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Yahoo
02-08-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Four Signs of a Man-Child In Plain Sight
From a former man-child. Immature men are insufferable. I used to be one—but can at least chalk it up to youthful naivete and bravado. I had to be knocked down a few times to learn. There are many iterations of the man-child. The worst is the 40-year-old who still brags about his dank blue-lightning weed and how many shots he can take. Coincidentally, he's also the same dude who brags about getting laid the night before. These guys exist. Perhaps we all need a reminder of conduct to rise above. Drawing perspective There is a direct correlation between the amount of time someone spends complaining about drama — and them causing the drama. They don't know when to stop. They feed energy into every problem. While a mature person moves past the issue, the man-brat digs into the issue. He 'Says what needs to be said.' My dad works in a big office environment. When there is a high-stress situation, he calms his team down by saying, 'Hey. Nobody is bleeding. We aren't being shot at. Nothing is on fire.' He speaks from experience. He fought in multiple wars as a SEAL, including the bloody Bosnian war. He lost soldiers in combat. It completely changed how he views the world. A mature person knows that at the end of the day, these aren't major problems. We'll all be able to go home. We'll still be able to see our mother or children. We'll live to fight another day. A voice for one set of ears Franz Kafka wrote, 'Most men are not wicked. Men become bad and guilty because they speak and act without foreseeing the results of their words and their deeds. They are sleepwalkers, not evildoers.' This perfectly describes the immature man. Just as a toddler innocently comments about how fat someone is, the man-child litters the world with his remarks. He gives no consideration to feelings besides his own. The hallmark is callous impulsiveness. He acts like a child snatching candy from someone else's Halloween bowl. Maturity means choosing restraint in the face of an easy chance to hurt someone's feelings. A kind person speaks difficult truths with love and caring. The man-child does not grasp that some words should remain unspoken. He is a fool. He does not see a world containing people with differing needs and vulnerabilities. Those that do, show character. They cement themself as being worthy of being in your life. Can you actually talk to this person? I've known people who saunter through life like a walking powder-keg. Even the softest and most well-intended feedback is liable to ignite a screaming match. One friend became a former friend for this very reason. If you quietly whispered that his fly was down, he reacted as if you'd announced he was a felon on the local news. Your ability to utilize criticism is the most effective performance-enhancing skill you can embrace. It can help you learn, grow, and become the opposite of the immature adult. I've found that my strongest reactions to criticism happen when a deep and buried part of me recognizes the criticism as being true. That — is the part of me that wanted to lash out. The trick is to step outside of yourself. Take a third-person view. Have a detached and welcoming curiosity about feedback. It will help pull you out of the kiddie pool of immaturity. It's just two simple words Humility and gratitude were important lessons in my childhood. If we made a mistake, we were held accountable. If you were wrong, you were expected to apologize. As I ventured into adulthood, I was struck by how many friends and girlfriends were totally incapable of apologizing. They just pointed fingers and deflected blame. When they did try to apologize, their lips quivered as if they were about to have a stroke, 's-s-sorr" and couldn't do it. For example, my ex had an anger problem. She broke one of my expensive Bluetooth speakers during a crazy fit. She literally spiked it like a football. Later, after things cooled down, I said, 'So, don't you think you owe me an apology? That was a bit over the top.' 'No.' I said, 'That's not fair. I have always apologized when I did something wrong.' 'That's you. Not me. I'm not apologizing.' I gave up. We didn't last. Thankfully. Sometimes people get halfway to an apology. Then they layer in, 'I'm sorry but—". The aforementioned girlfriend also hurt a family member's feelings and finally realized she needed to apologize. She wrote an email apology. I wish I'd never read it. It was the most backhanded apology you've ever read. The email was a lecture full of veiled insults. It made things worse. Their relationship was never the same. An inability to apologize is a sign of a number of things — but it's the signature attribute of an adult child. And based on how many articles I've read about narcissist ex-boyfriends, I suspect this is common in men too. Saying sorry isn't a display of weakness. It is an expression of strength through humility. There is nothing on this list that makes me crazier than non-apologizers. After that relationship, I vowed never to date another one. Recap for your memory: signs of a man child They spin a revolving list of complaints. They cause drama and feed into it. Yet turn around and complain about 'all the drama'. They can't take criticism of any type without blowing up. Everything is a reaction. Apologies are rare and when they arrive, it is done kicking and screaming. Any apology that includes a 'but' isn't a true apology. Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
02-08-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Four Signs of a Man-Child In Plain Sight
From a former man-child. Immature men are insufferable. I used to be one—but I can at least chalk some of it up to youthful naivete and bravado. I had to be knocked down a few times to learn. There are many iterations of the man-child. The worst is the 40-year-old who still brags about his dank blue-lightning weed and how many shots he can take. Coincidentally, he's also the same dude who brags about getting laid the night before. These guys exist. Perhaps all need a reminder of conduct to rise above. Drawing perspective There is a direct correlation between the amount of time someone spends complaining about drama — and them causing the drama. They don't know when to stop. They feed energy into every problem. While a mature person moves past the issue, the man-brat digs into the issue. He 'Says what needs to be said.' My dad works in a big office environment. When there is a high-stress situation, he calms his team down by saying, 'Hey. Nobody is bleeding. We aren't being shot at. Nothing is on fire.' He speaks from experience. He fought in multiple wars as a SEAL, including the bloody Bosnian war. He lost soldiers in combat. It completely changed how he views the world. A mature person knows that at the end of the day, these aren't major problems. We'll all be able to go home. We'll still be able to see our mother or children. We'll live to fight