vows and kissed, he told me he loved me — for the first time. I brushed it off at the time, but once he moved in, I realized he had a severe alcohol addiction. [Eventually], I knew I had to leave. I left a few months before our two-year anniversary." "My son and I deserved better. A few years ago, he went to jail for not paying child support. Our divorce cost me $47,000, and it was worth every penny." —Anonymous, 36, Virginia 14."When we married, I knew she was pregnant but didn't care. We both agreed that the child would be mine because she wanted nothing to do with his dad. After we married, every day while I was at work (I found out from a friend later on), she would see the child's dad while the kid was in daycare. Then, while I was at home with the child, she would say she had school. Yes, she did some college at night, so I didn't second-guess it. After a while, my friend finally told me what she had seen. I asked my wife about it, and she said nothing was going on. The next day, I found her moved out of our place and into his. This was all within four months of being married." "I went to the courthouse, got divorce papers, and filled them out as quickly as possible. The best part was that the divorce was finalized on my birthday, and a month later, I was overseas as a contractor. This all happened back in the early 2000s. Now, I'm happily married again and have a great job where I only work six months a year and get to spend a lot of time with my family. Me and her family don't even talk, and I still want nothing to do with her or her family." —Anonymous, 43, Alaska 15."I married my first husband when I was 21, and he was 22. We had dated for less than one year. He was in the army and was getting stationed in a new base, and he didn't want to go without me. So romantic, right? Even though I knew it was a rash decision, I did it anyway. About three months after we got married, he cheated on me with our neighbor's 15-year-old sister, who was visiting for the summer. I did not find out about it until three months after that, when I stumbled upon love letters she had written him, complete with naked pictures taken inside my house." "(He had stupidly left them in a random box in the closet, which I accidentally knocked over. While putting back all the stuff that fell out, the pictures slid out!). I confronted him, and he flat out lied that the photos weren't in our house (?) and nothing happened; it was just some random girl he met who was infatuated, blah, blah. I left the house shortly thereafter and never went back." —Anonymous, 53, Virginia And finally... 16."I had a lot of fun in high school. I played football and was very social. However, college was a difficult time. My parents' finances collapsed, and my mom committed tons of fraud on me — a whole other story — and I became super serious and lost touch with my best friends. Shortly after college, I met a very nice girl and someone I would have never pictured myself as being with when I was growing up — quiet, reserved, and kind of dull — but that's what I kind of became. People my age were getting married, so five months in, I proposed. It felt…okay. We went to different schools but were from the same town; both of us were known. When the time came to line up the wedding party, I reached out to my old friends, who were excited for me, but there were clear 'what is he doing?' vibes. Nothing felt right, except that this event brought my old friends back into my life." "At the church rehearsal, she sat with her mother rather than me. A big sign that this wouldn't have much mileage. In our few months of marriage, I became the social guy I used to be, and she tried to keep up. It wasn't fair to either of us. After 11 months, we divorced. It was public and kind of embarrassing, but it was never mean. Most saw it coming. We both maintained respect for one another. She ended up marrying someone exactly right for her — someone I've known for years. They have two children, and I couldn't be happier for them. A few years later, I met the right one. We've been married nine years and have amazing girls. My ex and I continue our respect for one another, and while we don't interact socially, I worked with her and her husband for a year, and it wasn't weird at all." —Anonymous, 40, Kentucky Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity. Wow. If you went through a divorce in your first year of marriage and feel comfortable telling your story, share in the comments. Or, if you prefer to remain anonymous, you can use the form below.
