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The Guardian
5 days ago
- General
- The Guardian
You be the judge: should my girlfriend stop leaving so many lamps on and use the big light instead?
It seems illogical to have so many lights on in a small room. She turns them on, then leaves Mona and I have lived together in house-shares since 2017, but in October 2023 we moved into our own place. In that time, I've noticed that Mona is a big fan of mood lighting and has an obsession with small lamps. I didn't grow up in a house where lamps were on. We had the main lighting on at all times, but Mona's childhood home was different. I'll come home and the house will be ablaze with at least three different lamps on in each room. Mona tends to go into a room for a while, turn all the lamps on and then leave. Once, I walked into our bedroom to turn off the lights. Each time I left, Mona would turn them back on. We repeated this loop three times. Mona said she didn't even know she was doing it. I'm not particularly energy-conscious, but it seems really illogical to me to have a multitude of lamps on all at once in a small room. I say to Mona, 'Can you not leave all the lights on?' And she says, 'But I like it.' At other times she will accept responsibility and say, 'Sorry, yes it's bad.' But it doesn't mean she stops doing it. She says she will try not to keep doing it, but it still happens. She also says that she wants to feel safe when I'm travelling with work, and having the lamps on is comforting. Sometimes I am gone for weeks at a time as I work in events, so I do get it. I would like Mona to feel safe, so I don't mind the extra cost of putting the lamps on when I'm not here. We can pay more for the electricity if it makes her feel better, but there is still the environmental issue to consider. In order to compromise, I would like Mona to think about whether we need all the lamps on when we're in our home together. Surely me being there negates the need to turn all the lights on? But I know she likes putting the lamps on for mood and ambience, so I don't think she will change. I know it's not energy-conscious to have all these lamps on, but I just love cosy mood lighting I have 11 lamps in our house. There are three in the bedroom, but only one in our kitchen/dining area (I actually think we need more there). I like to have them all on at once. I know it's not very energy-conscious of me, but I just love soft mood lighting. I always had it growing up – God forbid the big light was ever on in my home. My mum is the same, she's very particular about how her house feels. When I was younger, she would text me and say, 'Can you get the candles lit for when I get back?' She wanted the mood set. My sister loves lamps as well, but not to the level I do. The main reason I do it is because Monty is away for weeks at a time with his job. I get quite lonely without him, and having multiple lamps on makes the house feel more lived-in and cosy. We started living together nearly two years ago and Monty went freelance at the same time, so I realised I was going to be on my own a lot of the time. Sometimes I can get nervous living alone, and having the lights on makes me feel safer and more settled. I'll admit, I do keep the lamp habit up when Monty is at home too. The day he turned the lamps off three times, I couldn't remember turning them back on. It's a habit: I have lamp blindness. I accept I do it too much, but it mainly stems from being on my own. I haven't looked to see if our bills are higher when Monty is away – honestly, I don't want to know. Some of my friends say my habit is a waste of money and not very climate-friendly, but I am very careful about that in every other area of my life. During winter, I use the big light and the small lamps, which is bad, but when I'm alone I don't have anyone to answer to. My favourite things in the world are candles, but it's not safe to leave them lit all evening. To compromise, I do agree that I should try to turn them off when Monty is at home. I'm probably not going to stop with the lamp habit entirely though. Should Mona turn out the lights? You don't need several lights on in a room you're not in, nor a big light and small lamps simultaneously. Maybe check the energy consumption of three soft lamps v one big light, though!Katharine, 60 Having all the lamps turned on in every room at all times is wasteful and unnecessary. Why not keep the lamps on only in the occupied room, and maybe the hallway, and if you change rooms, swap which lights are on?Sara, 29 Monty mentions the environment, but modern LED lighting uses much less power than incandescent bulbs, so Mona's little lamps need only consume a small amount of energy. In return, Mona is feeling safer and more comfortable at home. Leave those lights alone, Monty, and be grateful she's given up the 72 Lamps are indeed splendid – they are much more charming than a big light, but it is wasteful to have them switched on in rooms that are not being used. When Mona is home on her own I understand she may have lamps on in a couple of rooms, but not all of 46 You can't put a price on a mood. Monty sounds like he is being a mood kill. Having the overhead light on with no lamps is an act of lighting terrorism. Team Mona! Arnie, 65 In our online poll, tell us if you think Mona should turn out the lights? The poll closes on Wednesday 20 August at 9am BST We asked if Xavier should use a co-working space so his partner can have the flat to herself. 51% of you said yes – Xavier is guilty 49% of you said no – Xavier is not guilty
The Guardian
5 days ago
- General
- The Guardian
You be the judge: should my girlfriend stop leaving so many lamps on and use the big light instead?