another day. A voice for one set of ears Franz Kafka wrote, 'Most men are not wicked. Men become bad and guilty because they speak and act without foreseeing the results of their words and their deeds. They are sleepwalkers, not evildoers.' This perfectly describes the immature man. Just as a toddler innocently comments about how fat someone is, the man-child litters the world with his remarks. He gives no consideration to feelings besides his own. The hallmark is callous impulsiveness. He acts like a child snatching candy from someone else's Halloween bowl. Maturity means choosing restraint in the face of an easy chance to hurt someone's feelings. A kind person speaks difficult truths with love and caring. The man-child does not grasp that some words should remain unspoken. He is a fool. He does not see a world containing people with differing needs and vulnerabilities. Those that do, show character. They cement themself as being worthy of being in your life. Can you actually talk to this person? I've known people who saunter through life like a walking powder-keg. Even the softest and most well-intended feedback is liable to ignite a screaming match. One friend became a former friend for this very reason. If you quietly whispered that his fly was down, he reacted as if you'd announced he was a felon on the local news. Your ability to utilize criticism is the most effective performance-enhancing skill you can embrace. It can help you learn, grow, and become the opposite of the immature adult. I've found that my strongest reactions to criticism happen when a deep and buried part of me recognizes the criticism as being true. That — is the part of me that wanted to lash out. The trick is to step outside of yourself. Take a third-person view. Have a detached and welcoming curiosity about feedback. It will help pull you out of the kiddie pool of immaturity. It's just two simple words Humility and gratitude were important lessons in my childhood. If we made a mistake, we were held accountable. If you were wrong, you were expected to apologize. As I ventured into adulthood, I was struck by how many friends and girlfriends were totally incapable of apologizing. They just pointed fingers and deflected blame. When they did try to apologize, their lips quivered as if they were about to have a stroke, 's-s-sorr" and couldn't do it. For example, my ex had an anger problem. She broke one of my expensive Bluetooth speakers during a crazy fit. She literally spiked it like a football. Later, after things cooled down, I said, 'So, don't you think you owe me an apology? That was a bit over the top.' 'No.' I said, 'That's not fair. I have always apologized when I did something wrong.' 'That's you. Not me. I'm not apologizing.' I gave up. We didn't last. Thankfully. Sometimes people get halfway to an apology. Then they layer in, 'I'm sorry but—". The aforementioned girlfriend also hurt a family member's feelings and finally realized she needed to apologize. She wrote an email apology. I wish I'd never read it. It was the most backhanded apology you've ever read. The email was a lecture full of veiled insults. It made things worse. Their relationship was never the same. An inability to apologize is a sign of a number of things — but it's the signature attribute of an adult child. And based on how many articles I've read about narcissist ex-boyfriends, I suspect this is common in men too. Saying sorry isn't a display of weakness. It is an expression of strength through humility. There is nothing on this list that makes me crazier than non-apologizers. After that relationship, I vowed never to date another one. Recap for your memory: signs of a man child They spin a revolving list of complaints. They cause drama and feed into it. Yet turn around and complain about 'all the drama'. They can't take criticism of any type without blowing up. Everything is a reaction. Apologies are rare and when they arrive, it is done kicking and screaming. Any apology that includes a 'but' isn't a true apology. Solve the daily Crossword
Hindustan Times
16-05-2025
- Health
- Hindustan Times
Infections to heart problems: Doctor shares 5 common health conditions in premature infants
In premature births, a baby's organs may not be fully developed, which can increase the risk of a range of health complications in infancy and beyond. In an interview with HT lifestyle, Dr. Nathaniel John Pinto, consultant, pediatrics, Manipal Hospital Goa said, 'It is important for both health care providers and caregivers to be aware of common health issues seen with preterm infants and the appropriate approaches to treat these concerns.' Also read | Premature babies in neonatal care units are susceptible to fatal illnesses: Study Dr. Nathaniel John Pinto further noted down 5 common health conditions frequently observed in premature infants: RDS start to often occur in premature infants, whose lungs are not producing enough surfactant, a substance critical to lung operations. Without surfactant, the lungs can't stay inflated; breathing is difficult. How to treat: Surfactant therapy is the mainstay of treatment for RDS and typically used in conjunction with CPAP or mechanical ventilation, respiratory support to ensure adequate oxygenation. Apnea of Prematurity (AOP) is defined as recurrent pauses of breathing due to the immaturity of the brainstem. How to treat: Some treatment options include administering caffeine to help stimulate breathing and gently physically stimulating a baby to encourage them to breathe normally. Also read | Preterm motherhood: Avoid the temptation to bottle feed your baby at all costs. Experts reveal what to do Patent Ductus Arteriosus (PDA) is a serious condition in which a fetal blood vessel in the heart does not close after birth and is one of the most common cardiovascular problems seen in premature infants. PDA if untreated which may result in heart failure. How to treat: Ibuprofen is given to help close the ductus arteriosus. In extreme scenarios, surgical closure may be necessary to mitigate long-term consequences. Too often, premature newborns have a significant challenge feeding due to immature sucking and swallowing reflexes. These challenges prevent them from getting enough nutrition by direct breastfeeding or bottle feeding. How to treat: Practitioners can use enterale feeding tubes (EFT) to infuse milk to the system through the stomach directly until the infant's feeding development is good enough. Also read | New parent? Check 10 ways to support the developmental needs of premature babies Premature babies have low immunity and thus, are susceptible to infections. Infections, bacterial, viral and fungal, are a major risk and are associated with serious complications. How to treat: Maintain rigorous hygienic practices to avoid and control infections, monitor patients closely, and initiate antibiotic treatment when indicated. Note to readers: This article is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always seek the advice of your doctor with any questions about a medical condition.