Yahoo
07-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Considers Ending 6-Year Relationship After Boyfriend Picks a Music Festival Over Her Stepsister's Wedding
A 26-year-old woman is doubting her long-term relationship after being informed that her boyfriend wants to skip her stepsister's wedding for an annual music festival The woman and her boyfriend have dated for six years "We rarely argue but we've been arguing about a subject that neither one wants to budge on," she wroteA woman is having second thoughts about her relationship. A 26-year-old woman shared on Reddit's r/AmIOverreacting forum that she's doubting her long-term relationship after being informed that her boyfriend, 26, wants to skip her stepsister's wedding for an annual music festival. The woman began her post by stating that she and her high school sweetheart have dated for six years and lived together for three years. "We rarely argue but we've been arguing about a subject that neither one wants to budge on," she wrote. The poster continued to explain that her stepsister's wedding falls on the same day as a music festival that she and her boyfriend attend yearly. When she received the invitation, she made a comment about how they would not be able to attend the upcoming festival. At the time, her partner insisted that he was still going to the festival and she could attend the wedding alone. The woman thought her partner was joking and moved on. But later, their friends began to discuss buying tickets, during which her boyfriend informed the group that he already purchased his. When she asked him to elaborate, he told her, "I'm not missing the festival for the wedding." "I went for a walk with our dog to clear my head and when I came back, we had a big fight," she wrote. "I started by calmly telling him that he knew how much it would mean to me if he attended the wedding with me. My family would be asking why he wasn't there." According to the woman, her boyfriend said he "doesn't want to go" to the wedding. The comment prompted a major argument and she accused him of "being a child." "He doesn't even go to the festival for the music, but as an excuse to get extremely drunk for 3 days straight with our friends," she claimed of her boyfriend. The man replied, saying that "he would much rather be a child at the festival than to be bored at my step sister's wedding, because all of our family gatherings are 'boring.' " The argument led to the woman "sleeping on the couch for a week." The following week, the poster "broke down crying" over the situation and her partner comforted her. The two apologized and agreed to "work something out." The compromise the man came up with was that he'd go to the festival for a few days and then "grab a cab to the wedding and change in the bathroom at the courthouse." He planned on leaving the wedding early to return to the festival. "I didn't have words at first. He genuinely thought he came up with the best idea ever," she wrote. "After gathering my thoughts I asked: 'So you will be hungover, stinky from the campsite and won't even be there for the whole thing?' " The couple argued again, and the woman suggested that he commute to the wedding the evening before so he could get a good night's rest and a "proper shower." But he said he "doesn't want to miss out on Friday night because [he] and the boys came up with a new drinking challenge." As the argument progressed, the woman began crying and her boyfriend accused her of using her emotions "as a manipulation tactic." She decided to stay at her mother's house, and her parents are 'extremely pissed' at her boyfriend. Her stepfather has even commented that her boyfriend should not bother attending the wedding because he will "ruin" the event for her. "I agree with my step dad that he shouldn't attend at this point," she wrote. "I texted him yesterday to be at the festival and to not go to the wedding. He didn't reply. The festival starts today, so he's probably already drunk." The woman is now rethinking their relationship in fear that she is "not his first choice and I never will be." "I already looked at apartments and I think I'm done with him. But then I start overthinking and maybe I'm just blowing this out of proportion? Is this a good enough reason to break up with him? We've been together for six years and it feels a little silly to end it over something like this," she wrote, before asking if she's overreacting to the situation. In an update to the post, the poster said her boyfriend has texted her back to confirm that he will not be at the wedding. "We agreed to talk about the whole thing on Sunday in person. Until then I will be helping to set up the venue for my sister and focus on her. If there will be an update on Sunday, I'll post it, but until then I'm signing off," she concluded. People in the comments section are divided over who is wrong in the situation, although many agree that the two no longer seem to be compatible. One person wrote, "You're 6 years together, why is it soooooo difficult to skip a festival for 1 year? And even not that, just 1 or 2 days? Is It really that hard?" Another commentator admitted that they're "on the fence about this one." is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! "On the one hand, dismissing his proffered compromise out of hand because of the scenario you created in your mind reads as controlling and unwilling to bend on your part. On the other hand, you've indicated in other comments that not prioritizing you or your relationship is a pattern for him," they wrote, before adding that the two seem to "just have different priorities in life." A third person added that her boyfriend may have a different perspective on family gatherings, "depending on how his life and family [were]." Another person acknowledged that "six years is a long time to be with someone" but added that they think their relationship "has probably run its course." "You've grown up and he has not. Never hold yourself back while waiting for someone to catch up," they wrote. Read the original article on People