It seems illogical to have so many lights on in a small room. She turns them on, then leaves Mona and I have lived together in house-shares since 2017, but in October 2023 we moved into our own place. In that time, I've noticed that Mona is a big fan of mood lighting and has an obsession with small lamps. I didn't grow up in a house where lamps were on. We had the main lighting on at all times, but Mona's childhood home was different. I'll come home and the house will be ablaze with at least three different lamps on in each room. Mona tends to go into a room for a while, turn all the lamps on and then leave. Once, I walked into our bedroom to turn off the lights. Each time I left, Mona would turn them back on. We repeated this loop three times. Mona said she didn't even know she was doing it. I'm not particularly energy-conscious, but it seems really illogical to me to have a multitude of lamps on all at once in a small room. I say to Mona, 'Can you not leave all the lights on?' And she says, 'But I like it.' At other times she will accept responsibility and say, 'Sorry, yes it's bad.' But it doesn't mean she stops doing it. She says she will try not to keep doing it, but it still happens. She also says that she wants to feel safe when I'm travelling with work, and having the lamps on is comforting. Sometimes I am gone for weeks at a time as I work in events, so I do get it. I would like Mona to feel safe, so I don't mind the extra cost of putting the lamps on when I'm not here. We can pay more for the electricity if it makes her feel better, but there is still the environmental issue to consider. In order to compromise, I would like Mona to think about whether we need all the lamps on when we're in our home together. Surely me being there negates the need to turn all the lights on? But I know she likes putting the lamps on for mood and ambience, so I don't think she will change. I know it's not energy-conscious to have all these lamps on, but I just love cosy mood lighting I have 11 lamps in our house. There are three in the bedroom, but only one in our kitchen/dining area (I actually think we need more there). I like to have them all on at once. I know it's not very energy-conscious of me, but I just love soft mood lighting. I always had it growing up – God forbid the big light was ever on in my home. My mum is the same, she's very particular about how her house feels. When I was younger, she would text me and say, 'Can you get the candles lit for when I get back?' She wanted the mood set. My sister loves lamps as well, but not to the level I do. The main reason I do it is because Monty is away for weeks at a time with his job. I get quite lonely without him, and having multiple lamps on makes the house feel more lived-in and cosy. We started living together nearly two years ago and Monty went freelance at the same time, so I realised I was going to be on my own a lot of the time. Sometimes I can get nervous living alone, and having the lights on makes me feel safer and more settled. I'll admit, I do keep the lamp habit up when Monty is at home too. The day he turned the lamps off three times, I couldn't remember turning them back on. It's a habit: I have lamp blindness. I accept I do it too much, but it mainly stems from being on my own. I haven't looked to see if our bills are higher when Monty is away – honestly, I don't want to know. Some of my friends say my habit is a waste of money and not very climate-friendly, but I am very careful about that in every other area of my life. During winter, I use the big light and the small lamps, which is bad, but when I'm alone I don't have anyone to answer to. My favourite things in the world are candles, but it's not safe to leave them lit all evening. To compromise, I do agree that I should try to turn them off when Monty is at home. I'm probably not going to stop with the lamp habit entirely though. Should Mona turn out the lights? You don't need several lights on in a room you're not in, nor a big light and small lamps simultaneously. Maybe check the energy consumption of three soft lamps v one big light, though!Katharine, 60 Having all the lamps turned on in every room at all times is wasteful and unnecessary. Why not keep the lamps on only in the occupied room, and maybe the hallway, and if you change rooms, swap which lights are on?Sara, 29 Monty mentions the environment, but modern LED lighting uses much less power than incandescent bulbs, so Mona's little lamps need only consume a small amount of energy. In return, Mona is feeling safer and more comfortable at home. Leave those lights alone, Monty, and be grateful she's given up the 72 Lamps are indeed splendid – they are much more charming than a big light, but it is wasteful to have them switched on in rooms that are not being used. When Mona is home on her own I understand she may have lamps on in a couple of rooms, but not all of 46 You can't put a price on a mood. Monty sounds like he is being a mood kill. Having the overhead light on with no lamps is an act of lighting terrorism. Team Mona! Arnie, 65 In our online poll, tell us if you think Mona should turn out the lights? The poll closes on Wednesday 20 August at 9am BST We asked if Xavier should use a co-working space so his partner can have the flat to herself. 51% of you said yes – Xavier is guilty 49% of you said no – Xavier is not guilty