Daily Mail
21-05-2025
- Daily Mail
Pheobe Bishop, 17, missing from Bundaberg: Family speak out about final phone call
A 17-year-old girl who disappeared without a trace after failing to board a flight was on her way to meet her 'high school sweetheart'. Pheobe Bishop was scheduled to fly from Bundaberg to Western Australia, via Brisbane, on Thursday, May 15, to visit a friend. However, the teen did not check in or board her Bundaberg flight at 8.30am on Thursday, and there has been no sign of her since. Police have said her last sighting was on Airport Drive - near the airport - but she has not been seen in CCTV footage. On Wednesday morning, Police said the investigation into her disappearance was now being treated as suspicious. Two locations have been declared crime scenes: a property in Gin Gin, west of Bundaberg, where Pheobe was living prior to her disappearance, and a silver Hyundai ix35 hatchback with registration 414-EW3 - believed to be the car she travelled to Airport Drive in. Police have seized the car. Family said Pheobe had saved her money and purchased the flight to visit her boyfriend in Western Australia. 'Where she was going she saved for herself. She loved them like her own family,' a family member said on social media. 'He was her high school sweetheart that moved away.' Another relative said that Phoebe had spoken to her boyfriend on the phone just before she disappeared. Pheobe Bishop disappeared without a trace after she failed to board a flight from Bundaberg to Western Australia, via Brisbane, on May 15 A grey Hyundai ix35 (pictured) believed to be the car Pheobe travelled to Airport Drive in has been declared a crime scene 'She didn't check in for her flight to visit her boyfriend who she spoke to on the phone at 8.30am,' they wrote on social media. 'Her phone has been switched off from this point. She hasn't contacted anyone at all, no one has seen her.' Pheobe's bank accounts have been inactive since she went missing, while her bank account has had no activity since May 14. Acting Police Inspector Ryan Thompson told reporters at a press conference on Tuesday that Pheobe was last seen at about 8.30am at Airport Drive in Bundaberg. Insp Thompson said Pheobe was dropped off at the airport by 'associates' but never made it to the terminal. Police are investigating what happened outside the terminal at the time of her disappearance. Insp Thompson added Pheobe's disappearance was out of character and investigations would continue 'as long as it takes' to locate the missing girl. 'As time goes on, the more worried the family is and the more concerned police are becoming,' Insp Thompson said. 'We are keeping an open mind in relation to the investigation. It's understood the 17-year-old had saved her own money and was flying to meet her boyfriend who had moved interstate Pheobe was last seen at 8.30am at Airport Drive in Brundaberg. The teen was travelling with luggage and was wearing a green tank top and grey tracksuit pants 'We do have associates that are assisting police with our inquiries at the moment, and this is why we're trying to narrow down that timeline in relation to where Pheobe could be.' Pheobe was travelling with luggage and was last seen wearing a green tank top and grey tracksuit pants. A land search was conducted around Airport Drive and the surrounding areas on Monday but police failed to locate any of her personal belongings. Pheobe's mum, Kylie Johnson, has put up more than 400 missing person posters across Bundaberg and surrounding areas. Ms Johnson shared her distress on social media as the search for her daughter continued. 'As we enter another day with Pheobe still missing our heart's are breaking more and more,' Ms Johnson wrote on Facebook on Wednesday. 'Phee we just need to know that you're ok? We just need to hear your voice! 'I'm begging anyone that has anything to contact Police link 131 444. Pheobe's mum, Kylie Johnson, has put up more than 400 missing person posters across the area and has shared emotional messages to social media every day since she disappeared Ms Johnson shot down suggestions her daughter ran away and urged the public to continue sharing her missing persons flyer and contact police with any information 'We as a family are thankful for the message of support and offers of assistance. Right now we are grasping onto hope and just trying to breath. 'Again all anyone can do to help is: Keep sharing Pheobe's flyer, follow the QLD police for updates and requests for information, keep having conversations with your loved ones, community and colleagues and hold your babies close! 'We would currently do anything to be able to hold our baby tight right now.' In another message shared on Facebook, the distraught mother shot down suggestions that her daughter had run away as it was at odds with her character. 'If you knew Pheobe you would know that she is free spirited and loves hard! She is loyal to the core and cut throat,' Ms Johnson wrote. She said her daughter last week marked the anniversaries of the deaths of her best friend and family members. 'She would never leave her family without contact - especially this week. [She] would never not contact us at this emotional time.' Ms Johnson also shared an emotional message directly to her daughter, begging her to let them know that she was okay. 'Honestly have no words to describe our heartbreak, heartache or fear that we won't see or hear from her again,' Ms Johnson wrote. 'Flea, Flea, my heart tells me that you won't see this, but I love you more than anything in the world. 'Would be homeless just to hear you say "Hey Mummzie what's doing"... I would honestly sell my soul to hear those words.' Pheobe is described as approximately 180cm (six foot) tall with a pale complexion, long dyed red hair and hazel eyes. Police are urgently appealing for anyone with dashcam footage of Airport Drive, Commercial Street and Samuels Road area between 8.30am and 9.30am on May 15 to come forward. Anyone with information regarding Pheobe's whereabouts is urged to contact police link on 131 444.