Free Malaysia Today
04-07-2025
- Free Malaysia Today
Musician nabbed for allegedly assaulting housemate with metal rod
The musician was arrested on July 2 and released on police bail after giving his statement. PETALING JAYA : A 46-year-old musician was arrested for allegedly attacking his housemate with a metal rod after an argument sparked by the slamming of the bathroom door at their rented home in Pandan Indah, Ampang. Ampang Jaya police chief Azam Ismail said the victim, a cook, was awakened at 6.30am by the sound of the bathroom door being slammed. The 52-year-old retaliated by slamming the bathroom door in response. The suspect then emerged from his room holding a metal rod, believed to be part of a guitar stand. A heated argument ensued, following which he allegedly struck the cook. The musician also threatened to call his friends over to beat up his housemate. The cook, who suffered injuries to his hands, lodged a police report on June 30. Police arrested the musician on July 2 and seized a black guitar stand. 'He was released on police bail after giving his statement,' Azam said in a statement. He said the housemates had quarrelled before, when the musician refused to turn down the volume of his music despite repeated complaints. Police are investigating the case for voluntarily causing hurt and criminal intimidation.
Yahoo
01-07-2025
- Yahoo
Murdered Cyberjaya student's housemate gave boyfriend keys, access card, says Selangor police chief
KUALA LUMPUR, July 1 — One of the suspects detained in the murder of Maniishapriet Kaur Akhara, a 20-year-old physiotherapy student, was her housemate, according to police in Selangor. The housemate is believed to have given her boyfriend — now the main suspect — access to the student hostel unit in Cyberjaya before the killing took place. At a press conference on Tuesday, Selangor police chief Comm Datuk Hussein Omar Khan said that preliminary findings indicated the suspect had stayed at the accommodation before and was allowed to return on the night of the murder while his girlfriend, the housemate, was away in her hometown. 'The main suspect had apparently stayed overnight previously,' he was quoted as saying by The Star. 'On the night of the incident, the suspect was given the access card and keys as he wanted to stay there again, while the girlfriend had gone back to her hometown. 'However, he had ill intentions towards the victim that led him to hit her using an object and eventually murder her.' Hussein said a pathology report showed no evidence of rape, although investigators had not ruled out the possibility of sexual assault. 'We are still investigating further to find any proof of sexual assault,' he reportedly said. 'We are also investigating the motive behind the murder.' The suspect allegedly stole several items belonging to the victim after the killing, including her laptop, mobile phone and ATM card. 'We discovered that he had withdrawn RM200 using her ATM card,' Hussein added. Police said four individuals — one man and three women aged 19 and 20 — were arrested within 48 hours of the incident in separate operations in Johor Baru and Gemencheh, Negri Sembilan. The case is expected to be handed over to the deputy public prosecutor soon. Maniishapriet, who was originally from Kuching, Sarawak, was found unconscious with visible injuries at her student hostel unit on the morning of June 24. A friend discovered her body at around 10am and alerted authorities. She had been staying alone in the unit since June 21, as her five housemates had left for the holidays. She was preparing for an upcoming exam, according to police. A post-mortem confirmed that the cause of death was blunt force trauma to the head.
Malay Mail
28-06-2025
- Malay Mail
Fight over messy room likely led to Kelantan man's fatal stabbing by housemate, say Sungai Buloh cops
KUALA LUMPUR, June 28 — A man was fatally stabbed following an argument with his housemate, allegedly over a messy room, at a house in Kampung Kubu Gajah, Sungai Pelong in Selangor on Thursday. Sungai Buloh district police chief Supt Mohd Hafiz Muhammad Nor said to Harian Metro yesterday the two men, who had moved from Kelantan about six months ago, got into a dispute over household matters. 'Preliminary investigations found the argument centred around a messy room. 'During the altercation, the 33-year-old victim was stabbed with a knife by the 40-year-old suspect,' he was quoted as saying. He added that the suspect tested positive for drugs. The suspect has been remanded for six days until July 1 to assist in investigations under Section 302 of the Penal Code for murder.
